FabSwingers.com forum: Meets: What's going wrong?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So, I'm 18 going on 19 in June and for some reason I don't seem to be doing so well when it comes to meets...I'm quite down to earth, polite and more than reasonable when it comes to plans and arrangements. I've had my handful of chances but the women I'd been speaking to eventually just blanked me after promising messages were exchanged. I'm just left figuring out why it just went cold for no reason. I've been here for about almost a year and I've only really had one successful meet.

And no, I'm not the guy that sends the boring 'one-liner' messages, 'pics' that nobody wanted or asked for, I try not to send messages that are stale.

I don't try and add women that aren't looking for men of my age criteria. I search for those that search for me. Pretty fair.

I'm failing to see what exactly I'm doing wrong and I was hoping you lovely bunch could clarify whatever issue it is I seem to have.

Thanks.

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

It could be your age that is putting others off..

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By *ismarck22TV/TS
over a year ago

Dundee

Hi, i am a tv/cd, i want to contact women,but when i tried,i was blocked as the woman did not want to meet men,how can i change my desription as a man,thank you,x.

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By *ismarck22TV/TS
over a year ago

Dundee

forgot to say,the lady in question stated she wants to meet tv/cd,s.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It could be your age that is putting others off.."

Why would they have me in their age criteria then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It could be your age that is putting others off..

Why would they have me in their age criteria then?"

Because an awful lot of people don't change it from the default one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

IMO your profile comes across as imature and aggresive and you are rude about people who have preferences .... all of that puts some people off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just read your profile. It's awfully preachy, bordering on cocky and leaning towards the patronising while not giving much of a clue about what you actually have to offer anyone...other than you'll pretty much fucK anyone and people who won't need to have a good look at themselves...not particularly appealing and my head isn't anywhere near my arse...maybe a little less swagger and a lot more substance would be more appealing?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had this problem and still do..trust me mate alot of it is age..but iv messaged alot of people in my 4 years on fab..some say theyre interested then block you..some have a stupidly long profile description that basically describes me but still say im not theyre type..i dont mind it though im not really handsome im just average looking..and alot of women and couplea get so many messages they cant help but get abit picky..then there are some who just keep waiting for someone better and end up not finding a meet them having the audacity too complain they can never find meets..ahah just timewasters..just keep doing what your doing you gotta be patient

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although reading your profile i take it back..do not keep doing what your doing..the way i read it it seems like ypur potraying a level of experience you clearly dont have..and women probably stop messaging you because they realise it after talking with you..my theory anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well OP at first I thought it was your age as you come across as a very immature 18 yr old, which is not good for a swingers site, but I think that is only a small part of it.

You see alot of us have preferences and are extremely fussy.Ip our own areses as you put it. Even at 45 I have plenty of time to be fussy. So your profile reflects you. Leave it as it is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't think cocky is quite accurate. I wasn't shining myself up real nice, I've clearly proved that. I just wanted to have a profile that didn't 'sugar coat' things. I wanted it to be as real as it could get.

Saying I'd fuck anybody is jumping a bit ahead, too. It's not like I'd ever even dare to say "Pretty people only, please".

I can understand that what it says doesn't have that tender, inviting edge to it and I guess that's my fault. So that's constructive criticism duly noted. Also, I appreciate the comment on how it doesn't show exactly what I'm bringing to the table, I can see what you mean by that, now.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We are surprised you even get to the point of people messaging you.

Your profile shouts immature and apart from one sentence “I play the guitar, I find it very therapeutic.” it should be scrapped.

Even in that sentence I would change the last word to relaxing instead of therapeutic, you don’t want potential partners think you are mad and in need of therapy.

Realistically your profile is antagonistic and off-putting. You are criticising the very people you are trying to attract.

Our suggestions would be.

Change the tone of your profile; accentuate the positives and sell yourself instead of chastising everyone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're a confusing one OP. Not quite sure what to say.

Just keep being you. Would you rather be you.... or pretend to be something/ someone else just to get a fuck?

Good luck. x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"IMO your profile comes across as imature and aggresive and you are rude about people who have preferences .... all of that puts some people off

Simply: this!

