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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi everyone would appreciate some help. I am not having much luck getting meets from female member on this site, I am not sure if it how I am doing the first message or how my profile is. I have had luck with a couple of guys on here so that side I am happy with.

Thanks in advance, Mike x

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By *opping_candyWoman
over a year ago

West Yorkshire

Your profile is probably shorter than the post you just wrote. It contains a very brief matter of fact description which sounds a bit like it was written on a medical form. You do nothing to sell yourself. You do not say why a woman should pick you over anyone else. What do you have to offer? What kind of people are you attracted to?

Your pictures, being totally honest, you look grumpy and the stubble is off putting for me personally but some won't mind.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for been honest x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be brutally honest, change the pictures. Selfies are bad at the best of times but when you look as miserable as sin too........smile.........ladies wanna see a friendly smiley face over the serial killer look (I'm not suggesting you are btw but you get the drift)

Your profile is your 'shop window' for the ladies of fab to peruse. Use it to its fullest to 'sell' yourself. Give women a reason to pick you over the next guy. Your profile as it stands does nothing.

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By *arewithmeMan
over a year ago

Craven Arms


"Hi everyone would appreciate some help. I am not having much luck getting meets from female member on this site, I am not sure if it how I am doing the first message or how my profile is. I have had luck with a couple of guys on here so that side I am happy with.

Thanks in advance, Mike x"

Not a week goes by without single blokes asking the same old question,,,,,,,,,,, yawnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn

If you read the forum its not just you its the thousands of millions of other males all trying to do the same thing, and get a date.....................

Ok, ok, maybe over counted on the number of males ........... lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Okay well I have just re-worded my profile giving a full "bio" of myself, what I am looking for ect. and I will adjust the pics accordingly, I used face and selfies as I felt I didn't want to show off my equipment as I am aware some find that off-putting and it the face that sells it

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By *anyoufeelmeMan
over a year ago

near you

While i appreciate you have taken face pics which is more than most like to do ( myself inc )

the pics them selves don't show your best side.

Have a shave, Smile and don't looks so staged

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Okay well I have just re-worded my profile giving a full "bio" of myself, what I am looking for ect. and I will adjust the pics accordingly, I used face and selfies as I felt I didn't want to show off my equipment as I am aware some find that off-putting and it the face that sells it"

It has to be a friendlier face than what's being shown. A tip, if you shoot selfies, look up at the camera not down. It adds pounds to your face.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just sorting some new smiling, high up selfies as we speak

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Profile wording changed as said before, and a new selfie taking from a higher angle with me smiling also there now

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

Now just sit and wait for the avalanche of request.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Carnt comment as you have hidden it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cant look.as hidden it

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Profile is now hidden so it obviously didn't go well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can't comment

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I was tweaking it so temp hid it, visible again now

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By *ifeRockChickWoman
over a year ago

Dunfermline

Still hidden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a huge male to female ratio. If you got few years is normal with no meets. I woulnt worry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a huge male to female ratio. If you got few years is normal with no meets. I woulnt worry."

Very encouraging Shag lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is a huge male to female ratio. If you got few years is normal with no meets. I woulnt worry.

Very encouraging Shag lol"
I know lol been here few years myself

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By *vgloryholebs16TV/TS
over a year ago

Bristol.

Do you think hiding yr profile adds to the mystery.. ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you think hiding yr profile adds to the mystery.. ???"

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By *ercy the Park KeeperMan
over a year ago

Chester


"Hi everyone would appreciate some help. I am not having much luck getting meets from female member on this site, I am not sure if it how I am doing the first message or how my profile is. I have had luck with a couple of guys on here so that side I am happy with.

Thanks in advance, Mike x"

There is a trick though I don't really want to give away the magic formula but i will help with what not to say and that includes

1/Asking a woman's location in a town(you look like a stalker)

2/Not sending a face picture (often you get only 1 chance)

3/Asking how are you (Its lame and most guys do it)

4/Using text speech with r and u (you alienate some using it but nobody complains if you use the correct words)

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks so the best way to produce a message would be to introduce myself, explain in polite terms what I am looking for and await the reply, and also attach a face picture.

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By *eaven and Hell 69Couple
over a year ago

HULL

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By *eaven and Hell 69Couple
over a year ago

HULL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

More wasted advice........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He decided against it!

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