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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi just wanting advice from fellow fabbers male or female. I've messaged loads of women and have stated on my profile and in messages I have a face pic on request but I have had no luck. I know I'm no Brad Pitt but I've seen uglier guys on here with 50+ verifications. Any help much appreciated. C

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You been looking again lol?

But seriously....

1. This is one of many 100's of similar posts

2. This is in the wrong place.

Site Help is for glitches with the site performance. Not your performance!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Post again in support and Advice forum....or just read the loads of other posts...or the FAQs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you had bothered to do some research you would have noticed that cock avatars are a big turn off for most on here, so chances are your messages are deleted without being read!!

Search the forum for profile help.

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By *riskynriskyCouple
over a year ago

Essex.

Being blunt. It looks like you are married and you only have cock pictures...

There are thousands of guys on here so you need to improve your profile and maybe try a club...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a womans world here, we may like their profile but they will have the final say at the end of the day

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm deffo single and have face pic on request. Maybe a body profile pic could help?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to make yourself attractive to women. I don't think the late night meets is helping you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

take the cock pics away ... hot body shots ... jeans open boxers showing ...

tease women. we dont want it all flashed and thrown at us ...

shave trimmed is what most of us go for ...

tell little more about yourself

likes dislikes

hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

3 cock pics a no no

Telling women they should message you back even if it's a no thanks ehh nooo

Search the forums there's loads of help on here but you need to be willing to put the effort in it isn't instashag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not all cock pics

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Lose the cock pics! Most ladies on here have seen a cock before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reason many are blanking you are your pics. Instant delete for many women having exclusively cock pics, we prefer to see what its attached to! (well most of us do)

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Hi just wanting advice from fellow fabbers male or female. I've messaged loads of women and have stated on my profile and in messages I have a face pic on request but I have had no luck. I know I'm no Brad Pitt but I've seen uglier guys on here with 50+ verifications. Any help much appreciated. C"

How do you know they are uglier If they, like you, only have cock 'pics' on their profile?

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland

If you search you will find this advice but im at a loose end so here you, your profile come accross as you are married or got a partner, you only been here 6 weeks, 3 cock pics, the bit about messaging back, all jump out when I read it.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

I hate getting told I'm rude for not replying, so I purposely don't reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi just wanting advice from fellow fabbers male or female. I've messaged loads of women and have stated on my profile and in messages I have a face pic on request but I have had no luck. I know I'm no Brad Pitt but I've seen uglier guys on here with 50+ verifications. Any help much appreciated. C"

Maybe those ugly guys put some effort into their profile? Or have a profile that doesn't scream playing away? Or don't just have uninspiring cock pictures? And don't tell people how to use the site?

You need to look at your approach and how it differs from the successful yet ugly men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"3 cock pics a no no

Telling women they should message you back even if it's a no thanks ehh nooo

Search the forums there's loads of help on here but you need to be willing to put the effort in it isn't instashag "

Saved me typing

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

A Cock avatar = instant delete from most

If you get past the above most women read profiles before reading the message so a gallery of cock shots is again and instant delete from most

Now if you have a good avatar and good teasing pics its in your profile text need to stand out. At the moment there are some things experienced members will read from it;

1= You cant accommodate and harp on about how discreet you are and apprecoate discretion in return also wont send face pics until after chatting. This translates to a married attached and playing away to most. If you are attached and cheating you will actually have more success by being honest about it (not much more but chances improve) On the cheating front you havent helped yourself by removing the restricted times, you obviously previously stated, that you could meet in from your profile makes.it look even.further like your trying to hide something.

2) Face pics should be exchanged early on, no point wasting your time chatting to someone you dont find attractive

3) If your looking for "like minded" people you need to tell people about yourself a little and what your likes and dislikes in the bedroom are otherwise we dont know if were like minded and what your looking for, Do we?

