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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Weve tried messaging but got nowhere. It could be us going about it the wrong way... An suggestions or any girl out there wanting a chat?? Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Without knowing what your message content is, it's difficult to know what you're doing wrong. Increase your chances with a bit more info on your profile and some photo's. Then it's the usual nuggets of advice, go to social events, club nights etc.....network with others and the rewards will come in time.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We have private photos, purely because were playing it cautiously. We are polite in messages and explan that we are looking to chat then ultimately if all goes well have some fun. How would you put it? X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol its as hard to find single women or bi ones, like finding water in the desert

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

welcome

you have hardly mde an effort on your profile to sell yourself to a single female to come and join you...

effort in, rewards out...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You dont have to put face pics in public, but give some idea of what they could be getting from meeting you. Tell people about you, what you can offer, what's in it for the girl. Nothing is very appealing from whats on display at the moment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are some

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A lot on here seeking Unicorns, even some place profiles up as single females looking for other females, when in fact they have boyfriends/husbands. Rather deceitful really, but then again it goes to show what lengths people/couples will go to have that FFM experience.

PS, it's Awesome lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are one of thousands on here looking for a bi female so being honest you need to be aware that this is the case . The term bi women means they like men as well so most likely they have a partner who would want fun as well. Not sure this is what you want to hear but I hope it will help you understand the facts of looking for a bi female

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok. Thanks for feedback. We will have a think about extending our profile and what we can write thats appealing to those few out there!

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

As a single bi fem who does meet...

You say cannot accommodate and no explanation (I've found a few couples like this who are actually both married to other people) and some couples only want fem-fem play with a female so explain what you want clearly

Your profile tells me absolutely nothing, and no images would be a definite no.

Sell yourselves a bit better, and what you hope to get out of a meet, and what you offer.

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By *osieWoman
over a year ago

Wembley


"Weve tried messaging but got nowhere. It could be us going about it the wrong way... An suggestions or any girl out there wanting a chat?? Xx"

3 weeks on here; no photographs, no verifications, one line profile; seeking the most sought after group in the 'swinging' world. Good luck

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Ok. Thanks for feedback. We will have a think about extending our profile and what we can write thats appealing to those few out there! "

looking better already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol,the holy grail mmmm

We been here ages but now have a single fem coming along on meets with and playing with us and another that wants to meet asap lucky or what !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight woman here looking for a ffm for her and her partner. Not easy to find straight women for this either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No public photos so instant delete. Plenty of couples on here to chose from with pics.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Profile has been ajusted slightly with more info after your suggestions. Fingers crossed we may get some more chats thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No public photos so instant delete. Plenty of couples on here to chose from with pics."

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"Profile has been ajusted slightly with more info after your suggestions. Fingers crossed we may get some more chats thanks"

The line especially the girl-girl part of it would be an instant delete from me... reads like you want a show for the guy and that its all about fem-fem, not a 3sum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's all been said before, don't try to hard, there's a few out there! If they are interested, they will let you know!

Your profile, needs a little work, no offence, pictures of you both will help, not just the lady.The hardest part is finding a lady, who finds both halves of the couple attractive.

Put yourself in their shoes, it can be quite daunting joining, an established couple. Unfortunately there's a few females who will insist they desire a woman... When in reality it's a little titillation, they seek for their partners. So Single fems also have the task of... Weedleing out the wheat from the chaff so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

No offence taken! Were happy with suggestions and will talk about photos it is a hard site to know whos real and whos not, plus being completely new to the scene any guidance is a bonus! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a single bi fem who does meet...

You say cannot accommodate and no explanation (I've found a few couples like this who are actually both married to other people) and some couples only want fem-fem play with a female so explain what you want clearly

Your profile tells me absolutely nothing, and no images would be a definite no.

Sell yourselves a bit better, and what you hope to get out of a meet, and what you offer."

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

You will also find it harder to get meets without being Meeting in Person Verified, so perhaps it's worth thinking about going to a club to get to know people and get verified as genuine that way first?

You will find that people often don't really consider cam veris as being much of an indicator that people are genuine.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Maybe a club is the way to go. We hadnt considered that but if it helps then could be an option x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The usual we have a fantasy let's go on a swingers site there's bound to be loads there that will play with us, lolwe have the odd FFM threesome but never get as much out of it than a FFMM 2 cocks to play with rather than one, can't see why any lady would be interested in your profile at all and to be frank if you did get a meet would the lady in your relationship suddenly not be free "oh she's not well bit can we just play?" Blah blah blah lol

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By *alandriaTV/TS
over a year ago

Nottingham

Plus you say you can't accom. Makes it a lot harder for the girl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

consider to meet a couple with a bi-female. much easier to find.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Its difficult to accomodate with family, thats just our situation. We have put that on the profile but not alot else we can say about it :-/

Also, we would never play alone. Maybe that should be on our profile too x

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"Its difficult to accomodate with family, thats just our situation. We have put that on the profile but not alot else we can say about it :-/

Also, we would never play alone. Maybe that should be on our profile too x"

Perhaps think about meeting at a club, or offering to share/pay for a hotel?

