FabSwingers.com forum: How long to get verified?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been on this site now just 4 weeks and have exchanged messages with several couples and solo women but no meets. I can surmise the reasons: I am married and partner not aware of my presence here; my age and; no 3rd party verifications. There's nothing I can do about the first 2, so I'm concentrating on getting verified.

Apart from face to face meets (social or for fun), what is the most straightforward way to get some verifications on my profile.

Any advice on improving my profile also welcome!

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Married men playing away will always struggle regardless of being verified, so I wouldn't concentrate on that for success to be honest!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Married men playing away will always struggle regardless of being verified, so I wouldn't concentrate on that for success to be honest!"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Verifications make fuck all difference.

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By *uited for youMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"Verifications make fuck all difference. "

I tend to disagree. With any potential meet, I always check verifications of that person/couple to, well, satisfy myself they ate genuine. You can tell immediately from verifications alone if someone is genuine

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By *uited for youMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"Verifications make fuck all difference.

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By *uited for youMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"Verifications make fuck all difference.

And I mean by looking at their verifications and so on....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Work on your relationship with your wife perhaps... Instead of advice on how to get a verification.

Sorry it's MY PERSONAL opinion.

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By *uited for youMan
over a year ago

Bristol

"Work on your relationship with your wife perhaps... Instead of advice on how to get a verification.

Sorry it's MY PERSONAL opinion. "

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

"Verifications make fuck all difference.

And I mean by looking at their verifications and so on....

I think we'd worked out that you have to look at their verifications...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apart from face to face meets (social or for fun), what is the most straightforward way to get some verifications on my profile.

There is no other way. Well you could get cam verified but meet in person verifications are far more relevant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe sort your marriage out rather than asking advice on how to get sex off a swingers site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Verifications make fuck all difference.

Veri or no....folk can still dick you about.

And as for the contents of the veri...I don't care what that person got up to with anyone else....I'm not anyone else, so to me they mean very little...possibly a slightly better chance they'll turn up but i trust gut instinct WAY more than any veri.....

When I got my first veri....nothing whatsoever changed....no increase in interest, zilch........

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

Most often people on here are advised to go to social events locally or swinger clubs (which also sometimes hold socials) and get yourself known.....they should verify you as genuine and you never know you might even have a little fun

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

The organisers of the Swansea Social (tonight) have a rule that requires at least ONE verification for you to be invited!

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

"The organisers of the Swansea Social (tonight) have a rule that requires at least ONE verification for you to be invited!"

Well that sucks! You might be able to find a swinger club that holds social events or even pop along during their normal 'open for play' times and chat to some people

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By *ENGUYMan
over a year ago

Hull

To the OP, quite apart from the previous comments, you've only been on here for 4 weeks, by your own admission!

What did you expect on here? Instant Fixes? Instant Gratification?

It doesn't work that way; if you expected it to, then jog on!

You are a mere beginner! Your Profile is short and needs expanding. The pic isn't clear and needs to be clearly visible.

You cannot accommodate, so that puts people off, so say why you can't, then others may not jump to the wrong conclusions.

I will tell you just as I have told others with the same query. Go out and SELL yourself as you are up against so much competition. You only get out of this site by the effort you put in!

It takes masses of Patience, Perseverance and dare I say it, even more Patience!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

No I was not expecting instant sexual gratification but replies to my carefully written messages suggesting social meets would have been a good start! I am patient and I realise that results will only come from my own efforts. The primary reason for my forum post was to see how much importance other members put on verifications.

Thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Work on your relationship with your wife perhaps... Instead of advice on how to get a verification.

Sorry it's MY PERSONAL opinion. "

This^^..

in my opinion it won't be a case of you can't do anything about your wife..if you get caught out, which your likely to..she will make the decision for you, and your likely to be left without more than just no verifications. Why not run it past her and see if she would like to join in?

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Well in spite of the rant against verifications earlier in this thread, they do generally (but not always) prove the authenticity of the verified person, and their higher likelihood to turn up to a meet.

The content of the verification is way down on the list, as nobody is going to publish a poor veri, so they'll all say nice things.

They do not necessarily improve your chances of a meet however if other aspects of your profile are not doing the trick.

Unlike the earlier rant, I managed to express all of that without swearing once...

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

The fact that you are willing to join this site seeking sexual gratification behind your wife's back is never going to impress people. It does however make you look like a liar and a cheat and who would want to meet such a person?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you for the relationship advice. I know the risks and I have also discussed with her the likely hood that she might enjoy swinging - think you can guess what the answer was otherwise we'd be here as couple!

Have fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like every one says, a married man playing (or not playing in your case) away is always going to struggle...

Go to a club...

Whilst there I'll pop round to see the Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The fact that you are willing to join this site seeking sexual gratification behind your wife's back is never going to impress people. It does however make you look like a liar and a cheat and who would want to meet such a person?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like every one says, a married man playing (or not playing in your case) away is always going to struggle...

Go to a club...

Whilst there I'll pop round to see the Mrs

Haha brilliant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ratio is 100 men to 1 woman and there is a very long que, so its normal for men to wait few years to get verified, hang in there

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes, I am cheating (not necessarily lying) at home but my profile clearly says married, so I'm not lying to Fab members. Subtle difference?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Like every one says, a married man playing (or not playing in your case) away is always going to struggle...

Go to a club...

