FabSwingers.com forum: Rude or not

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

question people... do you think after you have been talking to someone for a few messages and getting along but then send a face picture its ok to just stop replying and not reading any of the messages? or do you also think its really rude?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

they didn't fancy you... it happens.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

and actually, I think people should be adult to say that in a message and then block, as so many want to discuss it further.

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By *nsert user name hereMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Perhaps your an ugly fucker?

Seriously what's it matter? They decided there not for you time to move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's harsh but what be the point in them talking to you/you them if there's no mutual attraction?

The sooner you know there isn't any - the better, you can move on.

S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Afraid its wot i do but it does also state i do in my profile x

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

You need to grow a thicker skin.

It's happened to us and we just shrug our shoulders and carry on.

As much as you may not like it, you can't control other people and what they do.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

That's why I ask for a face pic early on. Not that it's all about looks of course lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's happened to us, sent face pictures and instantly blocked. Worrying if something on here is rude or not will drive you mad, if you feel it's rude then it is but what are you going to do about it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Perhaps your an ugly fucker?

Seriously what's it matter? They decided there not for you time to move on. "
smooth talkin bastard

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"That's why I ask for a face pic early on. Not that it's all about looks of course lol

It is for me I'm not here to get married. I like a man to be personable but I need to be attracted or it's not happening.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

aww I'm not bitching coz I'm some love struck puppy of out that's fine I just think its rude to not just send 1 more message saying "sorry not my type" of something then fine. I just thing its sooo rude for the sake of less than a minute.

I must be an ugly fucker as it seems to be happening a few times.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"aww I'm not bitching coz I'm some love struck puppy of out that's fine I just think its rude to not just send 1 more message saying "sorry not my type" of something then fine. I just thing its sooo rude for the sake of less than a minute.

I must be an ugly fucker as it seems to be happening a few times."

Nope! It doesn't mean that, it just means you aren't for them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must be an ugly fucker as it seems to be happening a few times."

beauty is in the eye of the beholder......you might not be everyone cup of tea!

Lucky for me Mrs Fox has bad eyesight hehe

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"question people... do you think after you have been talking to someone for a few messages and getting along but then send a face picture its ok to just stop replying and not reading any of the messages? or do you also think its really rude?"

i think if people are that fragile and worry over small stuff like this to give them angst and ulcers..... I hate to see how they deal with the big stuff in life....

is that a fair answer.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

HAHA

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By *utumnWoman
over a year ago

leeds

It's the reason I swap face pics before chatting, saves wasting anyones time in conversation if we don't fancy each other!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

We all have bad eye sight if you think your ugly hun, ur stunning.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Nah its not worrying, its more just I think about respect and manors really.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"We all have bad eye sight if you think your ugly hun, ur stunning."

It was the guy posting

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

I must be an ugly fucker as it seems to be happening a few times."

I think some people like to avoid the possibility of getting abuse after a knock-back (yes, it does happen!).

And others simply conduct themselves differently.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Nah its not worrying, its more just I think about respect and manors really. "

The usual rules don't apply here. Once you accept that you will have more time to concentrate on the important stuff like cake

I think it's incredibly rude that men message us who clearly haven't read our profile but it's water off a ducks back to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is covered in site FAQ's

http://www.fabswingers.com/articles/FAQ#noreply

Think about it though. Try and see the situation from the recipient's point of _iew. If you received a picture after chatting and really didn't fancy them, would you see any point continuing the conversation - considering what you're on this site for.

Here's a novel idea, why not send your face picture with your first message rather than further down the line.

Nobody is to everyone's taste, and let's be honest here, given the large proportion of men vs women on here, the ladies really can afford to be fussy.

Don't dwell on it. Suck it up and move on.

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

"Nah its not worrying, its more just I think about respect and manors really.

The usual rules don't apply here. Once you accept that you will have more time to concentrate on the important stuff like cake

I think it's incredibly rude that men message us who clearly haven't read our profile but it's water off a ducks back to me."

I WANT CAKE!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Some people are just not mature enough to do the thanks for the face pic but you're not our type conversation

The interent allows certain piss poor behaviours because of the anonymity of it

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Nah its not worrying, its more just I think about respect and manors really.

