FabSwingers.com forum: How do WE play at clubs.

By *evaquit OP Couple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Odd question but just to put you in the picture, she plays and I like to watch her. We're contemplating hitting the clubs but noticed some clubs don't allow non participants in the play area fully clothed, don't really fancy dressing down tbh, lol. So the question is how easy is it for couples like ourselves to be able to play the way we like to in clubs? Any clubs spring to mind?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Odd question but just to put you in the picture, she plays and I like to watch her. We're contemplating hitting the clubs but noticed some clubs don't allow non participants in the play area fully clothed, don't really fancy dressing down tbh, lol. So the question is how easy is it for couples like ourselves to be able to play the way we like to in clubs? Any clubs spring to mind?

Thanks."

Try find a club (abfabs comes to mind but there maybe others) that have playrooms with one way glass but then your not in the actual room and the Mrs can't see you so depends how you feel on that but can't see many other options orrrrr they have a cinema room and weve had a lil nose whilst people are playing and we've been fully clothed hope that helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try finding a club that has a laid back approach or a cuckold room like vivente

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By *evaquit OP Couple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Thanks guys.

Very interested in the Vivente club, a great excuse for a weekend up North.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

Some clubs have hotels attached and/or private play rooms.

Pretty sure no one is going to judge you or try to stop you in that scenario.

Vanilla alternative doesn't have any lockable private play areas but you could get a hotel room and invite any playmates upstairs. The other option of course is for you to just go down to your boxers. It is really off putting when random people are walking around in the play areas fully clothed to be fair.

Though we would enjoy a scenario if it was pre-arranged and we had spoken to the people involved.

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

Xtasia have the dogging area as well as lockable rooms you could go into with your OH and whoever they play with?

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

Flagrante

Chameleons has lockable rooms and a couples room with a viewing area. It is dress down (i.e. towels or shorts for guys) but there is no compulsion to participate in anything. x

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By *evaquit OP Couple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Noticed Vanilla Alternative has hotel rooms as part of its venue. Looks like we've found our perfect venue, liking the nice, classy feel to it too.

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

why not wear a standard bath robe - with a chastity device? no-one will know but you two?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

bear in mind some clubs will have different rules for different nights... So well as a club by club basis, it may be a club night by club night basis

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By *evaquit OP Couple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Thanks _abio, will definitely look into that.

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By *ust Ms LovinWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

last time i played alone was with a girl bi fem part of a couple , orgy bed was wicked both male half of the couples could both watch easily xx

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By *earlyNipsCouple
over a year ago

St Neots

"Noticed Vanilla Alternative has hotel rooms as part of its venue. Looks like we've found our perfect venue, liking the nice, classy feel to it too.

The VA is a nice classy club (the best we've been to in fact) but they don't really allow clothed guys to be right in the play areas. At least, not where it's worth being. It's a great club and I'd fully recommend it, but a hotel room is a must if you want this particular arrangement.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can do as you please in private rooms.

Some clubs offer voyeristic (is that even a word) scenarios.

Plenty of viewing rooms in most clubs.

Cupids has recently added a cuck play setting.

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

La Chambre is relaxed about dressing down - male halves of a couple don't have to and many of the rooms (including invitation only rooms) have windows through which you can watch the action

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By *evaquit OP Couple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"Noticed Vanilla Alternative has hotel rooms as part of its venue. Looks like we've found our perfect venue, liking the nice, classy feel to it too.

Exactly how we'd play, the perfect arrangement for us as well as the classy venue. Totally up our street. Would like to know to what standard the accidation is, can't see to many images of these.

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By *evaquit OP Couple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

"La Chambre is relaxed about dressing down - male halves of a couple don't have to and many of the rooms (including invitation only rooms) have windows through which you can watch the action

The next best thing and something we'd like to try. Just to clarify, the invitation rooms have a window and only I if wanted would be there? One or two way window?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cupids Tuesday disco night allows just to stay dressed or dress down and you can use all facilities

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

Jaydees sounds an ideal club for you we use it, it's a club that don't force you to strip, play or watch, no pressure to play at all, you will get shown around by hosts or members, sat nights couples with a few singles, Fridays has open night for single guys, we tend to go on sats

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

Jaydees and Va are close to each other so if you don't like one you can try other both can accommodate

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

I was going to say the same for Vivente and club f for example when club f wouldn't allow what you want in all sections on a friday but would do on a Saturday....

So if you were looking at a weekend in the north east and did vivente on the Friday and club f on the Saturday.... They are not that far appart that if for example you stayed in the middle like Newcastle it would absolutely be doable

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

La Chambre used to have a room with a cam which broadcast the film to a TV in the bar downstairs, presumably it's still in operation. Maybe you'd like that? Also people wandered around outside the playrooms fully clothed, so you could just watch through the window or open door without dressing down.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always worth a try contacting any club you are interested in attending - explaining your wishes and see what they say

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"La Chambre is relaxed about dressing down - male halves of a couple don't have to and many of the rooms (including invitation only rooms) have windows through which you can watch the action

The next best thing and something we'd like to try. Just to clarify, the invitation rooms have a window and only I if wanted would be there? One or two way window?

Thanks

The invitation rooms have two way windows - and if you are inside, with or without your partner, single men can only join you of they have an explicit invitation, otherwise they just stay outside and watch. It's really erotic to take in two or three men, but to have ten or twelve more watching

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

"La Chambre used to have a room with a cam which broadcast the film to a TV in the bar downstairs, presumably it's still in operation. Maybe you'd like that? Also people wandered around outside the playrooms fully clothed, so you could just watch through the window or open door without dressing down. "

The cam room is still operational - I have used it a couple of times, the most memorable being just me and a rather beautiful female friend. The audience seemed very appreciative of the girl-on-girl show.

