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"Whats in it for the lady?? Lol! Man up and go on your own! "Depends what the lady wants. I can go alone. Just wished I had company that's all. | |||
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"Most single ladies prefer to go to clubs as singles. We're always made very welcome and it's generally very reasonably priced for women (usually to try to attract more). The thing about going with a male male, especially if you don't know them well, is that if you arrive as a couple you are treated as a couple by the club. So you end up having to watch out for someone else's manners/behaviour as well as your own. Some guys also think that because you've arrived together you have to remain together every second. There can be an expectation of guaranteed play with him. There can also be a situation where he thinks he can use you as bait to try to play with the female half of another couple who you have no interest in. Then there are the ones who dissappear as soon as you enter the club and a bit later you start getting vexed looks from other clubbers and maybe even the staff want a quiet word about your other half... I even know of women who have gone to a club with a guy who picked them up and drove them there only to abandon them with no way to get home because he'd got a better offer and was off home with someone else. OP it's a bit of a minefield, there are some women who want men to take them to clubs because they want a free night, but that's not a great situation either. I'd suggest you try single male friendly clubs first, or possibly look for a social at a club (look in swinging club events) which often have a guest list so single males can attend without being members. Other than that try to cultivate ladies who like clubs too so you can have club buddies who you already know before you actually go to a club together. " Thanks.. It nice to have some positive feedback or more constructive criticism. It's not the be all and end all for me. Just thought I'd ask.. But point taken.. Just like to mention I'm hoping I ain't any if the above you mentioned. Lol | |||
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"Most single ladies prefer to go to clubs as singles. We're always made very welcome and it's generally very reasonably priced for women (usually to try to attract more). The thing about going with a male male, especially if you don't know them well, is that if you arrive as a couple you are treated as a couple by the club. So you end up having to watch out for someone else's manners/behaviour as well as your own. Some guys also think that because you've arrived together you have to remain together every second. There can be an expectation of guaranteed play with him. There can also be a situation where he thinks he can use you as bait to try to play with the female half of another couple who you have no interest in. Then there are the ones who dissappear as soon as you enter the club and a bit later you start getting vexed looks from other clubbers and maybe even the staff want a quiet word about your other half... I even know of women who have gone to a club with a guy who picked them up and drove them there only to abandon them with no way to get home because he'd got a better offer and was off home with someone else. OP it's a bit of a minefield, there are some women who want men to take them to clubs because they want a free night, but that's not a great situation either. I'd suggest you try single male friendly clubs first, or possibly look for a social at a club (look in swinging club events) which often have a guest list so single males can attend without being members. Other than that try to cultivate ladies who like clubs too so you can have club buddies who you already know before you actually go to a club together. " I was under the understanding that couples had to stay together. Having read comments from people complaining that the man leaves the woman and goes roaming,I was under the impression you had to stay together. | |||
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"Most single ladies prefer to go to clubs as singles. We're always made very welcome and it's generally very reasonably priced for women (usually to try to attract more). The thing about going with a male male, especially if you don't know them well, is that if you arrive as a couple you are treated as a couple by the club. So you end up having to watch out for someone else's manners/behaviour as well as your own. Some guys also think that because you've arrived together you have to remain together every second. There can be an expectation of guaranteed play with him. There can also be a situation where he thinks he can use you as bait to try to play with the female half of another couple who you have no interest in. Then there are the ones who dissappear as soon as you enter the club and a bit later you start getting vexed looks from other clubbers and maybe even the staff want a quiet word about your other half... I even know of women who have gone to a club with a guy who picked them up and drove them there only to abandon them with no way to get home because he'd got a better offer and was off home with someone else. OP it's a bit of a minefield, there are some women who want men to take them to clubs because they want a free night, but that's not a great situation either. I'd suggest you try single male friendly clubs first, or possibly look for a social at a club (look in swinging club events) which often have a guest list so single males can attend without being members. Other than that try to cultivate ladies who like clubs too so you can have club buddies who you already know before you actually go to a club together. I was under the understanding that couples had to stay together. Having read comments from people complaining that the man leaves the woman and goes roaming,I was under the impression you had to stay together." Does happen | |||
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"Most single ladies prefer to go to clubs as singles. We're always made very welcome and it's generally very reasonably priced for women (usually to try to attract more). The thing about going with a male male, especially if you don't know them well, is that if you arrive as a couple you are treated as a couple by the club. So you end up having to watch out for someone else's manners/behaviour as well as your own. Some guys also think that because you've arrived together you have to remain together every second. There can be an expectation of guaranteed play with him. There can also be a situation where he thinks he can use you as bait to try to play with the female half of another couple who you have no interest in. Then there are the ones who dissappear as soon as you enter the club and a bit later you start getting vexed looks from other clubbers and maybe even the staff want a quiet word about your other half... I even know of women who have gone to a club with a guy who picked them up and drove them there only to abandon them with no way to get home because he'd got a better offer and was off home with someone else. OP it's a bit of a minefield, there are some women who want men to take them to clubs because they want a free night, but that's not a great situation either. I'd suggest you try single male friendly clubs first, or possibly look for a social at a club (look in swinging club events) which often have a guest list so single males can attend without being members. Other than that try to cultivate ladies who like clubs too so you can have club buddies who you already know before you actually go to a club together. Thanks.. It nice to have some positive feedback or more constructive criticism. It's not the be all and end all for me. Just thought I'd ask.. But point taken.. Just like to mention I'm hoping I ain't any if the above you mentioned. Lol" The problem is that the guys who have arranged a shag with a couple while you're in the loo or who have d*unk far too much and are getting arsey or who are telling all the fit men that you only shag him or who glower if you say hello to anyone they all say that they're not like that. I fully understand OP, clubs can be daunting for single men, they are often more expensive and are sometimes even a bit sniffy towards you. But the best club buddies are ones who you can predict (speaking as a woman) so a prior relationship/friendship really helps and makes for a better night. I've seen guys at clubs mortified by the behaviour of the woman they came with so it cuts both ways. Keep posting in the forums and look out for the organised socials at clubs. They're very single male friendly and you'll have some ready made friends from the forums. | |||
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"I have been to a private swinger party on own before. Didn't realise I had to explain or have a reason to want to go to a club with someone. The last time I checked.. I was allowed to have my own wants and needs. Thanks for negative comments anyway!??
