FabSwingers.com forum: fakers, why do they do it

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

about 3 days ago we responded to an ad on craigslist supposed to be a woman looking for a couple.

chatted with "her" on msn twice, second time we quite quickly realized "she" was actually HE

what do these people achieve?

do they actually think we won't know what their gender is if we meet?

the worst part is this happens all the time although we usually figure them out a lot faster.

does anybody know what these guys get from it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i was in a club a couple of years ago and 2 blokes were talking next to me ,basically they want to wank while chatting to females or couples but as i know 99% of the females on the site wont chat unless fit and young,,im sure due to the large amount males on site ,so have taken up female profiles to get the chat to have flirty conversations while wanking...may not be true of all but have heard a few more admit it since

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

we just think they'd be better of advertising as themselves.

at least then the option of actually meeting someone is open for them if the opportunity arrives but posing as someone else they can't it really just seems sad.

and aside from that it's not fair to the honest women/couples.

have they also ever considered they might even be talking to a guy whose doing the same thing?

sorry we're letting off some steam

the one that we were talking about in our first post above just happened about 2 minutes before we posted.

we're still a bit angry

i think Matt is traumatized at what happened

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i can understand,im sure it must happen all to often,some dont want or cant meet for many reasons just get off on chat and photos,pity there isnt a site for that,we could get rid of them,personally thats why its hard to get verified,,,,you have to meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think there are a lot of gay men who adopt female or couples id's - not just on here.

i was once asked how big is your dick and send me pic - i replied how big is your dick 1st and send me a pic

got a reply along the lines of how did you know?

think it more prevelant on heaven tho

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yeah it's just not to have your time wasted, especially once you've got your hopes up which we are stupid enough to always do.

oh well, live and learn.

we haven't used this site as much as we do others so we haven't made much contact with anyone her, we were actually hoping this site wouldn't have those guys suppose they go everywhere though. we often find these people on craigslist and we used to get them on gumtree too

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

I don't know why they do it, they're dead easy to spot - had a wink off a single lady 2 days ago - doesn't seem legitimate for the obvious reasons, I played along and asked to arrange to meet this week - 'she' can't this week - will let us know! lol - it amuses me! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to put things into perspective it's probably no more prevelant on here than anywhere else though - ever tried selling a car privately and counted up all the no-shows?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They do it because it pleases them, some wank, some hope to get pictures on MSN, some hope you will talk dirty on msn, some just like to waste your time and get a kick out of that.

We will NEVER talk sex online, we don't go into what we would like to do, what we have done, what we might do.

We never send pictures online, we have over 80 in our profile if that is not enough another 1000 would make no difference.

We don't use MSN, there is nothing we cannot arrange here.

If in doubt (and we are always sceptical) we ask for a girl to girl telephone chat - and await the excuses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And don't for one moment think they are fools, they get what they want out of it, sure many can spot them but there are a lot of people falling for it.

Fool me once shame on you

Fool me twice shame on me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's easy to spot them from my perspective. I'm straight, only interested in single men, so when "couples" contact me with a request from the "wife" for me to use a strap on on her husband...come on now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good points jed&sacha - good advice too that people should heed

ps - viewed your pic's and agree!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We havnt really had a problem with fakes,we did years ago when we started out swinging a couple of times,we learnt from that and ever since we insist on fem/fem chat before a meet is finalised a genuine couple who want to meet isnt going to make excuses not to chat on the phone.

We dont use msn anymore either,we got fed up of people asking for pics all the time,so we arrange our meets on here and ever since we have stopped using msn we have had more meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think i just had a wink from one

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton

"i think i just had a wink from one

lol - they usually are winkers! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's easy to spot them from my perspective. I'm straight, only interested in single men, so when "couples" contact me with a request from the "wife" for me to use a strap on on her husband...come on now!

When I was on here as part of a couple the `usuals` were...

She is on nights,

She is shy,

I can meet you both tomorrow and see if we get on then tell her later...

*Yawn * Block * Delete *

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was on here as part of a couple the `usuals` were...

She is on nights,

She is shy,

I can meet you both tomorrow and see if we get on then tell her later...

*Yawn * Block * Delete *

I used to feel offended someone would think I was stupid: but you're so right: yawn, block, delete!

