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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. More than happy to show on cam when we know them more!" The same thing has happened to us. We both run our own businesses so have to protect our anonymity...some people respect that and those that don't end up blocking us...hey ho...f**k 'em...or not as the case may be | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. More than happy to show on cam when we know them more! The same thing has happened to us. We both run our own businesses so have to protect our anonymity...some people respect that and those that don't end up blocking us...hey ho...f**k 'em...or not as the case may be " Yeah there does seem to be a lot of pressure to show faces instantly from some people. Guess it's just a case of doing what you're comfortable with. A lot of people show their faces so everyone can see them, that is something we would never do! | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. More than happy to show on cam when we know them more!" Do what feels right for you. Be aware though, cam is no safer than photos if someone wants to capture your image for whatever reason, and you object to that...in fact arguably it's worse, as they can record your conversation. | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. More than happy to show on cam when we know them more!" I ask for face pics straight away seeing as people can see ours, i assume they message us because they like the look of us.i think its a common courtesy to show yourself,especially if the intention is to bang the pair of us | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. More than happy to show on cam when we know them more! I ask for face pics straight away seeing as people can see ours, i assume they message us because they like the look of us.i think its a common courtesy to show yourself,especially if the intention is to bang the pair of us " don't you worry about being recognised by work mates, friends or family? | |||
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"lol don't go on cam,dont show a face pic,dont go to club as you may be being watched,,quick switch off your pc as you may be hacked,,DONT swing if you need to keep secrets." You are exactly right. But labouring under the false idea that camming is 'safer' than exchanging photos is unwise. | |||
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"lol don't go on cam,dont show a face pic,dont go to club as you may be being watched,,quick switch off your pc as you may be hacked,,DONT swing if you need to keep secrets." | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. More than happy to show on cam when we know them more! Do what feels right for you. Be aware though, cam is no safer than photos if someone wants to capture your image for whatever reason, and you object to that...in fact arguably it's worse, as they can record your conversation." This | |||
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"lol don't go on cam,dont show a face pic,dont go to club as you may be being watched,,quick switch off your pc as you may be hacked,,DONT swing if you need to keep secrets." lol...we go to clubs and don't wear hoods to protect our identity...so we're cautious, not secretive... | |||
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"Just do what you are comfortable doing. For some, there has to be instant attraction, others prefer to build rapport and hope the pics match expectations. Neither is wrong." Agree wholeheartedly | |||
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"lol don't go on cam,dont show a face pic,dont go to club as you may be being watched,,quick switch off your pc as you may be hacked,,DONT swing if you need to keep secrets. lol...we go to clubs and don't wear hoods to protect our identity...so we're cautious, not secretive... " lol,,ooh you should yer being followed,,lol | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. More than happy to show on cam when we know them more!" As others have said, do whatever you are comfortable with. We do not enter into protracted conversations without seeing face pictures. Too many times, there appeared to be a connection, only for us to be disappointed when pictures were finally exchanged. | |||
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" You are exactly right. But labouring under the false idea that camming is 'safer' than exchanging photos is unwise." I think camming is better, probably the validity AND safety sides. Via cam, you can physically see if the person is real or not (all off here I've spoken to have been genuine, fortunately) AND it's probably harder for somebody else to search for you. With photos, anybody can Google Reverse Image Search now-a-days (and that's a good thing), so if you (being the person wanting to stay discreet) share a picture, another person may be able to 'find' you, so to speak. Not all photos will be returned in a search, of course - but you catch my drift. Screen-capturing a cam shot isn't going to bring up any results; your identity is fine providing you haven't said or done anything too raunchy in that session. My advice, in any case, is to have your own, private set of face pictures that have not been uploaded on any public/professional profiles... and use that to send to people. Harder to reverse-search and a face picture without context doesn't exactly give much away | |||
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"lol don't go on cam,dont show a face pic,dont go to club as you may be being watched,,quick switch off your pc as you may be hacked,,DONT swing if you need to keep secrets. " Agree with this... I also run my own business which is very community focused. But We like meeting people and we go to clubs... I could bump into clients, potential clients etc, and that is a risk I am willing to take. We have had a few people go very quiet on us after being asked for face pics, and I don't understand why. Makes us suspicious, if anything. | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. More than happy to show on cam when we know them more! I ask for face pics straight away seeing as people can see ours, i assume they message us because they like the look of us.i think its a common courtesy to show yourself,especially if the intention is to bang the pair of us don't you worry about being recognised by work mates, friends or family?" If people aren't happy with how you communicate with them, you won't meet them. The choice in how you manage this is entirely yours. Speaking for ourselves, the only private face pic of us we ever show is a completely innocent one that is on the internet anyway, so it would be easily explained away as being stolen if we needed too. But really, what is the likelihood that we would ever have to? The key is to exchange your pics only with people you feel that you trust. But that doesn't guarantee anything, it only lessens the risk. People are also pleased that images sent privately on here can now be deleted, but that doesn't stop anyone saving the pic the second they receive it. As is pointed out above, the whole practice of swinging is inherently risky, and if you feel that you have too much to lose in the unlikely event that someone 'outs' you then you perhaps shouldn't play...but then the rewards tend to be worth it! | |||