Also, if you are bi-curious, and the other lady is bi-curious only too, it may be harder to get going (or one or the other might decide its actually not for them). Perhaps widen it to appeal to bi females too, who are sure of their preferences?

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

I didn't see your profile before, but it looks ok: well structured with a brief description on who you are, but add some pics as others have suggested. They don't have to be too explicit - torso and bum shots are good. Also, it maybe a good idea to make it a bit more clear with whom the bi lady will be playing with - just the lady or both of you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pics, pics, pics, pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The usual we have a fantasy let's go on a swingers site there's bound to be loads there that will play with us, lolwe have the odd FFM threesome but never get as much out of it than a FFMM 2 cocks to play with rather than one, can't see why any lady would be interested in your profile at all and to be frank if you did get a meet would the lady in your relationship suddenly not be free "oh she's not well bit can we just play?" Blah blah blah lol"

That's a bit mean.

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

Instant no from me without photos. I also need an interesting first message to capture my imagination so be sure to read profiles before sending messages out - instant deletes are sometimes hurtful and disheartening. There's nothing better for me than a MFF - except for an exceptional one on one - but then I'm very greedy. Good luck. We're here but we're as picky as you are for all the same reasons

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The usual we have a fantasy let's go on a swingers site there's bound to be loads there that will play with us, lolwe have the odd FFM threesome but never get as much out of it than a FFMM 2 cocks to play with rather than one, can't see why any lady would be interested in your profile at all and to be frank if you did get a meet would the lady in your relationship suddenly not be free "oh she's not well bit can we just play?" Blah blah blah lol

That's a bit mean. "

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
Forum Mod
over a year ago


"The usual we have a fantasy let's go on a swingers site there's bound to be loads there that will play with us, lolwe have the odd FFM threesome but never get as much out of it than a FFMM 2 cocks to play with rather than one, can't see why any lady would be interested in your profile at all and to be frank if you did get a meet would the lady in your relationship suddenly not be free "oh she's not well bit can we just play?" Blah blah blah lol"

Considering you run newbie nights to make newbies feel welcome this post is a complete oxymoron of what you seem to promote

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bi single woman are everywhere, you just have to know where to look. What they are not doing is sitting at home waiting for your message.

Get to clubs, socials, parties, or and about in your local town, start clubbing in major cities, go to cap d agde.

Never had a problem finding single bi girls.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The usual we have a fantasy let's go on a swingers site there's bound to be loads there that will play with us, lolwe have the odd FFM threesome but never get as much out of it than a FFMM 2 cocks to play with rather than one, can't see why any lady would be interested in your profile at all and to be frank if you did get a meet would the lady in your relationship suddenly not be free "oh she's not well bit can we just play?" Blah blah blah lol

That's a bit mean.

I agree "

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"The usual we have a fantasy let's go on a swingers site there's bound to be loads there that will play with us, lolwe have the odd FFM threesome but never get as much out of it than a FFMM 2 cocks to play with rather than one, can't see why any lady would be interested in your profile at all and to be frank if you did get a meet would the lady in your relationship suddenly not be free "oh she's not well bit can we just play?" Blah blah blah lol

That's a bit mean. "

Mean, assumptive, and pointless.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oops, I would really like to meet a couple on here, but... big but ... For me and in my experience they do not make enough effort.. Send a wink with a very small message and that's it.. I would have thought a little effort would go into it as it's such a big share.. That then makes me think, it is always the man messaging and not the good half... ?? x

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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I like an MFF but prefer them with two people I already know (either a couple or two singles) or have met through playing friends. I'm no expert in them and the idea of being the extra to a couple's dynamic when they're also fairly new to this is too daunting for me to want to do it. I have enjoyed MFMFs with plenty of girl on girl and girls sharing each guy as well and if you're not ready for that then maybe an MFMF soft swing with a bi-curious or bi MF couple might be a way to go. It's also a good start to building those real life networks and connections that will give you a better chance of the elusive MFF.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

We both send ou messages, although very similar in what we say. We never do one liners, no point as. Believe if it was the other way round i wouldnt bother replying either!!


"oops, I would really like to meet a couple on here, but... big but ... For me and in my experience they do not make enough effort.. Send a wink with a very small message and that's it.. I would have thought a little effort would go into it as it's such a big share.. That then makes me think, it is always the man messaging and not the good half... ?? x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The usual we have a fantasy let's go on a swingers site there's bound to be loads there that will play with us, lolwe have the odd FFM threesome but never get as much out of it than a FFMM 2 cocks to play with rather than one, can't see why any lady would be interested in your profile at all and to be frank if you did get a meet would the lady in your relationship suddenly not be free "oh she's not well bit can we just play?" Blah blah blah lol

That's a bit mean.

