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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi,we are a genuine bi fem cpl from Leicester looking for soft fun/girl/girl fun.We only seem to attract full swap cpls.We can accom sometimes..mainly sat eves and we can travel for the right cpl.We have been on here 3 years and always struggle to meet cpls....any advice please?We are verified and have plenty of fotos....any advice would be greatly received ...Mr n Mrs E

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We probably wouldnt message you as there are no photos of the guy . Also your profile makes it sound like all you want is girl on girl for the guy to watch. Which is not what most couples want.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"We probably wouldnt message you as there are no photos of the guy . Also your profile makes it sound like all you want is girl on girl for the guy to watch. Which is not what most couples want. "

We agree completely.

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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago

Filthy Fuckeryville


"We probably wouldnt message you as there are no photos of the guy . Also your profile makes it sound like all you want is girl on girl for the guy to watch. Which is not what most couples want. "

Agreed, you should be looking for a single lady if that's what you want?

It's like my fella would versatile there like piffy on a rockbun lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks...the male pics are in private because of his job.Profile says fem/fem and soft swap....need to look at profile text and prob re write it...ty x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks...the male pics are in private because of his job.Profile says fem/fem and soft swap....need to look at profile text and prob re write it...ty x"

What job does he do where people would regognise his body? Is he a life guard ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

pmsl.....He has lots of visible tattoos...full sleeves and works in the public.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that strange as when my profile was a couples profile with my fb (we then changed it to single profile for me and he has his own) we had loads of requests from bi-fem couples even though be categorically staked I am straight....even had some msg's asking if we could meet and maybe they would be able to help "turn me" lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a club or get to some socials...?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks...the male pics are in private because of his job.Profile says fem/fem and soft swap....need to look at profile text and prob re write it...ty x"

Why re-write? It is truthful about what you seek. The problem seems to be it is not what many others wish to offer. But some will and these are your target audience....stick to it but accept it may be slow. That or change your actual desires.

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)


"pmsl.....He has lots of visible tattoos...full sleeves and works in the public. "

We have lots of tattoos (me both thighs, one full arm, wrists, ankles and a few back ones) but I can put up pics that have blurred ones, we have an app on our phones that does or maybe pick his least tattooed body part and put them up.....not for a minute telling you what to do just saying the option is there is you wanted to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Go to a club or get to some socials...?"

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull


"Hi,we are a genuine bi fem cpl from Leicester looking for soft fun/girl/girl fun.We only seem to attract full swap cpls.We can accom sometimes..mainly sat eves and we can travel for the right cpl.We have been on here 3 years and always struggle to meet cpls....any advice please?We are verified and have plenty of 8fotos....any advice would be greatly received ...Mr n Mrs E

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We have looked at your profile many times and would love to meet up, ypu seem ideal to us but, and its a big but to us, you are smokers, we simply dontbwant to be in an intimate scenario with smokers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks...the male pics are in private because of his job.Profile says fem/fem and soft swap....need to look at profile text and prob re write it...ty x

Why re-write? It is truthful about what you seek. The problem seems to be it is not what many others wish to offer. But some will and these are your target audience....stick to it but accept it may be slow. That or change your actual desires."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my point of view (jen) you need to entice the woman in the couple. We all know men are not as picky . So having a profile full of female pictures doesn't interest me and therefore you lose your target audience.

We get loads of messages where the couple messaging say how refreshing it is to see both of the couple on the profile .

Never understood the no pics because of work argument . We both have very high profile jobs. And has anyone actually ever been sacked due to being on fab?? I very much doubt it .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From my point of view (jen) you need to entice the woman in the couple. We all know men are not as picky . So having a profile full of female pictures doesn't interest me and therefore you lose your target audience.

We get loads of messages where the couple messaging say how refreshing it is to see both of the couple on the profile .

Never understood the no pics because of work argument . We both have very high profile jobs. And has anyone actually ever been sacked due to being on fab?? I very much doubt it . "

Quite a few people have been sacked for swinging/ being found on Fab.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"pmsl.....He has lots of visible tattoos...full sleeves and works in the public. "

I have lots of visible tattoos. I work with thousands of people.

I edit mine out using basic software and have clothes pics.

It's easy to do.

You are staying specific requirements re any female company yet show nothing of the male half. Hardly seems fair really and if you expect people to meet you as a couple then visibility is key.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From my point of view (jen) you need to entice the woman in the couple. We all know men are not as picky . So having a profile full of female pictures doesn't interest me and therefore you lose your target audience.

