FabSwingers.com forum: Feels left out

By *nowbunnie OP Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

Im just wondering if I should carry on my swinging Experance for the last few months I have had the meets from hell or no shows and tbh I can't take it anymore. Is there anyone that could give me advice and be nonjudgemental about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Take a break and hide your profile a while.

May I ask how they're the meets from hell?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

only meet men with recent verifications, read the verifications they have left for others, only meet people who have face pics. always speak on the phone first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"only meet men with recent verifications, read the verifications they have left for others, only meet people who have face pics. always speak on the phone first."

I agree

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By *nowbunnie OP Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

They say they want to meet me and then either cancel or say I'm not there type when they meet me

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Maybe clubs is the way to go forward

I must admit I started going to clubs because it's such a high percentage of no shows and back in the day I only had very limited play time of two evenings a week at best

I sincerely hope things improve for you

Sadly realistically it probably won't change

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

re_iew what you have done over the last few months that attracted who you met, how you sold yourself to them and what screening process you had in place.

block all and do the selecting yourself...

good luck

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By *igg262Man
over a year ago

Southampton

It's tough world this swinging.the thing I hate is non reply to messages .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They say they want to meet me and then either cancel or say I'm not there type when they meet me

That happens to me too, so I tell them to confirm the evening before to say they are still coming if im not sure I usualy contact them to ask if they are still coming in case they have changed their minds.

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By *erseyridersCouple
over a year ago

wallasey

meet at clubs hun ,,,I went threw the no show scenario ,,so only meet at clubs now ,,gud luk ,

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By *igg262Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"They say they want to meet me and then either cancel or say I'm not there type when they meet me

Really good idea that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They say they want to meet me and then either cancel or say I'm not there type when they meet me

Not their type in what way? Youve some great pics on your profile so they can see who you are in advance. Whats not to like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do all the time loll.. well take a break and think about it have fun..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes try a club go socialise have fun see what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's tough world this swinging.the thing I hate is non reply to messages ."

The non reply is a reply, means they aren't interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

most of the time im not sure if I want to meet people who message me saying they want to meet, I think they maybe unsure about meeting me too, I usualy only meet them if they seem realy keen or im getting desperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly, if you;re having such problems, then it may be worthwhile looking at your own selection and screening process. If its a reoccurring issue, change up your processes - the common denominator is you.

No one like a time-waster, or those who tease the promise of a meet only to let you down, but the fact is its the nature of the game.

Lastly, if someone says no-thanks after meeting you, that's perfectly acceptable. Its called exercising your right to choose.

I don't mean to sound abrupt, but rather, just condensing advice that oft given out on here to those finding quality meets an issue.

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By *oconut2Woman
over a year ago

Nether regions of the back of beyond

Well for someone that's been verified by 104 people you haven't done so bad lol

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By *igg262Man
over a year ago

Southampton

Good point doreen.

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

Likes Doreen

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By *nowbunnie OP Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

But it would be nice to say so not just answering

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Well for someone that's been verified by 104 people you haven't done so bad lol

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Well for someone that's been verified by 104 people you haven't done so bad lol

Oh yes well spotted

Did you have a reserve team stunning by lol

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By *igg262Man
over a year ago

Southampton

Me too spunkdumpssally. Your nice too hun Sally. ...

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By *nowbunnie OP Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

Thanks guys I have been told that but I'm not a model type by a long shot

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By *nowbunnie OP Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

Thanks sally and no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah leave if not happy

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Thanks guys I have been told that but I'm not a model type by a long shot "

Newsflash

Men like pussy more than a pretty face

Lmao

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im just wondering if I should carry on my swinging Experance for the last few months I have had the meets from hell or no shows and tbh I can't take it anymore. Is there anyone that could give me advice and be nonjudgemental about it

My advice would be to stop posting threads whining about it. why post a thread about thinking of leaving ? make yr own mind up ..and decide for yrself if u want attention join the attention thread

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo

This is all very sedate

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Ironically, one of the reasons I hid my profile was to reduce the number of messages. It's working a treat and leaving me much more time for non fab things.

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By *nowbunnie OP Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

I'm not winning about it I asked for the replys not to be judgemental what is wrong with that if u don't like it block me right now I don't care

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is all very sedate

does it make me a bad person for wishing it wasnt? lol

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By *nowbunnie OP Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

Lol Sally

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I'm not winning about it I asked for the replys not to be judgemental what is wrong with that if u don't like it block me right now I don't care "

to be fair, your profile lacks effort and will determine the replies you get to it.

if you don't seem to care, neither will they

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Awww bless ya x

Come see us and we shall restore your faith in this lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take time to get to know people before I agree to meet them, I find this works for me and I've never had a no show or someone cancel, I think mainly because we've taken time to chat and build a rapport sometimes a friendship, there are a few people who I guess will always like the idea if meeting but then freak out when it comes to the crunch. Hide your profile, take some time out and just chat on the forums or chat to people you already know, keep smiling

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

West Midlands

"Awww bless ya x

Come see us and we shall restore your faith in this lifestyle

Bloody taking advantage lol xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I take time to get to know people before I agree to meet them, I find this works for me and I've never had a no show or someone cancel, I think mainly because we've taken time to chat and build a rapport sometimes a friendship, there are a few people who I guess will always like the idea if meeting but then freak out when it comes to the crunch. Hide your profile, take some time out and just chat on the forums or chat to people you already know, keep smiling

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Awww bless ya x

Come see us and we shall restore your faith in this lifestyle

Bloody taking advantage lol xxxxx "

well it is a Saturday and the night is still young!

xxxx

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"I'm not winning about it I asked for the replys not to be judgemental what is wrong with that if u don't like it block me right now I don't care

to be fair, your profile lacks effort and will determine the replies you get to it.

if you don't seem to care, neither will they

I agree with this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well for someone that's been verified by 104 people you haven't done so bad lol

Christ on a bike, I hadn't seen that.

