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By *ndyehelen OP   Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Please can anyone suggest anything to attract a lady to join us at our place for FFM fun.Is our profile not up to much Or aren't we advertising ourselves properly. Thanks for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Many couples are looking for the elusive single female ! It takes time and patience x Do you go to any clubs or social meets as that's a great way to start ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Join the long list of people who have made the same post . It's most couples dream so therefore you must understand the single ladies have a huge choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Join the long list of people who have made the same post . It's most couples dream so therefore you must understand the single ladies have a huge choice "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a profile is important so is some photos of you both together

some of the photos look like selfies in the mirror, which is ok but you are a couple have a night taking some nice photos together

go to clubs and socials

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a single female and have met with couples for 3somes. And yes, we do have a huge choice but sometimes pushy attitudes don't help. Also I am not bisexual but am happy to play with a woman if the attraction is there. This seems to put ppl off as I give a 'vibe' apparently. It's just shyness really, so although single ladies DO have a huge choice it can be quite hard to find the right couple. For me anyway.

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By *awkesWoman
over a year ago

Corwen

Hmmm I can only speak for myself not sure about how other bi single fems are.. but the couples that I've joined have been in clubs and we've taken time to click before play. However I am rather shy and that's why I don't meet from online profiles. I need to get a measure of if I am attracted to both and they are attracted to me in real life if that makes any sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm I can only speak for myself not sure about how other bi single fems are.. but the couples that I've joined have been in clubs and we've taken time to click before play. However I am rather shy and that's why I don't meet from online profiles. I need to get a measure of if I am attracted to both and they are attracted to me in real life if that makes any sense. "

Same for me too. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the single men problem, to find a female, it will take years lol, good luck.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Welcome to the single men problem, to find a female, it will take years lol, good luck."

Didn't take you years in Penge

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By *iwife81Couple
over a year ago

Bolton

I agree, we've been on here not very long, but had a good few chats with single females on here. Although single women are inundated with offers, I think it still had to be the right person or couple for them and vice versa. I enjoy chatting to women on here, and it's good to get my confidence up to eventually meet for ff fun - flirty chat and exchanging pics it might happen, it might not. But I think I'm going to have to get brave and go to the clubs, maybe you should try too? Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Welcome to the single men problem, to find a female, it will take years lol, good luck.

Didn't take you years in Penge "
lol I know, still looking after 5 years

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Welcome to the single men problem, to find a female, it will take years lol, good luck.

Didn't take you years in Penge lol I know, still looking after 5 years "

Yeah, but that is because you are greedy. Two or three just won't do for you

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By *awkesWoman
over a year ago

Corwen


"Hmmm I can only speak for myself not sure about how other bi single fems are.. but the couples that I've joined have been in clubs and we've taken time to click before play. However I am rather shy and that's why I don't meet from online profiles. I need to get a measure of if I am attracted to both and they are attracted to me in real life if that makes any sense.

Same for me too. Xx"

Haha..just looked at your profile..could have written the very same things!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please can anyone suggest anything to attract a lady to join us at our place for FFM fun.Is our profile not up to much Or aren't we advertising ourselves properly. Thanks for the advice "

Wpuld you reply to your own profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Welcome to the single men problem, to find a female, it will take years lol, good luck.

Didn't take you years in Penge lol I know, still looking after 5 years

Yeah, but that is because you are greedy. Two or three just won't do for you "
That's right. I want 4 or 5, the more the better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmmm I can only speak for myself not sure about how other bi single fems are.. but the couples that I've joined have been in clubs and we've taken time to click before play. However I am rather shy and that's why I don't meet from online profiles. I need to get a measure of if I am attracted to both and they are attracted to me in real life if that makes any sense.

Same for me too. Xx

Haha..just looked at your profile..could have written the very same things!! "

I know, right??? Lol. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please can anyone suggest anything to attract a lady to join us at our place for FFM fun.Is our profile not up to much Or aren't we advertising ourselves properly. Thanks for the advice "

Your profile doesn't really give any indication of what would be in it for any single female meeting you...

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By *ndyehelen OP   Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

What do you mean you could have wrote the same thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you mean you could have wrote the same thing.

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Maybe we are similar in our profile text etc?

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"Please can anyone suggest anything to attract a lady to join us at our place for FFM fun.Is our profile not up to much Or aren't we advertising ourselves properly. Thanks for the advice "
. It might help if you were to add a few hobbies and interests so that potential meets can assess what they have in common with you. .

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

I'm a single bi fem who happily meets couples...

It takes more than 4 lines of not much and a pointless legal warning. It sounds very selfish, all about your fantasies and meeting your needs, nothing at all about what any single lady would get from a meet.