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" My advice, in any case, is to have your own, private set of face pictures that have not been uploaded on any public/professional profiles... and use that to send to people. Harder to reverse-search and a face picture without context doesn't exactly give much away " Yes, that's a good point. Or at the very least alter the pics so that they can't be reverse image searched. | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. More than happy to show on cam when we know them more! I ask for face pics straight away seeing as people can see ours, i assume they message us because they like the look of us.i think its a common courtesy to show yourself,especially if the intention is to bang the pair of us don't you worry about being recognised by work mates, friends or family?" Its already happened!lol,my old boss is on here,and we are now friends so not really....some people know anyway..work doesn't matter,people knowing would not affect my position,and certain members of staff are aware.obviously I don't intend making an announcement of facebook anytime soon to my family.although if they found out I don't really see what issues would arise for me personally.my mother and brothers are the only opinions I care for anyway,and seeing as I'm almost forty I cant see them saying too much. | |||
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"lol don't go on cam,dont show a face pic,dont go to club as you may be being watched,,quick switch off your pc as you may be hacked,,DONT swing if you need to keep secrets. Agree with this... I also run my own business which is very community focused. But We like meeting people and we go to clubs... I could bump into clients, potential clients etc, and that is a risk I am willing to take. We have had a few people go very quiet on us after being asked for face pics, and I don't understand why. Makes us suspicious, if anything. " At least if we do happen to bump in to a client there is an opportunity to talk things through and clear the air...my being cautious is more to protect my clients than saving any embarrassment on my part...especially with the work that I do. We do explain this to those that want to know why we don't publish face pics. It's not been a problem for most people. | |||
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"@SvelteSuitor - we never go on cam, that's a personal preference. We will speak on the phone and happy to send face pics. Also, we are hardly ever online at the same time.. I am usually online during the day, while J is busy at work, and J tends to be online more in the evening while I am at my evening classes, so we probably would only cam one at a time, even if we did! So it still wouldn't neccesarily prove that we are a genuine couple, unless we wanted to make a huge effort to make sure we were both online at the same time, if that makes sense?! " Absolutely, you've hit the nail on the head. Personally, I would request for a couple to have both people on cam for validation - both that's just me. I mean, a lot of times it's down to the scenario playing out - but for example, I'd be a bugger for you, asking for both on cam | |||
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"Ultimately it is your choice as always on this site, but people who refuse to show their face lose our interest straight away. I don't see the point getting to know someone and wasting time ping ponging messages if you finally see their face and there's no attraction Just do what's right for you. Webcam as others have mentioned is probably worse than photos. Anyone could nick a photo off of one of your social media profiles anyway. " We agree no point in messages flowing back and forth building up to a meet only to find once faces are seen there's no attraction and you wasted all that time and effort And to be honest this excuss of 'were professional' really bugs us, at the end of the day if your that professional why would expect to have sex with some one who your not attracted to, although there are I'm sure many who would, just so long as there's a pulse. | |||
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"lol don't go on cam,dont show a face pic,dont go to club as you may be being watched,,quick switch off your pc as you may be hacked,,DONT swing if you need to keep secrets. lol...we go to clubs and don't wear hoods to protect our identity...so we're cautious, not secretive... " Exactly. In a club you are meeting other people who also want to be discrete - you are seeing them as much as they see you. How can you similarly trust someone at the other end of a webcam - recording and distributing a video is trivially simple. Also everyone has something to hide from someone - perhaps your parents, children, or boss. Until swinging us as socially acceptable as going to the pub it is better for some people to show discretion and hide their faces. Be cautious. | |||
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"Put us down in the show face or not really interested camp. Faces are part of the attraction. We are both teachers but we WILL send face pics if requested, from the right people. When we cam, I always wear a mask to cover my face though. But what's the point in hiding it full stop...? On this sort of site, it makes no sense to NEVER show your face? C x" It makes perfect sense to us...and that's all that matter to us...we do what we are comfortable with as this is for our pleasure first and foremost... | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. More than happy to show on cam when we know them more!" We won't waste time talking to anyone without first ascertaining there is a mutual attraction .So a face pic is a must and exchangingIis safer than cam | |||
