FabSwingers.com forum: Stretchmarks, cellulite and sagging

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This isn't a 'tell me how attractive I am' thread. I have had two children and i'm overweight. While I can take that i'm fairly pretty, my body totally disgusts me. To the point that I honestly don't understand how anybody could find my completely naked body attractive. I don't feel so bad in nice baby dolls etc but my question is, do men notice these things or do they honestly see past it? If they do notice it, how much does it turn them off? This is something I appreciate affects skinny girls too as well as men and women of all shapes and sizes. It's not often you really see stretch marks or cellulite on a man (from my personal experience) so I can't really judge myself how off putting it is. As harsh as the truth may be, i'd value your total honesty xxx

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

"This isn't a 'tell me how attractive I am' thread. I have had two children and i'm overweight. While I can take that i'm fairly pretty, my body totally disgusts me. To the point that I honestly don't understand how anybody could find my completely naked body attractive. I don't feel so bad in nice baby dolls etc but my question is, do men notice these things or do they honestly see past it? If they do notice it, how much does it turn them off? This is something I appreciate affects skinny girls too as well as men and women of all shapes and sizes. It's not often you really see stretch marks or cellulite on a man (from my personal experience) so I can't really judge myself how off putting it is. As harsh as the truth may be, i'd value your total honesty xxx"

U kiddin right ??

Ur lovely !! Sexy mamma xx get a grip xxx we look beyond stretch marks n wobbly bits lol we all got em xxx no ones perfick.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel the same...im overweight and have 2 kids and my stomach revolts me...its like a saggy kangeroo pouch...I hate it so much...even if I lose weight its still saggy and horrible...

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By *ere-for-my-convenienceWoman
over a year ago

Tenbury Wells

You're gorgeous

Men see your inner beauty no doubt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ps... you look beautiful in your pics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They're not stretch marks honey, they're tiger stripes. Believe me.. at the point a guy has your kit off he is so not thinking "eew thats a bit saggy" ... he is either thinking "dont let her see my belly without me sucking it in" OR "I hope my cock doesnt disappoint her" OR "whoopeee Im gona get some"

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By *nsert user name hereMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Sexiness is more about confidence than stretch marks etc

Everyone has hangups about there body but 99% of the time its only a problem for there self

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Look more like I've been attacked by a tiger! Plus I have a massive scar on my hip/thigh from surgery.

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Honestly? Stretch marks don't put me off, neither does cellulite, but that does depend on the degree. So much cellulite that the body resembles the pock-marked surface of a giant golf ball I do find unattractive.

Looking at the photos you have on display I'd say you are worrying unnecessarily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you look great in your pics and as many say you're dam fine. Come on guys get fabbing those photos.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks very much guys but if you knew how long it took to get photos I was happy with!!! x

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

You're not alone. I've had 3 elephant babies so I know exactly where you're coming from!! You'll get to an age and think fuck it, I am who I am xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty men have stretch marks too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look great to me huni xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had 5 full term kids, used to be just over 16 stone as well but lost almost 5 stone of that. My body is alright, it's been through things and it isn't perfect but every single guy i get with sees me naked. I have no hang ups (probably should have but my body is real and plenty of guys are willing to accept that).

Don't see why you're disgusted with your body? It's normal to not have an air brushed look anyway, and yes you will have some imperfections, especially if your body has been through stuff.

I've never had a single guy slag off my naked body, some probably don't think it's that great but most guys i've met i see them repeatedly, i guess i'm lucky that they really don't care?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Same problem here too

I've had 4 kids including twins and I'm

Overweight

I'm covered in stretch marks

I'm a size 22, I repulse myself on the mirror looking at my own photos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just noticed you're not single. Ask your fella what he loves about you, and believe his reply.

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By *iuliettaWoman
over a year ago

DEVIZES

I'm a fattie, saggy and stretch marks, plus I have 8% of my body (thighs and stomach) with burns scars and skin grafts. My late husband liked my body and when I have had meets from Fab, I just stripped off and pretended none of it existed and didnt let it hold me back, its been such a liberating experience

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By *ivemeyoursoulWoman
over a year ago

Easter just around the corner!

Have you not read your verifications,people are not going to say nice things when they don't mean it and these are the people that have met you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've yet to meet anyone (both M or F) with a 'perfect' body…simply because no such thing exists. Who said saggy bits, stretch marks etc were bad?

It doesn't matter how many people tell you your photos are lovely, which they are, btw, - it'll only make a difference when you believe it yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also feel the same about my body after having 3 children, dosent matter how many times the hubby or others tell me Its hot, I can't stand the sight of it, I could never go naked infront of others, I feel far more sexy covered up than naked. I'm still learning to love my body, I guess one day I just won't give a shit about what other people think lol xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

He's forever complimenting me, he's very supportive but it's one of those things where it doesn't matter how many people tell you if you don't believe it yourself. Anyway, the thread wasn't meant to turn into my pity party! Thank you for your honest responses xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tjose saggy bits and stretchmarks are proof that you carried someone inside of you and brought them into the world then looked after them. For most of us these are scars of love, that you gave up your body for someone else to have a life and then probably gave up your life to look after them too?

If you put weight on and then lost it and gained sag and stretchmarks then you cared enough about yourself to make sure your body became healthier again.

They're signs of love, and if that isn't beautiful then idk what is?

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By *imdavies86Man
over a year ago

Finsbury park

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By *imdavies86Man
over a year ago

Finsbury park

Just looked at your pics and I have to say you certainly deserve all the praise you are getting, you look look amazing. The more clubs I visit the more I realise how important personality and self confidence are, so much more attractive than just looks.

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By *imdavies86Man
over a year ago

Finsbury park

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a fattie, saggy and stretch marks, plus I have 8% of my body (thighs and stomach) with burns scars and skin grafts. My late husband liked my body and when I have had meets from Fab, I just stripped off and pretended none of it existed and didnt let it hold me back, its been such a liberating experience"

Wow

You've got some confidence!! I bow to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"He's forever complimenting me, he's very supportive but it's one of those things where it doesn't matter how many people tell you if you don't believe it yourself. Anyway, the thread wasn't meant to turn into my pity party! Thank you for your honest responses xxx"

I understand where you're coming from

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a bloke, i actively like some stretch marks and such.....I don't find that 'perfect skin' look as attractive for some reason, I like a body with character, even the odd scar....it gives me something to follow and trace and enjoy... Same reason I like tatts I think on a lass...it adds something... I can't quite explain what....