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"Most single ladies prefer to go to clubs as singles. We're always made very welcome and it's generally very reasonably priced for women (usually to try to attract more). The thing about going with a male male, especially if you don't know them well, is that if you arrive as a couple you are treated as a couple by the club. So you end up having to watch out for someone else's manners/behaviour as well as your own. Some guys also think that because you've arrived together you have to remain together every second. There can be an expectation of guaranteed play with him. There can also be a situation where he thinks he can use you as bait to try to play with the female half of another couple who you have no interest in. Then there are the ones who dissappear as soon as you enter the club and a bit later you start getting vexed looks from other clubbers and maybe even the staff want a quiet word about your other half... I even know of women who have gone to a club with a guy who picked them up and drove them there only to abandon them with no way to get home because he'd got a better offer and was off home with someone else. OP it's a bit of a minefield, there are some women who want men to take them to clubs because they want a free night, but that's not a great situation either. I'd suggest you try single male friendly clubs first, or possibly look for a social at a club (look in swinging club events) which often have a guest list so single males can attend without being members. Other than that try to cultivate ladies who like clubs too so you can have club buddies who you already know before you actually go to a club together. I was under the understanding that couples had to stay together. Having read comments from people complaining that the man leaves the woman and goes roaming,I was under the impression you had to stay together." It depends on the club and the night. Some single men want a female to get them into couples only nights at clubs and then dissappear thinking they can be predatory. If I go to a club with a male friend I tend to prefer nights where all are welcome cos I'm interested in the men - any guy who only wants to attend with me on couples night will get short shrift - if I want to meet couples I'm welcome on my own on couples night. | |||
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"Most single ladies prefer to go to clubs as singles. We're always made very welcome and it's generally very reasonably priced for women (usually to try to attract more). The thing about going with a male male, especially if you don't know them well, is that if you arrive as a couple you are treated as a couple by the club. So you end up having to watch out for someone else's manners/behaviour as well as your own. Some guys also think that because you've arrived together you have to remain together every second. There can be an expectation of guaranteed play with him. There can also be a situation where he thinks he can use you as bait to try to play with the female half of another couple who you have no interest in. Then there are the ones who dissappear as soon as you enter the club and a bit later you start getting vexed looks from other clubbers and maybe even the staff want a quiet word about your other half... I even know of women who have gone to a club with a guy who picked them up and drove them there only to abandon them with no way to get home because he'd got a better offer and was off home with someone else. OP it's a bit of a minefield, there are some women who want men to take them to clubs because they want a free night, but that's not a great situation either. I'd suggest you try single male friendly clubs first, or possibly look for a social at a club (look in swinging club events) which often have a guest list so single males can attend without being members. Other than that try to cultivate ladies who like clubs too so you can have club buddies who you already know before you actually go to a club together. Thanks.. It nice to have some positive feedback or more constructive criticism. It's not the be all and end all for me. Just thought I'd ask.. But point taken.. Just like to mention I'm hoping I ain't any if the above you mentioned. Lol The problem is that the guys who have arranged a shag with a couple while you're in the loo or who have d*unk far too much and are getting arsey or who are telling all the fit men that you only shag him or who glower if you say hello to anyone they all say that they're not like that. I fully understand OP, clubs can be daunting for single men, they are often more expensive and are sometimes even a bit sniffy towards you. But the best club buddies are ones who you can predict (speaking as a woman) so a prior relationship/friendship really helps and makes for a better night. I've seen guys at clubs mortified by the behaviour of the woman they came with so it cuts both ways. Keep posting in the forums and look out for the organised socials at clubs. They're very single male friendly and you'll have some ready made friends from the forums. " Thanks it's nice knowing there are people like you here with sound and genuine advice that will help. More swingers like you please.  | |||
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"Hello, if we were going out you would be welcome to come with us. Unfortunately you are probably wasting your time in these forums asking for a playmate. Your profile pictures suggest you take care of yourself, and a good looking cock goes further than most will admit. Our opinion is, should you go to a club on your own, you will be popular and be approached. You'll find what you are looking for. Try the busy clubs like xstastia, or VA etc. If decadents in the south west do a mixed night, then it will be worth the trip for you. Ignore the neggies in the posts. Seek and you will find." Thanks again. I will keep that in mind. And thanks for the offer. Glad to see my efforts in dressing up are not wasted and people do notice
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"Most single ladies prefer to go to clubs as singles. We're always made very welcome and it's generally very reasonably priced for women (usually to try to attract more). The thing about going with a male male, especially if you don't know them well, is that if you arrive as a couple you are treated as a couple by the club. So you end up having to watch out for someone else's manners/behaviour as well as your own. Some guys also think that because you've arrived together you have to remain together every second. There can be an expectation of guaranteed play with him. There can also be a situation where he thinks he can use you as bait to try to play with the female half of another couple who you have no interest in. Then there are the ones who dissappear as soon as you enter the club and a bit later you start getting vexed looks from other clubbers and maybe even the staff want a quiet word about your other half... I even know of women who have gone to a club with a guy who picked them up and drove them there only to abandon them with no way to get home because he'd got a better offer and was off home with someone else. OP it's a bit of a minefield, there are some women who want men to take them to clubs because they want a free night, but that's not a great situation either. I'd suggest you try single male friendly clubs first, or possibly look for a social at a club (look in swinging club events) which often have a guest list so single males can attend without being members. Other than that try to cultivate ladies who like clubs too so you can have club buddies who you already know before you actually go to a club together. "
Absolutely
And also that I for one would not want to give my home address out to some complete stranger on the internet so that he can pick me up and drop me back. That would be complete madness
That or I hang around outside the club waiting for him to turn up; why would I want to do a thing like that?