Reading it I thought "petulant teen" not "wow! I'm moist".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree although i think alot of people do get abot too picky..they get big headed from the amount of messages they get..they cant be blamed though its human nature..i think men need too realise certain people are just out of theyre league but some couples and women need too take an antihistamine for there swollen egos aswell..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is nothing special, got that? So lets cut out all the shit, get your head out of your arse and write a new one that's not rude, ranty and quite frankly, aggressive and off putting

See what I did there??! OP, very negative profile, good luck with writing a new one that's more friendly and welcoming.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I believe the OP is a typical example of immaturity.

He starts a post asking for advice as to why he doesn't get meets, people inform him why, its because of his aggressive profile amongst other things, but instead of being polite and accepting and changing profile he argues his case, probably read another thread from him in a few months stating its crap on here and hes leaving as hes had very few meets, you just cant help some people

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Your profile is nothing special, got that? "

Yeah, that's what I was aiming for...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile is nothing special, got that?

Yeah, that's what I was aiming for...

And this is why you are struggling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what an angry man..got three lines in before blocking..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree although i think alot of people do get abot too picky..they get big headed from the amount of messages they get..they cant be blamed though its human nature..i think men need too realise certain people are just out of theyre league but some couples and women need too take an antihistamine for there swollen egos aswell.."

I get a lot of messeges and yes I am picky about who i meet but I am not big headed, i simply have preferences

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had one young guy messaging...was cool...until he kept pestering with msgsb every 5mins and even when I told him I was working he wouldn't back off....in the end I stopped replying as he was getting to be a pain in the ass...respect other people's space...young guys seem to want it NOW...and I do have a life outside of Fab which must come first as I am self employed...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Your profile is nothing special, got that?

Yeah, that's what I was aiming for...

Like has been said rude, ranty and demanding. Abusing people in your profile wont get you anywhere. Thats all

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Your profile is terribly aggressive and negative and immature.

Do not insult people for having preferences! They have most likely gained those preferences from.a lifetime of sexual experience and experimentation that at 18 your are less likely to have, so they know what they do and dont like and have a right to express that on their profiles.

After seeing your age a natural assumption most will make is youll have a.immature "Ill stick my dick in anything" attitude and thats exactly how you profile reads. Anyone with real self confidence, doesnt want to shag someone that has no standards on who they sleep with, an that doesnt mean theyre up their own arses! nor does being attracted to certain a type of person.

The age setting 18-99 is a default setting that most people dont change, doesnt mean they will sleep with a 18 or 99yr old. For a lot of people you are the same age as/younger than their own children and they find that too weird of a line to cross.

Even your pics combined with attutitude in you profile do you no favours, you look like a chavvy hoody wearing wannabe gangsta, trust me no mature woman of the world finds that look/attitude appearing. Id personally dread to think.how youd turn up looking to a meet after ive made a effort to look nice.

Lastly, you may have noticed, im not one for BS an im quite straight talking myself but there are ways to do it with a friendlier tone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And he claimed to "know how to please ladies" yet had never had sex outdoors, never had sex standing up, not had sex in any position other than missionary...

So the level of experience he claimed to have was not there....probably would have lost his load in 30 seconds lmfao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And he claimed to "know how to please ladies" yet had never had sex outdoors, never had sex standing up, not had sex in any position other than missionary...

So the level of experience he claimed to have was not there....probably would have lost his load in 30 seconds lmfao"

In his mind at 30 seconds hed consider himself as a stayer lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a lot of messeges and yes I am picky about who i meet but I am not big headed, i simply have preferences

Thats fair enough like i said some people just generally arent attracted too you butnthere are people who receive atleast one message where they thought yeah i like him but i can do better..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And he claimed to "know how to please ladies" yet had never had sex outdoors, never had sex standing up, not had sex in any position other than missionary...

So the level of experience he claimed to have was not there....probably would have lost his load in 30 seconds lmfao"

There's no need to belittle the guy and make wild assumptions about his sexual performance.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I believe the OP is a typical example of immaturity.

When people gave me constructive criticism, I noted it. Did I not?

