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anyone have any tips to stop cumming too soon, had an early departure yesterday

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

During a sexual encounter yesterday, i managed to cum within minutes of getting my pants off, the good lady just rubbed my tool up and down a few times and I was ready to shoot, frustrating as I had intended to last a little longer, could this be a trip to the doctor?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wank some time before you go might help might not...

If all else fails rub some bacon on it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happens all the time, blimey if every bloke went to the docs when it did there'd be no appointments for actual ill people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some ladies would take it as a compliment.

An ex of mine loved it when the passion and emotion were so intense that there was hasty pudding. On the flip side I might have been crap and she just wanted it over quickly......

Joking aside, don't get hung up on it. Treat it as a one off and look forward to the next time.

It's only a problem if you make it one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have half a bottle of wine beforehand. Also the tommy tank before the meet will help.

But as long as you can go again what's the problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hot betty thats why i can never gat an appointment ha ha. Sometimes its a bit more sensitive than others. Try and drag it out with lots of foreplay and if you feel a little too excited slow the pace down. When you can hold it i promise when you do come it will be with the thunder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Learn about edging

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

You can get condoms with a mild numbing agent on them that can be useful.

I have the problem where I want to cum early, but then stop myself because I don't want the fun to stop, then find it hard to actually cum when I want to later on in the evening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Learn about edging "

not that I have an early issue problem but we love edging make it last as long as possible, when you finally blow its awsome

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By *athylacyTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

Slow down is the best guideline....

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By *lirts.R.usCouple
over a year ago

lanarkshire

get the snip that stops you cumming early....not an answer i had it done and it helps...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think of random things like make a shopping list in your mind it will slow you down

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excuse my ignorance but what is edging..?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Excuse my ignorance but what is edging..? "

Basically, getting to the 'edge' of ejaculation and then stopping/pulling away - stopping entirely. For some, attenpting this over and over helps control and duration.

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

Edging, holding back,delaying orgasm,deliberately stopping before coming...

Doubt if you can do it if you have the op's dilemma,premature ejaculation..

Try thinking about football or what you need in Tesco etc..

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By *ager_jdCouple
over a year ago

bridgend

China brush delay really helps ummmm apparently lol

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I haven't had this problem in years. I suddenly realised one day that I hadn't cum prematurely for ages.

I tried to work out what it was. I can only assume that it is the fact that I am comfortable and aware of myself enough that I don't worry about it. This in turn stops the panic and the inevitable moment because when I feel myself build I am relaxed enough to change speed or movement so that I don't get close.

This does sometimes mean I have trouble cumming, but that is no issue for me.

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By *edsBonkingMan
over a year ago

Near MK

Practice edging. It's does work. Last much much longer now. .

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks


"Happens all the time, blimey if every bloke went to the docs when it did there'd be no appointments for actual ill people "

So this is why I have to wait until May for an appointment to see my gp lol.

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By *lirtyjjWoman
over a year ago

Meath

I like a guy to cum quickly the first time. then he can concentrate on me for a while till he recovers enough to cum again, and again, and again. Maybe I'm just greedy tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hot betty thats why i can never gat an appointment ha ha. Sometimes its a bit more sensitive than others. Try and drag it out with lots of foreplay and if you feel a little too excited slow the pace down. When you can hold it i promise when you do come it will be with the thunder "

Bloody men and 'illnesses'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Happens all the time, blimey if every bloke went to the docs when it did there'd be no appointments for actual ill people

So this is why I have to wait until May for an appointment to see my gp lol."

Haha

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

Think about slipping your fingers into Ann Widdecombe like prising open a cheese toastie.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it helps to think about your income tax demand or your next VAT bill.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like a guy to cum quickly the first time. then he can concentrate on me for a while till he recovers enough to cum again, and again, and again. Maybe I'm just greedy tho "
more like wanted!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"During a sexual encounter yesterday, i managed to cum within minutes of getting my pants off, the good lady just rubbed my tool up and down a few times and I was ready to shoot, frustrating as I had intended to last a little longer, could this be a trip to the doctor?"
dip it in vinegar for 20mins foil safe as tell ya

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get to work on the lady. Round 2 will be better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aha, I know of edging..thankyou ??