Third alternative: he picks me up from a pub in the evening and then drops me back there at 4 am !!!!!
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"Most single ladies prefer to go to clubs as singles. We're always made very welcome and it's generally very reasonably priced for women (usually to try to attract more). The thing about going with a male male, especially if you don't know them well, is that if you arrive as a couple you are treated as a couple by the club. So you end up having to watch out for someone else's manners/behaviour as well as your own. Some guys also think that because you've arrived together you have to remain together every second. There can be an expectation of guaranteed play with him. There can also be a situation where he thinks he can use you as bait to try to play with the female half of another couple who you have no interest in. Then there are the ones who dissappear as soon as you enter the club and a bit later you start getting vexed looks from other clubbers and maybe even the staff want a quiet word about your other half... I even know of women who have gone to a club with a guy who picked them up and drove them there only to abandon them with no way to get home because he'd got a better offer and was off home with someone else. OP it's a bit of a minefield, there are some women who want men to take them to clubs because they want a free night, but that's not a great situation either. I'd suggest you try single male friendly clubs first, or possibly look for a social at a club (look in swinging club events) which often have a guest list so single males can attend without being members. Other than that try to cultivate ladies who like clubs too so you can have club buddies who you already know before you actually go to a club together. " What she said | |||
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"I have been to a private swinger party on own before. Didn't realise I had to explain or have a reason to want to go to a club with someone. The last time I checked.. I was allowed to have my own wants and needs. Thanks for negative comments anyway!??
I wasn't being negative, just genuinely asking- what is in it for the lady!? "Lol .. Wasn't meant for you. I replied to you personally on here. And in relation to your question... Depends what the lady desires of course. I am a gentleman. Lol | |||
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"Sometimes wyrd get it's exactly right, this is one of those occasions." I'll have you know I'm exactly right exactly 99% of the time! (Psst, I was just agreeing with TemptingDevil ) | |||
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"Most single ladies prefer to go to clubs as singles. We're always made very welcome and it's generally very reasonably priced for women (usually to try to attract more). The thing about going with a male male, especially if you don't know them well, is that if you arrive as a couple you are treated as a couple by the club. So you end up having to watch out for someone else's manners/behaviour as well as your own. Some guys also think that because you've arrived together you have to remain together every second. There can be an expectation of guaranteed play with him. There can also be a situation where he thinks he can use you as bait to try to play with the female half of another couple who you have no interest in. Then there are the ones who dissappear as soon as you enter the club and a bit later you start getting vexed looks from other clubbers and maybe even the staff want a quiet word about your other half... I even know of women who have gone to a club with a guy who picked them up and drove them there only to abandon them with no way to get home because he'd got a better offer and was off home with someone else. OP it's a bit of a minefield, there are some women who want men to take them to clubs because they want a free night, but that's not a great situation either. I'd suggest you try single male friendly clubs first, or possibly look for a social at a club (look in swinging club events) which often have a guest list so single males can attend without being members. Other than that try to cultivate ladies who like clubs too so you can have club buddies who you already know before you actually go to a club together. I was under the understanding that couples had to stay together. Having read comments from people complaining that the man leaves the woman and goes roaming,I was under the impression you had to stay together. It depends on the club and the night. Some single men want a female to get them into couples only nights at clubs and then dissappear thinking they can be predatory. If I go to a club with a male friend I tend to prefer nights where all are welcome cos I'm interested in the men - any guy who only wants to attend with me on couples night will get short shrift - if I want to meet couples I'm welcome on my own on couples night." Genuinely looking for someone to go with. But after reading all comments I understand it's not as easy as I might have made it sound with open ring statement/comment/question. Just to reiterate it's not the be all and end all. Just something I thought I'd ask as I was thinking about it | |||
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"I have take single wlomen to clubs a few times We have never stayed together for the whole evening but have met lovely couples playing as a couple and apart Qhat tje lady got was a lift wome tknes a meal free entry some one to chat to and may be a better feelong from arriving as a couple I am happy to offer this er no strings service " For women, most clubs are free to enter. Some charge £5 and there are a couple of clubs which charge as much as £10. She must be been really grateful for the "free entry" Plus she must have been really hard-up giving some stranger her home address, all for the sake of saving £10 on the Taxi fare | |||
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"I have take single wlomen to clubs a few times We have never stayed together for the whole evening but have met lovely couples playing as a couple and apart Qhat tje lady got was a lift wome tknes a meal free entry some one to chat to and may be a better feelong from arriving as a couple I am happy to offer this er no strings service For women, most clubs are free to enter. Some charge £5 and there are a couple of clubs which charge as much as £10. She must be been really grateful for the "free entry" Plus she must have been really hard-up giving some stranger her home address, all for the sake of saving £10 on the Taxi fare" To be fair, there will be some women who will accompany men to clubs for the 'price' of free food and booze and a lift home, without obligation. Not sure if the OP is looking for THAT kind of arrangement though. | |||
