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By *rank Einstein OP   Man
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

Ok so, message a woman, she responds, we exchange a few mails, says I'm charming, she gives me her number, swap a few texts, going to bed etc, "text me tomorrow if you want".

She has no veris, so I'm wondering do you think she's here in a dating way and how do I know?

I've been the perfect gentleman, but I'm not here to date I don't mind chatting but I don't want to exchange a load of texts daily as that usually leads to conversation drying up and interests fading.

Am I over thinking it? Thoughts please.

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By *onyneMan
over a year ago

Newcastle

Some people like to take time to get to know someone... and chatting is okay surely if you enjoy contact and she is nice?

If not for you though then fair enough...I don't think the site is just about meets as the ultimate. can be about loads of other things...plus she may not have a load of time and still making her mind up about you/the site/loads of other things

Good luck though...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea on this one .

How long has she been on here within no meets ?

It's your call anyway , if she keeps texting and it doesn't look like turning into a meet block her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe try saying exactly what you just said..to her?..

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By *rank Einstein OP   Man
over a year ago

Burton upon stather


"maybe try saying exactly what you just said..to her?.."

Well I don't want to scare her off lol, I was just curious how veterans of the scene treat the situation.

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By *rank Einstein OP   Man
over a year ago

Burton upon stather


"No idea on this one .

How long has she been on here within no meets ?

It's your call anyway , if she keeps texting and it doesn't look like turning into a meet block her "

She's not been on the site long after looking again, from her profile I'd assumed she'd been here a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

are you talking over 24 hrs...or several days?..and yes, youre overthinking it! just ask her, tell her what youre up for and what youre not up for!..politely and nicely! no need to just block her for no reason at all...if you werent up for texting etc ,maybe you should have said so!

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By *rank Einstein OP   Man
over a year ago

Burton upon stather


"Some people like to take time to get to know someone... and chatting is okay surely if you enjoy contact and she is nice?

If not for you though then fair enough...I don't think the site is just about meets as the ultimate. can be about loads of other things...plus she may not have a load of time and still making her mind up about you/the site/loads of other things

Good luck though..."

Oh I do enjoy chatting to people in the forums, don't get me wrong.

I've had a few chats that didn't go anywhere.

But I'm not here to date, and that's what I was asking advice about, signs she may be looking for more than socialising and/or meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

but no-one on here can answer that! if you are at the stage of chatting, then ask her!..how do you expect anyone else to know!

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By *rank Einstein OP   Man
over a year ago

Burton upon stather


"are you talking over 24 hrs...or several days?..and yes, youre overthinking it! just ask her, tell her what youre up for and what youre not up for!..politely and nicely! no need to just block her for no reason at all...if you werent up for texting etc ,maybe you should have said so!"

EXCLAMATIONS!!!!!

But in all seriousness I'll keep that in mind about being upfront but polite, it's what I was thinking but unsure how to say it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe a phone call would help as a new woman, with no verification, if too many excuses not to talk then move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe she's still finding her feet. Ask her!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stop texting and chat on the phone,It might not be a woman lol

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains


"Ok so, message a woman, she responds, we exchange a few mails, says I'm charming, she gives me her number, swap a few texts, going to bed etc, "text me tomorrow if you want".

She has no veris, so I'm wondering do you think she's here in a dating way and how do I know?

I've been the perfect gentleman, but I'm not here to date I don't mind chatting but I don't want to exchange a load of texts daily as that usually leads to conversation drying up and interests fading.

Am I over thinking it? Thoughts please. "

A few messages? Usually takes me weeks/months to find time to arrange something! And would be messaging through that time on and off. Doesn't mean I want a relationship, just nice to chat and get to know someone.

P.S. Yes you are overthinking it

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By *icked weaselCouple
over a year ago

Near Edinburgh..

Just Arrange a Time to Phone Each Other for a Quick Hello..

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By *icky999Man
over a year ago

warrington

You may say shes a dreamer.