I don't think anyone can deny that my profile has a sense of allowing users to be who they are. I myself feel that setting sky high standards and impossible expectations is even more repelling than what I've put. But, it seems that in the arguments put across from some of you, it's okay for some users to put "no uglies" without you seeing a disgusting display of behavior...And don't get me started on how I'm beginning to see this lighthearted nodding sufficient with 'yes-men' to those users thinking they're God's gift.

My profile should at least show that it reverses the idea of narcissism and turns into something that although seems quite aggressive is also sticking up for the underdogs of this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe the OP is a typical example of immaturity.

When people gave me constructive criticism, I noted it. Did I not?

My profile should at least show that it reverses the idea of narcissism and turns into something that although seems quite aggressive is also sticking up for the underdogs of this site.

If you are happy with your profile, the way its written and the way it portrays you then all good but the majority of people on this thread have pointed out that it is probably the reason you struggle on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After having just read your profile I have to agree whith what the others have said. Your profile comes across as very arrogant, pushy and aggressive. Also the pictures, while its refreshing that they arnt all cock shots just SCREAM out teenager. Try being a little more positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I believe the OP is a typical example of immaturity.

When people gave me constructive criticism, I noted it. Did I not?

My profile should at least show that it reverses the idea of narcissism and turns into something that although seems quite aggressive is also sticking up for the underdogs of this site.

Mate some people just dont wanna fuck someone that doesnt arouse them..a woman needs too want sex with someone else youll get chafed tryna fuck a bone dry pussy lol and dont called me a yes man i said some people have egos amd some people jist have standards..everyone just leave him too it..he can keep on crying ober his lack of pussy since he thinks acknowlaging advice and taking advice are the same thing

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By *ilkchocolate87Man
over a year ago

sw london

Is this guy for real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh hes sticking up for the underdogs..trying too get rid of narcissism on fab..how noble! Pmsl your just a horny little boy who doesnt really know how too swim in this deep swinging pool

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And he claimed to "know how to please ladies" yet had never had sex outdoors, never had sex standing up, not had sex in any position other than missionary...

So the level of experience he claimed to have was not there....probably would have lost his load in 30 seconds lmfao

There's no need to belittle the guy and make wild assumptions about his sexual performance.

Trust me he was a pain in the ass with constant messaging, completely turned me off...and I like quality not quantity..."

Block button, sorted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So, I'm 18 going on 19 in June and for some reason I don't seem to be doing so well when it comes to meets...I'm quite down to earth, polite and more than reasonable when it comes to plans and arrangements. I've had my handful of chances but the women I'd been speaking to eventually just blanked me after promising messages were exchanged. I'm just left figuring out why it just went cold for no reason. I've been here for about almost a year and I've only really had one successful meet.

And no, I'm not the guy that sends the boring 'one-liner' messages, 'pics' that nobody wanted or asked for, I try not to send messages that are stale.

I don't try and add women that aren't looking for men of my age criteria. I search for those that search for me. Pretty fair.

I'm failing to see what exactly I'm doing wrong and I was hoping you lovely bunch could clarify whatever issue it is I seem to have.

Thanks."

I think if your profile reflects you accurately then it needs to be left as it is, whether you get many meets or not is a different question all together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate you need to get real here, you post a thread asking for advice which has been given to you in varying forms, mainly around your aggressive profile.

You continue to argue the reason you have written your profile the way you have, that is your choice.

You can either swallow the copious amount of attitude you have and amend and probably start having some success or leave and alienate people your choice, however what you will notice is that people don't really give flying fuck if you manage to get a meet or not, as its not a problem we are suffering from, the choice is yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He does have a cool Tattoo though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

While your profile may start off a bit harsh, I do think it tells people about who you are and what you are NOT looking for. Leave it as it is now, you will get positive responses from those who are interested in meeting you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Mate you need to get real here, you post a thread asking for advice which has been given to you in varying forms, mainly around your aggressive profile.

You continue to argue the reason you have written your profile the way you have, that is your choice.

Take note ladies and germs, this is the kind of advice I'd consider useful.

It's damn ridiculous that I'm getting nuclear heat compared to the 'self-absorbed' users that tell the 'uglies' to beat it.

Mad world.

