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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey Everyone,

We are relatively new to swinging and have only had same room sex with other couples and soft swing threesomes with other guys. We are looking to transition into full swing and we would love any advice you can offer. We emotionally feel really good about what we have done so far and would like to know if there is generally a big difference when you switch to full. We know it varies by person/couple, but we would feel more comfortable at least getting a sense of others’ experiences. Thanks for the help!! Xx

-Marc and Courtney

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From soft swap to full swap can be a big move or not just depends on your mindset if you feel it's something you want then go for it, we switch between soft and full swing as we see fit, at times we prefer soft as it makes people use there imagination and prolongs the play somewhat, so go with your instincts and take each meet individually and decide from there x

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By *andS33Couple
over a year ago

Yorkshire

For a while we only did soft stuff, after so long it just progressed to full as it just didn't seem such a big deal anymore. We knew we were fine so just went for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"From soft swap to full swap can be a big move or not just depends on your mindset if you feel it's something you want then go for it, we switch between soft and full swing as we see fit, at times we prefer soft as it makes people use there imagination and prolongs the play somewhat, so go with your instincts and take each meet individually and decide from there x "

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By *tevelizCouple
over a year ago

northampton


"Hey Everyone,

We are relatively new to swinging and have only had same room sex with other couples and soft swing threesomes with other guys. We are looking to transition into full swing and we would love any advice you can offer. We emotionally feel really good about what we have done so far and would like to know if there is generally a big difference when you switch to full. We know it varies by person/couple, but we would feel more comfortable at least getting a sense of others’ experiences. Thanks for the help!! Xx

-Marc and Courtney

don't limit to one of you. Avoid the "one of us only" .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started as soft swap and pretty much ruled out full swap, we took the plunge and tried full swap and loved it.

Communication is the key

Hope you have fun whatever you decide to do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

going from soft to full swing is a huge difference the reason is that once you full swop there is no going back. thats why you find a lot of couples happy with soft swing.

if your not both 100% into it dont do it

hope this helps

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"going from soft to full swing is a huge difference the reason is that once you full swop there is no going back. thats why you find a lot of couples happy with soft swing.

if your not both 100% into it dont do it

hope this helps

"

Going back! We go between the soft and full depends what your definition of full and soft swing is, soft for us is everything but penetrating other people, sometimes it's how the mood takes us x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it is all down to how you feel and what you are comfortable with. We are mainly a soft swap couple have done all except penetration. However, unlike Bill Clinton we would consider swapping for oral as sex !! We are not opposed to full swap and once we become comfortable with another couple would definitely be the natural next step. Think moving to full swap is just a baby step compared to first leap into soft swap

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for your help everyone! We appreciate it. And just to clarify, when we say going soft to full we mean swapping with penetration.

This has been helpful so far!

-Marc and Courtney

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley

Take your time and don't feel pressured into full swap by either yourselves or others.

If it's your first full swap then try to build a relationship with the other couple....it's important you both feel comfy.

As newcouplecambs said From soft swap to full swap can be a big move or not just depends on your mindset if you feel it's something you want then go for it, we switch between soft and full swing as we see fit, at times we prefer soft as it makes people use there imagination and prolongs the play somewhat, so go with your instincts and take each meet individually and decide from there x

When we do full swap we are always close to each other....within touching distance....then it's more to our liking of a 4 sum all together rather than just a swap.

Hope this helps

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By *anfiona2Couple
over a year ago

ramsgate

We very quickly moved from soft to full when we started as we found soft a bit unfulfilling

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't think going to full swap will make it better, more fun it wont always and don't feel pressured to do it, we still only soft swap on the first meet as we can look at dynamics, how people play and go from there, if you think by going full swap you'll attract more meets, you're correct in that assumption, but if people didn't want to meet you before just think why now will they meet you is it as case of a holes a goal?

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By *anfiona2Couple
over a year ago

ramsgate


"Don't think going to full swap will make it better, more fun it wont always and don't feel pressured to do it, we still only soft swap on the first meet as we can look at dynamics, how people play and go from there, if you think by going full swap you'll attract more meets, you're correct in that assumption, but if people didn't want to meet you before just think why now will they meet you is it as case of a holes a goal?"

Not at all for us

We are very secure in our relationship and see swinging as a bit of fun now and then but when we soft swapped we always found it to be a bit of an anti climax and have found full swap to be much more enjoyable but of course, that's just us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nice to see some different opinions which should be helpful to the OP I guess we have our own take on swinging, to us it's not about swapping partners in the main, that's frankly to us very boring, it's about 3, 4 or more people embroiled in sexual play, having fun sometimes doing things that are physically impossible for us to do on our own, spit roast: 2 girl, 1 cock etc etc, if your having fun you are having fun, we never ever play with couples that are kinda oh your soft swing mmm oh can't we full swap? Have in the past and frankly it's been not great, so we still go with the soft swing first time and if the other people are happy with that we get a sense it's not just about fucking someone else

Long I know sorry.....

