FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swinging Support and Advice

Am i doing something wrong?

Jump to newest
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's been nearly 4 weeks and I am still waiting for my first meet. I am one guy looking to play. I think my profile has enough information on it, judging by what I have read on others I think it is anyways.

I am completely new to swinging and am just looking for the odd meet here and there. Would be interested in to meeting a reg partner (s) but no more than 2 or 3! Safe sex is a must.

Is it cos I am hairy or am I getting the words wrong in my messages to which I have sent hundreds! Some saying straight away what I want to do, most recently I sent those ones, at first I was sending messages looking to chat to start with!!

Am a bit confused. Is there a certain etiquette I am missing??

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

sorry....just read your profile and realised that I'm out of your age range....

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, you're missing the vital ingredient to a happier fab experience.......

PATIENCE. Men far outnumber the women here so they can afford to be choosy. Give those ladies a reason why they should pick you over the next fella.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Read all the other threads of this type...they will tell you that 4 weeks is not long, that you should get to know people and use the site through being nice, take time, don't be an arse, and things will [or won't] happen at some point...Honestly, there are three or four threads like yours every day and they get the same answers.

Good luck with the site.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"It's been nearly 4 weeks and I am still waiting for my first meet. I am one guy looking to play. I think my profile has enough information on it, judging by what I have read on others I think it is anyways.

I am completely new to swinging and am just looking for the odd meet here and there. Would be interested in to meeting a reg partner (s) but no more than 2 or 3! Safe sex is a must.

Is it cos I am hairy or am I getting the words wrong in my messages to which I have sent hundreds! Some saying straight away what I want to do, most recently I sent those ones, at first I was sending messages looking to chat to start with!!

Am a bit confused. Is there a certain etiquette I am missing??

"

Time, patience, basic common sense....

Is 4 weeks truly giving it time, or showing patience.....

If you thought it was going to be instashag... I think you are likely to be disappointed

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Your profile is a trifle negative in some bits so that might be putting people off. I don't know you or know what you're saying to potential sexual partners, but if you've been here 4 weeks and sent 100's of messages and got nowhere, then you're the common denominator.

There are lots of men on this site and you're in competition with them all. Social Darwinism, if you like.....

Machine guns can kill a lot of people but if you want to be sure, use a sniper rifle (this is a message analogy).

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been here for quite a while with only one meet. I move about a lot though and I think that goes against me. At least if another meet happens I know it will be incredible!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Time is a patience, doesn't matter how good a profile is, will take years for most, it comes down to luck.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice guys!!

If my profile is a trifle neg in places, any chance of pointing those bits out? Cheers!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Thanks for the advice guys!!

If my profile is a trifle neg in places, any chance of pointing those bits out? Cheers!"

No, sorry. Remember the social darwinsim bit? It will be an exciting adventure for you to decide which bits may or may not be a trifle negative.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*insert many MANY swear words here*

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Thanks for the advice guys!!

If my profile is a trifle neg in places, any chance of pointing those bits out? Cheers!"

See that is for you to work out... Ask a million people you'll get a million answers and in essence the profile isn't you anymore.. It turns into a bland mishmash of what you think people want to hear

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *eithoWoman
over a year ago

Chatham


"It's been nearly 4 weeks and I am still waiting for my first meet. I am one guy looking to play. I think my profile has enough information on it, judging by what I have read on others I think it is anyways.

I am completely new to swinging and am just looking for the odd meet here and there. Would be interested in to meeting a reg partner (s) but no more than 2 or 3! Safe sex is a must.

Is it cos I am hairy or am I getting the words wrong in my messages to which I have sent hundreds! Some saying straight away what I want to do, most recently I sent those ones, at first I was sending messages looking to chat to start with!!

Am a bit confused. Is there a certain etiquette I am missing??

"

It may be your profile

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Time is a patience, doesn't matter how good a profile is, will take years for most, it comes down to luck."

How many years was the average? I'm assuming proper, empirical research techniques were used with a cross section of Fab, loaded for population density?

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"Thanks for the advice guys!!

If my profile is a trifle neg in places, any chance of pointing those bits out? Cheers!"

If you can't work it out...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *tloversCouple
over a year ago

Warrington

You have a blank profile photo..many women on here get sooo many messages (think 50+) and first thing they do is ignore blank profile pics. You also need more photos

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Time is a patience, doesn't matter how good a profile is, will take years for most, it comes down to luck.

How many years was the average? I'm assuming proper, empirical research techniques were used with a cross section of Fab, loaded for population density? "
YEs we did some proper research and it was about 3 years lol.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *artytwoCouple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"It's been nearly 4 weeks and I am still waiting for my first meet. I am one guy looking to play. I think my profile has enough information on it, judging by what I have read on others I think it is anyways.

I am completely new to swinging and am just looking for the odd meet here and there. Would be interested in to meeting a reg partner (s) but no more than 2 or 3! Safe sex is a must.

Is it cos I am hairy or am I getting the words wrong in my messages to which I have sent hundreds! Some saying straight away what I want to do, most recently I sent those ones, at first I was sending messages looking to chat to start with!!

Am a bit confused. Is there a certain etiquette I am missing??

"

Throw a big party. Free entry, free drinks, loads of food, overnight accommodation, the works. Invite couples and limited singles.

There's your first practical solution, no charge.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's been nearly 4 weeks and I am still waiting for my first meet. I am one guy looking to play. I think my profile has enough information on it, judging by what I have read on others I think it is anyways.

I am completely new to swinging and am just looking for the odd meet here and there. Would be interested in to meeting a reg partner (s) but no more than 2 or 3! Safe sex is a must.