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By *ue and robCouple
over a year ago

ware

I think of the ex wife it's enough to put anyone off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try doing mental arithmetic or put an open serious book on the bedside table and read as you fuck. These distractions will help control the impulse to cum.

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By *reammypussyWoman
over a year ago

Perran


"Wank some time before you go might help might not...

If all else fails rub some bacon on it!"

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By *athylacyTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone

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By *athylacyTV/TS
over a year ago

Maidstone


"I like a guy to cum quickly the first time. then he can concentrate on me for a while till he recovers enough to cum again, and again, and again. Maybe I'm just greedy tho "

I agree with men it's the best approach - but you do seem like my kind of woman also - we have such similar views... xx

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

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By *eaningofLifeCouple
over a year ago

York

"Margaret Thatcher in the nude! Margaret Thatcher in the nude! And it's cold!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""Margaret Thatcher in the nude! Margaret Thatcher in the nude! And it's cold!" "

i definitely need to go the doctors, that just made me cum...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to cum but I also love to watch a woman cum too.

Did you stay and make sure she got all the more pleasure in other ways before she came too?

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

All good advice, were you nervous before the meet, sometimes nerves play a part.

I notice also no one has suggested Kegel exercises.

When you go for a wee try stopping mid flow. This strengthens the pelvic floor (pubococcygeus and the bulbocavernosus muscleor) muscles which controls the ejaculation; women do similar exercises after childbirth.

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By *eaningofLifeCouple
over a year ago

York


"Think about slipping your fingers into Ann Widdecombe like prising open a cheese toastie. "

Pahaha ewwwww god that's rank

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I find it helps to think about your income tax demand or your next VAT bill. "

Yep thats enough to blow the mood completley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Become an expert with your mouth and fingers. Practice making her cum lots. Cum early and then get her to cum a few times before you're hard again. Take your time. Be sure to factor enough time for recovery and a second go into meets.

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By *mallteaserWoman
over a year ago

Central


"Become an expert with your mouth and fingers. Practice making her cum lots. Cum early and then get her to cum a few times before you're hard again. Take your time. Be sure to factor enough time for recovery and a second go into meets. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"During a sexual encounter yesterday, i managed to cum within minutes of getting my pants off, the good lady just rubbed my tool up and down a few times and I was ready to shoot, frustrating as I had intended to last a little longer, could this be a trip to the doctor?"

Blimey she's good

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

since you have all nicked my ann widdicombe suggestion in one way or another... I am going to have to come up with something else...

If i was close one of the mental tricks i use to use was to recite the alphabet backwards in my head..... took my brain off thinking about the task in hand...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"since you have all nicked my ann widdicombe suggestion in one way or another... I am going to have to come up with something else...

If i was close one of the mental tricks i use to use was to recite the alphabet backwards in my head..... took my brain off thinking about the task in hand...

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dont quote me, but when i was a lot younger i used to do times tables in my head, it worked, but still shit at maths lol

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By *ice Thick CockkMan
over a year ago

Belfast

To think half of yous while having sexual intercourse are not concentrating on the woman but instead thinking of other things in your head haha and some women think "wonder if he's thinking of another woman" when realistically yous are thinking of what ingredients it takes to make a decent pie to stop yourselves from cumming hahaha when you cum you cum, but that doesn't stop the fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like a guy to cum quickly the first time. then he can concentrate on me for a while till he recovers enough to cum again, and again, and again. Maybe I'm just greedy tho "

_lirtyjj I love your way of thinking but I personally prefer to focus on the woman then see what treats she's got on offer before a good fucking

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff


"Think about slipping your fingers into Ann Widdecombe like prising open a cheese toastie.

Pahaha ewwwww god that's rank "

One of my favourites. Blame Frankie Boyle, it's his wording

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"During a sexual encounter yesterday, i managed to cum within minutes of getting my pants off, the good lady just rubbed my tool up and down a few times and I was ready to shoot, frustrating as I had intended to last a little longer, could this be a trip to the doctor?"

