FabSwingers.com forum: 3 years and still find it hard

By *lpnextdoorUK OP Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

Ok as most of you can see we are not newbies and have been on meets , party's and clubs but we still find it hard to get any play started !

What works for you ?

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

From the thread title I thought this was about a 36 month constant erection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Normally just taking Mrs top of helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the off knowing that everyone was attracted to each other. If at parties or clubs and talking I'll rest my hand somewhere sutle... If that person brushes my hand off or move away I know I'm barking up the wrong tree lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your last meet was 4 days ago, why the hell are you complaining?! Lol

You both look fab, Mrs especially, so don't know why you're struggling!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A little flirting and I get a return flirt I simply ask would they like to play. If I'm unsure of the messages I'm getting I offer a massage...usually works!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A little flirting and I get a return flirt I simply ask would they like to play. If I'm unsure of the messages I'm getting I offer a massage...usually works!!

Can you offer me a massage

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok as most of you can see we are not newbies and have been on meets , party's and clubs but we still find it hard to get any play started !

What works for you ?"

I will keep an eye on this. More than a decade in this lifestyle yet still struggle to start things off.

If someone else doesn't make a move. I won't lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So often the social side of swinging kills the very reason we swing . It's great to chat and get along with other people , but when the opportunity to play passes , we would get home and say wtf happened ?

This would occur at clubs and parties , and since we don't drink , we would often find that the play didn't start till midnight , by which time we would be heading home !

We became more proactive and would often just come out with it , like suggesting we go upstairs to see if the potential playmates were up for it . This works , but becomes a bit contrived and soon everyone knew our ways and the excitement dwindled .

So we now just do what we do , the way we play now works well for us . We don't do socials and potential meets know what to expect .

We still like to chat and get to know people , but ultimately , play is always gonna happen .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see the point in beating round the bush (no pun intended) with this lifestyle you are either all in the same vibe or not

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By *leur de lisWoman
over a year ago

Buxton

"Ok as most of you can see we are not newbies and have been on meets , party's and clubs but we still find it hard to get any play started !

What works for you ?"

The right people! With the right people things just flow naturally.

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By *lpnextdoorUK OP Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

we need to meet people like you .

We are very sociable and do enjoy chatting about fab over drinks .

We do flirt and receive flirting back but that's as far as it sometimes gets . Numerous times we have left it to late for play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love to the social aspect of swinging just as much as the sex.

I really enjoying just having a laugh and chat and meeting interesting people. And usually both parties know after that if some fun to going to happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you are obviously a polite respectful couple and it doesn't come easy for you to initiate play. when we had our first threesome we were like after you no after so we understand were your coming from. maybe try to think what the worst thing to happen if you suggest play is they say no and then you can move on to the next one or ask questions about weather they play at clubs etc to see how they feel

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"From the thread title I thought this was about a 36 month constant erection

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Ok as most of you can see we are not newbies and have been on meets , party's and clubs but we still find it hard to get any play started !

What works for you ?

I will keep an eye on this. More than a decade in this lifestyle yet still struggle to start things off.

Same for me....

I think it's a combination of being rubbish at reading signals and not wanting to be pushy or put someone on the spot.

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By *lpnextdoorUK OP Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

This forum has really helped

We do try to be polite jewelandscratch as you get more bees with honey then vinegar . Love the ink by the way

Maybe we are rubbish at reading signals and we need to work on that . Benderoos I think you hit the nail on the head lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This forum has really helped

We do try to be polite jewelandscratch as you get more bees with honey then vinegar . Love the ink by the way

Maybe we are rubbish at reading signals and we need to work on that . Benderoos I think you hit the nail on the head lol

You can be up front but polite just because sometimes I (Mr) can come out a bit forward when the vibe is right by no means makes us in polite or pushy just 90% of the time come out with what everyone else is thinking and to afraid to talk about

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I'm clueless both at reading and giving signals. I never know when someone is attracted to me so bumble about until someone hopefully pins me down and takes the lead. Yhen I'm like "oh hello"

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By *lpnextdoorUK OP Couple
over a year ago

portsmouth

"I'm clueless both at reading and giving signals. I never know when someone is attracted to me so bumble about until someone hopefully pins me down and takes the lead. Yhen I'm like "oh hello"

where do we meet you lol

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By *uriousBristolCplCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

If it's blatently obvious that everyone is happy to take the next step then I often pop to the loo and accidently lose my dress!!!

Too subtle?

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I'm clueless both at reading and giving signals. I never know when someone is attracted to me so bumble about until someone hopefully pins me down and takes the lead. Yhen I'm like "oh hello"

where do we meet you lol"

oh bumbling about somewhere lol x

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

As newbies, we have been thinking about this. How do you go about asking the question that takes a social to play? Neither of us are pushy and wouldn't want to ruin a good night if that makes sense.

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

We tend to have same problem and often by time we start to play at a club, the couples we had interest in have already left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I been here half a decade and yes its hard lol

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By *harma and GregCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

We find it difficult to get play started or when we do it too late at night and we have to cut it short!! Or the couple we want to play with have left or are playing with someone else!

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By *hortieWoman
over a year ago

Northampton

Undressing works for me

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I am usually naked very quickly.... maybe 1/2 hour after arriving and then I pretty much say 'so are we having sex then?'

Always worked for me so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This forum has really helped

We do try to be polite jewelandscratch as you get more bees with honey then vinegar . Love the ink by the way

Thanks

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By *aitMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

Start off by saying "We usually chat for half an hour, then decide if we want to play".

Watch the clock.

After thirty minutes, say "Well, time's up. The chemistry isn't quite right, so we would like to keep this social", or "shall we play?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Start off by saying "We usually chat for half an hour, then decide if we want to play".

Watch the clock.

After thirty minutes, say "Well, time's up. The chemistry isn't quite right, so we would like to keep this social", or "shall we play?""

This

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