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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi all, we're a new couple here and very new to the scene.

At the moment as we're so new we're just looking for a single female to join us. This is proving dificult.

we got photo verified and we have face picks to send people but we're struggling.

We're only messaging people who state they're after the same as us and we're just asking if they fancy getting to know us a bit. I know people get a lot messages so don't reply to all but we're not being pushy.

I can only imagine people just aren't attracted to us which is fine. But does anyone have any advice?

Thank you for reading

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Firstly as you have already discovered, there are less single bi ladies than other groups. Your profile is good, but you are looking for a narrow age group of 12 years which narrows your chances aswell. I suppose it is just a matter of time, frustrating as it may be. Good luck to you both though

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

You'll need loads of patience, a thick skin, and a sense of humour.

Lower your expectations - this isnt somewhere you can state what you want and it'll come running, it just doesnt work that way.

The single bi-fem has the choice of pretty much everyone on the site, so you'll need to be outstanding to her in one form or another to win her "affections"

Think of your profile as less of an advert and more of a lottery ticket - it could be you, but there's no guarantees!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your asking for a female to meet you and your partner, but you only have pictures of the female on your profile, I guess some women don't care about the guy but Sasha (who does play alone) wouldn't even consider responding to someone if they don't have pictures of themselves in thier profile, so couples 2 pics, singles 1 pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and lower your expectations but don't lower your criteria, just prepared to be patient for what your looking for, no reason why you should meet someone who doesn't "float your boat" just for the sake of it, you will just have to wait longer for what your looking for but that is better than "making do"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As was said you really need good photos of you both.

Not your back. In shadow.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We have pictures of us both that we send out. We're quite private and new so don't want to put too many public pics at the mo. Will improve the pics we send out.

I know we need to be patient and some one is not just going to fall into our lap so to speak.

Just wondered if others in a similar situation had any advice. We're so new that its quite tough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nothing wrong with your picture as public photo, it gives people a good idea of what your like, another one similar of your partner would be perfect, then as you say face pics in private to show to those you are thinking of meeting.

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By *amschwingerzCouple
over a year ago

West


"Hi all, we're a new couple here and very new to the scene.

At the moment as we're so new we're just looking for a single female to join us. This is proving dificult.

we got photo verified and we have face picks to send people but we're struggling.

We're only messaging people who state they're after the same as us and we're just asking if they fancy getting to know us a bit. I know people get a lot messages so don't reply to all but we're not being pushy.

I can only imagine people just aren't attracted to us which is fine. But does anyone have any advice?

Thank you for reading"

Hello...our advice on here is dont bother looking in the chatrooms...unless being ignored turns you on...people are friendlier in the forums I think once you have become established after a few months.

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