FabSwingers.com forum: Not much interest :(

By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Hi Guys,

We have been on the site since January now, and though we get some people getting in contact with us, we don't seem to get as much interest as other people get on the site. Some others seem to beating them off with a stick, but we don't really get that and Im starting to wonder why.

As we are not interested in meeting single men we have blocked them from contacting us. Maybe this is the difference?

We have tried to put a lot of thought and effort into our profile, and I think we have a good variety of photos, so where are we going wrong?

Is it that people don't like Asian women, or just that I (Chris) am too fugly?

Any tips or pointers will be thoughtfully considered.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

You both look lovely and your profile is fine. I have no idea why you aren't getting messages. Do you contact people ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your quite specific in what you want that is a double edged sword it's good because it tells people exactly what you are looking for but equally it will deter a lot from contacting you. Maybe your best bet is to be proactive and instead of waiting for couples to come to you, why don't you look for them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your averaging a little over a meet a fortnight.....

So what was the complaint?

Really....I don't think you have any worries...you both look fine and will have folk that like you...go hunt out some folk too

Continued good luck to you both...

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By *hampagneAfterpartyCouple
over a year ago

Nothing wrong with your profile or pics. You just need to find a couple that find you both attractive. I think It's that simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have met many op, so your doing just fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Nothing wrong with your profile or pics. You just need to find a couple that find you both attractive. I think It's that simple. "

Their profile says they have met a couple of sets of sexy friends too...if I read that right, they know people they can play with...plus verified by five couples, plus they go to a club now and again....

I think they're doing just fine...

If this were a post by a single guy, someone by now would have told them to manage their expectations, I think it would be good advice for them about now

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By *hampagneAfterpartyCouple
over a year ago

If you want brutally honest, I'd say that the full frontal photo of Chris isn't a good photo. But apart from that. You're profile is good.

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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"If you want brutally honest, I'd say that the full frontal photo of Chris isn't a good photo. But apart from that. You're profile is good. "

Noted. But in my defence, women do look far better naked than us men. And blokes don't seem to complain about pussy pictures, but women seem to hate cock pics so there isn't much left to point a camera at!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It may put some couples off that your female wont play with woman but doesnt mind them playing with her. What do they get back?

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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"It may put some couples off that your female wont play with woman but doesnt mind them playing with her. What do they get back?"

Well it seemed to put more people off when we said she was straight, there are so many bi women on here that straight women can feel a bit strange

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It may put some couples off that your female wont play with woman but doesnt mind them playing with her. What do they get back?

Well it seemed to put more people off when we said she was straight, there are so many bi women on here that straight women can feel a bit strange

I'm straight and I don't feel strange

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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"It may put some couples off that your female wont play with woman but doesnt mind them playing with her. What do they get back?

Well it seemed to put more people off when we said she was straight, there are so many bi women on here that straight women can feel a bit strange

I'm straight and I don't feel strange

I meant some, I apologise for generalising all straight women on the site. But we did have quite a few people saying "we would love to play, but only if ChoCho plays with Mrs" etc.

It would be nice if people clarified "I'm bi and would like to play with both of you" from "I'm bi and I expect to play with both"

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It may put some couples off that your female wont play with woman but doesnt mind them playing with her. What do they get back?

Well it seemed to put more people off when we said she was straight, there are so many bi women on here that straight women can feel a bit strange

I'm straight and I don't feel strange

I meant some, I apologise for generalising all straight women on the site. But we did have quite a few people saying "we would love to play, but only if ChoCho plays with Mrs" etc.

It would be nice if people clarified "I'm bi and would like to play with both of you" from "I'm bi and I expect to play with both""

We don't have many meets but I wouldn't dream of trying to change the way we play to increase them. I think that you should work out what you two want, don't try and alter things to attract more messages and carry on as you are overthrowing this won't help.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Overthinking

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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"It may put some couples off that your female wont play with woman but doesnt mind them playing with her. What do they get back?

Well it seemed to put more people off when we said she was straight, there are so many bi women on here that straight women can feel a bit strange

I'm straight and I don't feel strange

I meant some, I apologise for generalising all straight women on the site. But we did have quite a few people saying "we would love to play, but only if ChoCho plays with Mrs" etc.

It would be nice if people clarified "I'm bi and would like to play with both of you" from "I'm bi and I expect to play with both"

She wasn't trying to change who she is, but we were in the hot tub at a club and a girl asked if she could kiss her and ChoCho said Yes. Later she asked if she could lick her and ChoCho said Yes. She enjoyed it, but if it never happened again I don't think she would mind, but also if the right person asked at the right time then she would say Yes

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By *hampagneAfterpartyCouple
over a year ago

"If you want brutally honest, I'd say that the full frontal photo of Chris isn't a good photo. But apart from that. You're profile is good.

