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Using a strap on for the first time

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Help please. A guy wants me to do this. Any tips as scared of hurting him x

I'm sure there are threads about it already and I did look but most of them are for people who want it or want to do it, not how.

Thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Help please. A guy wants me to do this. Any tips as scared of hurting him x

I'm sure there are threads about it already and I did look but most of them are for people who want it or want to do it, not how.

Thank you x"

try different sizes and then lube up alot and slide in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bought a small one from ann summers cos my ex wanted to try it x plenty of lube and gently does it ...... Initially lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well having been on the receiving end a few times having a softer feeling one as opposed to hard plastic makes a big difference.

Then just use lots of lube,go very slow,lots of dialogue making sure it's all good & once he's comfortable ENJOY!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I bought a small one from ann summers cos my ex wanted to try it x plenty of lube and gently does it ...... Initially lol "

wanna use it with me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I bought a small one from ann summers cos my ex wanted to try it x plenty of lube and gently does it ...... Initially lol

wanna use it with me"

lol no you're ok thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for your comments. I have looked at a beginners one on the Love Honey site and he seems to think this one would be ok

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By *uessWhosBackAgainMan
over a year ago

London


"I bought a small one from ann summers cos my ex wanted to try it x plenty of lube and gently does it ...... Initially lol

wanna use it with me

lol no you're ok thanks"

hahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a decent harness so you can control your thrusts better we have a Rodeoh one and it's fantastic for some lively thrusting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Start small and work your way up plenty of lube. Also maybe start with a small butt plug first see how that goes. X

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By *anDare70Man
over a year ago

kirkby

Main thing is let him control it until comfortable. Let him go on top or back on to you first time.

Yes use lube. Either finger his ass (work up to two fingers) or get him to to straighten out the passage.

Tbh once it's in and comfortable you can bang away without worry. Just be aware of his body language.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Get a decent harness so you can control your thrusts better we have a Rodeoh one and it's fantastic for some lively thrusting "

What they said!, crap harness just makes the whole experience naff, can't get decent leverage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As above. Start with smaller sized one, loads of lube, and enter slowly , once in and out a few times and he's comfy you can bang away! If he's never had it before mayb let him try it on his own 1st get used to something up there

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you all for your advice, all taken on board and I think the idea of letting him control it is a good idea. He has done this before so he knows what to expect thank goodness xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And I will definitely make sure it's a good harness, I was looking at the rodeo ones on LH

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lucky fella

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lucky fella"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just arranging this for the first time x quite apprehensive but excited x how can u tell the soft from hard varieties online x any recommendations for a first timer?

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By *ananaPieCouple
over a year ago

Basingstoke

As others have said spend good money on a harnice. We have the Rodeho pants which are very good. C also likes to have the Wivibe in her when she fucks me. Normaly makes he cum in the prosses :P

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe


"just arranging this for the first time x quite apprehensive but excited x how can u tell the soft from hard varieties online x any recommendations for a first timer?"

Go for something made from silicone or rubber, rather than one made of plastic, glass, or stainless steel....

Silicone is probably bestest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just spit on it and go for it. If he cries, tell him to man up

Just add, I'd take the silicone advice. It'll be much more comfortable.

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By *ommenhimCouple
over a year ago

wigan


"Start small and work your way up plenty of lube. Also maybe start with a small butt plug first see how that goes. X"

Go big!!!! You'll only have to buy bigger in a week!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Start small and work your way up plenty of lube. Also maybe start with a small butt plug first see how that goes. X

Go big!!!! You'll only have to buy bigger in a week!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work up to it and def get him to push back against it, can never use enough lube, the soft silicone are best and remember to store it in a suitable cover after otherwise may get ruined. Once he's happy with the rhythm just go for it girl!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Work up to it and def get him to push back against it, can never use enough lube, the soft silicone are best and remember to store it in a suitable cover after otherwise may get ruined. Once he's happy with the rhythm just go for it girl! "

Thanks, I will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Work up to it and def get him to push back against it, can never use enough lube, the soft silicone are best and remember to store it in a suitable cover after otherwise may get ruined. Once he's happy with the rhythm just go for it girl!

Thanks, I will. "

How did it go?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Work up to it and def get him to push back against it, can never use enough lube, the soft silicone are best and remember to store it in a suitable cover after otherwise may get ruined. Once he's happy with the rhythm just go for it girl!

Thanks, I will.

How did it go? "

He called off the meet, he's not very well

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By *ike 1978Man
over a year ago

kettering / Enfield

I'll volunteer ??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'll volunteer ??"

Haha, you are a little far away

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By *ike 1978Man
over a year ago

kettering / Enfield


"I'll volunteer ??

Haha, you are a little far away "

Story of my life lol

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By *aulfromlancs37Man
over a year ago

nelson

I will. Volunteer too lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I will. Volunteer too lol "

And you aren't very far away

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I volunteer also x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sparticus

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By *ngels of Sin 69Couple
over a year ago

High Wycombe

My other half is getting it for the first time tonight lol we had a trip to ann summers and i now have a strapon and lube....his ass is mine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So...... How did it go?

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By *rof SalamanderMan
over a year ago

glasgow


"My other half is getting it for the first time tonight lol we had a trip to ann summers and i now have a strapon and lube....his ass is mine "

He survive

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By *ngels of Sin 69Couple
over a year ago

High Wycombe

Not done it yet lol im sure he will be walking slightly strangely tomorrow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Help please. A guy wants me to do this. Any tips as scared of hurting him x

I'm sure there are threads about it already and I did look but most of them are for people who want it or want to do it, not how.

Thank you x"

line up with the hole first then start pushing.

especially cause you cant feel the shaft, a lot of women tend to be pushing just above or below the hole then before you can correct their aim it moves towards the whole an cause they're putting a lot of pressure on it flies inside very quickly and painfully.

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

I want to get a strapon for girly play, think the beginners one at 5 & 1/2" is a bit small though?

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