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"Why even risk it….. " According to wikipedia - Worldwide rates of either HSV-1 and/or HSV-2 are between 60 and 95% in adults.[9] HSV-1 is more common than HSV-2, with rates of both increasing as people age.[9] HSV-1 rates are between 70% and 80% in populations of low socioeconomic status and 40% to 60% in populations of improved socioeconomic status. and further: The virus cannot pass through a synthetic condom, but a male condom's effectiveness is limited[47] because herpes ulcers may appear on areas not covered by it. Neither type of condom prevents contact with the scrotum, anus, buttocks, or upper thighs, areas that may come in contact with ulcers or genital secretions during sexual activity. So that means EVERY OTHER person you have sex with (and we're swingers so, it's a substantial number), already HAS herpes. And condoms will not guarantee anything this time. I'd say it's too late worrying about it now. | |||
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"Why even risk it….. According to wikipedia - Worldwide rates of either HSV-1 and/or HSV-2 are between 60 and 95% in adults.[9] HSV-1 is more common than HSV-2, with rates of both increasing as people age.[9] HSV-1 rates are between 70% and 80% in populations of low socioeconomic status and 40% to 60% in populations of improved socioeconomic status. and further: The virus cannot pass through a synthetic condom, but a male condom's effectiveness is limited[47] because herpes ulcers may appear on areas not covered by it. Neither type of condom prevents contact with the scrotum, anus, buttocks, or upper thighs, areas that may come in contact with ulcers or genital secretions during sexual activity. So that means EVERY OTHER person you have sex with (and we're swingers so, it's a substantial number), already HAS herpes. And condoms will not guarantee anything this time. I'd say it's too late worrying about it now." Very good point ignorance breeds fear Knowledge is power | |||
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"Why even risk it….. " exactly - how do you know if someone has herpes though? and is it only contagious when outbroken or all of the time.....this is making me scared now :O ....i have never had a cold sore in my life and don't want herpes OR cold sore ever... | |||
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"Why even risk it….. exactly - how do you know if someone has herpes though? and is it only contagious when outbroken or all of the time.....this is making me scared now :O ....i have never had a cold sore in my life and don't want herpes OR cold sore ever..." No point of being scared. If you have herpes that means it does not display any symptoms on you and life goes on just as it has always gone before. If you still havent got it despite all the sex u have had... why should the chances of getting it now be any different? We carry lot of potentially dangerous things in our bodies all the time - but we can't just give into fear of them or there will be no joy of living your life. Every 6th person on planet is the carrier of tuberculosis, we all have e.coli living in our arse which, when exposed to urethra can give us urethritis if were lucky or inflammation that can go all the way to the ovaries if you're not doing anything about it. There are tons of other microorganisms who'd love to have our body fcked up...IF we'd let them. Just can't worry about all of them. Might as well just live your life and enjoy as long as you can. | |||
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"Herpes is for life... Way too many people dont take care of their own sexual health and pass it (and other nasties) on without a care in the world.. " True, and the only effective measure against herpes is abstinence. Sucks, huh? | |||
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"Hi, just looking for a bit of guidance.A person I met on this site has herpes but is taking tablets so it prevents outbreaks,just wondering if people have gotten with people with genital herpes and if so can you give oral and if anyone has ever slept with anyone with herpes. Dont know if its worth the risk" Why would anyone knowingly sleep with someone with herpes? If you have any STI it is advised to stop any sexual contact till treatment is finished and the condition is cleared up No clinic going will say its fine to have sexual contact while having herpes | |||
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"Having oral sex with someone is a good way to check if they have genital herpes as the blisters and sores will be very visible. If you see anything suspicious just say no. But the best advice is to look it up yourself and not just take for granted what other people say. " This is no guarantee as the virus can be active and present on the skin for a number of days before there are physical signs of an outbreak As said - go to GUM for advice | |||
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"Hi, just looking for a bit of guidance.A person I met on this site has herpes but is taking tablets so it prevents outbreaks,just wondering if people have gotten with people with genital herpes and if so can you give oral and if anyone has ever slept with anyone with herpes. Dont know if its worth the risk" The danger is during outbreaks. Any visible sores and no sex should be taking place, just to be on the safe side. But as mentioned, talk to the nurses at the GUM clinic. You can still enjoy sex as long as you have the facts and play safe. Plus, outbreaks vary for different peopleand usually become more sporadic after time. Good luck. | |||