You're right. We avoid full frontal photos for that reason.

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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"If you want brutally honest, I'd say that the full frontal photo of Chris isn't a good photo. But apart from that. You're profile is good.

You're right. We avoid full frontal photos for that reason.

Ah you women, if only you truly understood your power over men you really would rule the world

Alternatively, if us men had your bodies, we would never leave the house, we would just sit there playing with ourselves all day!

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

Look like a lovely coupe to me...

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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Look like a lovely coupe to me... "

Thank you

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By *edonistic ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Stratford

Your profile and photos look fine to me. You're not what we're looking for and we're not what you're looking for either. There's someone for everyone on here. Just takes a bit of patience and plotting

Good luck and have fun

J x

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By *etzPlayCouple
over a year ago

Southend

Loved the pics, fell asleep half way through reading your profile xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it is normal if you're fairly specific with what you are looking for and you have blocked single guys. as other people have suggested, browse profiles and contact those that interest you. those that complain about being inundated don't use the filters to their full advantage... and also remember that some areas are obviously more highly populated too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5 meets in ten weeks, I'd say your getting interest.

Why wait for people to contact you, go look and make first contact yourself

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By *aidtobespankedCouple
over a year ago

Chester

We are at VA on 17th April...

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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"Loved the pics, fell asleep half way through reading your profile xx"

Your profile text only has 2 words in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Become proactive and do the hunting. Nothing wrong with your profile but as others have said looking for something specific is harder then looking for all comers. Couples are the hardest to meet as all have to be comfortable so there's 4 chances of a no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loved the pics, fell asleep half way through reading your profile xx

Your profile text only has 2 words in it

Shocking profile and they have loads of veris. Go figure.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Loved the pics, fell asleep half way through reading your profile xx

Your profile text only has 2 words in it

Shocking profile and they have loads of veris. Go figure."

If it works for them good luck we say

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A wise idea to block single males because Cho Cho is gorgeous - you would be swamped with offers (and that would just be from me!). Ok, I'm good and accept a polite "no thanks", if I'm honest... But Wow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It may put some couples off that your female wont play with woman but doesnt mind them playing with her. What do they get back?"

This is what would put us off. crystal is bi but we have met many straight couples and have enjoyed a straight swap.

But the one sided receiving not giving would worry us that the male half wanted to see girl on girl and we won't take the risk of being performing seals.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It may put some couples off that your female wont play with woman but doesnt mind them playing with her. What do they get back?

Well it seemed to put more people off when we said she was straight, there are so many bi women on here that straight women can feel a bit strange

Oh and this would put us off. We like couples who know what they want. Not couples who put what they think will get them more meets

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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"It may put some couples off that your female wont play with woman but doesnt mind them playing with her. What do they get back?

Well it seemed to put more people off when we said she was straight, there are so many bi women on here that straight women can feel a bit strange

Oh and this would put us off. We like couples who know what they want. Not couples who put what they think will get them more meets"

Oh, so you don't like couples exploring their sexuality, or trying something when it feels right in the moment and their is mutual consent? I'll make a note of that

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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"It may put some couples off that your female wont play with woman but doesnt mind them playing with her. What do they get back?

This is what would put us off. crystal is bi but we have met many straight couples and have enjoyed a straight swap.

But the one sided receiving not giving would worry us that the male half wanted to see girl on girl and we won't take the risk of being performing seals.

It was nothing to do with the male half watching, it was the other woman asking, and ChoCho feeling comfortable enough to say Yes and see what it was like.

People from other parts of the world have different views of their own bodies and their own sexuality. ChoCho is from Burma and there are cultural differences. But as this is not overtly stated on our profile perhaps people will wrongly assume that we are looking for performing seals.

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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Sorry Crystal wheels, my last 2 comments were snarky and uncalled for. It was wrong of me to ask for your opinion on my profile and then get arsey about you opinion. Thanks for taking the time to read it and give your opinion.

Ill have to try and think of someone better wording to express where we are on our journey of sexual discovery.

If we ever happen to bump into each other I'll buy you guys a drink as a proper apology, until then, I hope this post will suffice

x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love this "fluid bonded"

new term for us and we thought we'd heard it all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sorry Crystal wheels, my last 2 comments were snarky and uncalled for. It was wrong of me to ask for your opinion on my profile and then get arsey about you opinion. Thanks for taking the time to read it and give your opinion.

Ill have to try and think of someone better wording to express where we are on our journey of sexual discovery.