Oh and I guess we can all define each other just by looking at what we wear lmao and prettyboy wants to know if I'M for real. Christ on a stick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok OP...What is it about swinging that attracts you? I really don't understand why someone your age isn't just out experiencing what life has to offer instead of looking for sex on here. Your profile comes across as you aren't mature enough for most so for that reason you will struggle ..i am quite disgusted by some people's comments to you though, OP. Another lesson learnt. ..people are mean. My advice, get off the Internet go out and have fun while you can. It isn't so easy when you have responsibilities. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And there you go again with the attitude..just smacks of immaturity...my advice..close account...go away and grow up...and try again...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help."

A good verification? Guess sometimes you have to read between the lines and look at the person who is leaving it...and then make your own decision...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You feel preferences are no big deal, but most people have preferences and think they are, so that in itself will put a lot of people off.

You say no one on here is special? We have met a lot of special people on here, who have likewise made us feel special. If you're not special, and don't think I am, why would I choose to meet you for a boring none special fuck, when there are so many guy that know how to make a meet feel special? (Too many specials in there but you hopefully get the point)

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Ok OP...What is it about swinging that attracts you? I really don't understand why someone your age isn't just out experiencing what life has to offer instead of looking for sex on here. Your profile comes across as you aren't mature enough for most so for that reason you will struggle ..i am quite disgusted by some people's comments to you though, OP. Another lesson learnt. ..people are mean. My advice, get off the Internet go out and have fun while you can. It isn't so easy when you have responsibilities. Good luck

In regards to.some of the responses I would say that its the old negativity breeds negativity scenario, as the OP isnt helping himself. Instead of breaking down the comments of constructive critism as opposed to sauing they are "noted" then not attempting to change things, hes focussing on the more negative posts and responding to them in an argumentative tone, between that and is profile he just seems like a clever sod that gets off on causing crap

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is entirely up to you what you include in your profile.

If people find it aggressive and off putting that is up to them. Don't condem them for having personal preferences.

You have been given good advice from experienced members. If you decide to ignore it, that is up to you

However, don't complain if no one is interested in getting to know you because your profile is your window display and first impressions count

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help."

Idc about standard preferences & expectations but when they start to get out of control, an observing individual will say something about it

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

Idc about standard preferences & expectations but when they start to get out of control, an observing individual will say something about it "

Well if that's working for you just carry on as you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

Idc about standard preferences & expectations but when they start to get out of control, an observing individual will say something about it "

Out of control?

I think what you mean is preferences are ok as long as they include you, if they exclude you they are unreasonable?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

A good verification? Guess sometimes you have to read between the lines and look at the person who is leaving it...and then make your own decision..."

Awfully judgemental of someone who has nothing to do with this.

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

Idc about standard preferences & expectations but when they start to get out of control, an observing individual will say something about it "

There you go again! Saying I dont care about standards and preferences is disrespectful. I agree some profiles take it too far but to the ones that dont (presumably the ones you want to meet) you just come off looking like an offensive twat and alienate them.

And you obviously do care a about/have standards and preferences or you wouldnt care about preachy profiles and say they arent for you or tell them "they are out of control", so show some respect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

A good verification? Guess sometimes you have to read between the lines and look at the person who is leaving it...and then make your own decision...

Awfully judgemental of someone who has nothing to do with this."

Your verification says your very willing too learn..doesnt seem that way

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

Idc about standard preferences & expectations but when they start to get out of control, an observing individual will say something about it

Out of control?

I think what you mean is preferences are ok as long as they include you, if they exclude you they are unreasonable?

I couldn't give a rats arse whether any preference includes me. I have little to no preferences myself. 18-65. That's Literally it. I gave people chances to surprise me, and they have... which is why that turned me around thinking 'Actually, there's a whole world out there willing to change the way you think and take the blinders away from sight'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

A good verification? Guess sometimes you have to read between the lines and look at the person who is leaving it...and then make your own decision...

Awfully judgemental of someone who has nothing to do with this."

Not a judgemental statement at all...perhaps grow up and look up the meanings of big words before you use them...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

Idc about standard preferences & expectations but when they start to get out of control, an observing individual will say something about it

Out of control?

I think what you mean is preferences are ok as long as they include you, if they exclude you they are unreasonable?

