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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am surprised by the number of single guys who seem to think that they will get an invite straight to my home... is this usual?

I am someone who prefers to meet someone for a 'suss out coffee' first before playing. I don't think I'd ever invite someone straight to my house. Do many of you?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I do, but i usually spend about six weeks talking to them before i invite them over. I only invite them when i feel at ease too

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

tbh ya best to do the sus out meet first for safety.

we have invited men to ours for late night meets i wont give the addy out i meet them at a certain point and bring them down,this is due to a weird exp on another site , we had been to a freinds house party and some one nicked her fone she was so gutted as it had pics of her deceased parents on it ,anyway we organised a collection and lots of members send money either via paypal or chegue any way a single fella who sent a chegue started to drive by our house the mrs got a bit para and something had to be said got sorted with ne probs but even with ppl we see regular ie meets partys socials you dont really know them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually i like to chat for a while and see how it goes although its been known when i am d*unk and horny i would add myself to the meets section lol

Saying that, when i am in the pub and i get chatting to a female she could be in my bed within 2 hours of first contact

It must be the drink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive done it once, and it turned out to be fantastic, he and i are lovers, swingers and friends, but i wouldnt recommend it. It just felt right with him

The guy that told me he would be round friday morning (and we havent met or even chatted) got told off, politely of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we do it all the time, but we dont meet single guys off the internet only in clubs and we are a couple meeting couples, I wouldn't recommend it for single females.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, I wouldn't!

I like to get to know someone first and always meet socially beforehand. I share my home with my daughter's, even if I were daft enough to invite a total stranger into my home, I certainly wouldn't visit that folly on my children.

Other's may think differently, but for my peace of mind I wouldn't do it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done so in the past, and probably would do it again for the right people.

I have to be very comfortable with them before I would invite them home, and I can usually have a good gut feel if someone is a good or bad egg by exchanging messages, MSN and phone chat etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I invite them- they're always welcome.....if they can get past the dogs, they're well in there

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By *lare GTV/TS
over a year ago

South of Sleaford

This has been something that has concerned me over the last 4 weeks since I joined. I have been surprised that a guy with no picture and almost nothing on his profile expects me to see him where I live. I think it is too dangerous and that is backed up by what has been said so far. In addition, meeting a someone out in the real world seems to be a very useful filter.

Clare.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been invited over on a number of occasions. But its not out of he blue there have been chats on line and phone conversations before hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am surprised by the number of single guys who seem to think that they will get an invite straight to my home... is this usual?

I am someone who prefers to meet someone for a 'suss out coffee' first before playing. I don't think I'd ever invite someone straight to my house. Do many of you? "

I did once and became paranoid after that, so now would do the social thing, then see how it goes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We invite meets round to ours, we do mail a few times beforehand and always go with our instincts on people. It has worked for us so far and we prefer it that way

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By *mf4BxJCouple
over a year ago

edinburgh

I would always like to meet for a drink somewhere near to home first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had 3 meets so far where the mrs picks there and then and they are round within an hour of chatting to them

It is just her way, if she sits thinking about a meet all day she gets so nervous it can ruin the night so instead I let her decide when she is comfortable and that is normally when there is no time to think about it. As a precaution though we wont meet anyone without verification on their profile with good feedback. And even then only the last time we played did we went in a bit blind but it was defo worth it maybe we have just been lucky. Would never meet someone totally blind though I think you can normally get a good or bad vibe from a few messages/texts first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am surprised by the number of single guys who seem to think that they will get an invite straight to my home... is this usual?

I am someone who prefers to meet someone for a 'suss out coffee' first before playing. I don't think I'd ever invite someone straight to my house. Do many of you? "

NO ! Don't ever do it. Even if they sound great on the phone or have been messaging for some time it's NO.

As for the single guys who think your home is a brothel.........don't give them a second thought.

In my experience they tend not to be people who pursue a life that is relaxed and open about sex and more the type who think women here are hookers and that your house is there for their convenience.

Get someone on your own terms....sod em.

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By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

It is one of those things, listen to your inner voice(gut feeling). If you have any doubts, do not rush to invite them.

I met someone off here in my 1st week, I had neither picture nor verification,we exchanged messages, gave my phone number,and spoke to her on the day I met her. We are still friends, , and still meeting.

Why? it just felt right.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Must admit, it annoys me the amount of single males who think they will get an invite to my home as well lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is one of those things, listen to your inner voice(gut feeling). If you have any doubts, do not rush to invite them.