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By *usterMan
over a year ago

worthing

As a single bloke I get them. As one of the earlier posts said, it's when they say something like "I am setting it up as a surprise" or "I do the vetting first". Unless 'they' have advertised as her being very sub...get my drift?

Having said all that I did get approached by a guy who is genuine. He wanted his GF to experience a 3some as she had treated him before. We had great fun..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Picture collectors and saddos.

The saddest thing is that once you've been tricked you become very sceptical and risk thinking "too good to be true" and ignoring a wink from a single woman with no face pics on profile. We almost missed a fantastic FFM because of this - so glad we didn't

We can usually, but not always, spot men pretending to be women and as you say it is pretty obvious when you meet in person.

My wife and I are often online at different times - so she may genuinely not be available. I'm sure a lot of people think "time waster" and move on.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

yes, it is hard i think a lot of genuine people do miss out because of them.

we send winks just because we don't know what to say at first sometimes so it's sort of like asking permission to send a message when we send a wink, that's what it is for us anyway.

the phonecall one is what we rely on because our computer is in a room we share wit other family members it would be pointless of us to buy a webcam unless we move the computer.

we always figure if they can't talk on the phone then they're fake, granted we can't always talk on the phone right away but we just say we'll talk in the evening we can always do that so it isn't a problem.

but agreed only a faker would completely refuse to phone verify.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always ask for phone call before meeting. If its a couple we ask for fem to fem phone call off the others if we get a no we dont meet simply. We only meet @ our local club now so if the meet doesnt turn up the evening isn't wasted still have friend to see & chill with & might still get lucky. All that being said there are more & more fakes timewaster n pic collector popping up not just here but other site it's just how it is

just need to be a little Wiser theses days a guess.

* sits in crypt *

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By *onydareMan
over a year ago

manchester

What i don't understand is why can't these guy's go and get a porno film then they can wank any time they want

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What i don't understand is why can't these guy's go and get a porno film then they can wank any time they want

exactly why haven't they figured that out?

we just had another one started from here and then went on to msn with them, they say it's the girl talking them you ask for phonecall verification and it's "I'll tell her when she gets back" i thought you were her?

then ask what street we live on yeah cos dumb enough to share that info without verification right?

neither of us two understand these guys at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im still waiting for a fake to contact me, what am i doing wrong

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"Picture collectors and saddos.

We can usually, but not always, spot men pretending to be women and as you say it is pretty obvious when you meet in person.

My wife and I are often online at different times - so she may genuinely not be available. I'm sure a lot of people think "time waster" and move on.

Saying that I've also "missed out" on a female potential meet. This girl contacted me in the chat room, had been on the site 2 months, no pictures, no (green flag) photo verification, no (green tick) member verification - and asked to be put on friends list saying she was interested in meeting me.

I told her I never add anyone I don't know and her profile had little to convince me I had been contacted by several guys with similar profile posing as females - I however proposed she updates her profile then lets me know.

She came back a month later, no updated profile, however no had a webcam (pretty girl as well, shame) said she hurt I didn't believe her, as we were reasonable distance (15 mins by train) and she wasn't into meeting loads, just one or two and had spent the first couple of months scrutinising who she was interested in - but had now changed her mind about me based on my "doubting thomas" (her words) attitude.

She however did find "one", updated her profile to "found what I'm looking for - don't need anymore" and left the scene.

Reckon she was looking for a boyfriend?

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

"What i don't understand is why can't these guy's go and get a porno film then they can wank any time they want

'Cause that's too easy, too commercial and faked for their sensitive tastes - they prefer the more "amateur"/"girl next door"/"unstaged" stuff with real people, not paid actors.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What i don't understand is why can't these guy's go and get a porno film then they can wank any time they want

'Cause that's too easy, too commercial and faked for their sensitive tastes - they prefer the more "amateur"/"girl next door"/"unstaged" stuff with real people, not paid actors."

you can find that kind of porn online as well though a lot of sites host people's home videos.

we are actually beginning to think, and we might be wrong, they enjoy being hidden.

maybe they are secretly transgender or something but don't want to admit it, neither of us would feel comfortable pretending to be of the opposite gender.

but maybe we're just young and naive or something like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fakers, why do they do it ? Because there is nothing or no one to stop them on here or any other site like this one.