I agree "

Agree it was very mean we were hoping to get a little more incite and reaction from the OP in there thinking and yes we run newbie night and yes they were mailed to have a look at our profile and the details before, you can lead a horse to water

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll be honest; what puts me off is the bi-curious bit. I prefer people who have definitely decided they're bi. It's daunting enough thinking of meeting a couple never mind the thought of someone deciding it's not for them in the middle of playing! (That may just be me though)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The usual we have a fantasy let's go on a swingers site there's bound to be loads there that will play with us, lolwe have the odd FFM threesome but never get as much out of it than a FFMM 2 cocks to play with rather than one, can't see why any lady would be interested in your profile at all and to be frank if you did get a meet would the lady in your relationship suddenly not be free "oh she's not well bit can we just play?" Blah blah blah lol

That's a bit mean.

I agree

Agree it was very mean we were hoping to get a little more incite and reaction from the OP in there thinking and yes we run newbie night and yes they were mailed to have a look at our profile and the details before, you can lead a horse to water "

Could you not just have asked instead of being mean?? Op... Although it's a bit daunting do try and get out and about like previous posters have said.... An awful lot gets lost in text!! Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll be honest; what puts me off is the bi-curious bit. I prefer people who have definitely decided they're bi. It's daunting enough thinking of meeting a couple never mind the thought of someone deciding it's not for them in the middle of playing! (That may just be me though)"

My thoughts too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The usual we have a fantasy let's go on a swingers site there's bound to be loads there that will play with us, lolwe have the odd FFM threesome but never get as much out of it than a FFMM 2 cocks to play with rather than one, can't see why any lady would be interested in your profile at all and to be frank if you did get a meet would the lady in your relationship suddenly not be free "oh she's not well bit can we just play?" Blah blah blah lol

That's a bit mean.

I agree

Agree it was very mean we were hoping to get a little more incite and reaction from the OP in there thinking and yes we run newbie night and yes they were mailed to have a look at our profile and the details before, you can lead a horse to water

Could you not just have asked instead of being mean?? Op... Although it's a bit daunting do try and get out and about like previous posters have said.... An awful lot gets lost in text!! Good luck "

I did message them re getting out and about but got no reply, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink from the furry cup lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'll be honest; what puts me off is the bi-curious bit. I prefer people who have definitely decided they're bi. It's daunting enough thinking of meeting a couple never mind the thought of someone deciding it's not for them in the middle of playing! (That may just be me though)

My thoughts too... "

I'm less likely to play with a bi curious woman, but I wouldn't discount altogether. If there's enough rapport between us then there's always the chance of that lovely feeling when she totally lets go gets into it. It's a fucking incredible thing. Love it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The usual we have a fantasy let's go on a swingers site there's bound to be loads there that will play with us, lolwe have the odd FFM threesome but never get as much out of it than a FFMM 2 cocks to play with rather than one, can't see why any lady would be interested in your profile at all and to be frank if you did get a meet would the lady in your relationship suddenly not be free "oh she's not well bit can we just play?" Blah blah blah lol

That's a bit mean.

I agree

Agree it was very mean we were hoping to get a little more incite and reaction from the OP in there thinking and yes we run newbie night and yes they were mailed to have a look at our profile and the details before, you can lead a horse to water

Could you not just have asked instead of being mean?? Op... Although it's a bit daunting do try and get out and about like previous posters have said.... An awful lot gets lost in text!! Good luck

I did message them re getting out and about but got no reply, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink from the furry cup lol "

Just because they didn't get back to you doesn't mean you have to slate them on here though does it?? Maybe they were having a think about it!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nevermind perhaps they deleted the message and wink by mistake x

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By *eithoWoman
over a year ago

Chatham


"I'll be honest; what puts me off is the bi-curious bit. I prefer people who have definitely decided they're bi. It's daunting enough thinking of meeting a couple never mind the thought of someone deciding it's not for them in the middle of playing! (That may just be me though)"

This puts me off too. Many people try things and don't like them and I'd hate to be in a situation where she suddenly realises it's not for her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The usual we have a fantasy let's go on a swingers site there's bound to be loads there that will play with us, lolwe have the odd FFM threesome but never get as much out of it than a FFMM 2 cocks to play with rather than one, can't see why any lady would be interested in your profile at all and to be frank if you did get a meet would the lady in your relationship suddenly not be free "oh she's not well bit can we just play?" Blah blah blah lol

That's a bit mean.