Also have a look over your images and check they are doing you the best they can. Honestly, I know men have a penis... Every pic of your fella shows his - try a torso shot, a bum or push the boat out and try a nicely dressed image, a shirt and boxers with a bit of a tease... Also, try taking a few decent pics of each other, not just selfies, or set the timer on the camera and use that - my pictures are mostly selfies using the timer function.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Please can anyone suggest anything to attract a lady to join us at our place for FFM fun.Is our profile not up to much Or aren't we advertising ourselves properly. Thanks for the advice

Your profile doesn't really give any indication of what would be in it for any single female meeting you..."

This.

Soft swing and being someone's tick box fantasy... no thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put yourself in a single bi female's shoes for a minute... would you go to a strange couple's house that you'd not met before? Even disregarding the safety aspect, there is the emotional aspect of the fact that it's on their territory, in their surroundings, all geared to the safety and comfort of the couple.

How about an approach which thinks about the single female's comfort and safety? Much better to be somewhere neutral for a 1st play, like a club or party.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"Put yourself in a single bi female's shoes for a minute... would you go to a strange couple's house that you'd not met before? Even disregarding the safety aspect, there is the emotional aspect of the fact that it's on their territory, in their surroundings, all geared to the safety and comfort of the couple.

How about an approach which thinks about the single female's comfort and safety? Much better to be somewhere neutral for a 1st play, like a club or party."

There are plenty of women who will meet a 'strange' couple in their own home, of course. We've met some of them ourselves!

The key is comfort and safety for all involved, and that requires patience, consideration and honest communication. Those things aren't limited to clubs. Certainly clubs are objectively safer, but that doesn't mean that all couples' homes are fraught with danger, either. But these aren't things that will be revealed through a single message on Fab.

The best advice for the OP couple so far is to look at their profile, and why it is lacking. But that is only a small part of the issue, really.

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Please can anyone suggest anything to attract a lady to join us at our place for FFM fun.Is our profile not up to much Or aren't we advertising ourselves properly. Thanks for the advice "

The text in your profile is a 50/50 split between what you've written and a pointless disclaimer.

Put more effort into describing yourselves, what you're looking for and most importantly what you could offer potential female company.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Obviously you are saying you would build up a rapport with a single but your profile wouldn't entice me much am afraid.

The dynamics of a ffm are difficult!

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By *awkesWoman
over a year ago

Corwen


"What do you mean you could have wrote the same thing.

Maybe we are similar in our profile text etc? "

This.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Put more effort into describing yourselves, what you're looking for and most importantly what you could offer potential female company.

A"

The opportunity to be a prop in fulfilling their fantasies, apparently. What more could we want?

The title saying FF and soft swing makes it sound as if the lucky woman wouldn't even get any cock, (other, I'm sure, than the opportunity to suck it).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet them in person at socials, be willing to entertain the possibility of meeting up separately at first, remove the Syndey Uni bullcrap from your profile, put some pictures of the two of you that show your faces etc.

Show that you're looking for more than just a sex object for his benefit.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Put yourself in a single bi female's shoes for a minute... would you go to a strange couple's house that you'd not met before? Even disregarding the safety aspect, there is the emotional aspect of the fact that it's on their territory, in their surroundings, all geared to the safety and comfort of the couple.

How about an approach which thinks about the single female's comfort and safety? Much better to be somewhere neutral for a 1st play, like a club or party."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Put yourself in a single bi female's shoes for a minute... would you go to a strange couple's house that you'd not met before? Even disregarding the safety aspect, there is the emotional aspect of the fact that it's on their territory, in their surroundings, all geared to the safety and comfort of the couple.

How about an approach which thinks about the single female's comfort and safety? Much better to be somewhere neutral for a 1st play, like a club or party."

why I don't do private meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I meet couples both privately and in clubs. As others have said, your profile needs work. The word fantasy suggests your looking for someone to use, which obviously isn't very appealing. Your text also lacks any personality, so there's no sense of who you are. I know the type of people I want to play with and I'm looking for that via what and how they write. As is all too common, there's not many pics of the male half and I always ask myself why that is.

There are plenty of single fems who meet, but believe me when I say, it's a difficult for us to find couples as it is for you to find singles!

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What do you mean you could have wrote the same thing.

Maybe we are similar in our profile text etc?

This. "

Lol. Xx

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

Wanders in

Says hi

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By *3NakedCouple
over a year ago

Southampton

Think you just have to get lucky, but keep trying.

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

I agree with everything that has been said so far. As your profile stands presently, I wouldn't consider responding to your message; let alone, meet you. Plus, I don't like to see 'female' in the profile text. Woman or lady is much nicer don't you think?

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