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"I have take single wlomen to clubs a few times We have never stayed together for the whole evening but have met lovely couples playing as a couple and apart Qhat tje lady got was a lift wome tknes a meal free entry some one to chat to and may be a better feelong from arriving as a couple I am happy to offer this er no strings service For women, most clubs are free to enter. Some charge £5 and there are a couple of clubs which charge as much as £10. She must be been really grateful for the "free entry" Plus she must have been really hard-up giving some stranger her home address, all for the sake of saving £10 on the Taxi fare" This is it. And most men want to go couples nights | |||
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"Best advice I can think of. Op Go to a club thats close where you live. Maybe look at meeting a lady or couple inside for a social. Then you can get the feeling of the place and have someome to show u about have a drink with X" Advice noted! Hope I don't loose my notes. | |||
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"I have take single wlomen to clubs a few times We have never stayed together for the whole evening but have met lovely couples playing as a couple and apart Qhat tje lady got was a lift wome tknes a meal free entry some one to chat to and may be a better feelong from arriving as a couple I am happy to offer this er no strings service For women, most clubs are free to enter. Some charge £5 and there are a couple of clubs which charge as much as £10. She must be been really grateful for the "free entry" Plus she must have been really hard-up giving some stranger her home address, all for the sake of saving £10 on the Taxi fare To be fair, there will be some women who will accompany men to clubs for the 'price' of free food and booze and a lift home, without obligation. Not sure if the OP is looking for THAT kind of arrangement though." I have no doubt that this happens. My friend and I once overheard a woman asking a guy for more money because he wanted to stay longer at a club!!! But for me, even if I go to a very expensive club (£10 and food at around 11 pm is included) which is far away (so £20 return Taxi fare) and take my favourite bottle of wine (£12.99 from Waitrose), the total is less than £45 That is not worth it for 'shacking up' with a stranger, who might turn out to be a creep or a stalker | |||
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"I have take single wlomen to clubs a few times We have never stayed together for the whole evening but have met lovely couples playing as a couple and apart Qhat tje lady got was a lift wome tknes a meal free entry some one to chat to and may be a better feelong from arriving as a couple I am happy to offer this er no strings service For women, most clubs are free to enter. Some charge £5 and there are a couple of clubs which charge as much as £10. She must be been really grateful for the "free entry" Plus she must have been really hard-up giving some stranger her home address, all for the sake of saving £10 on the Taxi fare To be fair, there will be some women who will accompany men to clubs for the 'price' of free food and booze and a lift home, without obligation. Not sure if the OP is looking for THAT kind of arrangement though." Of course food and drinks would be included anyway. I do know how to treat a lady. Even on a social meet. | |||
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"I have take single wlomen to clubs a few times We have never stayed together for the whole evening but have met lovely couples playing as a couple and apart Qhat tje lady got was a lift wome tknes a meal free entry some one to chat to and may be a better feelong from arriving as a couple I am happy to offer this er no strings service For women, most clubs are free to enter. Some charge £5 and there are a couple of clubs which charge as much as £10. She must be been really grateful for the "free entry" Plus she must have been really hard-up giving some stranger her home address, all for the sake of saving £10 on the Taxi fare To be fair, there will be some women who will accompany men to clubs for the 'price' of free food and booze and a lift home, without obligation. Not sure if the OP is looking for THAT kind of arrangement though. Of course food and drinks would be included anyway. I do know how to treat a lady. Even on a social meet." OK, looks like you are looking for THAT kind of arrangement. I hope no-one takes advantage. Women are known to disappear once inside the club too. | |||
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"I have take single wlomen to clubs a few times We have never stayed together for the whole evening but have met lovely couples playing as a couple and apart Qhat tje lady got was a lift wome tknes a meal free entry some one to chat to and may be a better feelong from arriving as a couple I am happy to offer this er no strings service For women, most clubs are free to enter. Some charge £5 and there are a couple of clubs which charge as much as £10. She must be been really grateful for the "free entry" Plus she must have been really hard-up giving some stranger her home address, all for the sake of saving £10 on the Taxi fare To be fair, there will be some women who will accompany men to clubs for the 'price' of free food and booze and a lift home, without obligation. Not sure if the OP is looking for THAT kind of arrangement though. Of course food and drinks would be included anyway. I do know how to treat a lady. Even on a social meet. OK, looks like you are looking for THAT kind of arrangement. I hope no-one takes advantage. Women are known to disappear once inside the club too. "No I ain't looking for that. Just stating that if I was with any lady I would naturally wine and dine them. Don't fancy being used anymore than any lady would! | |||
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"Give the guy a break maybe wants some moral support or it may be he wants to meet fa lady to take to club on a regular basis " | |||
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" This is it. And most men want to go couples nights " hence my "golden ticket" comment..... 