If you don't care, what exactly is this forum post for?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

A good verification? Guess sometimes you have to read between the lines and look at the person who is leaving it...and then make your own decision...

Awfully judgemental of someone who has nothing to do with this.

Your verification says your very willing too learn..doesnt seem that way"

That line isnt helping him, most women are here for a mutually satisfying experience from people that like themselves know what they want, as theyve experienced enough to know that already, not to play teacher to someone. It indicates a lack of experience you would naturally expect from a guy of his age, I think thats what she meant by questioning wether it was a good verification or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

A good verification? Guess sometimes you have to read between the lines and look at the person who is leaving it...and then make your own decision..."

What a bitchy comment. Thank fuck there's so many perfect people on here.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Some folk can't be helped

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

Idc about standard preferences & expectations but when they start to get out of control, an observing individual will say something about it

Out of control?

I think what you mean is preferences are ok as long as they include you, if they exclude you they are unreasonable?

There's a lot of very immature people on here. It seems you're not one of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

Idc about standard preferences & expectations but when they start to get out of control, an observing individual will say something about it

Out of control?

I think what you mean is preferences are ok as long as they include you, if they exclude you they are unreasonable?

Maybe we've been out there and tried the whole world of experiences, after trying it we now know what does it for us so we choose more carefully and have preferences..

Maybe this is the problem, you're young and still wanting to try it all, most on here have tried it and know what they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

Idc about standard preferences & expectations but when they start to get out of control, an observing individual will say something about it

Out of control?

I think what you mean is preferences are ok as long as they include you, if they exclude you they are unreasonable?

You don't have give a fuck, i was saying why people might be put off by your profile. It looks like you're calling people out for having preferences.

"I don't think any of us can afford to waste that time by being unbelievably fussy."

This bit is not fine, imo. Looks like you are saying women shouldn't be fussy. Makes you look like you think we should fuck you 'just because'.

"I'd meet pretty much any woman as long as they aren't rude, narcissistic or have impossible expectations."

This bit is fine, it shows who you aren't up for meeting, this bit comes across as you and what you want, and that's fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

A good verification? Guess sometimes you have to read between the lines and look at the person who is leaving it...and then make your own decision...

What a bitchy comment. Thank fuck there's so many perfect people on here.

Couldn't agree more.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Your profile is aggressive and very strange, you can't accommodate, and your pics aren't very good. But after reading the above it seems that all you wanted when you posted this was women to swoon and say they've been waiting for you all their lives. Not gonna happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your only 18, and look even younger

Why on earth would you need/want to be on a site like this?

Go out, make some real friends and enjoy people your own age.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry but there's nothing wrong with having standards and preferences. I can't fuck someone who I'm not attracted to, that goes for men and women. And standards? If someone turns up with bad breath and a cheesy nob I'm gonna fuck them either. And you're throwing "narcissism" around a lot, I'm qualified in psychology, iv not come across many narcissists on Fab. You should go and grow up a little, experience life then come back and talk to people with respect if you still want to swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that other comment i replied to was for someone else?

His verification is nice, she comes across as very honest and left a lot of nice details that make him sound appealling. Not sure what's wrong with her? Other people have left her nice veris too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We wouldn't even bother messaging back.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

Idc about standard preferences & expectations but when they start to get out of control, an observing individual will say something about it

Out of control?

I think what you mean is preferences are ok as long as they include you, if they exclude you they are unreasonable?

If you don't care, what exactly is this forum post for?

I do care actually. It's a bit unsettling to see genuine and friendly people tell me through small talk that they take 'image' remarks to heart. The physically gifted just toss that person's human emotions aside and wait for the next one in line. I'm not friends with these people or anything but I can tell that they're a friendly face.

If people want to give me shit when I said no one was special. Did you ever stop to think that it was meant in a physical sense? We're all flesh and bone. In time, our bodily images will deteriorate. People can become self absorbed with it now but it's just so pointless. It'll be the same result. Sunrise, sunset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

Idc about standard preferences & expectations but when they start to get out of control, an observing individual will say something about it

Out of control?

I think what you mean is preferences are ok as long as they include you, if they exclude you they are unreasonable?

If you don't care, what exactly is this forum post for?