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"Why even risk it….. exactly - how do you know if someone has herpes though? and is it only contagious when outbroken or all of the time.....this is making me scared now :O ....i have never had a cold sore in my life and don't want herpes OR cold sore ever..." As stated on this thread ... The virus is only contagious during an outbreak. The ulcers are obvious and painful. I doubt if the sufferer would want to have sex at this time. However, it's always worth having a good look at what you're playing with! | |||
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"There has to be a website for people with herpes by now, right? If not then I'll make it and make MILLIONS mwahahahahahahaha " There are sites yeah, and AIDS and many other STDs. Don't think i'd risk getting herpes myself, sounds really painful and itchy. | |||
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" Don't think i'd risk getting herpes myself, sounds really painful and itchy." then I presume you'll be having no physical contact with anyone... | |||
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"There has to be a website for people with herpes by now, right? If not then I'll make it and make MILLIONS mwahahahahahahaha There are sites yeah, and AIDS and many other STDs. Don't think i'd risk getting herpes myself, sounds really painful and itchy." You may have it already. | |||
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" Don't think i'd risk getting herpes myself, sounds really painful and itchy. then I presume you'll be having no physical contact with anyone... " I definitely wouldn't go with anyone who has sores. I probably have the face virus anyway, my sisters have both had symptoms and so has my ex, i've never had any symptoms though and nobody has said anything during tests, not sure if they test for that virus though. | |||
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"Swinging can be a scary thing if you aren't aware of what's out there. It always pays to do your research before deciding whether it's for you or not. Did you know for instance that 80-90% of sexually active adults have the HPV virus? I'd guess as swingers we'd be at the top end of that percentage!!" Do you mean HSV? Herpes Simplex Virus or HPV,Human papilloma virus? Completely different things | |||
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"Swinging can be a scary thing if you aren't aware of what's out there. It always pays to do your research before deciding whether it's for you or not. Did you know for instance that 80-90% of sexually active adults have the HPV virus? I'd guess as swingers we'd be at the top end of that percentage!! Do you mean HSV? Herpes Simplex Virus or HPV,Human papilloma virus? Completely different things " HPV,Human papilloma virus. I know they are different things but mentioned it as it's another STI that a lot will have but not necessarily show the symptoms of a indeed won't know they have. Sorry was maybe a little off topic. | |||
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"BTW you can be vaccinated against HPV, so it will become less widespread " Not if you already have it you can't and when I looked at the statistics if you are already active then chances are it's a useless vaccination. | |||
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"BTW you can be vaccinated against HPV, so it will become less widespread Not if you already have it you can't and when I looked at the statistics if you are already active then chances are it's a useless vaccination." Yes, I understand that. All teenage girls are offered vaccination as a routine. So in a couple of generations it will be rare wax the point I was making. Vaccination is not a treatment its a prophylactic | |||
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"There's so much bollocks being spouted on this thread. Ever had a coldsore? You have the herpes virus. An even larger proportion of the population carry it without getting symptoms. There's a difference between HSV type 1 and 2. If you're worried, educate yourself. " | |||
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"Why even risk it….. exactly - how do you know if someone has herpes though? and is it only contagious when outbroken or all of the time.....this is making me scared now :O ....i have never had a cold sore in my life and don't want herpes OR cold sore ever..." If you're scared, you should probably never have sex again. Or kiss anyone, for that matter. | |||
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"BTW you can be vaccinated against HPV, so it will become less widespread Not if you already have it you can't and when I looked at the statistics if you are already active then chances are it's a useless vaccination. Yes, I understand that. All teenage girls are offered vaccination as a routine. So in a couple of generations it will be rare wax the point I was making. Vaccination is not a treatment its a prophylactic " Ah ok got you now, sorry if I misunderstood. | |||
