FabSwingers.com forum: Finding the right guy for a MFM

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We are a soft swap couple but have been assured that this would still be an attractive prospect for some single guys? We are looking for advice from those with experience on how to find the right man for the job. Thanks in advance.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All sounds good for me

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By *ex-a-frolicsCouple
over a year ago

Brizzle

Yes I'm sure it would be an attractive proposition to some guys, for many like myself who hate condoms soft swap is the only way. Finding the right person on fab for whatever floats your boat is hard, but will be nigh on impossible if you choose to hide your profile!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes I'm sure it would be an attractive proposition to some guys, for many like myself who hate condoms soft swap is the only way. Finding the right person on fab for whatever floats your boat is hard, but will be nigh on impossible if you choose to hide your profile!!"
Not meeting at the moment so profile is hidden for now but just looking for advice for when we are able to start meeting again then we will make it public again.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rather than advertise we have found that hunting out the perfect person/couple is a lot easier than putting a meet up and then having an avalanche of messages to look through.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Rather than advertise we have found that hunting out the perfect person/couple is a lot easier than putting a meet up and then having an avalanche of messages to look through. "
Excellent advice. Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Will arranged a private bukkake night for me through putting up a meet. He was very clear that I would not know who they were (blindfold for me !) and that there would be no sex involved at all. They would also never get a veri.

5 agreed to come, 3 turned up. It was an amazing night! He said they all made an effort with their appearance even though they would not be seen!

How long he chatted with them before i don't know, but my advice would be just to make sure whoever you invite knows the score beforehand - and enjoy!!!

Sara

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

This is how we started "hardening" our adventures in swinging a couple of years ago. We began by soft swinging in clubs with couples and S found she enjoyed the feeling of a hard cock in each hand. This progressed to going to clubs on nights when single men were allowed. Soon she was not only playibg with two cocks, but wanking off the other man (usually on to her body!). We never had any complaints and the single guys didn't leave disappointed. In turn we moved on to full blown MMF, MMMF and moresomes.

The point is that in a club you see what you are getting, you can judge the real personality of the single guy(s), you can set boundaries, and if you don't go the whole way nobody's time is wasted. So our recommendation is try a club.

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

its not easy on fab where it's hard to tell the idiots from the nice ones.

we only meet single males, and still we have a tremendous amount of trouble.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you everyone. Some very sound advice here. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

These days we leave the 'Looking for men' box unticked (blissfully quiet) and, as someone has already said, do the 'hunting'.

We start looking when we have a date and venue in mind, hotlist maybe a dozen guys, then start mailing. It works pretty well most of the time, and I don't think we've ever had anything other than courteous replies.

If you're looking for soft swap only, you should spell this out very clearly on your messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are a soft swap couple but have been assured that this would still be an attractive prospect for some single guys? We are looking for advice from those with experience on how to find the right man for the job. Thanks in advance."

I find soft swop is a good option, once agreed with the couple, it can range from just watching to nakedness or limited contact, I'm happy to go with whatever's required to make it an all round enjoyable experience.

You should find someone who's happy to go with what you both want, that your both physically attracted to (even if your not going to touch each other) and has a personality that fits in with your own (You will definately want a social meeting or maybe two to find this out) then, if your all happy about each other, away you go.

Lastly, remember, you should be under no pressure at anytime to say yes and even when you have, you have the right to change your mind but if you do, please make sure you don't leave it till the last minute. It can be a tricky old time introducing another person into the mix.

Happy Huntiing

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Rather than advertise we have found that hunting out the perfect person/couple is a lot easier than putting a meet up and then having an avalanche of messages to look through. "

This!!! Be the hunters as opposed to the hunted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As previously suggested, go looking yourselves. If you are in no hurry, I would suggest messaging back and forth, this might sort out those who are just after a 'quick fuck', rather than being there for your pleasure. A social, I would suggest would be mandatory, where you should be able to judge from his personality and how he is around the two of you. Someone who is both experienced and verified might be an option. Lastly all boundaries set out beforehand and he should be respectful of these, stopping at any point if asked.

Good luck and most importantly have fun! After all that's what it should be all about!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Time to do some hunting then. Much appreciated folks xx

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By *ncutgemMan
over a year ago

Bath ish

try to fine a male who isnt motivated by self interest not easy most are bed notcbers here some one who likes good company and has more imagination than just wanting to ram it in cum and go may be a men like me who likes to spend time talki g and is into shibari etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Can people please answer on this thread instead of pm's. Thanks x

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

Personally I think it would be a very attractive prospect for a lot of single guys. To avoid any confusion or disappointment I would advise being totally honest up front.

I enjoy social meets on Fab and to my mind 'soft swing' is one notch up from that on the enjoyment scale! So I think you would be inundated by interested males (judging from your comment about pm's I think you have been already).

As already stated by someone else ... be the hunter and enjoy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"its not easy on fab where it's hard to tell the idiots from the nice ones.

we only meet single males, and still we have a tremendous amount of trouble."
same here it should be easy to find a guy, but it is anything but

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By *ordic36Man
over a year ago

Manchester

Hehe I can see where this is going... Couples who start as 'soft-swing' may, in time, go all the way later. And who else would be the best choice of trying it out than a trusted playmate from soft-swing days? To reap later, you gotta sow now boys ^^.

ok, just kidding :D

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By *haunMan
over a year ago

Halton

"Personally I think it would be a very attractive prospect for a lot of single guys. To avoid any confusion or disappointment I would advise being totally honest up front.

As already stated by someone else ... be the hunter and enjoy.

Just the one notch up?

I would rate soft swing much higher than that.

I actually think it takes a lot more commitment and determination with soft swing.

Can you really take the time to explore, enjoy and please each other just through touch alone.

Sometime's less pressure as you are not committing to sex and ensuring you deliver.

So you spend more quality time with the person / couple involved.

Taking that time to find out what works and how much you can tease and tantalise a person.

A nice massage oil I find helps as well.

The build and anticipation, spending quality unrushed time with them.

Don't get me wrong... No harm in getting carried away if you are short on time or that is where the meet takes you.

But if you have the time?

Then the pure enjoyment of enjoying the ladies / couples company in a soft swing environment is a fantastic way to spend your time.

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By *rivate roomMan
over a year ago

Bracknell

Are you looking for regular single male for soft play

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