Take a piece of furniture....some people like the sleek minimalist stuff and thats cool....I like something with character, few chips and dings in it...shows life in it...

Sorry for comparing you to furniture btw!

I'd doesent matter what you look like, you'll have fans and haters...the only persons opinion that counts is yours and yours alone...it's your body, take your time and learn to love it again...go strip in front of a mirror, take yourelf in...explore your stretch marks and what they mean to you, your scars and imperfections add up in such a way that they make you....completely individual....no other body like yours exists in the world...you are a bespoke one off never to be repeated beautiful human being I promise.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Well aren't you guys just swell xxx

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By *ood at oralMan
over a year ago

kirkcaldy

Hi summerlovin8187 I love your pics your body looks stunning great looking boobs and a cracking looking ass there is nothing disgusting what so ever bout your body xx

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By *allipygousMan
over a year ago

Leicester

Wow

You've got some confidence!! I bow to you "

Believe me, from a bloke's perspective, body confidence goes a long way.

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

women come in all shapes and sizes

stop hating yourself

if i had a woman i wouldn't care if she had a few imperfections. id still love her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've just viewed your pics and you look gorgeous do stop beating yourself up xxx

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By *andS_GlasgowCouple
over a year ago

Giffnock

and yes - T feels the same !!!

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By *ilberryMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

OP I think you are beating yourself up needlessly? How many Fabs does a girl need?

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

"I feel the same...im overweight and have 2 kids and my stomach revolts me...its like a saggy kangeroo pouch...I hate it so much...even if I lose weight its still saggy and horrible...

Same. I used to hate it. Now it's just part of me that has to turn up to meets. If a bloke is too shallow to see past it for the person you really are get rid of them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think about if a man had a scar/mole on his body that he was ashamed of, would you look past it? I would. We don't expect each other to be perfect and you can still be completely sexy in a body you don't feel 100% comfortable with. I find some men are attracted to cellulite, stretch marks and so on (I know it sounds weird, but I've heard it before). Obviously you will get unkind people saying unkind things at some point, but that shouldn't take any of your confidence away because even with our imperfections, we can all still be sexy! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not small and have stretch marks and cellulite. Some find me attractive some don't. I have a pretty good face though and a personality so I think that goes further than a perfect body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you have an awesome body shadduppp x x x x x x x

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By *ooking to watch93Man
over a year ago

near spalding

Doesn't bother me in the slightest

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By *unduo000Couple
over a year ago

In and around

I think men would be surprised by how many of us ladies feel exactly like this, there's plenty of bits of me I hate with a passion, my hubby says it's what makes me real but doesn't make me like it any better when I look in the mirror or at pictures I only see the things I don't like, but without the stretch marks and the scars I won't have my family. Mrs D.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rubens art is admired not for its flawless depiction of human perfection but for its celebration of honesty about human physique. Undulating, rippling bodies that ooze sexual abandon and liberation.

Every person is beautiful if given time to be appreciated.

Large, small, skinny or fleshy it's all good. Imperfections draw the eye but only a beautiful mind can appreciate them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You look sexy in your photo'sxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like our meets to be natural body's ie stretch marks saggy bits . Maybe because that's like us to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dear OP, here's a legend my sister told me at my lowest and I remember it often:

In Japanese culture there is a practice called Kintsukuroi.

When a piece of pottery is broken, instead of throwing the piece away, or trying to hide the damage, each crack is filled with a precious metal.

Each break is highlighted with silver or gold.

Because the Japanese believe that the pottery is all the more beautiful and precious for what it has been through. Each crack, mark, or blemish should be celebrated as a mark of survival. Of experience. Of life.

xxx

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By *riverUKMan
over a year ago

Near you

Women should be woman shaped. The female form was designed by nature to attract a mate and a lady that has stretch marks and a little meat is more appealing to some of us men because nature intended it that way a ladies mummy tummy is a very powerful sign of fertility in my opinion

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By *ickawitchCouple
over a year ago

Away with the fairies (Liverpool to you)

"Dear OP, here's a legend my sister told me at my lowest and I remember it often:

In Japanese culture there is a practice called Kintsukuroi.

When a piece of pottery is broken, instead of throwing the piece away, or trying to hide the damage, each crack is filled with a precious metal.

Each break is highlighted with silver or gold.

xxx"

this is lovely - truly lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I also feel the same about my body after having 3 children, dosent matter how many times the hubby or others tell me Its hot, I can't stand the sight of it, I could never go naked infront of others, I feel far more sexy covered up than naked. I'm still learning to love my body, I guess one day I just won't give a shit about what other people think lol xx"

3 kids here too and no I would never ever ever go naked in front of anyone..far to self conscious!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Half the time, people don't notice your faults until you point them out...Their initial impression is of the whole package. Having met you, you're a very pretty and articulate woman who had the nuts to come to a social full of people you didn't know on your own...nothing beats that as a first impression...

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By *zanyCouple
over a year ago

truro

You are being very harsh on yourself. I have found that the fiercest critics of a woman's body is the women herself. Believe you me if it gets as far as taking your clothes off most guys would find that a compliment in itself and would be looking at yu as an object of desire. I luv women and and worship a woman's body and am full of praise that they would allow me to explore their body , it is their personality that cuts it for me. Just enjoy those that do want to play with you and filter out the rest.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thank you lovely, lovely people xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do some people get perfect flat stomachs after childbirth and some don't?

Is it impossible to get back to where you were afterwards?

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

Everyone is there own worst critic.

Went to a burlesque show last night. First woman on had a full figure. She did jot care. She was hot sassy and strutted her stuff.

Hubby found that very arousing.

When you talk to yourself the discussion is very one-sided.

Men I tend to find like flirtatious women and a bit of skin helps that. If your confident in starting a conversation and being flirty then it's more than half the journey.