This is your opinion. The majority of people need to be attracted to people they fuck physically and intellectually... It's preference and you can't just disregard that because you don't share their view.

what I interpret from your aggressive replies is that you think we should all fuck you because we are on this site... Doesn't work like that pal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

Idc about standard preferences & expectations but when they start to get out of control, an observing individual will say something about it

Out of control?

I think what you mean is preferences are ok as long as they include you, if they exclude you they are unreasonable?

If you don't care, what exactly is this forum post for?

You have some good points and opinions but the way you articulate them maybe needs a little tweaking

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"I do care actually. It's a bit unsettling to see genuine and friendly people tell me through small talk that they take 'image' remarks to heart. The physically gifted just toss that person's human emotions aside and wait for the next one in line. I'm not friends with these people or anything but I can tell that they're a friendly face.

Ok this is full of contradictions. You dont judge people in a physical sense but you "see they have a friendly face" and people that think they are 'special' in a physical way (you assume is narsacistic, could just be self confidence, theres a big difference) you write them of as not being able to be special in a spiritual way and have a special personality, not all good looking people are full of themselves theyan be very capable of being modest

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

Idc about standard preferences & expectations but when they start to get out of control, an observing individual will say something about it

Out of control?

I think what you mean is preferences are ok as long as they include you, if they exclude you they are unreasonable?

If you don't care, what exactly is this forum post for?

what I interpret from your aggressive replies is that you think we should all fuck you because we are on this site... Doesn't work like that pal

Whatever interpretation you're following is very misleading. Your misconceived theory is that I was trying to form an orderly que on my lap. Nuh-uh. I came here asking for advice. Yep, I come off as aggressive and I apparently decided to construe some more aggressive arguments but here's the thing, sugar. I wasn't the one who began sprinkling the spite through the reply section in the first place. I guess the ideas on my profile aren't right but they sure as hell aren't wrong, either. I came here to get advice, very few people in the reply section actually gave good, worthy advice and I told them I appreciated it. I also put across why I was behind those ideas in the first places hoping to get a sensible response back. But low and behold, this was not the case as I am referred to as a chav for the way I dressed in my photos, a childish teen and a tool. Some left constructive criticism whilst others also did that and left a little hate speech. Some just left hate speeches lmao.

I accepted to take on board what the rational users said. However, I wanted them to see why I was saying those things on my profile in hopes they could weigh in further. Then a shit storm commenced. People got mad. I'm going to watch some National Lampoons Vacation movies now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why u on here anyway .wen i was 18 i was out fingering everything i cud underbridges n on back fields .u wana stick to bein a kid n live abit .not be on here lookin like a fool and tbh a kid ...mick

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

I find it very interesting that out of all the contructive an open minded comments Ive made on this thread, the one word youve taken from it is 'Chav' whilst implying it was meant as an insult.

It actually wasnt meant that way, you asked for how you appear, that was my honest opinion. As a clever little experiment, I was merely using the blunt, take no BS approach , you yourself seem to use, to demonstrate that its not what you say, but how you say it! Youve obviously taken it to heart or you wouldnt have quoted reference to it.

I hope this as opened your mind and learnt you something

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Just you seem to be calling out people who have preferences and acting like there's something wrong with them or that they should fuck anything (ie. you).

I don't like manipulative guys and guessing most women don't either.

Your age won't help either, but that verification is good so that will help.

Idc about standard preferences & expectations but when they start to get out of control, an observing individual will say something about it

Out of control?

I think what you mean is preferences are ok as long as they include you, if they exclude you they are unreasonable?

If you don't care, what exactly is this forum post for?

what I interpret from your aggressive replies is that you think we should all fuck you because we are on this site... Doesn't work like that pal

Evwn the tone in which you use the word "sugar" in this comment is very aganonistic and derogatory. You perhaps didnt mean it that way, but another perfect exaxmple of be careful what you say and how you say it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you have had one meet which is more than me. so be happy with getting attention

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By *ilberryMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

"forgot to say,the lady in question stated she wants to meet tv/cd,s."

Probably a guy after your cute arse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I read your profile. Stopped at the end of the first paparagraph

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I read your profile. Stopped at the end of the first paparagraph"
can you check mine

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford

And no, I'm not the guy that sends the boring 'one-liner' messages, 'pics' that nobody wanted or asked for, I try not to send messages that are stale.

