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By *jandjb OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester

I posted in a thread today about people who didn't turn up that such people are not necessarily single men, pranksters, timewasters etc but may have genuinely got cold feet. This is one reason why we check verifications and the people who have done the verifying.

One couple asked to meet us fairly early and outside the club, to walk in together. They were really nice people if a little bit timid, and we had a nice meet, socially and sexually.

I have posted this to get experienced people to ensure they provide support to newer people, which was us 12 months ago.

Him

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By *estmidscoupleCouple
over a year ago

West Midlands

That's a really good ppoint, we met a lovely couple as we were going into Chams and they so out us at ease and went out their way to see if we were ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We do and have met with new in veried folk from here with good times had by all we all started here at some point but won't tolerate time wasters all the same

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Difficult to support someone who doesn't turn up at all though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm all for helping new people serious about joining the lifestyle ease into it. What I'm not is a soft touch, so fellas hoping to use me as a 'get into club cheap card' get told no. Single ladies (straight or whatever - not into converting folk) who are nervous I will help. Wish somenody had helped me that first time. It was nerve racking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I meet new couples/single fems for a social and they are interested going to a club, then I'll always happily arrange to meet them at one at a later date.

I'm not a fan of going to clubs on my own so it helps us all out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cold feet now that was a great TV series !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's fair enough, first time I went to a club I'd arranged to meet someone experienced there.

BUT this doesn't excuse people who let others down with nary a word of explanation.

It takes seconds to type, really sorry, I'm not sure about this or to ask for support...

X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When single guys ask for someone to join them because it's there 1st time the responses are different. Double standards

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A very well verified guy stood us up yesterday. With a last minute message saying his brother was rushed to hospital . He did manage to stay online all night though . I get that some people do get cold feet . But most unfortunately are just time wasters

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We're always happy to meet new couples. Particularly when clubbing. Love seeing their faces as they experience what we went through that first time lol.

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By *jandjb OP   Couple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester


"A very well verified guy stood us up yesterday. With a last minute message saying his brother was rushed to hospital . He did manage to stay online all night though . I get that some people do get cold feet . But most unfortunately are just time wasters "

Some people's phones keep them logged in - just saying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A very well verified guy stood us up yesterday. With a last minute message saying his brother was rushed to hospital . He did manage to stay online all night though . I get that some people do get cold feet . But most unfortunately are just time wasters

Some people's phones keep them logged in - just saying."
yes mine does i think.

Her

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Yes, showing as online doesn't mean you are actually online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He was online . His status kept changing . Has since put a verification up from someone else . It would have been nice if he had just said so instead of just lying . We were supposed to meet in lincoln yet he met someone in Essex and spent the night there .

It's obvious he had a better offer but still annoying when your sat in a pub waiting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If couples (club newbies) want to go to Partners we are always there to offer a "hand" Naughty xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Early-on, I did get last-minute cold feet for an arranged meet. We had booked a hotel room (having met socially on another date beforehand), but out of decency I paid the full cost of the room. We have met subsequently.

I also believe not all cold feet-ers are necessarily fakes, but it's nice to have a bit of trust/feel of validation to begin with. For me, that's usually done with a brief face-to-face webcam session or at least a social meet before a proper one.

Understandably, it can be a pain in the assessment though, since I've had had a couple of no-show myself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Assessment... ASS*

Bloody autocorrect

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester


"Assessment... ASS*

Bloody autocorrect "

Lol I'm using that..."You're a right pain in the assessment, you are!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We will meet new people for a cha, who want to attend the social or meet them outside on the night so that they do not have to walk in alone

P and T x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A very well verified guy stood us up yesterday. With a last minute message saying his brother was rushed to hospital . He did manage to stay online all night though . I get that some people do get cold feet . But most unfortunately are just time wasters "

This just looks silly, some people are just chancers and fakers i guess, had it happen with women and couples too though, sure you have plenty of offers instead though.

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