OP - You must be doing something right!!

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

My advice would be to stop posting threads whining about it. why post a thread about thinking of leaving ? make yr own mind up ..and decide for yrself if u want attention join the attention thread

Little harsh do we not think!

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By *nowbunnie OP Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

Yea if u can't voice feelings on here where can I do it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe we need a 'Feels' forum?

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By *igg262Man
over a year ago

Southampton

"Yea if u can't voice feelings on here where can I do it lol "

Indeed

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By *nowbunnie OP Woman
over a year ago

Southampton

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My advice would be to stop posting threads whining about it. why post a thread about thinking of leaving ? make yr own mind up ..and decide for yrself if u want attention join the attention thread

Little harsh do we not think!"

It's not harsh. Any man starting this thread would be torn to pieces.

The OP clearly isn't struggling. She's just attention seeking.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I bet the people who you met over the last few months must feel special now

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

"Well for someone that's been verified by 104 people you haven't done so bad lol

Christ on a bike, I hadn't seen that.

OP - You must be doing something right!!

Thats because you are a men..and we know men do not read profiles..connie x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well for someone that's been verified by 104 people you haven't done so bad lol

Christ on a bike, I hadn't seen that.

OP - You must be doing something right!!

Christ on a bike! Not heard that for years

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well for someone that's been verified by 104 people you haven't done so bad lol

Christ on a bike, I hadn't seen that.

OP - You must be doing something right!!

Thats because you are a men..and we know men do not read profiles..connie x "

Neither do couples or single females. What's your point?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

I'm excruciatingly rigorous with my vetting, some give up, others are probably passed away.

I work hard to make sure it's me they want and also that I really like them.

Any instances of it becoming difficult and I usually move on. I certainly want to speak first and also see how easily available they are.

If they respect your pace, its a good start. I always insist on reconfirmations before meets as well as travel progress. I also plan an alternative activity or treat, if it doesn't happen.

If fab use hassles me, I skip messaging for a while.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"They say they want to meet me and then either cancel or say I'm not there type when they meet me

Why would they be meets from hell just because they don't fancy you

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Is it not better that they tell you before anything happens than go through with it, and tell you afterwards?

Oh I also hope none of these "meets from hell" are on your verification list - that would be pretty tasteless.

If you are continually getting no shows or no connection on meets, perhaps look at your selection criteria... you are the common denominator in all of your meets.

I've never had a no show, and only one cancellation where he told me about 5 hours prior to meeting.

Also, look at your attitude, as much as it goes for single guys it goes for us ladies effort in = rewards out. If you don't tell people what you are looking for, you cannot be surprised when you are not what they want when you do meet.

But if its not for you, then leave or hide your profile. Fab is not the place for delicate wee flowers looking for a self esteem boost. Good luck with your decision.

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By *eanut Butter CupWoman
over a year ago

B & M Bargains

"I bet the people who you met over the last few months must feel special now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This place can be hard for even the most hardened swinger. Best thing is never to expect and have a back up plan if someone is a no show, ie do something you enjoy!

Chin up, not all guys are eejits!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bareback?

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

"Thanks guys I have been told that but I'm not a model type by a long shot

Newsflash

Men like pussy more than a pretty face

Lmao "

Which is very fortunate for some.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

"Well for someone that's been verified by 104 people you haven't done so bad lol

Christ on a bike, I hadn't seen that.

OP - You must be doing something right!!

This is my point did you read her profile before making any comment ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are men who like to control you and want play with you, but in there head.. Until you call there bluff, then it's back under the stone they go..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"only meet men with recent verifications, read the verifications they have left for others, only meet people who have face pics. always speak on the phone first."
do this and hide your self for a bit then come back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Next time I will read the profile before making comment!

100+ meets within a year...

I can safely say I won't be adding myself to your list!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Next time I will read the profile before making comment!

100+ meets within a year...

I can safely say I won't be adding myself to your list!

It's not within a year but over and nearly 20% are cam veris.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I bet the people who you met over the last few months must feel special now

maybe she means the people who didn't leave verifications.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Next time I will read the profile before making comment!

100+ meets within a year...

I can safely say I won't be adding myself to your list!

It's not within a year but over and nearly 20% are cam veris."

I'm still out lol

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I bet the people who you met over the last few months must feel special now

maybe she means the people who didn't leave verifications."

let's hope.....

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By *nterracial2Couple
over a year ago

Ribble Valley

Unfortunately fab has had a bit of publicity and people have come on here to see what the scene is about but tend to waste time. Too many profiles without verifications and unrealistic expectations. Don't let it out you off, there are real people out there, try a swingers club perhaps, walk in with no expectations and enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From looking at your photos, it looks like you like lots of men, there are lots of men at clubs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Next time I will read the profile before making comment!

100+ meets within a year...

I can safely say I won't be adding myself to your list!

Bet she's gutted about that

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It seems that self promotion is frowned on sometimes but recommended at others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well for someone that's been verified by 104 people you haven't done so bad lol

Christ on a bike, I hadn't seen that.

OP - You must be doing something right!!

This is my point did you read her profile before making any comment ?? "

What has her profile got to do with how she has felt in the last few months?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

on looking on your profile/veri's, sorry as a single man it screams that you are wanting just a F@ck and thats all, you have pictures of you in group sex with you and just mean with lots of cum shots, sorry but as a single guy that does put me off (not your usualy single male).

i don't wish to sound condescending, but if you restructure your pictures, and your profile and then vet as said by OP on here potential meets, (talk to them for a week or so via messages) as the ones that really are worth it will stay and meet not think, OMG this is waste of time. or maybe hide your Veri's.

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