Whilst there I'll pop round to see the Mrs

Haha brilliant "

About time for some humour!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I am cheating (not necessarily lying) at home but my profile clearly says married, so I'm not lying to Fab members. Subtle difference?"

How?!?!? Can you justify that statement, what fab people are more important then your wife!

What a vile attitude..

(Again personal opinion).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I am cheating (not necessarily lying) at home but my profile clearly says married, so I'm not lying to Fab members. Subtle difference?"

Lots of married people get meets. It will put some off but not all.

Veri's mean a lot to some people unfortunately. They need to rely on total strangers to hold their hands and baby sit them.

There are some people with common sense that know veri's mean fuck all. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yes, I am cheating (not necessarily lying) at home but my profile clearly says married, so I'm not lying to Fab members. Subtle difference?

How?!?!? Can you justify that statement, what fab people are more important then your wife!

What a vile attitude..

(Again personal opinion)."

And you avoid private discussion of your forum post by blocking me! How clever is that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you for the relationship advice. I know the risks and I have also discussed with her the likely hood that she might enjoy swinging - think you can guess what the answer was otherwise we'd be here as couple!

Have fun!"

why didn't you ask if you could do it on your own? or did you just take the easy way out? I think it was the latter seeing as she doesn't know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I am cheating (not necessarily lying) at home but my profile clearly says married, so I'm not lying to Fab members. Subtle difference?"

You're lying to your wife who you made vows to:

To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, till death do you part,

but you thought sod it i'll cheat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have fun!"

Wasn't advice..more pitty for your wife lol, but we all have our needs and different morals.

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By *itTVlondonTV/TS
over a year ago

London

I feel rather sorry for the OP who isn't here for marital advice.

As some have said, get socially or video veris if you can. And whatever some others have said, yes veris are important and might open a few doors . good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks to all who posted messages in reply to my original post. I've had a lot of constructive comments plus some very good advice and the expected criticism of my married status. Genuinely: thank you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I am cheating (not necessarily lying) at home but my profile clearly says married, so I'm not lying to Fab members. Subtle difference?

You're lying to your wife who you made vows to:

To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, till death do you part,

but you thought sod it i'll cheat

you forgot the forsaking all others, so its ok for married couples to have sex with others outside their vows?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are lots a married women on here 'playing away' maybe stick with them, I personally won't meet another man's wife, but there's less likely to be judgemental, unless they're hypocritical,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I am cheating (not necessarily lying) at home but my profile clearly says married, so I'm not lying to Fab members. Subtle difference?

You're lying to your wife who you made vows to:

To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, till death do you part,

but you thought sod it i'll cheat

you forgot the forsaking all others, so its ok for married couples to have sex with others outside their vows? "

If both know then yes, but cheating, nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I am cheating (not necessarily lying) at home but my profile clearly says married, so I'm not lying to Fab members. Subtle difference?

You're lying to your wife who you made vows to:

To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, till death do you part,

but you thought sod it i'll cheat

you forgot the forsaking all others, so its ok for married couples to have sex with others outside their vows? "

when both have talked and decided this is what THEY both would like to do then, yes..... it is their vows. which if they wanted to could change what was said when first married....

when someone who is married thinks that being open on here is acceptable but to the person who they share their bed with isn't. how? can this be ok to the vows spoken ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I am cheating (not necessarily lying) at home but my profile clearly says married, so I'm not lying to Fab members. Subtle difference?

You're lying to your wife who you made vows to:

To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, till death do you part,

but you thought sod it i'll cheat

you forgot the forsaking all others, so its ok for married couples to have sex with others outside their vows?

If both know then yes, but cheating, nope"

yes but if those vows are so important then forsaking ALL others should also mean no sex with others outside the marriage. swinging/cheating??? who cares if the guy wants to meet people why judge him so harshly. vows are vows if you believe so strongly in them then forsaking all others must mean something if you place such high regard for all the other vows.

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Thanks to all who posted messages in reply to my original post. I've had a lot of constructive comments plus some very good advice and the expected criticism of my married status. Genuinely: thank you! "

Good luck

You can just step away now and let the rest argue amongst themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I am cheating (not necessarily lying) at home but my profile clearly says married, so I'm not lying to Fab members. Subtle difference?

You're lying to your wife who you made vows to:

To have and to hold, in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer, till death do you part,

but you thought sod it i'll cheat

you forgot the forsaking all others, so its ok for married couples to have sex with others outside their vows?

If both know then yes, but cheating, nope

depends on the religion, coz that verse doesn't apply to all.

Yes I do judge him coz I'm thinking of his wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

have fun, let those that judge do their thing and leave you alone to do yours.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I found fucking with people the best way to get verifications. We met. We fucked. We verified. Simples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't worry about being Verified its all BS and just a ego stroke.

Not like anyone's going to admit they were a shit shag is it.?

No their all studs on here.

its just juvenile nonsense really like being at school, ' my mate says you said so an so'.

People need to show a bit more class on here at times.

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

"Work on your relationship with your wife perhaps... Instead of advice on how to get a verification.

Sorry it's MY PERSONAL opinion. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think even if you had a few veris you would struggle on this site. Their are an abundance of single men here. I am sure that some women go specifically for married men but why would you when you can have your pick off hunky single guys?? (Unless they are into angry wifes clocking em one).

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

Well in spite of some rather embittered rants about the value of verifications, I have found them very helpful in getting meets, not least because they prove that I do turn up....

I'm not that fussed about the content.

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