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"Hi, just looking for a bit of guidance.A person I met on this site has herpes but is taking tablets so it prevents outbreaks,just wondering if people have gotten with people with genital herpes and if so can you give oral and if anyone has ever slept with anyone with herpes. Dont know if its worth the risk Why would anyone knowingly sleep with someone with herpes? If you have any STI it is advised to stop any sexual contact till treatment is finished and the condition is cleared up No clinic going will say its fine to have sexual contact while having herpes " Herpes is NEVER cleared up tho. If you get it you get it FOREVER. Though symptoms /outbreaks may be sporadic and rare and you are only contagious during an outbreak. As has been pointed out above....and I have just checked the stats, very large numbers of people have the virus. According to WHO it is up to 70% of population. However many are asymptomatic so never know they have it. Basically of each 10 people posting here, or reading this 7 of us/you have it! | |||
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"Hi, just looking for a bit of guidance.A person I met on this site has herpes but is taking tablets so it prevents outbreaks,just wondering if people have gotten with people with genital herpes and if so can you give oral and if anyone has ever slept with anyone with herpes. Dont know if its worth the risk Why would anyone knowingly sleep with someone with herpes? If you have any STI it is advised to stop any sexual contact till treatment is finished and the condition is cleared up No clinic going will say its fine to have sexual contact while having herpes Herpes is NEVER cleared up tho. If you get it you get it FOREVER. Though symptoms /outbreaks may be sporadic and rare and you are only contagious during an outbreak. As has been pointed out above....and I have just checked the stats, very large numbers of people have the virus. According to WHO it is up to 70% of population. However many are asymptomatic so never know they have it. Basically of each 10 people posting here, or reading this 7 of us/you have it! " Probably higher amongst swingers. | |||
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"There's so much bollocks being spouted on this thread. Ever had a coldsore? You have the herpes virus. An even larger proportion of the population carry it without getting symptoms. There's a difference between HSV type 1 and 2. If you're worried, educate yourself. " the ignorance astounds me sometimes.... | |||
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"There's so much bollocks being spouted on this thread. Ever had a coldsore? You have the herpes virus. An even larger proportion of the population carry it without getting symptoms. There's a difference between HSV type 1 and 2. If you're worried, educate yourself. the ignorance astounds me sometimes...." It kind of scares me that sexually active adults can be so ignorant of facts about sexual health | |||
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"There's so much bollocks being spouted on this thread. Ever had a coldsore? You have the herpes virus. An even larger proportion of the population carry it without getting symptoms. There's a difference between HSV type 1 and 2. If you're worried, educate yourself. the ignorance astounds me sometimes.... It kind of scares me that sexually active adults can be so ignorant of facts about sexual health " I try my best....But I'm northern. | |||
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"There's so much bollocks being spouted on this thread. Ever had a coldsore? You have the herpes virus. An even larger proportion of the population carry it without getting symptoms. There's a difference between HSV type 1 and 2. If you're worried, educate yourself. " No I've never had a cold sore. If my mum has one, I don't kiss her | |||
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"There's so much bollocks being spouted on this thread. Ever had a coldsore? You have the herpes virus. An even larger proportion of the population carry it without getting symptoms. There's a difference between HSV type 1 and 2. If you're worried, educate yourself. No I've never had a cold sore. If my mum has one, I don't kiss her" You could still have it and be asymptomatic. As could many, many people you've met before. | |||
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"There's so much bollocks being spouted on this thread. Ever had a coldsore? You have the herpes virus. An even larger proportion of the population carry it without getting symptoms. There's a difference between HSV type 1 and 2. If you're worried, educate yourself. No I've never had a cold sore. If my mum has one, I don't kiss her" Jeez...it doesn't mean that you don't have it! Many are blissfully unaware.... | |||
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"There's so much bollocks being spouted on this thread. Ever had a coldsore? You have the herpes virus. An even larger proportion of the population carry it without getting symptoms. There's a difference between HSV type 1 and 2. If you're worried, educate yourself. No I've never had a cold sore. If my mum has one, I don't kiss her Jeez...it doesn't mean that you don't have it! Many are blissfully unaware...." I don't have it, I've been tested | |||