if someone waits on someone else to do something... invariably nothing gets done... so just go
if you are a single guy.... you may as well experience whats its like to be a single guy in a club...... unless you are going to want to wait on someone to go with you every single time
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"What I don't get. Ill walk in a pub in my own or a club Why should a man feel shy about it"
That is a good point
I too mostly go clubs by myself; sometimes with a girlfriend because we take turns at driving and not drinking. I have never felt shy or scared or out of place or anything like that
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"I think some good advice has been given above & I agree it would be a better arrangement if could go with someone you've already met before and built up a rapport withz Personally I wouldn't go to a club on my own but I only go with men I've met previously. Good luck " This!! I wouldn't go on my own either and definitely not the first time. I can totally understand. However knowing what I know now I would attend on my own for an organised social or party as you usually get chatting about those for weeks in advance on the forums so wouldn't be as scary going alone to that. | |||
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" That is a good point I too mostly go clubs by myself; sometimes with a girlfriend because we take turns at driving and not drinking. I have never felt shy or scared or out of place or anything like that Why do guys feel different? (not asking this of the OP in particular but just in general from guys who start threads such as this one)" see... this would be a interesting question... if you want to ask it in its own thread rather than in the middle of someone elses i think you'll get a lot of interesting answers.... | |||
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" That is a good point I too mostly go clubs by myself; sometimes with a girlfriend because we take turns at driving and not drinking. I have never felt shy or scared or out of place or anything like that Why do guys feel different? (not asking this of the OP in particular but just in general from guys who start threads such as this one) see... this would be a interesting question... if you want to ask it in its own thread rather than in the middle of someone elses i think you'll get a lot of interesting answers.... "I had nothing better to do; it was just idle curiosity, Fabio
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 ) but I have no problems walking into a vanilla bar on my own so a swingers club shouldn't be too different. I'd not arrange to go as a couple with a stranger, but I might agree to meet inside | |||
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" That is a good point I too mostly go clubs by myself; sometimes with a girlfriend because we take turns at driving and not drinking. I have never felt shy or scared or out of place or anything like that Why do guys feel different? (not asking this of the OP in particular but just in general from guys who start threads such as this one) see... this would be a interesting question... if you want to ask it in its own thread rather than in the middle of someone elses i think you'll get a lot of interesting answers....
I had nothing better to do; it was just idle curiosity, Fabio
(reminder to myself: get a life, soonish )"don't worry... i have a few theories that "may" apply to certain person... but they dont always want to admit it (but they views i have heard expressed in clubs) they don't want to look "desperate" (as thats how they see other single guys who go to clubs...... it saves them money..... the old its cheaper to get in as a couple than as a single bloke arguement they don't want to pay that sort of money without the guarentee of some sort of play (even if its only the person they came with) they can use to other person to get into nights they would be able to otherwise... and therefore play with people who would not normally be interested (AKA the golden ticket) not saying any apply to the op.... but they are heard in clubs more than i would like to hear tham.... | |||
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"What I don't get. Ill walk in a pub in my own or a club Why should a man feel shy about it" Because not everyone is like you. There are people in the world who do things I'm sure you wouldn't,they don't say I do it therefore you should too. I think that's a rather narrow minded attitude. | |||
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"What I don't get. Ill walk in a pub in my own or a club Why should a man feel shy about it Because not everyone is like you. There are people in the world who do things I'm sure you wouldn't,they don't say I do it therefore you should too. I think that's a rather narrow minded attitude." | |||
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"Most single ladies prefer to go to clubs as singles. We're always made very welcome and it's generally very reasonably priced for women (usually to try to attract more). The thing about going with a male male, especially if you don't know them well, is that if you arrive as a couple you are treated as a couple by the club. So you end up having to watch out for someone else's manners/behaviour as well as your own. Some guys also think that because you've arrived together you have to remain together every second. There can be an expectation of guaranteed play with him. There can also be a situation where he thinks he can use you as bait to try to play with the female half of another couple who you have no interest in. Then there are the ones who dissappear as soon as you enter the club and a bit later you start getting vexed looks from other clubbers and maybe even the staff want a quiet word about your other half... I even know of women who have gone to a club with a guy who picked them up and drove them there only to abandon them with no way to get home because he'd got a better offer and was off home with someone else. OP it's a bit of a minefield, there are some women who want men to take them to clubs because they want a free night, but that's not a great situation either. I'd suggest you try single male friendly clubs first, or possibly look for a social at a club (look in swinging club events) which often have a guest list so single males can attend without being members. Other than that try to cultivate ladies who like clubs too so you can have club buddies who you already know before you actually go to a club together. " | |||
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"Hello, if we were going out you would be welcome to come with us. Unfortunately you are probably wasting your time in these forums asking for a playmate. Your profile pictures suggest you take care of yourself, and a good looking cock goes further than most will admit. Our opinion is, should you go to a club on your own, you will be popular and be approached. You'll find what you are looking for. Try the busy clubs like xstastia, or VA etc. If decadents in the south west do a mixed night, then it will be worth the trip for you. Ignore the neggies in the posts. Seek and you will find." | |||
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"I got used by a guy who wanted to go to a couples evening, and was unceremoniously dumped within 5 mins of getting there. It was noted, I enjoyed my evening with a swim, didn't stay the whole evening, got changed cleared out the locker of both mine and his stuff, got my deposit back, left his phone and wallet with the staff, so that he could explain himself to them, and dumped his clothes in a bin on the way home! I think he had to get his wife to come and pick him up. Needless to say I always go on my own from now on. " I'm sorry, but that made me LOL. | |||