If your a super model but shy and want them to do all the chasing it can be disconcerting when no one approaches.

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By *lttattoocoupleCouple
over a year ago

Worcester

Him typing

Yes guys notice but for me anyway its not a big deal, bodies change over time and children can change a body in lots of ways. My better half has also had 2 children and thinks very similar but as previously mentioned it's not a big deal for me at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I envy the larger women who have confidence! After 3 kids and losing 8 stones in weight, my body looks horrendous and no matter how much my husband says he likes it, I fail to see how.

Men get like it too and it's a shame that people feel so much pressure to look perfect

You're gorgeous btw, and the same goes to every other sexy fucker on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women are so hard on themselves. I'm older and probably bigger than you OP. I also had two babies, so my battle wounds are there lol. However, I only meet younger men and they are not hung up on these things like we are. I see the same fellas mostly so I'd like to think they're not being put off in the slightest. I always wear a little something to meet...and they often take it off me!! So, it can't be too bad eh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the media have a lot to answer for and how the depict (photo shop) the female form!

Throw in the fashion industry and how it is driven by the form that designers covet (most of whom are gay men) and it's little wonder we have a warped view of what women should look like.

Nobody can tell you to love yourself - you're going to have to find a way to accept it then see if you can love it.

My life motto is if you can't change it you have to find a way to accept it. You can never be happy otherwise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dark edges - pity your straight i'd love to get you naked - you look lush!!

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By *urvymamaWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

the guys got to be pretty shallow to not overlook stretch marks on the body of a woman that got them frim becoming a mother

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel exactly the same. At a size 18 I hate how I look naked but it's all about pretending you love it lol

You look fine as hell though Mrs, I wouldn't say no

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"Sexiness is more about confidence than stretch marks etc

Everyone has hangups about there body but 99% of the time its only a problem for there self"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every woman we have looked at on this feed look fine to us, all the things th op mentioned come with becoming a mother and most men appreciate it. We love curvaceous ladies so much more attractive in our eyes. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like it when I see some women describe them as their "tiger stripes"...positive affirmation...

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Even Cindy Crawford has stretch marks.

I just stopped letting it bother me to be honest. Men either don't see my flaws or choose not to comment on them. Suits me.

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By *lirtyjjWoman
over a year ago

Meath

I'm have them all, stretch marks, saggy bits, scars, you name it. I'm not skinny either. But at the end of the day if im turned i feel sexy and then all my inhibitions get thrown out the window and i don't give a second thought to how i look. I'm very confident sexually and that's what's important when it comes to playing. I've found that guys generally only see the overall sexy package, they don't focus on the individual imperfections. So just focus on the fun. We're all gorgeous xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I strip off at spa yes ive big wobbly bits. And those Tiger strips say a big" ROAR"

Come and get me Lads

Be proud of what you got and they live you bought into this world

LIVE IT GIRL.

ENJOY!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Confidence and mischief in your eyes is more than a turn on for me. You have that, nothing else matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really doesnt matter how big or how small or how many "battle scars" a woman has. Or the amount of cellulite on her thighs.

Its what she exudes that makes her beautiful.

There can be the plainest woman in the room, but if she has chutzpa....men will fall over themselves to get to her. Even climb over the epitome of perfect woman to get to her.

Everyone on here is just lovely. There are no imperfections on this thread.....just unique loveliness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the song says .....

Your Gorgeous!!!!

X x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Confidence and mischief in your eyes is more than a turn on for me. You have that, nothing else matters. "

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By *ordic36Man
over a year ago

Manchester

" but my question is, do men notice these things or do they honestly see past it? If they do notice it, how much does it turn them off? As harsh as the truth may be, i'd value your total honesty xxx"

Do we notice stretchmarks and cellulite? Yes ofc we do. And the longer the foreplay, the more time we have to discover your body- we notice all the details it's made of. Those who're saying they don't are simply lying or trying to earn the +points.

Does it turn us off ^^ Hehe don't worry it does not. It's the females who compare themselves with others and winner is the life-long fasting life size Barbie but we guys are easier. We like boobs, bums and pussy. mostly in aspect of do you got them all or not and are they all recognizeably female. And that's all it takes to trigger the brain with Mmmmmmm

I wish guys would sound more sophisticated and intelligent when it comes to selecting a mate but the thing is- we still run on the primeval attraction software that has been there since ice-age and i can't see the long overdued update transmitting from heavens any time soon.

However if you're seriously thinking of making a change and maybe start a gym or regular jogging- go for it girl! but don't do it to attract more guys- we already covered that- trust your boobs and bums to never let you down on that one.

But do if for yourself, your health, for feeling good after a training or jogging session. and if it does prove to raise your attraction as well- then just take it as a bonus.

Another bonus you would get is more sex positions- the tricky ones you may have not been able to do yet.

Don't worry about scars either- in mens world- scars beat the tattoos! We have subconcious respect for survivors of something tough or dangerous that leave scars.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I completely stress and hate my body too and I know it's completely holding me back from having the fun I really want. I can never get naked with anyone not even poor k. I can have some fun with guys but when it comes to meeting coupling just can't compete with the other females. When I'm dressed I'm pretty happy with how I look but after having 4 kiddies and dropping 9 stone everything is so loose that I want to cry when I look in the mirror. I drive k insane and he has to take hundreds of pics before I get a couple i like. I'm determined to try and build my confidence as it holds me back so much. I'm just convinced if people see me naked they will be running from the building screaming x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You're not alone. I've had 3 elephant babies so I know exactly where you're coming from!! You'll get to an age and think fuck it, I am who I am xx"

Lololol to elephant babies, I'm with you there, had 4 of them,

yep sod it, body had done its job and now still wants fun!

