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Identifying bi Male in couples at a club

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By *r_BigHead OP   Man
over a year ago

The Naughty Step (aka Northampton)

Any ideas on how to gauge if the male of a couple has any interest in bi play, without offending them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any ideas on how to gauge if the male of a couple has any interest in bi play, without offending them?"

. . . ask?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband is straight and certainly wouldn't be offended by a question like that. But if you are looking to figure it out I think guys that are looking at guys (particularly the crotch area) may have a little something going on. But the question is not offensive - I think just asking is easiest - you could even address them both "So are you lovely people straight, bi, somewhere in between . . . . ?"

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By *r_BigHead OP   Man
over a year ago

The Naughty Step (aka Northampton)

I just don't want to scare them off if its not their thing

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By *r_BigHead OP   Man
over a year ago

The Naughty Step (aka Northampton)


"My husband is straight and certainly wouldn't be offended by a question like that. But if you are looking to figure it out I think guys that are looking at guys (particularly the crotch area) may have a little something going on. But the question is not offensive - I think just asking is easiest - you could even address them both "So are you lovely people straight, bi, somewhere in between . . . . ?"

I might have to steal that line if you don't mind

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By *eshzMan
over a year ago

0151


"I just don't want to scare them off if its not their thing"
If you ask discretely/politely no one gets offended... some might appreciate the approach/ honesty... just my opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I work from the philosophy that there is nothing offensive about being bi - so the question itself is not offensive. Now if you asked them if they are necrophiliacs or something . . .

PS Yeah feel free to steal that line - it's good because it's generic and not directed at one or the other

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By *orkieLassCouple
over a year ago

York

The other week, we were at out local club. A woman asked me if her fella could suck my fellas cock. Worked lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

simply engage in conversation and ask - i do with the ladies X

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

Most clubs have a bi night. So ask them if they've ever been there on a Monday or whatever and steer the conversation from there...

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester


"My husband is straight and certainly wouldn't be offended by a question like that. But if you are looking to figure it out I think guys that are looking at guys (particularly the crotch area) may have a little something going on. But the question is not offensive - I think just asking is easiest - you could even address them both "So are you lovely people straight, bi, somewhere in between . . . . ?"

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This is good advice. We went to a play area with a couple we didn't know who were only visiting our area. They never asked the above question. We did a straight swap. Afterwards both me and the lady left the room and the bloke confided in my OH that he was bi and fancied me. Unfortunately for him - and perhaps for me - I am straight.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Yeah I would say just ask, I wouldn't be offended if someone asked me.

Alternatively you could just run around and grab as many cocks as you can and see what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine is the one with the handbag and looks like dale winton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You could ask if the guy has any interest in soft furnishings and show tunes. Just as a subtle ice-breaker, like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will he be the one with the cock in his mouth?

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

If it's a dry club? Look for well dressed, well groomed guys in pastel colours drinking cocktails with umbrellas in them, whistling along with any camp tunes the DJ might play.

If it's a wet club? Check for 'towel tepees' whenever a naked, hung single guy walks by them!

*or just ask them.

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Yeah just ask. We're all adults here and anyone who gets offended by a question probably isn't suitable anyway dare say they might be wondering the same too!

B

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I go to chams in male mode I always get to play with the guys because my tattoos and bellybpiercing kinda give me away as a raving hatrack

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