FabSwingers.com forum: Emotions

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'd really like to find a long term friend with benefits. I recently have been seeing a guy who I thought was just absolutely perfect for this. Not only was he fabulous company as a friend but I also felt I could trust him to broaden my sexual experiences. Unfortunately he's now said that we shouldn't see each other any more because every time he sees me it reminds him of what he's missing. I'm absolutely gutted but understand his reasons, he's just protecting himself and me too if i'm honest.

Anyway, my question is, has anybody managed to establish a long term sexual relationship without emotions becoming an issue or a problem?

By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I've had 9 years (on and off) with my FB, but its unlikely emotions won't ever be an issue. He has stated several times that he is jealous of me seeing others, but as he also sees others he can't really make too much of an issue of it. As long as we discuss things clearly and maturely things seem to rub along OK.

By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

When you say it reminds him of what he's missing, do you mean that he wants to be in a relationship with someone else, or he wants a relationship with you and being buddies isn't enough?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think maybe it just reminds him of how nice it is being so close and hanging out with someone but obviously with me he always knows that at the end of our time i'll be going back to my husband. I wouldn't presume he'd want a relationship with me, maybe he'd just rather hang out with someone where that was at least a possibility.

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I been with my FWB for nearly 4 years now. Very occasionally, feelings have surfaced from both of us (but never at the same time!). How I deal with them which come and go from time to time, is to remember what we have discussed about our arrangement and to keep my feet on the ground. Jealousies never come into it, as we're open and honest about our open relationship and how we feel about issues. Communication is the key.