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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Of a meet that you've just had and all of sudden the other guys you've been chatting and exchanging messages with seem to drift away.... Honestly I can't meet everyone at the same time ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There loss... Don't worry about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all part of being a girl. They all just want us to themselves.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There loss... Don't worry about it"

You are right

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"It's all part of being a girl. They all just want us to themselves. "

A bit of possessiveness but at the end of the day it's a swinging site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean a status update? Although it's an nsa arrangement men still like to think they are the only person in your life. They want to be numero uno. Some get what it's about and don't sulk when you meet someone you have been talking to for longer than them or circumstances mean the other man fitted into your schedule and life at the time.

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Of a meet that you've just had and all of sudden the other guys you've been chatting and exchanging messages with seem to drift away.... Honestly I can't meet everyone at the same time ...."

Do you mean update or verification?

If status update - then don't post one - is it really necessary? You and your meet know what's just happened so is there a need to tell the rest of the site?

If verification then that's different. Assuming it's not a gushing one declaring them the best meet ever, that nobody else is as good and that (as is often seen) you want to keep them to yourself! These types will naturally put off many.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Quite interested to know why you post a status talking about a meet? If you want to thank then surely its better to do that by message? An constantly surprised at the things men put up but because I don't meet women they don't come up in my news feed,maybe their status updates are often similar?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Quite interested to know why you post a status talking about a meet? If you want to thank then surely its better to do that by message? An constantly surprised at the things men put up but because I don't meet women they don't come up in my news feed,maybe their status updates are often similar? "

I wasn't aware that there is restrictions as to what can and cannot be posted on status update. I had a lovely time at swingers club, I left a review on their site and proceeded to updated my status

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More likely to attract me if I know you actually meet

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Quite interested to know why you post a status talking about a meet? If you want to thank then surely its better to do that by message? An constantly surprised at the things men put up but because I don't meet women they don't come up in my news feed,maybe their status updates are often similar?

I wasn't aware that there is restrictions as to what can and cannot be posted on status update. I had a lovely time at swingers club, I left a review on their site and proceeded to updated my status "

There aren't.

You can do as you please.

As can those that see them. Some may decide not to have further contact with you based on seeing an update - that is also their right.

But if you are finding that this happens regularly and is causing your enjoyment of the site to be hampered - then there's an easy solution.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has never happened to me with any man on here....maybe I just don't attract the possessive type

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.


"Quite interested to know why you post a status talking about a meet? If you want to thank then surely its better to do that by message? An constantly surprised at the things men put up but because I don't meet women they don't come up in my news feed,maybe their status updates are often similar?

I wasn't aware that there is restrictions as to what can and cannot be posted on status update. I had a lovely time at swingers club, I left a review on their site and proceeded to updated my status

There aren't.

You can do as you please.

As can those that see them. Some may decide not to have further contact with you based on seeing an update - that is also their right.

But if you are finding that this happens regularly and is causing your enjoyment of the site to be hampered - then there's an easy solution.

A"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of a meet that you've just had and all of sudden the other guys you've been chatting and exchanging messages with seem to drift away.... Honestly I can't meet everyone at the same time ...."

...or demand to know why you've met the other guy(s) before them/as well as them...*cringe*

S x

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

hang on... am i the only one misreading this...

so she puts up an update and people leave..... if people were posessive wouldn't the other people who she was talking to be writing more and trying to be more assertive????

if it is really a problem for her rather than "oooh lookie at me" doesn't it takes two to continue conversation..........

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Quite interested to know why you post a status talking about a meet? If you want to thank then surely its better to do that by message? An constantly surprised at the things men put up but because I don't meet women they don't come up in my news feed,maybe their status updates are often similar?

I wasn't aware that there is restrictions as to what can and cannot be posted on status update. I had a lovely time at swingers club, I left a review on their site and proceeded to updated my status

There aren't.

You can do as you please.

As can those that see them. Some may decide not to have further contact with you based on seeing an update - that is also their right.

But if you are finding that this happens regularly and is causing your enjoyment of the site to be hampered - then there's an easy solution.

A"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Of a meet that you've just had and all of sudden the other guys you've been chatting and exchanging messages with seem to drift away.... Honestly I can't meet everyone at the same time ....

...or demand to know why you've met the other guy(s) before them/as well as them...*cringe*

S x"

As if we should be scheduling a rota of some kind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of a meet that you've just had and all of sudden the other guys you've been chatting and exchanging messages with seem to drift away.... Honestly I can't meet everyone at the same time ....

...or demand to know why you've met the other guy(s) before them/as well as them...*cringe*

S x

As if we should be scheduling a rota of some kind "

Ha ha and even if we did - bet they'd still moan - about their place on it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There loss... Don't worry about it

You are right "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"hang on... am i the only one misreading this...

so she puts up an update and people leave..... if people were posessive wouldn't the other people who she was talking to be writing more and trying to be more assertive????

if it is really a problem for her rather than "oooh lookie at me" doesn't it takes two to continue conversation..........

"

We only put statuses up to arrange meets.

The only foot stomping/petulant feedback we've had is in response to veris posted and received.

I can imagine some men do get pissed at certain status updates but rather than show it - they sulk and give the silent treatment instead? Hoping the lady'll chase them maybe

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Of a meet that you've just had and all of sudden the other guys you've been chatting and exchanging messages with seem to drift away.... Honestly I can't meet everyone at the same time ....