So stop worrying be proud and enjoy

besides men don't notice if you've got mascara under your eyes, spinach between your teeth and spots on your nose, they see the sexy bits, don't spoil it by pointing the imperfections Out, op you're hot babe xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know how u feel but honestly wen iv gone on meets the girls have had stretch marks cellulite juzt like me and i saw right past them and liked the girlsfor who they are so guys its the same with men sooo dont worry about it wot u see others dont xx

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By *ordic36Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"I completely stress and hate my body too and I know it's completely holding me back from having the fun I really want. "

Well first let me congradulate you for losing 9 stones. You have the iron willpower, girl! And probably excellent chap next to you to support you through this. But just wondering... if loose skin is disturbing you to the point you cannot live a normal life, have you thought of surgery?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love surgery to get it all corrected but with 4 Little ones to look after I can't justify spending that amount of money on me when I could take them all to Disney land instead. One of my biggest issues is not being able to take them swimming and really enjoy myself with them. It holds me back so much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op your pics make you look great

I too have stretch marks and wobbly bits that come with having a child, as can be seen on our pics (at least showing them on here people know what to expect) and this is what stopped me wanting to do swinging in the first place as i was very self conscious, since we have been swinging my confidence had raised tenfold and now I just think 'sod em if they don't like me, someone else will' albeit it took me a long time to take that approach

All the stretch marks and wobbly bits are what a true woman should have when having children and they make people more beautiful for it

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By *xpatscoupleCouple
over a year ago

Ipswich

honestly see past it? If they do notice it, how much does it turn them off? This is something I appreciate affects skinny girls too as well as men and women of all shapes and sizes. It's not often you really see stretch marks or cellulite on a man (from my personal experience) so I can't really judge myself how off putting it is. As harsh as the truth may be, i'd value your total honesty xxx"

Your lovely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find that I'm attracted to REAL women, not airbrushed supermodels.

Real women have cellulite, stretch marks, scars, etc, which is all part of living life, and is attractive...anyone that can't see past that is pretty shallow in my book.

I'm a hell of a long way from perfect myself, and hope that when I meet someone they're mature enough to overlook minor imperfections and enjoy the person inside the skin.

Don't be so hard on yourself...I bet you look gorgeous naked as well as dressed up in baby dolls etc.

Rich. XX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tjose saggy bits and stretchmarks are proof that you carried someone inside of you and brought them into the world then looked after them. For most of us these are scars of love, that you gave up your body for someone else to have a life and then probably gave up your life to look after them too?

If you put weight on and then lost it and gained sag and stretchmarks then you cared enough about yourself to make sure your body became healthier again.

They're signs of love, and if that isn't beautiful then idk what is?"
you can't really add anything to this.... Sums it all up perfectly

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By *ordic36Man
over a year ago

Manchester

"I'd love surgery to get it all corrected but with 4 Little ones to look after I can't justify spending that amount of money on me when I could take them all to Disney land instead. One of my biggest issues is not being able to take them swimming and really enjoy myself with them. It holds me back so much x"

I'm still not convinced. Allow me to explain- I'm the 5th child of the family and our mother was always worrying for us. She wasn't the griefing kind but a smile on her face was a rare thing. we grew up knowing she has put her everything out for us...but I never got into the close relationship with her. So many things se was not happy with, so many things wrong with her.

I think she denied herself too many things that would have made her happy to the point of no return.

How are you? or Are you allright? was a dreaded question to ask cuz she just might answer them. To summarize: We wanted to see a happy mom. i couldn't care less of Disneyland if some wiz from the cartoon would have come and say- ok kids here's the deal, no disneyland, no lunapark, for 2 years...but I'll put the smile back on ur moms face and she'll spend more time with you! We'd said - Deal!

I still have the mental block to initiate conversation with her now cuz I know what's coming!

if a surgery turns you into a happy lady for your man and gorgeous mom to your kids- i'd say disneyland can wait.

Hating an important part of yourself can have concequences in the future.

Think about it with all honesty- would the surgery have a lasting effect on you, or would the novelty wear off only to reveal other things you're not happy with? if the answer to the first question is yes, and second is no. I'd ask you to re-consider. It's no secret that a happy mom/wife is the core of the happy family. Have a discussion with your man and see what he thinks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think your verifications say it all they are meeting you and finding you a gorgeous person,most concentrate on the whole person and not focus on the little things your stressing about.

Ps your pics look great x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Look more like I've been attacked by a tiger! Plus I have a massive scar on my hip/thigh from surgery. "
Well most of us have scars I have 4 .. I just don't think about them tell the truth . xx No ones perfect we just have to make the most of ourselves xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh you lovely girls worry too much,x

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By *oshbird69Woman
over a year ago

Ipswich

As I've got older, I've become body confident to the extent that if people don't like what they see, they can bugger off & look for a super model.

I am ordinary, stretch marks, overweight now because of illness & boobs that are trying to touch my toes..

What you see is what you get & now I just think f@ck it, I'm gonna have some fun !!!

Confidence is everything, it's what's inside that matters, the bubbly personality, the gorgeous smile & happy soul enjoying life x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Doesn't really matter about other people's opinions does it....if you think you are disgusting then that is how you will see yourself though have to say, you cant really think your that bad otherwise you'd not have the confidence to put up those photos so well done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys see what they want to see. You see all your faults while they overlook them and seek the things they like.

When they are feeling horny, they concentrate on the parts of you that turn them on.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley

Your hubby likes you

Tons of verifications on your profile say the same

The truth is that not everyone likes everyone. And so what. You seem to be doing better than most

Body shape is important but it is not an overriding factor for most people who live in the real world

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know what you mean about it taking ages to get pics you're happy with, but that's still your body & you look great! Curvy yes. Saggy/fat - definitely not. I'm a size 14/16 so totally get how you feel & have the same worries on occasion. But honestly - guys don't care!!! x

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By *ary_ArgyllMan
over a year ago

Argyll

I'd be pretty wary about going down the surgery route. It is not 'correcting' anything because there is nothing wrong in the first place. The notion that we will all have perfect media type bodies all our lives is a total myth and a con. Usually from what I've read having surgery just reinforces the negative body image and people end up having op after op - often with it does not make them any more happy or confident. You need to focus on the evidence - do other people find you attractive - the evidence I see here says, yes they do. So you need to start trusting that more than your own negative self image. Smile.

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By *ifferent69Man
over a year ago

BRIGHTON, UK

Don,t be so hard on yourself...

You,ve done what is natural and beautifull in giving life.....