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"There's so much bollocks being spouted on this thread. Ever had a coldsore? You have the herpes virus. An even larger proportion of the population carry it without getting symptoms. There's a difference between HSV type 1 and 2. If you're worried, educate yourself. No I've never had a cold sore. If my mum has one, I don't kiss her Jeez...it doesn't mean that you don't have it! Many are blissfully unaware.... I don't have it, I've been tested" Each time you go for screening? Our GUM would only test if you have symptoms. Looks like we get a raw deal in salisbury. | |||
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"There's so much bollocks being spouted on this thread. Ever had a coldsore? You have the herpes virus. An even larger proportion of the population carry it without getting symptoms. There's a difference between HSV type 1 and 2. If you're worried, educate yourself. No I've never had a cold sore. If my mum has one, I don't kiss her Jeez...it doesn't mean that you don't have it! Many are blissfully unaware.... I don't have it, I've been tested Each time you go for screening? Our GUM would only test if you have symptoms. Looks like we get a raw deal in salisbury." Some things can't be tested until the symptoms show...apparently. | |||
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"There's so much bollocks being spouted on this thread. Ever had a coldsore? You have the herpes virus. An even larger proportion of the population carry it without getting symptoms. There's a difference between HSV type 1 and 2. If you're worried, educate yourself. No I've never had a cold sore. If my mum has one, I don't kiss her Jeez...it doesn't mean that you don't have it! Many are blissfully unaware.... I don't have it, I've been tested Each time you go for screening? Our GUM would only test if you have symptoms. Looks like we get a raw deal in salisbury. Some things can't be tested until the symptoms show...apparently." That is what I was told at my local GUM. | |||
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"There's so much bollocks being spouted on this thread. Ever had a coldsore? You have the herpes virus. An even larger proportion of the population carry it without getting symptoms. There's a difference between HSV type 1 and 2. If you're worried, educate yourself. No I've never had a cold sore. If my mum has one, I don't kiss her Jeez...it doesn't mean that you don't have it! Many are blissfully unaware.... I don't have it, I've been tested Each time you go for screening? Our GUM would only test if you have symptoms. Looks like we get a raw deal in salisbury. Some things can't be tested until the symptoms show...apparently. That is what I was told at my local GUM." Not just Salisbury. It's not routinely tested for unless you have symptoms. | |||
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"There's so much bollocks being spouted on this thread. Ever had a coldsore? You have the herpes virus. An even larger proportion of the population carry it without getting symptoms. There's a difference between HSV type 1 and 2. If you're worried, educate yourself. No I've never had a cold sore. If my mum has one, I don't kiss her Jeez...it doesn't mean that you don't have it! Many are blissfully unaware.... I don't have it, I've been tested Each time you go for screening? Our GUM would only test if you have symptoms. Looks like we get a raw deal in salisbury. Some things can't be tested until the symptoms show...apparently. That is what I was told at my local GUM. Not just Salisbury. It's not routinely tested for unless you have symptoms." I've been tested for it but was told I couldn't be tested for HPV!! apparently there is no test until the symptoms show. | |||
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"Ever had chickenpox? That's just another herpes virus (VZV/zoster). HSV1 and 2 might be oral, from a kiss. Not a herpes but glandular fever hides itself away and can be passed on. It was called the kissing disease for a reason. So all of you with kissing is a must on your profiles you'd better make sure you're clear and everyone you come into contact with is too. If you see a raw or open sore anywhere don't stick your most delicate tissue or excretions anywhere near it. That bit is simple. Not everyone will know they are carrying so you can only protect yourself so far. At the risk of reducing my meets even further I have herpes: I get cold sores and I have had chickenpox! Wrap up in a bubble suit and have virtual contact only with the rest of the world. " I've got a radiation suit and the plague.......Up for it if you are | |||
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"Ever had chickenpox? That's just another herpes virus (VZV/zoster). HSV1 and 2 might be oral, from a kiss. Not a herpes but glandular fever hides itself away and can be passed on. It was called the kissing disease for a reason. So all of you with kissing is a must on your profiles you'd better make sure you're clear and everyone you come into contact with is too. If you see a raw or open sore anywhere don't stick your most delicate tissue or excretions anywhere near it. That bit is simple. Not everyone will know they are carrying so you can only protect yourself so far. At the risk of reducing my meets even further I have herpes: I get cold sores and I have had chickenpox! Wrap up in a bubble suit and have virtual contact only with the rest of the world. I've got a radiation suit and the plague.......Up for it if you are " Bubonic? | |||