Cialis holds back orgasm. Or pinch the base of the penis top and bottom when you feel you are coming close. Watch out for blue balls though!

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester


"All good advice, were you nervous before the meet, sometimes nerves play a part.

I notice also no one has suggested Kegel exercises.

When you go for a wee try stopping mid flow. This strengthens the pelvic floor (pubococcygeus and the bulbocavernosus muscleor) muscles which controls the ejaculation; women do similar exercises after childbirth.

"

This advice is a bit mixed up. When you go for a wee practice stopping and starting and get to understand what muscle control you are exerting, and how. Once you understand that you can exercise the muscles - see Google for how to do it and when to use it. A by-product could be stronger orgasms.

Him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Excuse my ignorance but what is edging..?

Basically, getting to the 'edge' of ejaculation and then stopping/pulling away - stopping entirely. For some, attenpting this over and over helps control and duration."

Similar to pelvic floor exercises??

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By *r tickle 22Man
over a year ago

Sheffeld

Keep thinking Margaret Thatcher ya last a month then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strt the meet with a bj, cum quickly and they take it as a compliment to their technique, then you can spend time focusing on them until your ready again for the main event and as you've already cum you should last longer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of foreplay the cock is just the finisher x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Roll drover,give her a massage, get hard, andcum aggain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One women I fuck regular makes me come in minutes , yet any otheir meets I can go ages strange ,,,

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By *onegal DuoCouple
over a year ago

donegal


"I like a guy to cum quickly the first time. then he can concentrate on me for a while till he recovers enough to cum again, and again, and again. Maybe I'm just greedy tho "

And concentrate on you JJ?? And there was me thinking you'd turned over a new leaf, and decided to let the man have all the fun!!

You'll never change

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By *bvnotitvCouple (MM)
over a year ago

rochdale

That's fucking disgusting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just repeat this in your head.

Dead dogs, dead dogs, dead dogs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One women I fuck regular makes me come in minutes , yet any otheir meets I can go ages strange ,,, "

Very similar thing with me. I can pretty much guarantee one lady will come with me whenever I come, and another one I need to be certain she is actually coming before I let myself go (second lady can 'teeter on the edge' for ages without coming so we have to back off and build up all over again).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would love to take only a few minutes sometimes. Minimum for me is 40-60 mins. Nothing to do with not being aroused enough. 4 hours the other month was fucking ridiculous.

K is very sympathetic but it bothers me.

Just goes to show its not just early cumming that can cause an issue!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was circumcised a year ago. I used to cum very quickly - now it takes me a long time if at all.

It's a drastic solution but getting cut definitely helps. How many guys do you see in porn films with foreskins?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rub some tooth paste on to it and the tingling feeling will take your mind off cumming and if you put in females mouth first think off the fresh smelling breath she will av .

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By *tripper9Man
over a year ago

Blackburn

Picturing girls from Burnley?

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"I like a guy to cum quickly the first time. then he can concentrate on me for a while till he recovers enough to cum again, and again, and again. Maybe I'm just greedy tho "

Nothing wrong with being a greedy girl. LOL

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

I don't think you should overly worry about it. Sometimes you'll cum quicker than others, it just happens. As long as you can recover quickly enough and end up giving her the pleasure she wants before you leave I don't see what the problem is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find if you stick a rotating cactus up your arse it takes your mind off it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I find if you stick a rotating cactus up your arse it takes your mind off it"

that would probably have the desired effect unless you are into that kind of thing

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By *ngelikatvleedsTV/TS
over a year ago

Scarborough

Try a metal cock ring , if you get one small enough makes your cock nice n numb

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff


"During a sexual encounter yesterday, i managed to cum within minutes of getting my pants off, the good lady just rubbed my tool up and down a few times and I was ready to shoot, frustrating as I had intended to last a little longer, could this be a trip to the doctor?"

Slap your bellend a few times...

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