I agree

Agree it was very mean we were hoping to get a little more incite and reaction from the OP in there thinking and yes we run newbie night and yes they were mailed to have a look at our profile and the details before, you can lead a horse to water

Could you not just have asked instead of being mean?? Op... Although it's a bit daunting do try and get out and about like previous posters have said.... An awful lot gets lost in text!! Good luck

I did message them re getting out and about but got no reply, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink from the furry cup lol "

No, you cant lead a horse to water, nor can you make it drink, as someone on here found out last night.

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By *apillonNoirWoman
over a year ago

There...

I need a description different to bi-curious or bi- sexual - something inbetween probably! I adore women but adore men more. My favourite combination is MFF - I'm totally unable to multi task for MMF. Joining a confident and secure couple where I can interact on an equal level with both is perfect but hard to find. I guess that's where a social meet works for me as we can all suss out what we're after and whether we may be a good 'fit'. Labels can be misleading at the best of times...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm genuinely Bi - (have had partners on both sides) - and would love to find a nice couple with a genuinely Bi fem half - but they just don't seem to exist on here.

At best, couple on here seem to include a fem half who is only slightly bi - she just wants to play at it a little - and that's not what I'm looking for!

It isn't about the sex, it's about how we get on - and a bi-playful woman is very, very different from a bi-sexual one...

I'll probably get shot down for saying it, but I'm just past caring - past even looking...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"The usual we have a fantasy let's go on a swingers site there's bound to be loads there that will play with us, lolwe have the odd FFM threesome but never get as much out of it than a FFMM 2 cocks to play with rather than one, can't see why any lady would be interested in your profile at all and to be frank if you did get a meet would the lady in your relationship suddenly not be free "oh she's not well bit can we just play?" Blah blah blah lol

That's a bit mean.

I agree

Agree it was very mean we were hoping to get a little more incite and reaction from the OP in there thinking and yes we run newbie night and yes they were mailed to have a look at our profile and the details before, you can lead a horse to water

Could you not just have asked instead of being mean?? Op... Although it's a bit daunting do try and get out and about like previous posters have said.... An awful lot gets lost in text!! Good luck

I did message them re getting out and about but got no reply, you can lead a horse to water but you can't make it drink from the furry cup lol "

Can honestly say I can't remember getting that one. Send us some details and we'll have a look.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm genuinely Bi - (have had partners on both sides) - and would love to find a nice couple with a genuinely Bi fem half - but they just don't seem to exist on here.

At best, couple on here seem to include a fem half who is only slightly bi - she just wants to play at it a little - and that's not what I'm looking for!

It isn't about the sex, it's about how we get on - and a bi-playful woman is very, very different from a bi-sexual one...

I'll probably get shot down for saying it, but I'm just past caring - past even looking...

"

lol I'm bi sexual not bi curious or bi playful I'm bi sexual I love playing with another lady the intimacy the feel everything and I'm not doing it to please my guy x

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich


"lol its as hard to find single women or bi ones, like finding water in the desert "

There was some German guy that years before the outbreak of WW2 buried thousands of gallons of water at various places in the desert...

Not sure if thats at all helpfull,or indeed how ..

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By *isexmistressWoman
over a year ago

Prestwich

Pics would be a HUGE help.. i appreciate you being cautious but you have boobs,bum,torsos etc...

get creative ...

Also being on here 10 minutes ( 3 weeks) really isnt long,so you need be patient..

and , have you thought about cam?Masked..below neck... will help you get chatting with geniune types plus people can see if you have a sense of humour,are interesting and thus worth their time..

Remember, those single Unicorns can pick whoever makes the best effort,that they are attracted to..

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By *ashes83Couple
over a year ago

wirral

There are so many couples looking for a bi fem playmate.

We have struggled aswell but I've had some lovely conversations and lots of advice after sending a friendly message explaining a little about ourselves and what we like.

They can pick and choose with lots of interest coming there way from males, females and couples.

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester


"Maybe a club is the way to go. We hadnt considered that but if it helps then could be an option x"

I was going to suggest this. Go to a club, socialise, get to know a few people. Meet with other couples? Then there's more chance of finding what you want. Single girls feel safer in a club environment and will be aware of the couples around her. They're not always there for the single guys.

Enjoy the swinging scene and the rest will happen. My OH thought he'd died and gone to heaven when he had his first fmf and he was glad we were bi so it took the pressure off him! Lol.

Good luck. X

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I'm genuinely Bi - (have had partners on both sides) - and would love to find a nice couple with a genuinely Bi fem half - but they just don't seem to exist on here.

At best, couple on here seem to include a fem half who is only slightly bi - she just wants to play at it a little - and that's not what I'm looking for!

"

Have to disagree with this. There are loads of lovely couples with genuinely bi fem halves on here. We've met a few ourselves, and we aren't even looking for them.

It sounds more like you've just been unlucky with who you've met, rather than the actuality of Fab. Selection process is very important here, as we all know. You seem to have had lots of meets, so maybe it's how you are searching for them, rather than who is around?

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