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"I like the new thing on here once message has been read the pic deletes if you choose that option. If people demand then move on, i tend to show pics after a few odd messages. If people have the face pics on show i think only fair they get them sooner. Only if i am confortable that is. Her" Yep, spot on, most on here want to be discrete, that's understandable and perfectly acceptable in my book | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. More than happy to show on cam when we know them more!" We like to see faces if we plan to meet, it's often best to see them sooner rather than later because it's much easier to curtail a conversation early on. Going on cam has its advantages but if discretion is a concern you have to realise that cams can be recorded so aren't any safer. | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing." There is a new option whereby you cab tick a box that says, once the person has opened the message and looked at the pics, the pics are removed! I use that option - andfor extra insurance I only send face pics of me with clothes on, for damage limitation, as it were! Xx | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. There is a new option whereby you cab tick a box that says, once the person has opened the message and looked at the pics, the pics are removed! I use that option - andfor extra insurance I only send face pics of me with clothes on, for damage limitation, as it were! Xx" We think this is a good middle ground and are going to do that! x | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. There is a new option whereby you cab tick a box that says, once the person has opened the message and looked at the pics, the pics are removed! I use that option - andfor extra insurance I only send face pics of me with clothes on, for damage limitation, as it were! Xx We think this is a good middle ground and are going to do that! x" Happy to help! xx | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. There is a new option whereby you cab tick a box that says, once the person has opened the message and looked at the pics, the pics are removed! I use that option - andfor extra insurance I only send face pics of me with clothes on, for damage limitation, as it were! Xx" exactly the same as what we do. That way they can see what we look like and then the pic has gone with no need to think about it anymore | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. More than happy to show on cam when we know them more!" If you're not happy showing your faces dont show them. We never have and had no problems finding meets. If they don't like the fact you're discreet....Fuck 'em | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. More than happy to show on cam when we know them more!" I prefer seeing someone's face sooner rather than later but that is just my preference. Each to their own though. If someone can't respect your wish on something so simple as sending face pictures then they may not respect other more important wishes of yours. Best to them out first I say! | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. There is a new option whereby you cab tick a box that says, once the person has opened the message and looked at the pics, the pics are removed! I use that option - andfor extra insurance I only send face pics of me with clothes on, for damage limitation, as it were! Xx We think this is a good middle ground and are going to do that! x Happy to help! xx" maybe we could return the favour lol xxx | |||
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"We do not give face pics to people we do not know. Too many idiots on here. We only meet at clubs and on couples nights so that helps people know we are a couple and not a single male posing as one. Also if you meet at a club and there is no click then you part company and it is not a wasted night. If you do not want to give photos then you do not have to. If someone does not like that then that is their loss. Just have a mutual understanding that if you meet at a club and there is no click then go your separate ways. We have a few club owners on here that would verify us as being a couple. So giving a face photo out is no big deal. You are more likely to get a meet if you have a face pic so the people who choose not to may miss out but still their choice." This | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. More than happy to show on cam when we know them more!" People will have different approaches and its a case of finding those that match yours. No one is right and no one is wrong. If that's what your comfortable with, stick to it. Personally we prefer to exchange face pics very early on. | |||
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"i have read this thread with interest if i didnt get a face pic who i was looking at meeting, there would be no meet this is a swinging site not blind fuck " | |||
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"i have read this thread with interest if i didnt get a face pic who i was looking at meeting, there would be no meet this is a swinging site not blind fuck " | |||
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"What is your opinion on showing faces? We are professional couple so we want to be discreet. Several couples have refused to speak with us unless we show face pics straight away, which we don't feel comfortable doing. More than happy to show on cam when we know them more! I ask for face pics straight away seeing as people can see ours, i assume they message us because they like the look of us.i think its a common courtesy to show yourself,especially if the intention is to bang the pair of us don't you worry about being recognised by work mates, friends or family? Its already happened!lol,my old boss is on here,and we are now friends so not really....some people know anyway..work doesn't matter,people knowing would not affect my position,and certain members of staff are aware.obviously I don't intend making an announcement of facebook anytime soon to my family.although if they found out I don't really see what issues would arise for me personally.my mother and brothers are the only opinions I care for anyway,and seeing as I'm almost forty I cant see them saying too much. " | |||
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"Well they may not be the couples for you. We personally like to chat first to see if we click then and only then do we share pictures x " | |||
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"Well they may not be the couples for you. We personally like to chat first to see if we click then and only then do we share pictures x " Exactly. What's the use of you sending your pic seeing a one of them (if they even bother sending one) you like the look of them and then.... They turn out to be arse holes!!! | |||
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"i have read this thread with interest if i didnt get a face pic who i was looking at meeting, there would be no meet this is a swinging site not blind fuck " I think your missing the point a bit. There are many profiles on here with either no pics or just body pics, but they insist on a face pic before they will chat. In my opinion if your going to ask for a face pic show your first simples | |||
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