4) Going on about women not replying being rude is a very negative statement so you just look like anothing boring guy that moans a lot. The site FAQs say its not rude not to reply so Remain positive. To give you an idea of why some wont, when i first joined and knew nothing about the site so had no message filters set I got 397 messages that first day, 127 of which came before id even learnt how to upload a pic! as a normal member and newbie without upgrading to being a site supporter you can only send a limit of 100 messages in a 24 hour period, so how could i possibly reply to 397 messages or even the initial 127 with only a limit of 100 messages to send, those messages are better used on people im interesyed in.not the ones im not. When meeting, even with some filters set i get about 50 messages a day (more if i say im looking to meet) so change your attitude, we women are here for fun too not to play secretary replying to messages all day long.

5) Change your expectations. This is not a sex site its a swingers site, there is a difference. Swinging first and foremost is a social environment, so never chat to anyone expecting sex will be the guarenteed outcome. Due to the ratio of men to women and couples its takes a bloke on average around 6 months to secure their first meet.

6) Be careful of what you say. In this post asking for help youve managed to insult people before youve started! by telling us there are guys uglier than you having more success. You obviously want advice from these successful single guys so insulting thems hardly to way to go about getting it.

One final tip. Is not for your profile but for you. Before sending a message read the profile fully, if you dont match their age requirements or interests, ask for guys who can accommodate when you cant etc then dont message them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the OPs definition....I must be ugly!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster


"In the OPs definition....I must be ugly!"

Yes you must be, have you cracked all the mirrors in your house already so cant even go have a look and see?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I missed the special brew can, lmao..

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By *eshzMan
over a year ago

0151

OP as silly as this may sound... if you come here with the mindset of just getting laid... you might as well work a few hours doing odd jobs... and use that money to get a call girl...

If you come here with the mindset of wanting to meet like minded people and that are into swinging, and you wanna social..then how you write your profile and pictures will reflect that...that is my belief... and as boring and repetitive as this advice will be...go for social events..club events near you... mix around and when people know you they will feel comfortable with you and will want to meet you moving forward.

This is my feedback... hope it helps bud...and change your profile picture...a cock picture ain't cool unless your face looks like that...

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By *sagent81Man
over a year ago

Leeds

One of the most popular guys on this site, verified by some of the finest women has 12 penis pics on his profile. Not one face or body pic.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"One of the most popular guys on this site, verified by some of the finest women has 12 penis pics on his profile. Not one face or body pic. "

You better get some c**k shots in then quickly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"One of the most popular guys on this site, verified by some of the finest women has 12 penis pics on his profile. Not one face or body pic. "

Who????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Your profile is one of the worst I've looked at..the cock pics!if you think your erect little stump is a selling point then think again.Your erect penis with foreskin pulled over is not even remotely sexy...in fact they are the polar opposite.if I was you I would take them down..

However if you insist on having them,at least take some good ones in a setting that doesn't look like an abandoned shit hole you've just discovered.

And I'm pretty sure I can see a can of special brew in one of the pics,isn't that the sophisticated drinks for alcoholics and tramps?

With your profile as it is...single man,crap pics,no information in the text...you will be waiting for a while before you even get a no thank you.

I'd start again...

New pics...if you don't want to show your face then I'm sure you can take some good pics without your ding-a-ling being in them.

Take time with your profile text.put the effort in.pay £20 to become a gold site member,get photo verified,and find some social events.people organise them all the time in the forums."

Just curious how becoming a gold site supporter would help????

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am photo verified but will take the other comments on board. But I'm. Not attached but just want privacy as due to my job I may come across anyone one the sitemail within a 30 mile range. Thanks for all the comments tho.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

sunderland


"I am photo verified but will take the other comments on board. But I'm. Not attached but just want privacy as due to my job I may come across anyone one the sitemail within a 30 mile range. Thanks for all the comments tho. "

Alot of us have jobs, and not many go splattering it everywhere what we enjoy doing here, we dont walk in the local and announce we are swingers, or announce over the tannoy in the supermarket that we are swingers as we enter, most like discretion, but that wasnt what was meant by your profile reads as married/attached, and as for your pics theres many other pics you can put on to give an idea of yourself instead of your cock, still keeping your face pics private, therefore been discrete.

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