The usual rules don't apply here. Once you accept that you will have more time to concentrate on the important stuff like cake

I think it's incredibly rude that men message us who clearly haven't read our profile but it's water off a ducks back to me.

I WANT CAKE!!!

Then have cake! I can supply a slice of Victoria sponge with buttercream and cherry jam.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's why I ask for a face pic early on. Not that it's all about looks of course lol

It is for me I'm not here to get married. I like a man to be personable but I need to be attracted or it's not happening."

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We all have bad eye sight if you think your ugly hun, ur stunning.

It was the guy posting

I dont mind being called hun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people are just not mature enough to do the thanks for the face pic but you're not our type conversation

The interent allows certain piss poor behaviours because of the anonymity of it

damn right that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some people are just not mature enough to do the thanks for the face pic but you're not our type conversation

The interent allows certain piss poor behaviours because of the anonymity of it

It isn't piss poor behaviour to not tell someone you arent interested after seeing a face pic !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I must be an ugly fucker as it seems to be happening a few times."
send face pic with first message mate or it will keep happening and will happen even if you dnt! its the nature of the beast

but if you send first you wont have to worry abt it

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Some people are just not mature enough to do the thanks for the face pic but you're not our type conversation

The interent allows certain piss poor behaviours because of the anonymity of it

It isn't piss poor behaviour to not tell someone you arent interested after seeing a face pic !

I said certain behaviours

Its subjective really,it's what you personally perceive to be piss poor behaviour

None of the above bothers me in the slightest because its just the internet

It clearly bothers other people though

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I'd rather they just blocked me. At least if they block and/or avoid after a face pic without a definitive 'no thanks' you can tell yourself there is the slight chance that they've just changed their mind, recognise you and are being discreet or some other reason rather than just thinking you're a gopping munter.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd rather they just blocked me. At least if they block and/or avoid after a face pic without a definitive 'no thanks' you can tell yourself there is the slight chance that they've just changed their mind, recognise you and are being discreet or some other reason rather than just thinking you're a gopping munter. "
gopping munter chuckle chuckle chuckle

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

exchange pics on first message ..it saves wasted time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That is why many people state in their profile "please send a face pic in your first message"... if you don't do what they have asked and try and le your way on to their friends list just with your cheeky banter, then don't be surprised if you suddenly get the heave-ho when they find out you aren't even the right sex/too fat/too thin or blah blah blah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"and actually, I think people should be adult to say that in a message and then block, as so many want to discuss it further."

I agree. But equally people need to have a thick enough skin to not let something as tritrivial bother them.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover

I think some people like to avoid the possibility of getting abuse after a knock-back (yes, it does happen!).

And others simply conduct themselves differently."

I think that is a major reason for an instant block after the photo has been sent... So many are likely to come back with an abusive comment through spite.

Even though we claim we would be polite, that's just not the point: so many do make the abusive comeback comments that it better to do a pre-emptive block

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

" But equally people need to have a thick enough skin to not let something as tritrivial bother them. "

Indeed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's harsh but what be the point in them talking to you/you them if there's no mutual attraction?

The sooner you know there isn't any - the better, you can move on.

S x"

Well said x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not rude it's up to the person how they deal with it... that's why I always ask for a facepic first to avoid any disappointment lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nah its not worrying, its more just I think about respect and manors really.

The usual rules don't apply here. Once you accept that you will have more time to concentrate on the important stuff like cake

I think it's incredibly rude that men message us who clearly haven't read our profile but it's water off a ducks back to me."

Yer but that not all of us, I like to read a profile fully before messaging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Glad you liked ours then hunny, look forward to having a drink in the future ..

Kind Regards,

J&D

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have actually responded to a couple and directly stated to them that 1 as we are honest and 2 prefer to reply, rather than ignore someone (like many do) we are sorry but we feel that we would not have a connection with you.

They were awesome with their response, by actually thanking us for not ignoring their message and proceeded to wish us well. Lovely mannered couple that clearly are mature enough to accept rejection.

Lovely people, as far as we are concerned.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to remember that this is a swinging website. Obviously, personality does matter because you don't want to meet up with an asshole but it all comes down to looks. Since we aren't looking for relationships, we're allowed to base it mostly on looks

People could be more polite, but none of us are everyone's cup of tea and sometimes that offends people and causes a tift so it is just easier to block I guess

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