We get loads of messages where the couple messaging say how refreshing it is to see both of the couple on the profile .

Never understood the no pics because of work argument . We both have very high profile jobs. And has anyone actually ever been sacked due to being on fab?? I very much doubt it . "

Agree totally but there will be people who say they can't because they will be sacked. Employers would be on very sticky ground getting rid of some one for something that has no impact at all on their job performance. If they used their job as a lure like a lot of fire fighters do on here then they could use the "bringing the profession/company into disrepute. But in the main a tribunal would find any dismissal unlawful. Its not like this is a paedo site or any other illegal past time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually if your contract says you can not bring your company into illrepute I think the could sack you but it's not just about that.. you may just not want to be spotted and as long as the op sends them with messages I don't know what the problem would be x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From my point of view (jen) you need to entice the woman in the couple. We all know men are not as picky . So having a profile full of female pictures doesn't interest me and therefore you lose your target audience.

We get loads of messages where the couple messaging say how refreshing it is to see both of the couple on the profile .

Never understood the no pics because of work argument . We both have very high profile jobs. And has anyone actually ever been sacked due to being on fab?? I very much doubt it .

Agree totally but there will be people who say they can't because they will be sacked. Employers would be on very sticky ground getting rid of some one for something that has no impact at all on their job performance. If they used their job as a lure like a lot of fire fighters do on here then they could use the "bringing the profession/company into disrepute. But in the main a tribunal would find any dismissal unlawful. Its not like this is a paedo site or any other illegal past time "

Firefighters and police can only get sacked if they use the uniform . It's not illegal to swing or post nude pictures to an adult website. I would love to see the actual facts of any one that did get sacked for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people's jobs could leave them open to blackmail.

May seem melodramatic, I'm happy to elaborate in PM.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"From my point of view (jen) you need to entice the woman in the couple. We all know men are not as picky . So having a profile full of female pictures doesn't interest me and therefore you lose your target audience.

We get loads of messages where the couple messaging say how refreshing it is to see both of the couple on the profile .

Never understood the no pics because of work argument . We both have very high profile jobs. And has anyone actually ever been sacked due to being on fab?? I very much doubt it .

Agree totally but there will be people who say they can't because they will be sacked. Employers would be on very sticky ground getting rid of some one for something that has no impact at all on their job performance. If they used their job as a lure like a lot of fire fighters do on here then they could use the "bringing the profession/company into disrepute. But in the main a tribunal would find any dismissal unlawful. Its not like this is a paedo site or any other illegal past time

Firefighters and police can only get sacked if they use the uniform . It's not illegal to swing or post nude pictures to an adult website. I would love to see the actual facts of any one that did get sacked for it "

Reputational disrepute clauses crop up in many a contract.

Potential negative impact on business can be viewed in many forms - posting controversial stuff on social media, getting d*unk at public/work events - and yes, participating in this kind of lifestyle.

People can, and have been dismissed. And there's little you can do to argue your case.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The more you seek something the more it will elude you. Its a saying I go bymyself and I dont look as much anymore to find what I want lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Everyones personal choice to meet smokers...we never smoke during a meet but hey ho.

I am fully bi sexual...not bi curious so I find womens pics enticing and erotic....

Would never put face pics on profile but we do have them that we can attached to mails...People must bear in mind that we have 2 kids at home aged 19 and 20 and we like to keep our swinging life private.I have recognised so many people on here that I/we know and vica versa.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people's jobs could leave them open to blackmail.

May seem melodramatic, I'm happy to elaborate in PM."

and what about swingers who are teachers, work with children and vulnerable people etc...

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

It's not that tricky. Honestly clubs are good for meeting couples especially on couples only nights.

We don't do face pics but will happily Skype to show we are really. Or go on webcam in the chatrooms.

There are plenty of soft play couples about. But if you are squeamish about stray contact. Touching. Kissing. Then it limits the possible matches.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sympathise with public photos, most of ours dont have the male side due to his work. But have a few in friends only that we send through.

As for soft swap, if its clearly communicated then shouldnt be an issue.