How I see it as a reward you body has allowed you to blossom...

I, d be lying that my first instinct would be to look at a young thinner lady, but thats my primal genetic dna kicking in.

I equally find fuller women sexy and desirable as i,m sure many guys do to.

Honestly the best fun I find is normally with ladies as you describe a bit fuller.

Trust me thinner girls can equally have cellulite and indeed stretch marks....

We all have parts of our body we wish would go away or we perceive is abnormal.

Remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The surgery I would want is too remove the huge saggy apron I've been left with after having a c section and then dropping 9 stone. I'm lucky enough to be down to a 10 but my body looks nothing like an average size 10. Just a bit of a tummy tuck to remove excess skin would make me very happy. I see women on here of many shapes and sizes and most come across as very confident and I am jealous. I was convinced losing the weight would make me feel great and while my tummy is covered I'm pretty happy. Guess I'll just have to keep buying lots of corsets. Much cheaper than surgery anyway x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely know how you feel. I struggle to find anything attractive about myself and struggle to accept compliments as I think they are talking rubbish lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Don,t be so hard on yourself...

You,ve done what is natural and beautifull in giving life.....

How I see it as a reward you body has allowed you to blossom...

I, d be lying that my first instinct would be to look at a young thinner lady, but thats my primal genetic dna kicking in.

I equally find fuller women sexy and desirable as i,m sure many guys do to.

Honestly the best fun I find is normally with ladies as you describe a bit fuller.

Trust me thinner girls can equally have cellulite and indeed stretch marks....

We all have parts of our body we wish would go away or we perceive is abnormal.

Remember beauty is in the eye of the beholder.."

I agree with this, I've a few things myself I'm not happy about as I get older, fighting to stop bits trying to change shape for no particular reason other than 'they can' lol.

As has already been said, it is very much in the eye of the beholder. Not only that, you have to remember if you feel good about yourself you will look good and that will also come across in your personality which is a big determining factor on if someone likes and fancies you,(not all just down to how you look is it)

Having perved a few of your profiles and (I admit it....Fabbing you pics) I don't see there's much to worry about.

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By *iuliettaWoman
over a year ago

DEVIZES

"Definitely know how you feel. I struggle to find anything attractive about myself and struggle to accept compliments as I think they are talking rubbish lol"

I believe the ones about my eyes because I got compliments about them when I was a good 6 stone lighter and 25 years younger!

I am actually way more body confident now than when my husband was alive, it takes something like that to make you think....life is too short to not be enjoying yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont think anybody is completely happy with all of their body and would change something if they could - im ok with mine from below the knee and waist up

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

You know, I never really noticed myself as in thinking my ass is too big or my nose is too wonky.

But I also think it's easy for us guys as we don't change that much and if we do it's over a period of time.

Having kids is always more of a challenge to any parent than they really expected, but I think we all hope for the best and think well maybe I'll get away with less changes than others.

In the end there is little we can say which will convince someone to think differently about themselves. But if you could change everything about the way you look, if money was no object and surgery was completely safe and pain free, I do think we would find that once we started to make changes there would be no perfect end state as once we change, or outlook changes with it and we would never think that we had reached perfection.

No one is perfect, but hey 9 out of 10 ain't a bad score either??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every guy I've ever met wants more..i guess some do see past the ugly bits.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont be silly i used to be about 16 stone of muscle/fat..by the time I was 24 and then I got an serious over active Thyroid and lost 4 stone in 9 days (when 24)and My body was saggy/stretch marks from losing weight to fast..Its normal to have things like that on a body its more normal,then photo shopped body you see in most pictures/or famous people who have had kids

dont be ashamed of who you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As a bloke, i actively like some stretch marks and such.....I don't find that 'perfect skin' look as attractive for some reason, I like a body with character, even the odd scar....it gives me something to follow and trace and enjoy... Same reason I like tatts I think on a lass...it adds something... I can't quite explain what....

Take a piece of furniture....some people like the sleek minimalist stuff and thats cool....I like something with character, few chips and dings in it...shows life in it...

Sorry for comparing you to furniture btw!

Aww that's really nice and what a good way of putting it, I'm currently awaiting surgery for a tummy tuck and Boob job after losing half my body weight so I'm very self conscious but I love it to much on here to wait until it's done, I completely get where your coming from x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks very much guys but if you knew how long it took to get photos I was happy with!!! x"
THIS!!! its why there are so few pics on my profile. i just cant take 1s i like, so dont see how any1 else would like them.

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By *ambslass48Woman
over a year ago

Peterborough

"Thanks very much guys but if you knew how long it took to get photos I was happy with!!! x THIS!!! its why there are so few pics on my profile. i just cant take 1s i like, so dont see how any1 else would like them.

You want to be me have all that and some nasty scars and now one bionic boon after loosing real one to breast cancer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The most unattractive thing is lack of confidence ..hopefully as you get older you'll realise this and think fuck it !!...xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Come on everyone - we are all beautiful whatever shape or size we are - different people find different people attractive, that's what makes the world go round. It matters not one iota what you look like and the more you worry about it, the less you will be seen as attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The most unattractive thing is lack of confidence ..hopefully as you get older you'll realise this and think fuck it !!...xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Dark edges - pity your straight i'd love to get you naked - you look lush!!"

Well thankyou

You look very lovely too xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You want to be me have all that and some nasty scars and now one bionic boon after loosing real one to breast cancer"

No one is totally happy with their body but to beat cancer .. That takes a strong person hun , be proud of your bionic boob , it shows your a survivor

Anita x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Come on everyone - we are all beautiful whatever shape or size we are - different people find different people attractive, that's what makes the world go round. It matters not one iota what you look like and the more you worry about it, the less you will be seen as attractive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can so relate to this post !

But sexiness and horniness is in your head !!! In pretend I'm Beyoncé !! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get paranoid about my body as well but once I'm dressed up in something that makes me feel sexy I love it, my confidence grows and it shows in my eyes.

Like you I'm over weight, I have stretch marks from being pregnant and well I won't mention my boobs but I'm starting to like what I have.