We don't just full swap, we soft swing first time

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By *anfiona2Couple
over a year ago

ramsgate


"Nice to see some different opinions which should be helpful to the OP I guess we have our own take on swinging, to us it's not about swapping partners in the main, that's frankly to us very boring, it's about 3, 4 or more people embroiled in sexual play, having fun sometimes doing things that are physically impossible for us to do on our own, spit roast: 2 girl, 1 cock etc etc, if your having fun you are having fun, we never ever play with couples that are kinda oh your soft swing mmm oh can't we full swap? Have in the past and frankly it's been not great, so we still go with the soft swing first time and if the other people are happy with that we get a sense it's not just about fucking someone else

Long I know sorry.....

We don't just full swap, we soft swing first time "

Totally understand where you're coming from and wasn't having a go at you lol

We haven't soft swapped for quite a while now but if we really liked a couple and that's what they did, then that's what we'd do and wouldn't dream of pressuring them to do otherwise. Everybody is different and I'm glad you've found what works best for you as have we. For instance some like separate rooms but that's definitely not for us as we love to see each other enjoying themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nice to see some different opinions which should be helpful to the OP I guess we have our own take on swinging, to us it's not about swapping partners in the main, that's frankly to us very boring, it's about 3, 4 or more people embroiled in sexual play, having fun sometimes doing things that are physically impossible for us to do on our own, spit roast: 2 girl, 1 cock etc etc, if your having fun you are having fun, we never ever play with couples that are kinda oh your soft swing mmm oh can't we full swap? Have in the past and frankly it's been not great, so we still go with the soft swing first time and if the other people are happy with that we get a sense it's not just about fucking someone else

Long I know sorry.....

We don't just full swap, we soft swing first time

Totally understand where you're coming from and wasn't having a go at you lol

We haven't soft swapped for quite a while now but if we really liked a couple and that's what they did, then that's what we'd do and wouldn't dream of pressuring them to do otherwise. Everybody is different and I'm glad you've found what works best for you as have we. For instance some like separate rooms but that's definitely not for us as we love to see each other enjoying themselves

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Didn't think you were, honest, just trying to give different perspectives, I guess you fall into the full swap but not a holes the goal group, good on you, yep separate room never got that, but each to there own eh

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By *anfiona2Couple
over a year ago

ramsgate


"Nice to see some different opinions which should be helpful to the OP I guess we have our own take on swinging, to us it's not about swapping partners in the main, that's frankly to us very boring, it's about 3, 4 or more people embroiled in sexual play, having fun sometimes doing things that are physically impossible for us to do on our own, spit roast: 2 girl, 1 cock etc etc, if your having fun you are having fun, we never ever play with couples that are kinda oh your soft swing mmm oh can't we full swap? Have in the past and frankly it's been not great, so we still go with the soft swing first time and if the other people are happy with that we get a sense it's not just about fucking someone else

Long I know sorry.....

We don't just full swap, we soft swing first time

Totally understand where you're coming from and wasn't having a go at you lol

We haven't soft swapped for quite a while now but if we really liked a couple and that's what they did, then that's what we'd do and wouldn't dream of pressuring them to do otherwise. Everybody is different and I'm glad you've found what works best for you as have we. For instance some like separate rooms but that's definitely not for us as we love to see each other enjoying themselves

Didn't think you were, honest, just trying to give different perspectives, I guess you fall into the full swap but not a holes the goal group, good on you, yep separate room never got that, but each to there own eh "

It's a good group to be in lol

And definitely, it'd be boring if we were all the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we began as soft swap with couples only - this was because we wern't sure how we would feel about seeing each other with other people - we moved onto single fems quite easily and it was my not being sure about fully wanting another bloke that was the last hurdle - we knew with the right people it would happen and it did - this couple are now really good friends of ours - with us it was just a case of crossing the boundary and it happens now more than it doesnt -- but we still have to all 4 be happy or it stops - (never had to stop yet ) Sx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We like soft and full swap but in the same room, as we enjoy watching each other our advice is go for it it is a huge turn on and lots of fun xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well we took the plunge and after three years of soft swing we are now full.

Well Jools is anyway

A very horny night indeed.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Equality rules. Same rules for both. None of this 'she can do this, and he can't do that'. IF you're not comfortable with one partner doing something, then neither of you should do it.

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By *lassyDeviantsCouple
over a year ago

Kent

Stick with soft swap. Full swap will happen when it happens. It will just feel right when it does.

Xx

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By *ickeyandmouseCouple
over a year ago

nr Alicante

As someone else said it's down to your mindset! I feel oral sex is very intimate, just as penetration is, so if happy to do one then happy to do the other!

We started with full swap! It has never been a big issue with us. However if another couple prefer soft then that's what we do but it can feel there's something missing!