I don't try and add women that aren't looking for men of my age criteria. I search for those that search for me. Pretty fair.

I'm failing to see what exactly I'm doing wrong and I was hoping you lovely bunch could clarify whatever issue it is I seem to have.

Thanks."
. The pictures wearing a hoodie do not help. Most members of this site will be beyond the wearing a hoodie stage . Apart from playing the guitar what other interests do you have ?. To be realistic only a small number of members will want to meet an 18 year old. They will have little in common to talk about. Others might be concerned about an 18 year old coming too quickly or not having sufficient experience to satisfy a lady . Members will want to meet an eighteen year old but only a very limited number . Good luck in your search , you are in the lucky position of having your whole life ahead of you .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just read your profile. It's awfully preachy, bordering on cocky and leaning towards the patronising while not giving much of a clue about what you actually have to offer anyone...other than you'll pretty much fucK anyone and people who won't need to have a good look at themselves...not particularly appealing and my head isn't anywhere near my arse...maybe a little less swagger and a lot more substance would be more appealing?"

I agree, I wouldn't message you, never mind meet you with a profile write-up like that. You come across like a rude, immature little boy. Mind you, I've read similar from guys more than twice your age. If you want to go fishing, you have to bait your hook with something appealing and tasty, not bitter and prickly. Read other profiles from guys a similar age who seem to be having more luck.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

We've had prima donnas from opposite ends of the age spectrum on the forum over the last 24 hours, one 71 the other 18, both convinced that the site, and all who are on it, are all misguided, rude, self-obsessed, ignorant, and simply not good enough.

Ho-hum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And no, I'm not the guy that sends the boring 'one-liner' messages, 'pics' that nobody wanted or asked for, I try not to send messages that are stale.

I don't try and add women that aren't looking for men of my age criteria. I search for those that search for me. Pretty fair.

I'm failing to see what exactly I'm doing wrong and I was hoping you lovely bunch could clarify whatever issue it is I seem to have.

Thanks."

Got about 3 paragraphs into your profile and all I read was

"I'm desperate and will literally fuck anything".

People are here for the fantasy, for the thrill, your profile makes it sound like you'll turn up pump a bit an that's it, if people wanted that they'd go get the people stumbling home from the pub at 3 am.

It also reads like your trying to be edgy but failing miserably.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"And he claimed to "know how to please ladies" yet had never had sex outdoors, never had sex standing up, not had sex in any position other than missionary...

So the level of experience he claimed to have was not there....probably would have lost his load in 30 seconds lmfao

There's no need to belittle the guy and make wild assumptions about his sexual performance. "

Agreed!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha nice one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nog read the thead so dunno if I'm repeating myself....

To me, in a nutshell, your profile reads horribly, you sound like a bit of a knob I'm I'm afraid....and you look underage and chavvy.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You state in your profile that you are not special and that the reader is not special. Thanks for that. I like to think I am special. I also like to to have amazing sex with experienced men whom I also think are special. Furthermore, you look about my son's age. Most single women on here are about my age. Most couples on here are about my age. We generally won't be interested in having someone round as young and inexperienced as you. If I were you, I would stop trying to tell us established swingers how it is and go and pull a "non-special" slapper down the pub!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get rid of your username, it makes you sound cocky, although its better than most usernames on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even if you did mean in a physical sense it's still bullshit. There are some people on here who's eye can melt your heart or a cheeky grin or a wink can set your pulse racing that's special. And what's even cooler is that those people will be different for everyone. Trying to deny people's achievements or qualities isn't being honest or blunt or anything it's just trying to to drag everyone down.

Your whole persona seems to be you think you can belittle people into thinking that needing to find someone attractive to have sex with them is wrong and that they should fuck you just because.

You also seem incredibly bitter about other people's physical appearance. If you care about it drag your ass to the gym or get into the kitchen and learn to feed yourself with healthy wholesome food. It's not about vanity taking care of your body helps with your mood, your mind set and your health.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your whole persona seems to be you think you can belittle people into thinking that needing to find someone attractive to have sex with them is wrong and that they should fuck you just because.