The way I look at it is my stretch marks are there from carrying my child and no matter what any man/woman thinks that in itself is a wonderful thing.

Embrace what you have and start loving yourself.

I had a look at your public photos and I see nothing wrong with you at all, you have great breasts and a lovely curvy body and your pretty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks very much guys but if you knew how long it took to get photos I was happy with!!! x"

here here sister!!!! lol

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By *aymondBaroneMan
over a year ago

Manchester

We do see it

we look past it.

With a naked woman in front of you its highly unlikely it's a turn off.

Honest answer.

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By *ishopstippleMan
over a year ago

Purley

Get yourself some argan oil and cream.

Put yourself on a sensible diet.

Get some therapy - you've got body dismorphia of sorts.

Yes your a big girl but from the photos on your profile your not off-putting or repulsive, or any of the things your feeling. Ive fucked women your size & larger. YES I would do stakers

for most blokes it about the personality and confidence that we find attractive. You feeling bad about yourself aint doing you any favors.

Take care Babe.

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By *ath_Neil_bifunCouple
over a year ago

near cardiff

Never underestimate the brain for sexual attraction. It's the biggest sexual organ! That's why chemistry on some level is so important, and why you fancy someone ten minutes after you meet them rather than immediately. Flirty eyes, sultry smile, touching yourself - you control more about your sexieness than you imagine, so own and love your body x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can so relate to this post !

But sexiness and horniness is in your head !!! In pretend I'm Beyoncé !! Lol

"
Lol Sharon Stone for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I joined Fab I thought the same, went through a period of thinking that it's a shallow world and that men don't care - they will shag anything.

Then I realised that isn't true, and felt ashamed of my thoughts. It was my issue - nothing they had said/done.

People (men and women) aren't perfect, and don't expect others to be either.

Then I met Will. I see the look in his eyes and feel like the sexiest woman in the world! When we meet others, or go to clubs, I still get nervous, but knowing that he finds me attractive - and tells me so - means that my confidence lifts, which in turn increases my sexiness! (Apparently! Lol)

Sara

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I joined Fab I thought the same, went through a period of thinking that it's a shallow world and that men don't care - they will shag anything.

Then I realised that isn't true, and felt ashamed of my thoughts. It was my issue - nothing they had said/done.

People (men and women) aren't perfect, and don't expect others to be either.

Sara"

Your one lucky girl Sara to have found a guy like that ... There's not that many out there , it is all about confidence and having your partner desire you to feel sexy

Anita x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lovely pics. Nowt wrong with any of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex wife god bless her had some of the worst stretch marks ever, some were half an inch wide and went from her boobs to her pubic line and her belly was destroyed by them. She never allowed anyone to see them other than me. I used to think and still do in fact that she was the most beautiful woman to grace gods earth. I used to lay in bed and rest my hand on her belly as we went to sleep, she asked me why one night and I told her that it was like a comfort blanket to me and it made me feel special because I was only one who got to see them and touch them. She cried her eyes out and told me that that was the nicest thing anyone had ever said. I meant every word and seeing her naked, stretch marks and all was a big turn on because I was the only person special enough to see them. So to answer the question, no, stretch marks and saggy bits are not a turn off, you are who you are

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Q Am I put of by stretchmarks? Cellulite? Sagging?

A No, no, no.

Q How about scars?

A Again no.

Q So why do you say that?

A, Well, the way I see it it this: these are all signs of 'character' - the body has had a number of life experiences. Each in their own way is to be savoured.

Q Are you just buttering me so you can get a shag?

A If you knew me - then you would know that was not the case.

I don't meet people just because their arse/boobs/face etc is 'my thing' - I meet people because I am attracted to everything. And that includes the person within.

You have issues about your figure. I accept that but can't fix it - only you can. But what I can do is build up your trust in my opinion and then I can hope you will come round to thinking you aren't as bad as you think.

As with many things - it boils down to self-confidence. Fix that and you will be a lot happier.

You have a v. nice body/figure. If ever we were to meet - I'd have a grin so wide my face would hurt!

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"My ex wife god bless her had some of the worst stretch marks ever, some were half an inch wide and went from her boobs to her pubic line and her belly was destroyed by them. She never allowed anyone to see them other than me. I used to think and still do in fact that she was the most beautiful woman to grace gods earth. I used to lay in bed and rest my hand on her belly as we went to sleep, she asked me why one night and I told her that it was like a comfort blanket to me and it made me feel special because I was only one who got to see them and touch them. She cried her eyes out and told me that that was the nicest thing anyone had ever said. I meant every word and seeing her naked, stretch marks and all was a big turn on because I was the only person special enough to see them. So to answer the question, no, stretch marks and saggy bits are not a turn off, you are who you are

You bugger - this made me cry...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I've just had a look at your pics, there's nowt wrong with you. You've got lovely boobs, nice legs and bum and lovely Lilly white smooth skin, you look like an English rose, you've got nothing to worry about

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You bugger - this made me cry..."

Me too .. Beautiful words hun A x

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By *eaningofLifeCouple
over a year ago

York

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[quoteThis isn't a 'tell me how attractive I am' thread. I have had two children and i'm overweight. While I can take that i'm fairly pretty, my body totally disgusts me. To the point that I honestly don't understand how anybody could find my completely naked body attractive. I don't feel so bad in nice baby dolls etc but my question is, do men notice these things or do they honestly see past it? If they do notice it, how much does it turn them off? This is something I appreciate affects skinny girls too as well as men and women of all shapes and sizes. It's not often you really see stretch marks or cellulite on a man (from my personal experience) so I can't really judge myself how off putting it is. As harsh as the truth may be, i'd value your total honesty xxx]

U r beautiful but I know exactly what ur saying I'm. Repulsed by my body and my fb says he likes it but u never believe what they say I've lost over 4 stone in last year and hate it even more. Like u I don't feel so bad in baby dolls . I wish I could be as confident as some and embrace it but it's difficult xxx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just beautiful, why aren't you still together?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yall women are crazy we love your bods just the way they are in my opinion you should too!

