FabSwingers.com forum: Obsessive guys.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Am sure we've all encountered an obsessive guy at least once. How do you feel about them?

I'm kind of thinking i should avoid them? Usually i block but my blocklist isn't working properly any more so they end up not blocked.

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By *andomfodCouple
over a year ago

walsall

We had a friendly guy approach us as soon as the profile was opened. All seemed well for a week or so, then he started begging pics, often a few times a day.

Blocked

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By *ordic36Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Never encountered one, not sure what u're on about

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Don't give them any oxygen they will get bored if they're ignored

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

In our experience they are pretty rare, most of single men we have met are lovely and very respectful of over stepping the mark. Only one has ever become a problem.

We have had far more trouble with other couples getting possessive and throwing their toys out the pram.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ones who message you then if u don't message back within 2 minutes they are sending more messages! Really annoys us!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The ones who message you then if u don't message back within 2 minutes they are sending more messages! Really annoys us! "

Don't get many of these luckily!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a few of these sadly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't entertain them with a reply as that's what they want.

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By *exybum_30Woman
over a year ago

Ive had a few. Had to get 1 blocked by admin xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can quite happily ignore anybody.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never encountered an obsessive woman lol

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

if your block list isnt working correctly just report the profile to admin they will block it for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had the same problem with women.....one meet and they suddenly think you are exclusive.....bunny boilers!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Ive encountered a few obessive guys on old profiles and even a few ive met then got possessive guys too that after i met them

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"if your block list isnt working correctly just report the profile to admin they will block it for you "

I can block them but then someone else will come off my blocklist. Just leaving them now until they get bored, they do tend to message lesser and lesser over time.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"I have never encountered an obsessive woman lol

That's because I'm really good at dodging behind stuff when I'm following you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never encountered an obsessive woman lol

That's because I'm really good at dodging behind stuff when I'm following you.

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YEs your right there lol, your too good at it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never encountered an obsessive woman lol

Do you want one?

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By *elsh n wildCouple
over a year ago

Cardiff area

Nobody ever obsessed about me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never encountered an obsessive woman lol

Do you want one?

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Yes I recon I would want one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never encountered an obsessive woman lol

I have and believe me she is bunny boiler I kid you not thankfully she is a one off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just the once fortunately. I sent a pleasant message explaining this wasn't to my liking and had a horrible one back. Blocked on all fronts! Never had any trouble after that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never encountered an obsessive woman lol

I have and believe me she is bunny boiler I kid you not thankfully she is a one off."
Yes I guesss some are pretty bad and good you got away from her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don't give them any oxygen they will get bored if they're ignored

This x

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By *rivate roomMan
over a year ago

Bracknell

A polite reply to a single man's message is always good as that person has taken time to send a message to the cpl or single female

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"I have never encountered an obsessive woman lol

Do you want one?

For a night, fine. For life, probably not.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"A polite reply to a single man's message is always good as that person has taken time to send a message to the cpl or single female"

Totally disagree. If I message someone it's because I fancy them. If I get a message back I get a little excited, wonder what it's going to say and all. The last thing I would want is to have to wade through a load of 'Thanks, but no thanks' messages. I think I would find that pretty soul destroying. It's far better to just have no response from those not interested and then all your actual messages are nice, positive and potential 'friends'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has a few obsessive women too.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never encountered an obsessive woman lol

They're out there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have never encountered an obsessive woman lol

Do you want one?

For a night, fine. For life, probably not.

Oh I'm easily distracted so just for the night lol

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"I have never encountered an obsessive woman lol

Do you want one?

For a night, fine. For life, probably not.

Oh I'm easily distracted so just for the night lol

Your on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Had the same problem with women.....one meet and they suddenly think you are exclusive.....bunny boilers!"

To be honest the title should read obsessive guys/girls! I've had a number of guys who've become overly infatuated with me (sometimes expecting me to instantly leave fab to start a relationship with them - then other guys who are hugely turned on by the idea of my other meets and request very intimate details!) but have male friends on fab who are hounded by obsessive women! It does spoil people's experiences of the site to an extent - but unfortunately it's life! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had anyone infatuated over me as far as I'm aware.

I assume everyone's definition of obsessive behaviour / infatuation differs though.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"Never had anyone infatuated over me as far as I'm aware.

I assume everyone's definition of obsessive behaviour / infatuation differs though."

I'm obsessing over that Chomp bar right now. !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy once only. He immediately became obsessed. Harrassrd me for 8 months. I could handle that. Blocked him from all ways of contact. Started to create fake profiles on here and kik to blackmail try and get me to meet. Even though his plan would have been foiled if I'd met and saw it was him. Told him I went to the police and never heard a peep since. Phew. I would have sort of got it if it was a decent Meet but it was less then averagE.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep getting guys messaging me even tho I am straight it does my head right in why can't they just read my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A polite reply to a single man's message is always good as that person has taken time to send a message to the cpl or single female"

We always take the time to reply to messages but then they start bombarding with 2 and 3 messages because u have not replied to the 1st one! It's so sad and desperate!

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By *gianMan
over a year ago

newcastle

"I keep getting guys messaging me even tho I am straight it does my head right in why can't they just read my profile."

I had the same problem I just sent them messages saying politely im straight and not interested then I realised you can change the message filters so that stopped that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A polite reply to a single man's message is always good as that person has taken time to send a message to the cpl or single female"

Some blokes don't take no for an answer though. You assume that every single guy spends time crafting a perfect message and is worthy of a reply.

It is not rude to delete and not reply. It is a chore to wade through tons of messages.

Even if it was a cut and paste thanks but no thanks, you end up in the cycle of "oh, why not? Whats wrong, I can change, its ok I only want to chat."

People don't have time for that shit! If someone doesn't appeal, for whatever reason, they just dont appeal.

Should couples and single ladies be grateful that they get messages?

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes

"I keep getting guys messaging me even tho I am straight it does my head right in why can't they just read my profile."

Could it be that a lot of guys who say they're straight actually aren't?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I keep getting guys messaging me even tho I am straight it does my head right in why can't they just read my profile.

Could it be that a lot of guys who say they're straight actually aren't?"

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I met a guy once only. He immediately became obsessed. Harrassrd me for 8 months. I could handle that. Blocked him from all ways of contact. Started to create fake profiles on here and kik to blackmail try and get me to meet. Even though his plan would have been foiled if I'd met and saw it was him. Told him I went to the police and never heard a peep since. Phew. I would have sort of got it if it was a decent Meet but it was less then averagE. "

Some guys build a fantasy up in their heads i think? And then chase after that. I do think your experience is more obsessive than anything i've had on here, thanks for sharing and glad you got this sorted.

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