Agreed

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By *ueenandworkerbeeCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

I (E) work with 18 year olds and I like teens and young people and so I'm not posting this to have a grip against young people generally. As others have said, we've both just had a read and you come across very immature, angry, and arrogant. Your pictures aren't great but at least you've got a verification.

You're also really not handling this thread very well. You asked for people's opinions and now you don't want them now you've realise that people have criticism. If you don't want to change your profile then you shouldn't have asked for opinions. Don't give out all of this quasi-philo bs because this is an image based site and appearance is what initially attracts you to a person. S and I met on a dating site before we got together and we both have great personalities and have great sex but we would have never message each other if we didn't like one another's photos.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

do not change a single thing... it reflex you and what you think the best of you that you put out to the world.....

however then don't complain it is isn't working for you after all the points people put... and you decide to put your head in the sand......

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By *urvybrunette91Woman
over a year ago

tidworth

Your attitude sucks.

Might be a swingers site, but nobody wants to feel you're only meeting them, because you'll 'meet anyone' ...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey newcomers, read my last post! It might just keep us from going around in fucking circles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile is much better than before xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No one reads profiles anyway so

dont worry to much about it man. Ignore this lot, they take it all way to seriously

Just have a wank

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Mate you need to get real here, you post a thread asking for advice which has been given to you in varying forms, mainly around your aggressive profile.

You continue to argue the reason you have written your profile the way you have, that is your choice.

Take note ladies and germs, this is the kind of advice I'd consider useful.

It's damn ridiculous that I'm getting nuclear heat compared to the 'self-absorbed' users that tell the 'uglies' to beat it.

Mad world.

Oh and I guess we can all define each other just by looking at what we wear lmao and prettyboy wants to know if I'M for real. Christ on a stick."

Your profile is aggressive, your posts are aggressive, sound just like my stroppy teenage kid, not a mature guy that if consider meeting.

Oh and one persons ugly is another persons diamond. Each and every person on this site is entitled to meet who they want whether or not you like it, and no one is going to change their preferences just because you don't like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey newcomers, read my last post! It might just keep us from going around in fucking circles

Your attitude reamins aggressive - how do you think that is helping you come across?

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Your profile is much better than before xxx"

Its changed ever so slightly, still as the same 'tone' as before, but ill give him one thing, its definately a true reflection of his personality!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

"Hey newcomers, read my last post! It might just keep us from going around in fucking circles

Swearinh that makes you seem so much nicer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey newcomers, read my last post! It might just keep us from going around in fucking circles

you mean where you whine that the very people you're trying to stick your dick in are saying they don't like the style of pictures you have and are instead of going an getting some decent pictures instead comparing that people are judging you on your clothes?

perhaps you'd be better off on a dating site than a swinging site?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Hey newcomers, read my last post! It might just keep us from going around in fucking circles

i'll give you it better than version 1.... just

its still agressive, its still full of negativitiy that frankly doesn't need to be there

but heck... i'll say the same thing i said before... it reflects you but don't then come back with people and be agressive if they still point out some may not reply for specific reasons...

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By *urvybrunette91Woman
over a year ago

tidworth

"Hey newcomers, read my last post! It might just keep us from going around in fucking circles

Still an off putting profile!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most women just chat about meeting and never really meets up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey newcomers, read my last post! It might just keep us from going around in fucking circles

perhaps you'd be better off on a dating site than a swinging site?"

You'll find a quick shag on POF lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most women just chat about meeting and never really meets up lol

That's usually because when chatting they realise that the guy is not for them...chat tells a lot about people lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey newcomers, read my last post! It might just keep us from going around in fucking circles

Your attitude reamins aggressive - how do you think that is helping you come across?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most women just chat about meeting and never really meets up lol

That's usually because when chatting they realise that the guy is not for them...chat tells a lot about people lol"
Yes that's right and its easy to spot

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey newcomers, read my last post! It might just keep us from going around in fucking circles

Still unable to see anywhere, what the actual benefits would be in meeting you...you offer nothing that would attract interest at all...what exactly is it you're looking for and what do you offer?

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Grasshopper, you have lot to learn.

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