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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I wonder if you can offer any advice ...... In terms of first contact firstly do you like winks ? Do you pay any attention to them?

Secondly regarding a first message what do you want to read in that message?

I realise some do put on profiles (I do read them lol) tell me what you want to do to me etc...... But those that don't state anything do you want a run down on the person along with what they are looking for? Random chat? Or what that person wants to do to you?

Thanks in advance for any advice given hopefully I won't get ridiculed for these questions

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By *he devil wears pradaWoman
over a year ago

gosport ish

"I wonder if you can offer any advice ...... In terms of first contact firstly do you like winks ? Do you pay any attention to them?

Secondly regarding a first message what do you want to read in that message?

Thanks in advance for any advice given hopefully I won't get ridiculed for these questions

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Just continue to do what you've been doing, it's clearly working as you are getting meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people look at winks and others don't, depends on them. I don't, got over 1000 of them anyway so not sure how i would look through them all?

My profile says i don't really reply to messages, and i don't so dunno why people bother messaging me (especially repeatedly until i block them). If i did wanna chat though i'd want something interesting or fun to talk about, not compliments that just about every person puts in their message and have become meaningless or endless messages asking if i'm looking for sex when my profile said i wasn't.

I do think the majority of people are here to pass the time and to socialise, yeah we all want sex as well but not everyone wants to be treated like a piece of meat or be contacted by someone who wants to be entertained coz they're bored (and boring).

Conversations should be a two way thing, interaction, and it can be hard to figure out what a stranger would be like and want to talk about, i'd say if someone hasn't got much on their profile that you can work with to start talking to them then they aren't interested in chatting?

Have noticed most people say they don't want dirty messages from strangers coz that's just weird and too personal.

Don't think your questions are stupid at all, good idea to try and figure people out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I have had two meets since joining which have been enjoyable however would always like more

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for your response ........ I am starting to think some people are on here just to pass time which is fine have no issue with that.

But you don't always know why someone doesn't reply so thought best to float these questions and see if it's maybe the way I word my messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for your response ........ I am starting to think some people are on here just to pass time which is fine have no issue with that.

But you don't always know why someone doesn't reply so thought best to float these questions and see if it's maybe the way I word my messages"

Honestly. Almost every guy who messages me is lovely and polite(initially) but also give me nothing to reply to. They either compliment me (which is kind but unoriginal and can't start a convo off that anyway) or say hi/hey (nothing to work with there either), or fancy a chat (start one don't just ask me to start one coz i'm busy already). I have had 8 conversations going at once at times (most i can manage) just because the people were alright to talk to and we had some flow, can't even remember what i spoke to them about but they gave me something to work with, were nearby, and attractive to me. So yeah i would say it's hard for guys to get noticed on here.

Most of these guys are gorgeous, they aren't offensive, they just don't give me anything to talk about and because i get so many messages and know how to keep myself entertained it doesn't matter if they give me something to talk about coz i don't need them, sounds harsh and it is but that's the reality of it.

I have very few people i chat to regular, but tbh some of the people i meet with if they don't keep in touch regular then i can go off them as well, lol it's hard work and my replyis getting less helpful- shall leave this topic to someone more helpful.

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