...or demand to know why you've met the other guy(s) before them/as well as them...*cringe*

S x

As if we should be scheduling a rota of some kind

Ha ha and even if we did - bet they'd still moan - about their place on it x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's all part of being a girl. They all just want us to themselves.

A bit of possessiveness but at the end of the day it's a swinging site "
this is true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I've had one or two sulkers when I've shown a new veri. One even had the nerve to ask 'was he better than me?'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's all part of being a girl. They all just want us to themselves.

A bit of possessiveness but at the end of the day it's a swinging site this is true "

In the moment, as long as it's not a GB, I'm all theirs. Locked in a room. Afterwards we may cuddle and chat and then that's it. Thanks very much. Knickers and shoes back on.

Walk away with a sexy wiggle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm clearly on a kink all of my own here. I love meeting women who have an 'active' life on here.

it makes me feel I'm meeting a woman who is strong , not afraid to seek out and get what she wants, and I feel flattered I'm one of the chosen few, or many....

it's my kink and I'm sticking to it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of a meet that you've just had and all of sudden the other guys you've been chatting and exchanging messages with seem to drift away.... Honestly I can't meet everyone at the same time ...."

I hate the 'well when's it my turn then??' Message. Really pisses me off,I'm not a fair ground ride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of a meet that you've just had and all of sudden the other guys you've been chatting and exchanging messages with seem to drift away.... Honestly I can't meet everyone at the same time ....

I hate the 'well when's it my turn then??' Message. Really pisses me off,I'm not a fair ground ride

"

ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When that happens to me, they don't drift away, they get jealous

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of a meet that you've just had and all of sudden the other guys you've been chatting and exchanging messages with seem to drift away.... Honestly I can't meet everyone at the same time ....

I hate the 'well when's it my turn then??' Message. Really pisses me off,I'm not a fair ground ride

"

I'm way better than a fair ground ride. I like it when they queue up for their chance to ride me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose it sorts out the wheat from the chaff for you. Another filter.

As a previous poster has already said, I like women that are 'active', it appeals to me. A woman who knows what she wants and goes and gets it!

Anybody that can't accept the premise of a swingers site shouldn't be here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of a meet that you've just had and all of sudden the other guys you've been chatting and exchanging messages with seem to drift away.... Honestly I can't meet everyone at the same time ....

I hate the 'well when's it my turn then??' Message. Really pisses me off,I'm not a fair ground ride

I'm way better than a fair ground ride. I like it when they queue up for their chance to ride me "

lol more like a super fast rollercoaster

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That happends all the time, you decide time for a shag then u don't hear anything from her but they keep displaying veris and meeting statuses, when that happends I just ignore them, at least tell me if there is some sort of queue lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of a meet that you've just had and all of sudden the other guys you've been chatting and exchanging messages with seem to drift away.... Honestly I can't meet everyone at the same time ....

I hate the 'well when's it my turn then??' Message. Really pisses me off,I'm not a fair ground ride

I'm way better than a fair ground ride. I like it when they queue up for their chance to ride me

lol more like a super fast rollercoaster "

Hold on tight and scream if you wanna cum harder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of a meet that you've just had and all of sudden the other guys you've been chatting and exchanging messages with seem to drift away.... Honestly I can't meet everyone at the same time ...."
did you say gang bang x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm clearly on a kink all of my own here. I love meeting women who have an 'active' life on here.

it makes me feel I'm meeting a woman who is strong , not afraid to seek out and get what she wants, and I feel flattered I'm one of the chosen few, or many....

it's my kink and I'm sticking to it. "

Positive vibes

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Of a meet that you've just had and all of sudden the other guys you've been chatting and exchanging messages with seem to drift away.... Honestly I can't meet everyone at the same time ....

I hate the 'well when's it my turn then??' Message. Really pisses me off,I'm not a fair ground ride

"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I suppose it sorts out the wheat from the chaff for you. Another filter.

As a previous poster has already said, I like women that are 'active', it appeals to me. A woman who knows what she wants and goes and gets it!

Anybody that can't accept the premise of a swingers site shouldn't be here!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Of a meet that you've just had and all of sudden the other guys you've been chatting and exchanging messages with seem to drift away.... Honestly I can't meet everyone at the same time ...."

From experience if I have been talking to someone and I see a series meets with other people and the conversation does not seem to be leading anywhere I would drift off. Not on the basis of possessiveness or having a hissy fit but on the pragmatic basis of seeing it as a hint that the person I am talking to is not really interested in meeting me any time soon. It is no different from being at a party and talking to someone who wanders off with other people all the time. By the third or fourth time the person can't be surprised if they come back for a chat and you are talking to someone else. Life is about priorities OP has indicated her priorities, as she is entitled to do, through her actions. The correspondants may also do likewise. As stated by other commentators it is time allocation, rather than emotion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There loss... Don't worry about it"

I don't ever get the meaning of this , how can it be their loss ?

They decided for whatever reason they didn't want to meet so to me it's not their loss just their right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we rarely post a status update - however one couple we were supposed to meet on a saturday changed their mind because we had a meet veri go up from the friday - they said they didnt want to be sloppy seconds - they had been to a club the friday and were meeting us the saturday - never get some people

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