Some couples out there will want similar

Good luck

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Regardless of the sacking debate. We just don't want our pics out there for every spiteful person to out us to family neighbors work. Our private lives are our own. I don't Facebook and I have no interest in anyone but people we are keen on meeting knowing who we are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Everyones personal choice to meet smokers...we never smoke during a meet but hey ho

"

Not smoking during a meet doesn't mean you don't taste or smell of it. Smokers never think they do but it's obvious to most non smokers and not pleasant.

I realise this has been discussed numerous times and always causes arguments between those that do and those that don't but it's our opinion!

Makes mens cum taste yucky too lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Regardless of the sacking debate. We just don't want our pics out there for every spiteful person to out us to family neighbors work. Our private lives are our own. I don't Facebook and I have no interest in anyone but people we are keen on meeting knowing who we are"

See the 'downloading pics' thread in the Lounge.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From my point of view (jen) you need to entice the woman in the couple. We all know men are not as picky . So having a profile full of female pictures doesn't interest me and therefore you lose your target audience.

We get loads of messages where the couple messaging say how refreshing it is to see both of the couple on the profile .

Never understood the no pics because of work argument . We both have very high profile jobs. And has anyone actually ever been sacked due to being on fab?? I very much doubt it .

Agree totally but there will be people who say they can't because they will be sacked. Employers would be on very sticky ground getting rid of some one for something that has no impact at all on their job performance. If they used their job as a lure like a lot of fire fighters do on here then they could use the "bringing the profession/company into disrepute. But in the main a tribunal would find any dismissal unlawful. Its not like this is a paedo site or any other illegal past time

Firefighters and police can only get sacked if they use the uniform . It's not illegal to swing or post nude pictures to an adult website. I would love to see the actual facts of any one that did get sacked for it

Reputational disrepute clauses crop up in many a contract.

Potential negative impact on business can be viewed in many forms - posting controversial stuff on social media, getting d*unk at public/work events - and yes, participating in this kind of lifestyle.

People can, and have been dismissed. And there's little you can do to argue your case.

A"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all your messages guys

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

Come to Jaydees on 9th May, you will meet lots of couples and single ladies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When wife complained about bi curious being code for I will let you do loads of things to me but doing it for hubby not really want to reciprocate. We put out post saying bi sexual party girls can play free from men for couple of hours then let them join in we got loads of people with same problem and a great party to look forward to

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"When wife complained about bi curious being code for I will let you do loads of things to me but doing it for hubby not really want to reciprocate. We put out post saying bi sexual party girls can play free from men for couple of hours then let them join in we got loads of people with same problem and a great party to look forward to"

Hi guys. Did you go to partners in the end?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met a couple where the fella wanted to see his wife with a woman and to see her fucked by another bloke .. we were happy to oblige . They are out there but its a minority group

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When wife complained about bi curious being code for I will let you do loads of things to me but doing it for hubby not really want to reciprocate. We put out post saying bi sexual party girls can play free from men for couple of hours then let them join in we got loads of people with same problem and a great party to look forward to

Hi guys. Did you go to partners in the end?"
no it's this weekend but might be up in air due to illness in family

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"When wife complained about bi curious being code for I will let you do loads of things to me but doing it for hubby not really want to reciprocate. We put out post saying bi sexual party girls can play free from men for couple of hours then let them join in we got loads of people with same problem and a great party to look forward to

Hi guys. Did you go to partners in the end?no it's this weekend but might be up in air due to illness in family"

Ok. Sorry to hear that. Take care.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some people's jobs could leave them open to blackmail.

May seem melodramatic, I'm happy to elaborate in PM.

and what about swingers who are teachers, work with children and vulnerable people etc... "

Do you really think because they have sex outside of their relationship they are at risk of sexually assaulting children and vulnerable adults?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed


"Some people's jobs could leave them open to blackmail.

May seem melodramatic, I'm happy to elaborate in PM.

and what about swingers who are teachers, work with children and vulnerable people etc...

Do you really think because they have sex outside of their relationship they are at risk of sexually assaulting children and vulnerable adults? "

Nope. But does not stop the general public /parents objecting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi,we are a genuine bi fem cpl from Leicester looking for soft fun/girl/girl fun.We only seem to attract full swap cpls.We can accom sometimes..mainly sat eves and we can travel for the right cpl.We have been on here 3 years and always struggle to meet cpls....any advice please?We are verified and have plenty of fotos....any advice would be greatly received ...Mr n Mrs E

"

we are soft swap only cple, unfortunately mildred is not bi,

as much as I would love to see mildred with another woman she hasn't agreed to anything yet

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