But your not the only one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends really. The meets I have had here I have taken time to get to know them and that doesn't mean I want a relationship, it is just my way of doing things and how I feel comfortable

She may be nervous and feel like she wants to be 100% sure about someone before she meets especially if she's not had one yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be straight with her. Tell her u just want to meet for sex. From her reaction you will know where you stand.

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

When I was meeting as a single lady I would chat for quite a while before meeting. I like to get to know people first.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Stop texting and chat on the phone,It might not be a woman lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares what she could be

Man up and ask her for s meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I was meeting as a single lady I would chat for quite a while before meeting. I like to get to know people first."

This.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

We like to chat to people over multiple day or weeks as we can't meet at a drop of a hat due to Mrs being a chef and working lots of evenings and weekends. We are married and like to get a feel for the people we are thinking about playing with. Flirty chat and build up is one of my favourite things about swinging. We are married and certainly not looking for a relationship with our play mates and I would be horrified to think that's what we are after if we contact them more than a few times.

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds


"Stop texting and chat on the phone,It might not be a woman lol "

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Ok so, message a woman, she responds, we exchange a few mails, says I'm charming, she gives me her number, swap a few texts, going to bed etc, "text me tomorrow if you want".

She has no veris, so I'm wondering do you think she's here in a dating way and how do I know?

I've been the perfect gentleman, but I'm not here to date I don't mind chatting but I don't want to exchange a load of texts daily as that usually leads to conversation drying up and interests fading.

Am I over thinking it? Thoughts please. "

I would say your probably over thinking it. Lots of people like to exchange messages for a bit before deciding if there's enough interest/attraction for a meet. Doesn't mean they want a relationship.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"You may say shes a dreamer.

But your not the only one "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a lot of females on the internet are what you would call 'attention whores'. aka time wasters.

love to chat cos theyre lonely, but no intention of meeting in this lifetime.

so ask to meet + soon.

if she dicks you about with the 12th of never - ditch her

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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago

Chatham


"a lot of females on the internet are what you would call 'attention whores'. aka time wasters.

love to chat cos theyre lonely, but no intention of meeting in this lifetime.

so ask to meet + soon.

if she dicks you about with the 12th of never - ditch her"

What an ironic username

OP I chat to people for ages before meeting, mainly a safety thing but I also don't want to meeting some weird stranger off the internet. There are all sorts on here and I've been caught out a couple of times - usually by being too hasty. It's not because I want a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't speak for the woman you're messaging as I don't know her or what message your been exchanging, but for me personally I am on here for simple uncomplicated fun. Sometimes real life means it can take a couple of weeks to find a mutually convenient time, sometimes I might have not quite made up my mind about a guy and sometimes mother nature delays things but I find guys don't tend to want to know those details! Until a meet can be arranged though I do like to maintain a bit of contact... That doesn't mean I'm picking out a wedding dress!

Have you broached the subject of meeting, even if just for a coffee? If she wants to meet then I'm sure she'll say, just don't expect it to be straight away as we all have lives away from fab and swinging. Also don't forget you can always cease contact if you want to our of things don't seem right to you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"a lot of females on the internet are what you would call 'attention whores'. aka time wasters.

love to chat cos theyre lonely, but no intention of meeting in this lifetime.

so ask to meet + soon.

if she dicks you about with the 12th of never - ditch her"

You've a way with words.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"a lot of females on the internet are what you would call 'attention whores'. aka time wasters.

love to chat cos theyre lonely, but no intention of meeting in this lifetime.

so ask to meet + soon.

if she dicks you about with the 12th of never - ditch her

What an ironic username "

That's what I thought too...

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By *estLondonGuy49Man
over a year ago

Harrow Ealing Northolt Uxbridge London

95% certain you are messaging a bloke! Arrange a phone call....not for a phone wank but simply to say hello. If she wont, ask her what soap she uses to wash her balls with.

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By *rank Einstein OP   Man
over a year ago

Burton upon stather

I posted this thread 4 days ago, been some great points but can it be left to die please.

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