I met someone off here in my 1st week, I had neither picture nor verification,we exchanged messages, gave my phone number,and spoke to her on the day I met her. We are still friends, , and still meeting.

Why? it just felt right. "

Ahhhh BUT ..... did you let HER into your house without meeting her first. That's the Q ........ and even if you did I suspect its easier for blokes than it is for women.

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

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By *arambarMan
over a year ago

swindon

I'm not really that qualified to comment as I've only met someone on here the once, and it involved me travelling to see her.

I would never expect a woman to invite me to her home until we had met a few times, the first time being a 'get to know' meet in a public place that someone else knew about and could check everything was ok. I'm not some sort of weirdo - honest! - but there are some freaks out there, and it's not worth the risk when there are other options readily available.

I'm not doubting that there are males on here who would expect to be invited to someone's home but we're not all like that. Despite what some people say, there are decent males on here too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We have had 3 meets so far where the mrs picks there and then and they are round within an hour of chatting to them

It is just her way, if she sits thinking about a meet all day she gets so nervous it can ruin the night so instead I let her decide when she is comfortable and that is normally when there is no time to think about it. As a precaution though we wont meet anyone without verification on their profile with good feedback. And even then only the last time we played did we went in a bit blind but it was defo worth it maybe we have just been lucky. Would never meet someone totally blind though I think you can normally get a good or bad vibe from a few messages/texts first."

I think it's somewhat different for couples: you have each other.

As I've said I'm a single woman living with two of my daughters. Inviting a total stranger into my home would be total madness for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're absolutely right. I've got a fantasy of coming home to find her at it and join in but at the moment she point blank refuses for the very issues in this thread. Unless she knows him personally already which at the o!moment we don't want to do as with strangers we don't have to see them again or worry about our friends being told etc. She also isn't comfortable with going to a strangers house solo to for fear of what might meet her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is one of those things, listen to your inner voice(gut feeling). If you have any doubts, do not rush to invite them.

I met someone off here in my 1st week, I had neither picture nor verification,we exchanged messages, gave my phone number,and spoke to her on the day I met her. We are still friends, , and still meeting.

Why? it just felt right. "

I did exactly the same, and agree, gut feeling and following conversations goes a long way. As i said ive contacted a man on here, we was chatting and i invited him round, omg so well worth it and been friends ever since.

As opposed to the guy that said "i'll be round on friday" yet we hadnt chatted and it came out of the blue, so i turned him down, nicely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've done it a couple of times but only after lots of emails chats on the phone and verifying by cam (no playing)over a few weeks and only if it felt really really right. I always let my best friend know all the details as well and I tell the person I am meeting that she knows too. If they object then its see ya later Not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am surprised by the number of single guys who seem to think that they will get an invite straight to my home... is this usual?

I am someone who prefers to meet someone for a 'suss out coffee' first before playing. I don't think I'd ever invite someone straight to my house. Do many of you? "

As a single woman, I would never invite someone straight to my home. Social meet first. Couples may feel more confident in inviting people to their home, but there is no way that I would do that. Stick to your 'suss out coffee' - by far the best way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have invited men to my place after alot of chat on here and phone call but i do inform a mutual friend of the meet but having said all that any nasty men beware i do have a very good guard dog who 1 cleaver man thought hed test him out by playfighting with me ....erm he left with shredded trousers sorry to that guy but shit happens when you dont believe what you are told lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done but have to feel 100% safe and at ease, be it through mails , phone etc.

My instincts havent let me down so far.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have noticed on here there seem to be a unwritten rule with guys thats its the womans job to accommodate

Im a single woman with kids, i never invite people here for safty reasons

And a lot of guys just dont get that

I get sick of guys mailing me to come here and when i say no they reply

"im a nice guy read my verifications"

I dont care if you are verified by the queen with a royal stamp on it im not handing my address out to guys on the internet

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By *heRainManMan
over a year ago

Warrington & Glasgow

Oh, go on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is easier for us to invite people here due to the nature of how we often meet.

If it is me meeting without Master present, I always have a webcam on for his viewing pleasure, and if I am home, then my safety is better than being somewhere else.

We have yet to have any problems, but we are always careful.

I used to meet for socials first but we had playmates get to clingy, so now we only meet for play, dont really do that chatty bit.