* sits in crypt *

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I reckon its just a sexual kick. The thrill of the chase the risk of being caught. No intention of meeting. A sort of cyber peeping tom.

I reported a 'girl' who wanted to chat on msn. She told me to put my cam on. And being new and naive i did( fully clothed) she then asked if i wanted her to put her cam on so we could play together. I agreed and was told to click on a link to a webcam site and it was only a dollar a minute!

I was naive but not that stupid!

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By *usterMan
over a year ago

worthing

It's the same as all human behaviour.

Why do we(or he/she/they)do it?

Because we/he/she/they can.

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West

"I don't know why they do it, they're dead easy to spot - had a wink off a single lady 2 days ago - doesn't seem legitimate for the obvious reasons, I played along and asked to arrange to meet this week - 'she' can't this week - will let us know! lol - it amuses me! Z"

Name and shame.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"about 3 days ago we responded to an ad on craigslist supposed to be a woman looking for a couple.

chatted with "her" on msn twice, second time we quite quickly realized "she" was actually HE

what do these people achieve?

do they actually think we won't know what their gender is if we meet?

the worst part is this happens all the time although we usually figure them out a lot faster.

does anybody know what these guys get from it?"

Prob a sore wrist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Name and shame....."
.... yeah that's fine If you don't mind getting you account banned or suspended

* sits on coffin *

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By *lack_BoltMan
over a year ago

oxford

Just wanted to add that it's not just men who are fakers. Many years ago, when I was quite new to swinging I got friendly with a woman on a another site.

We chatted for months and developed a good rapport, and would often meet in the chatroom and have a private chat.

Eventually the subject matter got round to having scream meet and so, after weeks of negotiations, we arranged to meet up in a public area to test the waters.

Well I felt like a total prat standing there, in a public place waiting for someone who obviously had not intention of turning up. To this day I've had no explanation or apology.

Why do they do it? I think it's that sexual buzz and the thrill of the chase, but sadly some people just don't know when to stop.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we just think they'd be better of advertising as themselves.

at least then the option of actually meeting someone is open for them if the opportunity arrives but posing as someone else they can't it really just seems sad.

and aside from that it's not fair to the honest women/couples.

have they also ever considered they might even be talking to a guy whose doing the same thing?

sorry we're letting off some steam

the one that we were talking about in our first post above just happened about 2 minutes before we posted.

we're still a bit angry

i think Matt is traumatized at what happened

just had a funny image of two guys chatting on msn both pretending to be women and wanking.

well it tickled me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we just think they'd be better of advertising as themselves.

at least then the option of actually meeting someone is open for them if the opportunity arrives but posing as someone else they can't it really just seems sad.

and aside from that it's not fair to the honest women/couples.

have they also ever considered they might even be talking to a guy whose doing the same thing?

sorry we're letting off some steam

the one that we were talking about in our first post above just happened about 2 minutes before we posted.

we're still a bit angry

i think Matt is traumatized at what happened

just had a funny image of two guys chatting on msn both pretending to be women and wanking.

well it tickled me

Made me laugh too,but it must happen lol

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham

In the time we've been on here, can count on one hand the number of time-wasters/ fakers we've encountered, guess we must be one of the lucky ones

requesting a phone number / face pic in reply to their email tends to sort them out!

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By *ydesubMan
over a year ago

glossop

"i think there are a lot of gay men who adopt female or couples id's - not just on here.

i was once asked how big is your dick and send me pic - i replied how big is your dick 1st and send me a pic

got a reply along the lines of how did you know?

think it more prevelant on heaven tho "

I think this is wrong! Sorry but there's alot more men out there pretending to be females and cpls to lure women and cpls in! There's loads of scope on here for gay/bi men and even more on fabguys to find men with similar interests! Maybe you got a real weirdo or maybe your extremely hot and they can resist you but I'd be more then happy to say I'd expect 99% of fake profiles to be after women and cpls!

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By *ustyWoman
over a year ago

inverclyde

my ex hubby used to chat to guys pretending it was me, now he is def the ex and long riddance to him

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