Is it cos I am hairy or am I getting the words wrong in my messages to which I have sent hundreds! Some saying straight away what I want to do, most recently I sent those ones, at first I was sending messages looking to chat to start with!!

Am a bit confused. Is there a certain etiquette I am missing??

"

I dont mean to offend when I say this, so I apologise upfront but the majority of your profile text would put me off any kind of meet. I dont know which part to mention either as there is quite a lot that doesnt do it for me.

Good luck here anyway and maybe change what you have written, check spellings in the oneliners. Text speak isnt good

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok maybe it was just a trifle neg. Profile now updated!

I cant accommodate is probably a huge problem being a bloke but will leave it at that and see what happens lol

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Whenever I see a profile titled something along the lines of "Am i doing something wrong?" I always think "Yes, probably!"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have a blank profile photo..many women on here get sooo many messages (think 50+) and first thing they do is ignore blank profile pics. You also need more photos "

Agree...the one you have isn't very flattering im afraid.

You could also be more concise...for example, "always clean and smelling fresh and expect the same" says the same thing as that whole paragraph you wrote about showering etc...folk won't read all that waffle, its just way too long and unnecessarily graphic in parts

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What with being a couple and Natasha being on the higher end of your age limit, we appreciate that we’re not your target audience, so feel free to ignore our comments/suggestions but we echo everything that people have said above, especially the comment that it’s not concise.

The grammar needs tidying up. For example, we were left wondering who ‘distance’ was and what problems you’d had travelling with them in the past.

The line “my replies might be up to from mins to come or a day” takes a bit of thinking about before understanding. Something along the lines of “I’ll try to reply to messages as quickly as I can but sometimes it may take a couple of days, so please bear with me” might read better.

Get rid of all the sentences that end with ‘lol’.

The main problem we had with the profile though was the “attractive ish” comment. Levels of attractiveness are very subjective and, to us, it makes you sound very picky about who you’d meet and who you wouldn’t … and then you complain you can’t meet anyone.

Hope this helps, and good luck.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather


"It's been nearly 4 weeks and I am still waiting for my first meet. I am one guy looking to play. I think my profile has enough information on it, judging by what I have read on others I think it is anyways.

I am completely new to swinging and am just looking for the odd meet here and there. Would be interested in to meeting a reg partner (s) but no more than 2 or 3! Safe sex is a must.

Is it cos I am hairy or am I getting the words wrong in my messages to which I have sent hundreds! Some saying straight away what I want to do, most recently I sent those ones, at first I was sending messages looking to chat to start with!!

Am a bit confused. Is there a certain etiquette I am missing??

"

Honestly even 6 months wouldn't strike me as unusual for a first meet.

If you want sex now get a prostitute, these are real people who compliment their lives with sex they're not sat around waiting for cock.

Getting user verified improves your chances remarkably, shows you're not a one handed typer.

Best way to do this is to attend a club or social event, hope this helps good luck pal.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's been nearly 4 weeks and I am still waiting for my first meet. I am one guy looking to play. I think my profile has enough information on it, judging by what I have read on others I think it is anyways.

I am completely new to swinging and am just looking for the odd meet here and there. Would be interested in to meeting a reg partner (s) but no more than 2 or 3! Safe sex is a must.

Is it cos I am hairy or am I getting the words wrong in my messages to which I have sent hundreds! Some saying straight away what I want to do, most recently I sent those ones, at first I was sending messages looking to chat to start with!!

Am a bit confused. Is there a certain etiquette I am missing??

Time, patience, basic common sense....

Is 4 weeks truly giving it time, or showing patience.....

If you thought it was going to be instashag... I think you are likely to be disappointed"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

Just checked your profile out and honestly, terrible, lots of meets up shows you're not patient like your profile says.

You can't accommodate sets alarm bells ringing as it usual means playing away from a partner.

Nothing about your profile says you are relaxed, intelligent and fun.

Turn on the mind, the body will follow.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the advice guys!!

If my profile is a trifle neg in places, any chance of pointing those bits out? Cheers!

See that is for you to work out... Ask a million people you'll get a million answers and in essence the profile isn't you anymore.. It turns into a bland mishmash of what you think people want to hear"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just checked your profile out and honestly, terrible, lots of meets up shows you're not patient like your profile says.

You can't accommodate sets alarm bells ringing as it usual means playing away from a partner.

Nothing about your profile says you are relaxed, intelligent and fun.

Turn on the mind, the body will follow. "

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile says you are patient but your forum post suggests not. If you are actually a dentist, then yes. There's a lot you are doing wrong. Let's start with the overcharging and the doing unnecessary work just to bump up the earnings.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would also guess from certain things you have said is that you are married? and if this is true it is better to be honest.....

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

Also...

Discretion must be absolute, can't accommodate.

Yup, playing away.

I figured that out in 20 seconds, the women here are not stupid either.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rank EinsteinMan
over a year ago

Burton upon stather


"Your profile says you are patient but your forum post suggests not. If you are actually a dentist, then yes. There's a lot you are doing wrong. Let's start with the overcharging and the doing unnecessary work just to bump up the earnings. "

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Your profile says you are patient but your forum post suggests not. If you are actually a dentist, then yes. There's a lot you are doing wrong. Let's start with the overcharging and the doing unnecessary work just to bump up the earnings. "

Dentists, eh? Always keen on oral and doing a bit of filling

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands


"Also...

Discretion must be absolute, can't accommodate.

Yup, playing away.

I figured that out in 20 seconds, the women here are not stupid either. "

Plus the 'dislike' of lipstick. ...maybe coz his Mrs might find it on his collar!!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see you're a big fan of the exclamation mark.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top