Katie

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By *ax the gentle GiantMan
over a year ago

birmingham

appologies if this is in the wrong place but have i missed a trick on Fab i am new to the scean so very inexperienced with the way it all works but i feel that if you have cahtted with someone for over two weeks and got to know the person felt at ease and when the day for the meet comes you get blanked for no apparent reason and when you finaly get a message its a one liner " cant meet phone messed up" what does it make you feel like ? is this normal i wounder

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine


" you get blanked for no apparent reason and when you finaly get a message its a one liner " cant meet phone messed up" what does it make you feel like ? "
really awefull spes if you sold them the phone in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We usually invite couples to ours and to stop over.

Would never dream of turning them out at 3 or 4 in the morning when playtimes over.

Besides,it's nice sitting and chatting over a relaxed late breakfast next day.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We usually invite couples to ours and to stop over.

Would never dream of turning them out at 3 or 4 in the morning when playtimes over.

Besides,it's nice sitting and chatting over a relaxed late breakfast next day.

XXXX"

The difference is you have each other. Different proposition for single women/single mothers!

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

well for me anybody can cum round my place is always free cant see a problem not like some of you peeps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had a few people round straight away. But I think your not gonna get much grief as a couple. But I wouldnt recommend it for single fems. Safety is paramount.

We have never had any issues in swinging but that said im a big lad and have been told my size does intimidate other men into being quite submissive round nicky when all she wants is a good hard dirty fuckin lol.

But really unless someone knows what your doing and is at close hand if things aint right I wouldnt invite a stranger in if your a single fem.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

The ones who make me laugh are the "don't accom's" who say they don't like to shit on their own doorstep and then ask when they can come around to yours.

Yeah right.... that will be two weeks after never, if it's not raining.

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By *andy muncherMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

And to carry on with this message I have invites to cpls houses just after only a few messages are you free we are can you meet now as simple as that and that's swinging xxxx
"well for me anybody can cum round my place is always free cant see a problem not like some of you peeps "

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Yes, we have invited straight to our home ........ we have invited bi men too though

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Anyone who thinks the length of time you speak to someone proves anything in terms of safety is giving themselves false security - you are no safer just because someone has spoken to you for weeks rather than minutes. Paedophiles will groom their victims for months… what makes anyone think other sick fucks don’t have the same patience?

Some of the most dangerous people in society know they need you to let down your guard and to trust them ... it makes you more vulnerable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No never!!!

Dont waste time with idle chit chat either!!

Exchange face pics.....if all ok....arrange meet...SIMPLE!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone who thinks the length of time you speak to someone proves anything in terms of safety is giving themselves false security - you are no safer just because someone has spoken to you for weeks rather than minutes. Paedophiles will groom their victims for months… what makes anyone think other sick fucks don’t have the same patience?

Some of the most dangerous people in society know they need you to let down your guard and to trust them ... it makes you more vulnerable."

EXACTLY!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, we have invited straight to our home ........ we have invited bi men too though"

Easier for couples, safety in numbers...

Im guessing the OP was a single fem?? So in that case.....no, not good idea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone who thinks the length of time you speak to someone proves anything in terms of safety is giving themselves false security - you are no safer just because someone has spoken to you for weeks rather than minutes. Paedophiles will groom their victims for months… what makes anyone think other sick fucks don’t have the same patience?

Some of the most dangerous people in society know they need you to let down your guard and to trust them ... it makes you more vulnerable."

Couldn't have put it better myself!

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"Yes, we have invited straight to our home ........ we have invited bi men too though

Easier for couples, safety in numbers...

Im guessing the OP was a single fem?? So in that case.....no, not good idea!

"

I was being silly by answering how the post was worded

We are normally veryyyyyyy careful who gets invited to our home, hotels meets are great fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We usually invite couples to ours and to stop over.

Would never dream of turning them out at 3 or 4 in the morning when playtimes over.

Besides,it's nice sitting and chatting over a relaxed late breakfast next day.

XXXX

The difference is you have each other. Different proposition for single women/single mothers! "

Totally agree with that.

If Trace was single there's no way she'd even let folk know where she lived,let alone invite them back.

Can't blame any single woman for being the same,yes it is different for guys and couples.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a single guy - I would not go straight to someone's house without a mutual meet somewhere first. Its not just about the safety of the single girls on here or the couples - I like to ensure I am meeting who I think I am meeting before rocking up to a house.

I am sure the desperate for a shag brigade expect the invite straight to the home - Not for me

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