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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I joined here quite a while ago now but only just started coming on here properly and putting effort into getting meets. I know I'm not the best looking guy but I'm alright I've never struggled for female company. I'd like to think I'm a nice bloke too. There's a few women on here I have put some real effort into my first message, clear face pics. But some don't even get read just deleted straight away. I want to stand out from the crowd. So some tips would be much appreciated guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have three pictures of your cock, two of which are mostly another person and your username is white van man...

Are you sure you need to ask?

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"You have three pictures of your cock, two of which are mostly another person and your username is white van man...

Are you sure you need to ask?"

Nail and head - well done that man!

Look at your profile and honestly think "If I was a lass would I meet me?" Lots of ladies look at a profile as part of the decision to reply to any message... is yours showing you in your best light?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have three pictures of your cock, two of which are mostly another person and your username is white van man...

Are you sure you need to ask?

Nail and head - well done that man!

Look at your profile and honestly think "If I was a lass would I meet me?" Lots of ladies look at a profile as part of the decision to reply to any message... is yours showing you in your best light?"

Fair enough you've both got a point. Cheers. Ill have to sort this out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You think 4 weeks is "a while ago"? No its not, give it a few more months

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You have three pictures of your cock, two of which are mostly another person and your username is white van man...

Are you sure you need to ask?

Nail and head - well done that man!

Look at your profile and honestly think "If I was a lass would I meet me?" Lots of ladies look at a profile as part of the decision to reply to any message... is yours showing you in your best light?"

Any better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly reassuring ladies you don't see them as slags isn't the best move...maybe....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to agree with what's already been said - username and pictures are really important.

Although not many of us are willing to pop a face picture on as our profile picture it's nice to include one with your first message.

Also make sure you have read the profile fully before you send a message, it's polite and it allows you to have some knowledge about the person/persons you're talking to.

Make the first message genuine and imaginative - sell yourself. Messages that just say "Hi" or "Hey sexy" are lazy and if you are messaging a couple then address them both. You are never ever going to get to play with somebody's wife or girlfriend if you don't butter up and be nice to the husband. If he's going to trust you with his most prized possession - his lady - then he's going to want to get to know you a little and build up some sort of trust.

Too many single men on here think it's easy because we are all on a 'sex website'.... Well that maybe true but that doesn't mean that we have dropped our standards because we're horny and like swinging.

Put the time and effort in and be yourself and you should definitely see some positive results.

My o.h and I really enjoy meeting up with single blokes but there are too many in here who think that it's just going to fall in their lap.

Quality over quantity. Just remember the ones you have to put effort into are always the best

Happy hunting. Take Care. Minx xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have to agree with what's already been said - username and pictures are really important.

Although not many of us are willing to pop a face picture on as our profile picture it's nice to include one with your first message.

Also make sure you have read the profile fully before you send a message, it's polite and it allows you to have some knowledge about the person/persons you're talking to.

Make the first message genuine and imaginative - sell yourself. Messages that just say "Hi" or "Hey sexy" are lazy and if you are messaging a couple then address them both. You are never ever going to get to play with somebody's wife or girlfriend if you don't butter up and be nice to the husband. If he's going to trust you with his most prized possession - his lady - then he's going to want to get to know you a little and build up some sort of trust.

Too many single men on here think it's easy because we are all on a 'sex website'.... Well that maybe true but that doesn't mean that we have dropped our standards because we're horny and like swinging.

Put the time and effort in and be yourself and you should definitely see some positive results.

My o.h and I really enjoy meeting up with single blokes but there are too many in here who think that it's just going to fall in their lap.

Quality over quantity. Just remember the ones you have to put effort into are always the best

Happy hunting. Take Care. Minx xx "

Most definitely this

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

I think the text reads okay....I can't comment on the pics because you have turned them to friends only. I don't message anyone with no public pics because there is nothing to draw me in but as you aren't looking for couples it doesn't matter anyway

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

Your profile reads good (I didn't see the previous one!), but some photos on show will make it more appealing to women. They don't need to be too explicitive - maybe some torso shots, a hidden erection under briefs is quite sexy to us girls and a bum shot too. Almost, repeatively mentioning you're genuine is not well received on here either.

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have three pictures of your cock, two of which are mostly another person and your username is white van man...

Are you sure you need to ask?"

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire


"You think 4 weeks is "a while ago"? No its not, give it a few more months "

(We hadn't even dared send our first message four weeks in!)

Chill out, have a bit of fun in the forums, and I'm sure the rest will follow...

Good luck.

Mr ddc

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Its better... what is a respectful girl? She doesn't wipe off her wet pussy on the duvet after? Or she walks 5 steps behind? Its one of those descriptions that means nothing...

Also, you need some images on there - not just one you can't really make out as a profile picture.

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