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

Op I'm the same as you. My body revolts me but I am much happier with it now than when I was slim and toned pre kids. I was so obsessed with wanting a toned stomach my days always started with 100 situps. I can't do them now due to back trouble and I noticed I got much more attention when out 2 sizes bigger. Guys love curves on girls and it's our hangups on ourselves that turn them off. My stretch marks are my battle scars of pregnancy and I am proud of them and every mother should be. I don't care about having a tonned stomach anymore I just care about enjoying life for what it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How sweet are you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just beautiful, why aren't you still together?!"

We were together from when she was 17, and were together for 17 years. I think she just grew out of love with me, she just wasn't happy in the end, she told me the day she left that she knew she'd never find a guy who loved her like I did. Even now she's with another guy she still looks to me for sympathy and support if she's ill or whatever because she knows I'm still there for her no matter what, there was no big drama and we are still good friends. In all honesty I'll never feel the love I felt for her ever again, hence why I'm here and not on a normal dating site. Oh well, life sucks eh people. Time to put my heart back in the cupboard under lock and key. Bloody hell it's like therapy this

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just beautiful, why aren't you still together?!

I hope you find the happiness you deserve x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the old saying goes, it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all. The way I see it I was the luckiest guy alive for those 17 years, it's someone else's turn now x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When I joined Fab I thought the same, went through a period of thinking that it's a shallow world and that men don't care - they will shag anything.

Then I realised that isn't true, and felt ashamed of my thoughts. It was my issue - nothing they had said/done.

People (men and women) aren't perfect, and don't expect others to be either.

Sara

Your one lucky girl Sara to have found a guy like that ... There's not that many out there , it is all about confidence and having your partner desire you to feel sexy

Anita x"

Thank you Anita, I think I am lucky x I think I'll keep him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most normal guys it wouldn't bother them they would be so excited they are getting sex they wouldn't even see!

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By *ivesexy_seCouple
over a year ago

Hitchin

Well hun, you are like most of us real women who have had a couple of kids and lived a real life. You have made the sacrifices that come with parenthood and aging on top of that is just a bonus unfortunately

It’s nothing to be ashamed and it’s not your fault.

However media, social influence together with upbringing and your own self-esteem all play their part in making you feel it is your fault and it will probably take a long to get to the point where you simply don’t care anymore. Another way of course is if you actually take the time to search yourself and work out how and why you got to feeling the way you do; to untangle all the strings in your mind; confront it; accept it and make peace with it. A councilor would help speed this process but either way most of us will have to go through a lot of emotional stress to find inner peace. I know it’s a constant battle for me.

To answer your question: no, men don’t notice these things. If you have got to the point where you are naked with a guy alone, another guy with your husband, or even with several guys then they will see right past all your imperfections and only the good bits they want to see. If they didn’t want to see all of you they wouldn’t even be there in the first place. I tend to give my potential play dates a subtle warning of what’s coming so there is no misunderstanding!

We are constantly bombarded with images of perfect and beautiful women in advertising, media and often in porn. Guys get so used seeing prefect females that when they see a “real one” - the attraction is far greater simply because it’s well …real!

Does this affect skinny girls too? Don’t know cos I’ve never been one! But I can say this. I know some girls who could be considered to fit this “perfect” model of a woman, because of their slim looks, pretty face, unblemished skin or whatever it is they have and all of them have their own body image shit to deal with and in many cases I, with my stretch marks, wobbly bits and cellulite am more self-confident, sexually attractive and alluring than them. Some of them have even told me that. So hell I guess we all have our problems no matter how good or bad, we or anyone else thinks we look!

As for men, we simply can’t compare. Our physical sexual outlook towards men for the most part tends to be a lot more critical than men are towards women. But we shouldn’t think our attitudes reflect those of men.

I agree with what many others have said on this thread also. It’s all in your mind. If you think you are hot sexy, and you think you look amazing, you will exude the sensuality, confidence and attraction that guys will fall to their knees for every time. It’s not about thinking that you are something better than the rest and being out of reach, that’s a special place reserved for stuck up bitches who live so far up their own ass that they don’t know who or where they are.

At the end of the day it’s about loving yourself, being at ease with yourself and your body. Project a sexy confident image as a result. Reject the judgmental opinions of the less secure in mind (especially other women) and embrace the love and adoration from those who want to give it to you.

And for the record my hubby thinks you look hot

E xxx

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By *eaningofLifeCouple
over a year ago

York

what a fantastic take on it.

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By *eaningofLifeCouple
over a year ago

York

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Omg I feel 100 percent the same I can't message you privately and when I'm told I'm sexy I actually think are they looking at the same body ....,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP I could have written that exact post.

Your pics are lovely.

Only one of my meets has seen me totally naked.

It's not something I'm comfortable with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I admit I'm not model material, have had three kids, which I breastfed, so have a caesarian belly and less than pert boobs.

But, at this stage of my life I have never felt sexier!!

The guys I meet don't care!

If I've got their cock in my mouth they're not going to be thinking about anything else!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We all have parts of our body we hate - I went through a stage of hating my fat arse and stretch marks on my inner thighs... But men or women never say anything bad! I just act like I'm 100% confident about my body... I know people say you look hot but it doesn't matter what people think really - it's just how you feel!

You only live once! Learn from the past - when I was younger, I was slimmer and didn't have stretch marks but I still didn't have confidence... So in 10 years time I don't want to think actually I was hot back then and regret not feeling confident.. If that makes sense haha!!

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By *aeriequeenWoman
over a year ago

Manchester

Agree with all you lovely women. I have 5 children all of whom i breastfed so I hate my tummy, sagging boobs and thighs. Ive learnt to be a bit more confident about it though mainly through taking posey pics which people seem to like.

I feel like a fraud though! I think well you wouldnt like me if you saw me naked..so I try and keep certain areas covered during meets.

When a guy recently started kissing me down from my boobs and onto my stomach i literally had to force myself not to jump. Its terrible and stupid and I know it is. I doubt it will change though

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well hun, you are like most of us real women who have had a couple of kids and lived a real life. You have made the sacrifices that come with parenthood and aging on top of that is just a bonus unfortunately

It’s nothing to be ashamed and it’s not your fault.