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"I got used by a guy who wanted to go to a couples evening, and was unceremoniously dumped within 5 mins of getting there. It was noted, I enjoyed my evening with a swim, didn't stay the whole evening, got changed cleared out the locker of both mine and his stuff, got my deposit back, left his phone and wallet with the staff, so that he could explain himself to them, and dumped his clothes in a bin on the way home! I think he had to get his wife to come and pick him up. Needless to say I always go on my own from now on. " Good for you
I would have dumped his phone and wallet with his clothes
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"I got used by a guy who wanted to go to a couples evening, and was unceremoniously dumped within 5 mins of getting there. It was noted, I enjoyed my evening with a swim, didn't stay the whole evening, got changed cleared out the locker of both mine and his stuff, got my deposit back, left his phone and wallet with the staff, so that he could explain himself to them, and dumped his clothes in a bin on the way home! I think he had to get his wife to come and pick him up. Needless to say I always go on my own from now on. " Just sounds vindictive to me....... | |||
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"I got used by a guy who wanted to go to a couples evening, and was unceremoniously dumped within 5 mins of getting there. It was noted, I enjoyed my evening with a swim, didn't stay the whole evening, got changed cleared out the locker of both mine and his stuff, got my deposit back, left his phone and wallet with the staff, so that he could explain himself to them, and dumped his clothes in a bin on the way home! I think he had to get his wife to come and pick him up. Needless to say I always go on my own from now on. Just sounds vindictive to me......." So it's ok for a man to ask a woman to accompany him to a club then leave her? What if she couldn't get home or someone tried to take advantage of her while she was alone,and her being used for access to a club? | |||
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"I got used by a guy who wanted to go to a couples evening, and was unceremoniously dumped within 5 mins of getting there. It was noted, I enjoyed my evening with a swim, didn't stay the whole evening, got changed cleared out the locker of both mine and his stuff, got my deposit back, left his phone and wallet with the staff, so that he could explain himself to them, and dumped his clothes in a bin on the way home! I think he had to get his wife to come and pick him up. Needless to say I always go on my own from now on. Just sounds vindictive to me....... So it's ok for a man to ask a woman to accompany him to a club then leave her? What if she couldn't get home or someone tried to take advantage of her while she was alone,and her being used for access to a club? " That would be totally wrong. I guess some guys can spoil it for rest | |||
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"I got used by a guy who wanted to go to a couples evening, and was unceremoniously dumped within 5 mins of getting there. It was noted, I enjoyed my evening with a swim, didn't stay the whole evening, got changed cleared out the locker of both mine and his stuff, got my deposit back, left his phone and wallet with the staff, so that he could explain himself to them, and dumped his clothes in a bin on the way home! I think he had to get his wife to come and pick him up. Needless to say I always go on my own from now on. Just sounds vindictive to me....... So it's ok for a man to ask a woman to accompany him to a club then leave her? What if she couldn't get home or someone tried to take advantage of her while she was alone,and her being used for access to a club? " No, but her action was vindicitive. Case of "two wrongs, not making a right".... | |||
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"I got used by a guy who wanted to go to a couples evening, and was unceremoniously dumped within 5 mins of getting there. It was noted, I enjoyed my evening with a swim, didn't stay the whole evening, got changed cleared out the locker of both mine and his stuff, got my deposit back, left his phone and wallet with the staff, so that he could explain himself to them, and dumped his clothes in a bin on the way home! I think he had to get his wife to come and pick him up. Needless to say I always go on my own from now on. Just sounds vindictive to me....... So it's ok for a man to ask a woman to accompany him to a club then leave her? What if she couldn't get home or someone tried to take advantage of her while she was alone,and her being used for access to a club? No, but her action was vindicitive. Case of "two wrongs, not making a right"...." Her actions were decent compared to what my actions would have been. But hey, you don't need to go to a club with her and certainly not with me | |||
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"I got used by a guy who wanted to go to a couples evening, and was unceremoniously dumped within 5 mins of getting there. It was noted, I enjoyed my evening with a swim, didn't stay the whole evening, got changed cleared out the locker of both mine and his stuff, got my deposit back, left his phone and wallet with the staff, so that he could explain himself to them, and dumped his clothes in a bin on the way home! I think he had to get his wife to come and pick him up. Needless to say I always go on my own from now on. Just sounds vindictive to me....... So it's ok for a man to ask a woman to accompany him to a club then leave her? What if she couldn't get home or someone tried to take advantage of her while she was alone,and her being used for access to a club? No, but her action was vindicitive. Case of "two wrongs, not making a right".... Her actions were decent compared to what my actions would have been. But hey, you don't need to go to a club with her and certainly not with me "Vindictive, which ever way you look at it...... | |||
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"Vindictive, which ever way you look at it......" You keep using that word. I don't think it means what you think it means. Was her revenge out of proportion with the action that caused her grief? Maybe, especially as she binned his clothes. I would have left them with the doorman too, but with instructions that he gets them back the next day. But the guys behaviour was appalling and left a lone woman at risk getting home at an unsocial hour. Should she have sat there prettily, waiting for him to finish dipping his wick? Its the 21st century now. If you piss off a woman, you have to risk the revenge. | |||
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"I got used by a guy who wanted to go to a couples evening, and was unceremoniously dumped within 5 mins of getting there. It was noted, I enjoyed my evening with a swim, didn't stay the whole evening, got changed cleared out the locker of both mine and his stuff, got my deposit back, left his phone and wallet with the staff, so that he could explain himself to them, and dumped his clothes in a bin on the way home! I think he had to get his wife to come and pick him up. Needless to say I always go on my own from now on. " That is a shocking way to treat anyone just because things didn't go your way, had a man done that to a woman it would be seen as outrageous. Says a lot about someone who would do that | |||