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"Ever had chickenpox? That's just another herpes virus (VZV/zoster). HSV1 and 2 might be oral, from a kiss. Not a herpes but glandular fever hides itself away and can be passed on. It was called the kissing disease for a reason. So all of you with kissing is a must on your profiles you'd better make sure you're clear and everyone you come into contact with is too. If you see a raw or open sore anywhere don't stick your most delicate tissue or excretions anywhere near it. That bit is simple. Not everyone will know they are carrying so you can only protect yourself so far. At the risk of reducing my meets even further I have herpes: I get cold sores and I have had chickenpox! Wrap up in a bubble suit and have virtual contact only with the rest of the world. I've got a radiation suit and the plague.......Up for it if you are Bubonic?" No not Bubonic...Have you seen The Stand? | |||
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" Wrap up in a bubble suit and have virtual contact only with the rest of the world. I've got a radiation suit and the plague.......Up for it if you are Bubonic? No not Bubonic...Have you seen The Stand?" No. Should I be worried? Will my bubble suit protect me? | |||
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" Wrap up in a bubble suit and have virtual contact only with the rest of the world. I've got a radiation suit and the plague.......Up for it if you are Bubonic? No not Bubonic...Have you seen The Stand? No. Should I be worried? Will my bubble suit protect me? " You should be fine! The pustules are pretty stable if you don't get too rigorous | |||
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" Wrap up in a bubble suit and have virtual contact only with the rest of the world. I've got a radiation suit and the plague.......Up for it if you are Bubonic? No not Bubonic...Have you seen The Stand? No. Should I be worried? Will my bubble suit protect me? You should be fine! The pustules are pretty stable if you don't get too rigorous " Perhaps I should wear an inflatable Sumo suit over my bubble suit, just to be safe. | |||
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" Wrap up in a bubble suit and have virtual contact only with the rest of the world. I've got a radiation suit and the plague.......Up for it if you are Bubonic? No not Bubonic...Have you seen The Stand? No. Should I be worried? Will my bubble suit protect me? You should be fine! The pustules are pretty stable if you don't get too rigorous Perhaps I should wear an inflatable Sumo suit over my bubble suit, just to be safe. " The squeaking will be epic! | |||
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"I think I may just never have sex again! Mind you, I seem to be doing a pretty good job of not having sex without meaning not to. This life business is dangerous. Fatal, even! I'm going back to bed and I'm staying there! " Don't do that! The research indicates spending too long in bed can lead to an increased chance of stroke. | |||
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"I think I may just never have sex again! Mind you, I seem to be doing a pretty good job of not having sex without meaning not to. This life business is dangerous. Fatal, even! I'm going back to bed and I'm staying there! " Make sure you wear Pjs. I got the clap from bed bugs once | |||
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"I think I may just never have sex again! Mind you, I seem to be doing a pretty good job of not having sex without meaning not to. This life business is dangerous. Fatal, even! I'm going back to bed and I'm staying there! Don't do that! The research indicates spending too long in bed can lead to an increased chance of stroke. " And statistically more people die in bed than anywhere else! | |||
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"I think I may just never have sex again! Mind you, I seem to be doing a pretty good job of not having sex without meaning not to. This life business is dangerous. Fatal, even! I'm going back to bed and I'm staying there! Don't do that! The research indicates spending too long in bed can lead to an increased chance of stroke. " Oh oh, choices! I can't decide between denying that "too long in bed" is a possible concept and making some smutty comment about it usually being in bed that I stroke myself. | |||
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"I think I may just never have sex again! Mind you, I seem to be doing a pretty good job of not having sex without meaning not to. This life business is dangerous. Fatal, even! I'm going back to bed and I'm staying there! Don't do that! The research indicates spending too long in bed can lead to an increased chance of stroke. And statistically more people die in bed than anywhere else!" Well, since I've now given up sex and I'm on a diet so chocolate is forbidden too, what is left to live for? *sighs in a melodramatic fashion* | |||
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" Well, since I've now given up sex and I'm on a diet so chocolate is forbidden too, what is left to live for? *sighs in a melodramatic fashion*" I'd recommend cuddling but I don't know anyone who's into just cuddling. Tried an all-night cuddling yesterday but the chemistry grew soo intense we couldnt't stick to just cuddling. So - cant recommend myself for the job. | |||
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