Mouse x

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

We started that way, happily soft-swung with other couples right from the start but Rose wanted to feel ready before she let another man fuck her. That took about 4 club visits and several soft-swing swaps. I looked over to see her rolling a condom onto the man she was with and getting into cowgirl position on him. She said afterwards she just felt ready for various reasons and it seemed the time to go for it, and she loved it. Once she'd done that, she wanted full swaps from then on, although we still soft-swing with couples who don't do the full thing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This thread is over a year old! How do you people find these things?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Equality rules. Same rules for both. None of this 'she can do this, and he can't do that'. IF you're not comfortable with one partner doing something, then neither of you should do it."

Well put, although I'm sure you need us to say that, moving on from our post from over a year ago on this thread, we are now happy to soft or full swap on the first meet as long as play is mutual, swinging is a journey, tastes, boundaries etc change xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hey Everyone,

We are relatively new to swinging and have only had same room sex with other couples and soft swing threesomes with other guys. We are looking to transition into full swing and we would love any advice you can offer. We emotionally feel really good about what we have done so far and would like to know if there is generally a big difference when you switch to full. We know it varies by person/couple, but we would feel more comfortable at least getting a sense of others’ experiences. Thanks for the help!! Xx

-Marc and Courtney

"

If we may suggest why not find a couple who are in a similar frame of mind who may also look to explore this. We wish you luck.

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By *ickeyandmouseCouple
over a year ago

nr Alicante


"

This thread is over a year old! How do you people find these things?! "

Subject came up at top of the list on the forum! Weird!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

This thread is over a year old! How do you people find these things?! "

Lol .... how did you get on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally i don't think there is any difference as whatever you do you are having a sexual encounter with someone other than your partner.

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By *piritsonfabCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Equality rules. Same rules for both. None of this 'she can do this, and he can't do that'. IF you're not comfortable with one partner doing something, then neither of you should do it."

One partner may not want to buy may be perfectly happy with the other doing so......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do like the idea of soft swinging, Either just with a couple or a few couples, I haven't got a partner but I find just kissing a fondling very exciting

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"

This thread is over a year old! How do you people find these things?!

Lol .... how did you get on? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Equality rules. Same rules for both. None of this 'she can do this, and he can't do that'. IF you're not comfortable with one partner doing something, then neither of you should do it."

We don't have the same rules but we are definetly equal.

I personally have no wish to play with anyone other than my husband. However i enjoy watching him have oral fun with other men. It works perfectly for us but if we both had to do the same things then it wouldn't work for us.

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By *awandOrderCouple
over a year ago

SW London


"Equality rules. Same rules for both. None of this 'she can do this, and he can't do that'. IF you're not comfortable with one partner doing something, then neither of you should do it.

We don't have the same rules but we are definetly equal.

I personally have no wish to play with anyone other than my husband. However i enjoy watching him have oral fun with other men. It works perfectly for us but if we both had to do the same things then it wouldn't work for us."

I would say equality for us is similar I that it is both of us have the equal opportunity to have and get the experience we want. Mr likes anal with other men, I don't .... T be considered equal, I would not have to, and he wouldn't make me. We should each have the opportunity to fulfill our desires, surely that is equality rather than shoehorning someone else's desires into your own

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By *ampasGrassCouple
over a year ago

London

Sounds like are a a bit similar to _eakcouple above on this.

We had felt happy with soft swap on our first few visits to clubs and had said to each other that we did not feel that we needed to necessarily move to full swap.

Having said that, we then started taking condoms with us to clubs just in case they were required - and sure enough that happened for Amy when we had an MMF on our next visit. It wasn't really planned, it just happened - she loved it and I (Dan) loved watching her loving it! Since then it has happened a few more times.

Everybody is different, but for us it is just another form of sex and no bigger deal than oral or any other way of getting intimate with somebody else's other half.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Equality rules. Same rules for both. None of this 'she can do this, and he can't do that'. IF you're not comfortable with one partner doing something, then neither of you should do it.

We don't have the same rules but we are definetly equal.

I personally have no wish to play with anyone other than my husband. However i enjoy watching him have oral fun with other men. It works perfectly for us but if we both had to do the same things then it wouldn't work for us.

I would say equality for us is similar I that it is both of us have the equal opportunity to have and get the experience we want. Mr likes anal with other men, I don't .... T be considered equal, I would not have to, and he wouldn't make me. We should each have the opportunity to fulfill our desires, surely that is equality rather than shoehorning someone else's desires into your own"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not something we have thought about, we are happy to do either and mix it up as we feel it's right or not.

As long as you are strong enough couple and have soft swing before, shouldn't be a problem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a single male, and to me it's up to the couple how comfortable they feel, I enjoy soft swing has much as full swing, so just do what you enjoy best and not to feel pressured to do anything you are not happy to do.

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