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" Regardless I would rather go on my own than arrange for someone who I didn't know to accompany me." and that hits the nail on the head.... the weird notion of someone you didn't know somehow making it easier to talk to people you don't know........ | |||
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"What she did with the clothes was theft. The guy who took her there was a prick. Both are wrongs. I've been worrying about going to a club on my own as well. The extra cost for single males and restrictions on certain nights does put me off somewhat. The comments about men wanting a golden ticket to get in on couples nights doesn't make sense to me however. Why would I want to go on a night where I'm essentially not welcome? Regardless I would rather go on my own than arrange for someone who I didn't know to accompany me." To fuck other women?! To use the woman as bait. It does happen. | |||
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"Bad behavior from both parties. One does not justify the other, as I said "two wrongs do not make a right". " I very much doubt that she dragged him in there kicking and screaming. Very likely that he tailed her for days on this site asking her to take him in with her He then goes on to leave her on her own. He deserved what he got. And as I said, he would have got worse from me Her actions if anything, were mild. Mine would have been proportionate and would have left him dealing with the 3 burly doormen at that club (I think I know which club it is). Even that would not have been vindictive. Do you even know what 'vindictive' means? And even if it is vindictive, then so what??? | |||
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"Go by yourself first, I did and the hardest thing about the whole experiance was going through the door (especially as the guy in the laundrette opposite kept looking at me as if I was a Pervy freak); once in it felt very relaxed and I had a great time. Once you've been though you can invite a women (for me this would be someone I'd aleady met and played with) to join you on your next visit and you'll already be familiar with the club, it's hosts and maybe even some off the guests - to me, this makes for a far better experiance."
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"What she did with the clothes was theft. The guy who took her there was a prick. Both are wrongs. I've been worrying about going to a club on my own as well. The extra cost for single males and restrictions on certain nights does put me off somewhat. The comments about men wanting a golden ticket to get in on couples nights doesn't make sense to me however. Why would I want to go on a night where I'm essentially not welcome? Regardless I would rather go on my own than arrange for someone who I didn't know to accompany me. To fuck other women?! To use the woman as bait. It does happen." I'd still be a single guy unwelcome on a couples night if i left her alone after getting there. And I would have thought it would be easy to pick up the vibes that something wasn't right if i were to approach others as a fake couple. | |||
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"Bad behavior from both parties. One does not justify the other, as I said "two wrongs do not make a right". I very much doubt that she dragged him in there kicking and screaming. Very likely that he tailed her for days on this site asking her to take him in with her He then goes on to leave her on her own. He deserved what he got. And as I said, he would have got worse from me Her actions if anything, were mild. Mine would have been proportionate and would have left him dealing with the 3 burly doormen at that club (I think I know which club it is). Even that would not have been vindictive. Do you even know what 'vindictive' means? And even if it is vindictive, then so what???" You obviously have more details of what actually happened than us or are you assuming? | |||
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"I got used by a guy who wanted to go to a couples evening, and was unceremoniously dumped within 5 mins of getting there. It was noted, I enjoyed my evening with a swim, didn't stay the whole evening, got changed cleared out the locker of both mine and his stuff, got my deposit back, left his phone and wallet with the staff, so that he could explain himself to them, and dumped his clothes in a bin on the way home! I think he had to get his wife to come and pick him up. Needless to say I always go on my own from now on. " Classic love it good for you | |||
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"Bad behavior from both parties. One does not justify the other, as I said "two wrongs do not make a right". I very much doubt that she dragged him in there kicking and screaming. Very likely that he tailed her for days on this site asking her to take him in with her He then goes on to leave her on her own. He deserved what he got. And as I said, he would have got worse from me Her actions if anything, were mild. Mine would have been proportionate and would have left him dealing with the 3 burly doormen at that club (I think I know which club it is). Even that would not have been vindictive. Do you even know what 'vindictive' means? And even if it is vindictive, then so what??? You obviously have more details of what actually happened than us or are you assuming?" Read her original comment to know what happened | |||
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"Bad behavior from both parties. One does not justify the other, as I said "two wrongs do not make a right". I very much doubt that she dragged him in there kicking and screaming. Very likely that he tailed her for days on this site asking her to take him in with her He then goes on to leave her on her own. He deserved what he got. And as I said, he would have got worse from me Her actions if anything, were mild. Mine would have been proportionate and would have left him dealing with the 3 burly doormen at that club (I think I know which club it is). Even that would not have been vindictive. Do you even know what 'vindictive' means? And even if it is vindictive, then so what??? You obviously have more details of what actually happened than us or are you assuming? Read her original comment to know what happened" I did read the original comment from her hence my response, what I asked was did you have full details or were you assuming? | |||
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"Bad behavior from both parties. One does not justify the other, as I said "two wrongs do not make a right". I very much doubt that she dragged him in there kicking and screaming. Very likely that he tailed her for days on this site asking her to take him in with her He then goes on to leave her on her own. He deserved what he got. And as I said, he would have got worse from me Her actions if anything, were mild. Mine would have been proportionate and would have left him dealing with the 3 burly doormen at that club (I think I know which club it is). Even that would not have been vindictive. Do you even know what 'vindictive' means? And even if it is vindictive, then so what??? You obviously have more details of what actually happened than us or are you assuming? Read her original comment to know what happened I did read the original comment from her hence my response, what I asked was did you have full details or were you assuming?" If so, then what is confusing you? | |||
