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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi

I've asked my girl friend if she would going in to swinging as a joke and she said no. She is a naughty and horny girl and very loyal... I was wondering if I should maybe try bring it up again but how? Has any one else been in this situation and what did you do?

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

Maybe show her your fab profile...and say hi honey what do you think of this...if she has said no then accept that as her answer..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Leave your profile on her pillow?

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe show her your fab profile...and say hi honey what do you think of this...if she has said no then accept that as her answer.."

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

In my 50 years of being a female I'd say no means no!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask? Be a Man and just tell Her how its gonna be

She will love you more for it trust me

Neanderthal Gimp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

youve asked - she said no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Leave your profile on her pillow?

Her"

Better still, leave my profile on her pillow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Leave your profile on her pillow?

Her

Better still, leave my profile on her pillow "
Thats it! steam in

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Was the no to her or you both?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Leave your profile on her pillow?

Her

Better still, leave my profile on her pillow Thats it! steam in

Her"

You know I have eyes for you,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tried to get my ex on here before I joined.

We split up shortly after. Lol.

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By *ilmiss75Woman
over a year ago

Thornton

Are you sure your compatible?

I mean, shes loyal... Your clearly not

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

Well to quote your profile "no means no"

Shame you're not as loyal as she is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are you sure your compatible?

I mean, shes loyal... Your clearly not "

Take the no as a no and probably better to break up with her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of the questions on these forums just beggar belief......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people really need to think things through before posting

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Im respectful and know no means no with complete strangers, my gf is another matter

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central


"Hi

I've asked my girl friend if she would going in to swinging as a joke and she said no. She is a naughty and horny girl and very loyal... I was wondering if I should maybe try bring it up again but how? Has any one else been in this situation and what did you do?"

Remind her of your loyalty and explore mutual fantasies, without calling it swinging.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge


"Hi

I've asked my girl friend if she would going in to swinging as a joke and she said no. She is a naughty and horny girl and very loyal... I was wondering if I should maybe try bring it up again but how? Has any one else been in this situation and what did you do?"

I don't believe that everyone on this site suddenly woke up one day, turned to their partner and in unison they both say "Lets become swingers!"

I would recommend that you have a look at a website call "Life on the Swing Set", it has articles, advice and most importantly a podcast. Podcast episode 200 might be particularly useful in your situation. This site and podcast really helped me and my wife when we got started. We knew what kind of things to talk about, discuss, think about, what boundaries to discuss etc. Perhaps find an episode that you like and sit down and listen to it together.

There is also a book call Opening Up: Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino. I haven't had the chance to read it myself, however I have heard very good things about it.

I hope that helps. Good luck

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

........"I don't believe that everyone on this site suddenly woke up one day, turned to their partner and in unison they both say "Lets become swingers!"...."

This, because if they did, they'd shout 'JINX!' and do the jinx dance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi

I've asked my girl friend if she would going in to swinging as a joke and she said no. She is a naughty and horny girl and very loyal... I was wondering if I should maybe try bring it up again but how? Has any one else been in this situation and what did you do?"

the nexct time you have sex when she is in the mood, ask her if she has any fantasys she would like to try and reassure her you will do anything to help her realize them,

as most fantasys involve other peeps joining in it should lead to some sort of swinging then build on that,

if she wants things that you can do just together then just enjoy them, at least you are having better sex and making your lady happy,

beware she may ask for something you dont want to do, but if you want to swing you may have to bite the bullet hee hee,

relationships are built on trust and honesty , tell her your thoughts she may share them

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By *ipswingCouple
over a year ago

portrush

we had an old friend of mine visiting... bed time called, and i asked sweet lady could he join us ...... she said ok ..horniest night ever ...

took us a while ,playing with friends,before we joined any site, ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Her answer is obviously no, why bother asking her again? It'll just be another no, leave her be, she's not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad your loyal !!! I don't think you will have a girl friend if she finds out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi

I've asked my girl friend if she would going in to swinging as a joke and she said no. She is a naughty and horny girl and very loyal... I was wondering if I should maybe try bring it up again but how? Has any one else been in this situation and what did you do?"

On your profile you say your respectful and no means no?

Respect your girlfriends wishes then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There was a similar post from a woman asking the same question not so long ago that received a very different response.

The difference gender makes is unbelievable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell her that the swinging world is not judgemental in anyway, should put get at ease immediately.

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"There was a similar post from a woman asking the same question not so long ago that received a very different response.

The difference gender makes is unbelievable. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No is no and ask again you may just lose her or your balls

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

Why on these treads do so many couples pretend as though they woke up one day, turned to their partner and at exactly the same time said "shall we start swinging?"

With a lot of couples it is a slower building of communication, talking about fantasies, and then talking about making it happen. The OP is just asking how this conversation went for other people.

In the lifestyle we have to re-learn that Yes means Yes and No means No. It doesn't mean that in vanilla world. How many wives have asked their husbands "can I buy these shoes?" Does No mean No then?

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By *rsIdiotWoman
over a year ago

Bedworth

In our case we were both on here as singles so neither of us had to bring it up. As our relationship developed we kept talking and being open and honest with what we feel.

In my opinion, a relationship can only work in this lifestyle if both of you are totally open and honest with each other, you keep communicating your thoughts and feelings and you respect each others wishes.

Sadly for the OP, by being here as a single male without his partner's knowledge goes against all of that..... hence the reason for many of the replies he has received

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Some of the questions on these forums just beggar belief......"

As a woman if you asked & I said no & then asked again and showed me your profile on here a swift smack in the crackers could cause offence....as well as painful swelling & bruising

Mrs WD40

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Some of the questions on these forums just beggar belief......

As a woman if you asked & I said no & then asked again and showed me your profile on here a swift smack in the crackers could cause offence....as well as painful swelling & bruising

Mrs WD40"

However I have to say my partner told me he used to swing before he met me. I told him I wasn't interested & it wasn't me ruined until a good 12 months later when I expressed an interest. We made a profile, got on here & went to Paradise & Chams

We don't do much at the moment but that's laziness & working hard in the real world that is causing that. Easily resolved with some effort lol

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ditch her

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By *aughtynigel02121980Man
over a year ago

Brandon


"Leave your profile on her pillow?

Her

Better still, leave my profile on her pillow "
her profile is on my pillow

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By *adysueandneroCouple
over a year ago

witney


"Hi

I've asked my girl friend if she would going in to swinging as a joke and she said no. She is a naughty and horny girl and very loyal... I was wondering if I should maybe try bring it up again but how? Has any one else been in this situation and what did you do?"

Most of us have been in this situation. First, you have to ask yourself if you want a commited relationship with this girl. If you do then you should respect her wishes. You can always bring up the subject again later when she feels more secure.

However, cheating is not the answer to your dilema. Swinging is about honesty and not cheating.

You should either, leave the site, or end your relationship.

You will never have good relationship with anyone if you do not respect them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP show her your profile here ... you will know if into it or not after that .

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By *oandjohnCouple
over a year ago

South Wales, will travel to Hereford, Worcestershire and Shropshire

The thread is now 7 days old.., have you asked her yet?

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By *adysueandneroCouple
over a year ago

witney


"The thread is now 7 days old.., have you asked her yet?"

We're interested to know too.

But very much doubt if we will get an answer.

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