If we ever happen to bump into each other I'll buy you guys a drink as a proper apology, until then, I hope this post will suffice

x x "

I may take you up on that

It's not easy putting yourself up for critiquing especially as you already have a good profile.

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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"We love this "fluid bonded"

new term for us and we thought we'd heard it all.

Well its a lot nicer than bareback isn't it?

Im glad you like it, we can't claim to have made it up ourselves though, we got it from a swinging podcast that we listen to called "Life on the Swing Set"

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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Ill have to try and think of someone better wording to express where we are on our journey of sexual discovery.

If we ever happen to bump into each other I'll buy you guys a drink as a proper apology, until then, I hope this post will suffice

x x

I may take you up on that

It's not easy putting yourself up for critiquing especially as you already have a good profile."

Thanks, well if you spot us, come and say hello. I think we do kind of stick out as the couple with the tiny Burmese woman! There aren't many of those about, but if anyone know of any others do let us know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's another couple like you in notts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've been on fabbed for over two years our couple profile has cobwebs on it! When we first started the first six months we was replying to msg all the time now we get nothing at all and prefer to play seperately leaving the couple fun for chams. We thought (I thought) it was probably me or the fact that my wife isn't bi as we have been given both reasons for not meeting but After talking to other couples they say the same thing it's just gone quiet.

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By *orn_To_PerformCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

Great profile, nothing wrong there at all. The only couples who get tons of messages are those looking for single guys. Try it sometime - take the single men block off and you'll have 10-20 messages a day minimum.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Great profile, nothing wrong there at all. The only couples who get tons of messages are those looking for single guys. Try it sometime - take the single men block off and you'll have 10-20 messages a day minimum. "

We're looking for single men and don't get that many messages.

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By *aidtobespankedCouple
over a year ago

Chester

We are looking for single men and we don't get that many messages

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By *LCC OP Couple
over a year ago

Cambridge

We have tried it and got some amusing result! We just added a new photo and had a conversation with a single guy that went like this

Him: Beautiful fanny

Us: Thats not a very respectful way to speak to my wife

Him: Then why show pics of her nude then

Us: Because most people on here have manners

Him: I dont, fuck off

Then he blocked us!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Oh dear.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi Guys,

As we are not interested in meeting single men we have blocked them from contacting us. Maybe this is the difference?

We have tried to put a lot of thought and effort into our profile, and I think we have a good variety of photos, so where are we going wrong?

Is it that people don't like Asian women, or just that I (Chris) am too fugly?

Any tips or pointers will be thoughtfully considered."
They must be mad ....we would be on you like a tramp on chips if you lived up norf

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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago

Paisley

A lot on here don't have manners. As a single female messages are often rude.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We have tried it and got some amusing result! We just added a new photo and had a conversation with a single guy that went like this

Him: Beautiful fanny

Us: Thats not a very respectful way to speak to my wife

Him: Then why show pics of her nude then

Us: Because most people on here have manners

Him: I dont, fuck off

Then he blocked us!

Honestly! What did you expect? Do you think its manners to repeat a private conversation?

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

The whole profile seems fine. It gives info and what you do and don't like as well as outlining what you're looking for. The pictures are varied and nice to look at. You're just too far away.

Try doing some searching, send out some winks, messages. People would be silly to say no.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

Profile looks fine to me, though personally I don't like the term "fluid bonded". Photos are all fine too.

To be honest I'm not sure why you think you are lacking interest, as you seem to have had plenty of meets. If you want more, maybe try to set up something regular with couples you click with or try clubs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's nothing wrong at all with you you both have gorgeous bodies and a nice polite profile with your likes and dislikes the other people will have possibly different tastes so that may be the reason for more attention don't worry your ok other wise you will start getting a complex of not being good enough and you are xx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"The whole profile seems fine. It gives info and what you do and don't like as well as outlining what you're looking for. The pictures are varied and nice to look at. You're just too far away.

Try doing some searching, send out some winks, messages. People would be silly to say no."

Why would people be silly to say no, nobody will appeal to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we both think your one of the most attractivecouples on here but you wont be interested in us two old bi fogies

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By *ubsterMan
over a year ago

truro

"Nothing wrong with your profile or pics. You just need to find a couple that find you both attractive. I think It's that simple.

I think they're doing just fine...

If this were a post by a single guy, someone by now would have told them to manage their expectations, I think it would be good advice for them about now

Im a single guy. .. and what you just said about manging expectations is a good shout.. this what i did...and feel much happier. . Got some chats going on and more "normal" in my approach rather than being a hormoned fuelled teanager

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