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

luton

Try Jaydees ,I'm the same as you ,I like watching the wife with other guys ,I do join in later ,but they ok with people clothed in open play areas

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

"You can do as you please in private rooms.

Some clubs offer voyeristic (is that even a word) scenarios.

Plenty of viewing rooms in most clubs.

Cupids has recently added a cuck play setting.

gonna lock you in there one of these days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Has to be Xtasia.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

At the VA, the main play areas are dress down, but there is another "couples only" room. If you are looking at the bar, turn left and go that way, pass the exit and there is another little play area down there. I would have thought the would suitable?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Xtasia has a large public play area with a door way and open window. You can lean in the open window no problem

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

Slightly off topic, but not really - when I asked a specific club if we both had to play, as I don't always feel like it, they stated I was a ticket if I did not play. Does not seem to be the case the other way around though. Thing is, I may not find anyone I want to play with on a given evening, and he might. I also thought this was a weird arrangement because taken to its logical extreme, would both partners have to play to exactly the same extent? Thing is, I usually play as much as he does, although I never feel under any pressure by him, so why should I feel pressure by the venue to have to play - of course, we won't even both with going to that specific club.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have been to loads of clubs... And sometimes we won't play with anyone else, sometimes he will and I won't or vice versa or we will both play

We have never felt pressured to play.. or not too

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London

"We have been to loads of clubs... And sometimes we won't play with anyone else, sometimes he will and I won't or vice versa or we will both play

We have never felt pressured to play.. or not too "

I had never before, but this particular club made a real issue of the woman having to play or the man was deemed to be using her to get in cheaply. no such thing as a woman's right to choose there, then.

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"We have been to loads of clubs... And sometimes we won't play with anyone else, sometimes he will and I won't or vice versa or we will both play

We have never felt pressured to play.. or not too

Weird, I wouldn't want to go to that club. Firstly because I don't want anyone putting pressure on my wife to do something she doesn't want to. Secondly, if I am playing with a woman I want it to be because she wants to, rather than because she has to.

Consent is key in the lifestyle, and if a club doesn't get that it doesn't give you much confidence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No means no! Except in that club obviously

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By *LCCCouple
over a year ago

Cambridge

"No means no! Except in that club obviously"

It's like opening a club and saying all the hit women who come in have to sleep with the owner!

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By *evaquit OP Couple
over a year ago

Catthorpe

Thread's grown a bit since we last viewed, thanks guys really some excellent info here

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By *epper123Woman
over a year ago

London

"We have been to loads of clubs... And sometimes we won't play with anyone else, sometimes he will and I won't or vice versa or we will both play

We have never felt pressured to play.. or not too

Consent is key in the lifestyle, and if a club doesn't get that it doesn't give you much confidence. "

Really I think it is because they doubted we are a real couple, as we have had that before as my partner used to go to clubs in his own and I only did one to one meets before him. We have single profiles because of the veris on them but both they and our couple profile are very specific about what and where our relationship is, perhaps too much so. I blocked the club too as don't take that pressure from anyone.

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

Thanks."

Had some fun with a couple in similar scenario to what you seem to want in xtasia before, we just went in private lockable room, me and her had some fun while he just watched. Can do what you want n private room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eurekas in Kent has.several private rooms that are also lockable. Once inside you play how all parties agree.

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

La Chambre in Sheffield, on a Saturday it is females and couples only. There is no compulsion for you to dress down in the playing areas.

I'm not completely sure, but I think that as long as you go to the play rooms as a couple then you would also be fine without undressing on a Friday(single guys too on Fridays). Their rules say that single guys must dress down before going upstairs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's the best way to approach couples in clubs and how can you tell the real couples from the fake ones?

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"What's the best way to approach couples in clubs and how can you tell the real couples from the fake ones?"

Same way you would in any other situation...

Depends on what you mean by fake. Usually instinct will tell us wether a couple is actually a couple or not. If we've got it wrong before we haven't known about it so it's not bothered us lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Chameleons is good. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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Xtasia, no problrms there at all

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By *mberandrewCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

We're into the same scenario, although Andy is ok dressing down in clubs. Others have mentioned Vanilla Alternative - if you can _et a room it's great BUT make sure you go on a night when there are some single guys. We've been on couples nights and had fun but without any watching Amber opportunities x

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"You can do as you please in private rooms.

Some clubs offer voyeristic (is that even a word) scenarios.

Plenty of viewing rooms in most clubs.

Cupids has recently added a cuck play setting.

Cupids has yes, but it is a dress down club, not what the Op is looking for I dont think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I was going to say the same for Vivente and club f for example when club f wouldn't allow what you want in all sections on a friday but would do on a Saturday....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The 'VIP' room at Eureka. I think the rule is that couples can invite others in. The club is normal smart clothes (except cfnm night) so you are welcome to keep everything on and watch if you want to.

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By *elsimCouple
over a year ago

colchester

We are quite new and unsure. Mingles Colchester is a very easy going place and all there have been extremely kind to us. Give them a ring - and send our regards!

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By *enton2007Couple
over a year ago

Notts.

Va is perfect for this scenario I can confirm from experience. The couples room at the left hand side of the bar is a great area. You can watch fully clothed from the raised area while your partner plays inside

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

"Va is perfect for this scenario I can confirm from experience. The couples room at the left hand side of the bar is a great area. You can watch fully clothed from the raised area while your partner plays inside

Ooooo never thought of that room! It would be perfect for this scenario!

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