And for the record my hubby thinks you look hot

E xxx

What an amazingly informed post, thank you so much x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats wrong with you girls show them off with pride

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s nothing to be ashamed and it’s not your fault.

And for the record my hubby thinks you look hot

E xxx

What an amazingly informed post, thank you so much x"

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By *enninemarkMan
over a year ago

huddersfield/manchester

"They're not stretch marks honey, they're tiger stripes. Believe me.. at the point a guy has your kit off he is so not thinking "eew thats a bit saggy" ... he is either thinking "dont let her see my belly without me sucking it in" OR "I hope my cock doesnt disappoint her" OR "whoopeee Im gona get some"

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By *enninemarkMan
over a year ago

huddersfield/manchester

It’s nothing to be ashamed and it’s not your fault.

And for the record my hubby thinks you look hot

E xxx

A great post and one that many men and women could learn from!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Scars are your life's story book...some chapters are easy reads and others are cliffhangers...I adore my scars and stretchmarks as they remind me of the fabulous I've had in my life and also of the strength I've come through and still smiling and confident enough to enjoy what I love..never let scars or babybumps or stretchmarks define you in a bad way...mine are ingrained in my personality and I love it...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to be a lot fatter and because of that I now have stretch marks on my sides. Being scottish and pale your hardly see them lol!

As soon as I tan they are very visible. It's just who I am and to be honest I'm a normal human with a normal body.

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By *abes in the woodWoman
over a year ago

wales

We never happy with something with our body even after after kids got strengh marks but show it all of because beauty skin deep

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So, true ! Lol

But I like to think that most men see it, and then past it-in the way they see a woman has having long hair, short hair, being blonde etc. Besides, it rare to be able to have a sweet, huge, ripe ass if you are not somewhat over weight, so I say love your shape!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The way you gotta look at it is, at some point life might throw some real actual problems your way so stop stressing stuff that doesn't matter?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Those little imperfections are what make us unique so enjoy them, those stretch marks are your life experiences and memories don't be ashamed of them, Guy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

shes hit the nail on the head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Those little imperfections are what make us unique so enjoy them, those stretch marks are your life experiences and memories don't be ashamed of them, Guy x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have plenty at the moment.

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By *ust MonicaWoman
over a year ago

CAMBRIDGESHIRE

Take a piece of furniture....some people like the sleek minimalist stuff and thats cool....I like something with character, few chips and dings in it...shows life in it...

Sorry for comparing you to furniture btw!

Wow. Never realised some men thought like this. Refreshing

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By *ethepeopleMan
over a year ago

Near you

Love it all

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By *orth wales cplCouple
over a year ago

Wrexham

I feel exactly the same as a few ladies on here. I hate my wobble bits and stretch marks. Hubby says i worry to much. And it takes alot for me to be completely naked. He loves taking pics. But nude pics takes alot of persuading.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It really doesn't matter what some one thinks just by looking at you, it's how you feel inside!

Yeah you will probably all say 'what the hell has she got to complain about' but at the end of the day sexuality & attraction start from the inside...you have to feel sexy yourself & everything else follows.

I call my stretch marks 'the lived in look' I have been, 3 times & I'm proud every day of who lived there!

Doesn't stop me feeling conscious of what other think of them.

Be proud of you you are & feel good about yourself, others will feel that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to say from my view the other night everything looked damn fine!!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we are all different and have different tastes.

Having kids stretch marks etc well thats a part of

showing lives journey and the joy of having children

something magical Although we are mums and dads

we are also social beings and adult pleasures are part of that. So love yourself for who you are because your unique and if someone does not appreciate you then let them go forth and annoy someone else.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Have to say from my view the other night everything looked damn fine!!!!!!!

Well thank you very much

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just looked at your Veris Alice, seems we have a lover in common

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just looked at your Veris Alice, seems we have a lover in common

I know!! Lovely guy x He was a pleasure to share with Lucylou3 ! He obviously has excellent taste

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

gok wan is the master of making women have confidence in themselves ...he makes them face things they dont wish to but they ultimately feel empowered by spending time with him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have them all

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By *john121Man
over a year ago

staffs

well as most things in life it all comes down to personal preferences, for me matchstick and supermodel figures just don't do it. Just in the same way as I like to think I'm mature enough to know that I won't float many other peoples boat.

From what I can see I'm not sure you have much to complain about and it's a confidence issue and after seeing your list of meets I think it's safe to say you have nothing to worry about.

We all come in different shapes and sizes and it's only fashion that dictates what we should wear and look like. for me I'd sooner you wear what ever you are happy to but it would only make getting at every part of you more difficult. I'm out side you age so it's not a line but if you check out my own meets you can make your own conclusions about size preferences. Plus, I'm still recovering form a limb threatening RTC last June so not playing.

you do as you like and keep enjoying this fun pass time. curves and creases are life and life makes people interesting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems im not alone here , I buy and wear sexiest lingerie that will cover it and accentuate my best bits that way I feel great and can let myself go completely ! I couldn't get completely naked but I know this for sure , guys really wouldn't care as there main priority is giving you pleasure im sure for the off putting would be pointing it out and making a big deal about it ! Think for a woman it feels much much worse than it looks . Hopefully I may get naked one day during a meet and feel liberate too getting there slowly but do t think Id feel as sexy as when I'm dressed .

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I think most of us will have parts of our body that we are self conscious/unhappy about. Know that we both do...

I tend to wear lingerie that cover ups the parts that I don't like and enhances the bits that I do. I don't feel completely comfortable being fully naked..

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By *ess von teaseWoman
over a year ago

perth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a "more mature" guy, I recognise that there are very few "perfect" women. I very much prefer "natural" and "normal" women with all of the different variations from "perfect". Character is very important too.

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By *ardbellyCouple
over a year ago

Alicante

"Dear OP, here's a legend my sister told me at my lowest and I remember it often:

In Japanese culture there is a practice called Kintsukuroi.

When a piece of pottery is broken, instead of throwing the piece away, or trying to hide the damage, each crack is filled with a precious metal.

Each break is highlighted with silver or gold.

xxx"

So agree with this..both of us have our body issues..but hey since being on fabs we've had lots of fun

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