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"Not vindictive at all. Knew him for over a year, and he'd been using me to access couples instead of being a single guy and striking out. On the night in question, he dumped me, because he'd also arranged to see another woman, who was turning up later. I read this on his phone before handing it in, and how they had been plotting behind my back. Even to the point where he was going to offer to house sit for me and my then unwell cat, so that he could have her around and fuck her in my bed, take pictures to put on his profile, knowing that I would see it. Personally, I think I was quite restrained, and left it up to his wife to castrate him!!!!" Your additional information does put a slighty different complexion on matters... | |||
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"Not vindictive at all. Knew him for over a year, and he'd been using me to access couples instead of being a single guy and striking out. On the night in question, he dumped me, because he'd also arranged to see another woman, who was turning up later. I read this on his phone before handing it in, and how they had been plotting behind my back. Even to the point where he was going to offer to house sit for me and my then unwell cat, so that he could have her around and fuck her in my bed, take pictures to put on his profile, knowing that I would see it. Personally, I think I was quite restrained, and left it up to his wife to castrate him!!!! Your additional information does put a slighty different complexion on matters..." Why??? Don't two wrongs still don't make a right. What has changed??? He still ended up getting castrated by his wife. Now it is three wrongs still don't make a right | |||
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"Not vindictive at all. Knew him for over a year, and he'd been using me to access couples instead of being a single guy and striking out. On the night in question, he dumped me, because he'd also arranged to see another woman, who was turning up later. I read this on his phone before handing it in, and how they had been plotting behind my back. Even to the point where he was going to offer to house sit for me and my then unwell cat, so that he could have her around and fuck her in my bed, take pictures to put on his profile, knowing that I would see it. Personally, I think I was quite restrained, and left it up to his wife to castrate him!!!! Your additional information does put a slighty different complexion on matters... Why??? Don't two wrongs still don't make a right. What has changed??? He still ended up getting castrated by his wife. Now it is three wrongs still don't make a right "Agreed the whole story does change things but I still think the behaviour from both was undignifies at best. Hoping a married man who is cheating with one person is going to have any loyalty to another is never going to end well. I think she has purposely misled us by not originally giving all info though. | |||
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"Not vindictive at all. Knew him for over a year, and he'd been using me to access couples instead of being a single guy and striking out. On the night in question, he dumped me, because he'd also arranged to see another woman, who was turning up later. I read this on his phone before handing it in, and how they had been plotting behind my back. Even to the point where he was going to offer to house sit for me and my then unwell cat, so that he could have her around and fuck her in my bed, take pictures to put on his profile, knowing that I would see it. Personally, I think I was quite restrained, and left it up to his wife to castrate him!!!! Your additional information does put a slighty different complexion on matters... Why??? Don't two wrongs still don't make a right. What has changed??? He still ended up getting castrated by his wife. Now it is three wrongs still don't make a right
Agreed the whole story does change things but I still think the behaviour from both was undignifies at best. Hoping a married man who is cheating with one person is going to have any loyalty to another is never going to end well. I think she has purposely misled us by not originally giving all info though."That is your opinion which you have every right to voice I am not one of the shrinking violets; if someone misbehaves towards me then there will be a degree of fallout; I am not some bean-counter counting "rights" and "wrongs" If I choose to (which I don't anymore) meet with a married man then how much he cheats on his wife is his business; but if he cheats on me then he had better be prepared to deal with the consequences | |||
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"Not vindictive at all. Knew him for over a year, and he'd been using me to access couples instead of being a single guy and striking out. On the night in question, he dumped me, because he'd also arranged to see another woman, who was turning up later. I read this on his phone before handing it in, and how they had been plotting behind my back. Even to the point where he was going to offer to house sit for me and my then unwell cat, so that he could have her around and fuck her in my bed, take pictures to put on his profile, knowing that I would see it. Personally, I think I was quite restrained, and left it up to his wife to castrate him!!!! Your additional information does put a slighty different complexion on matters... Why??? Don't two wrongs still don't make a right. What has changed??? He still ended up getting castrated by his wife. Now it is three wrongs still don't make a right
Agreed the whole story does change things but I still think the behaviour from both was undignifies at best. Hoping a married man who is cheating with one person is going to have any loyalty to another is never going to end well. I think she has purposely misled us by not originally giving all info though.
That is your opinion which you have every right to voice
I am not one of the shrinking violets; if someone misbehaves towards me then there will be a degree of fallout; I am not some bean-counter counting "rights" and "wrongs"
If I choose to (which I don't anymore) meet with a married man then how much he cheats on his wife is his business; but if he cheats on me then he had better be prepared to deal with the consequences"What she said | |||
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"I wouldn't offer myself but I'm not submissive But what I prefer is to enter the club purely as two single friends going in together and not as a pretend couple And ignore the nasty unhelpful people who tell you to man up and go alone It took me a whole year to pluck up the courage and I never was short on confidence So message me if you are interested If not Good luck And plough your own farrow " | |||
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"I got used by a guy who wanted to go to a couples evening, and was unceremoniously dumped within 5 mins of getting there. It was noted, I enjoyed my evening with a swim, didn't stay the whole evening, got changed cleared out the locker of both mine and his stuff, got my deposit back, left his phone and wallet with the staff, so that he could explain himself to them, and dumped his clothes in a bin on the way home! I think he had to get his wife to come and pick him up. Needless to say I always go on my own from now on. I'm sorry, but that made me LOL. "...and me!   | |||
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