FabSwingers.com forum: Moving on from chatting...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I don't often ask for advice. I'm a simple guy, not naïve in fab world, and fully understand that people can chat without wanting a meet.

I am respectful of peoples profiles, tastes, rules, etc and understand that if a couple are not looking for guys, then they are not looking for guys.

However, I have started chatting with a couple on here. We appear to be on the same wavelength conversationally. There has been no sexual overtones at all, nor any hint of interest beyond chatting. Apart from the fact they are not looking for guys, I would have love to meet them, even if just for a drink and a chuckle.

I do not want to impose myself in any way, as they are great to chat with. I am enjoying our chats and do not want to jeopardise that in any way. Do I bite the bullet and ask if they would be interested in a social only meet, or do I just enjoy the chat for what it is?

All advice appreciated!

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By *-4pleasureCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

They will probably read this and take that decision out of your hands.

Good luck !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well as a social dialog already open, you can ask in a non demanding way, I wondered if you two might fancy meeting for a coffee and social chat as do so enjoy chatting with you both on here.

This leaves it open to them and does not close the door on the online chatting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask them if they go to a club near you or something similar. Can't speak for other couples but we're happy to meet anyone socially and have done knowing we'll never go beyond that. Sometimes it's good to be able to chat freely about the lifestyle with someone you know you won't end up naked with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They will probably read this and take that decision out of your hands.

Good luck ! "

Not necessarily, only very small % of members use the forums

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By *lik and PaulCouple
over a year ago

cahoots

Our profile clearly says that don't meet but enjoy chatting on here. Most try to get meets straight away and we point them to our profile....some are ok with that and continue to chat and if we get along that's fine for us. Some then continue to try to get us, or more often Flik alone, to meet and it's at this point that we tend to stop chatting. For us no means no.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

We have met and socialised with people who have no interest in us in a swinging sense and we're both very open to that. Ask! You might be pleasantly surprised. Good luck I hope it turns out well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ask for a social coffee or a club meet if they are "friends" they'll respond and let you know.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

All good advice! Thank you so far

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