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By *randMrsHorny24 OP Couple
over a year ago

South wales

Why are people in the forums so clicky

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Why are people in the forums so clicky "

its human nature. Join in and don't concern yourself with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

actually there are some very nice friendly people in the forum.

share a joke don't take things seriously(or yourself) n you,ll soon see most folk on here aint as cliquey as you think

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By *randMrsHorny24 OP Couple
over a year ago

South wales

I do join in but they just ignore my post and go to the nxt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do join in but they just ignore my post and go to the nxt "

This happens quite a lot

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By *randMrsHorny24 OP Couple
over a year ago

South wales

It's quite rude

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I do join in but they just ignore my post and go to the nxt "

it happens to me all the time. I post something and its ignored but further down the page someone else says exactly the same thing and it gets loads of responses.

You have to realise that is the nature of things in forums and if it bothers you you will be unhappy here.

I have been on the forums for a long time and still consider myself to be on the fringes but I'm ok with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know. I'll tell you when I get the PM from the clique-master telling us all what the official line is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do join in but they just ignore my post and go to the nxt "

did you just ignore what I said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do join in but they just ignore my post and go to the nxt "

Maybe your post was boring?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It's quite rude "

maybe or maybe people just read the couple of posts above theirs and don't see yours

You have responses here but you aren't replying in a very friendly way, could that be part of it?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I do join in but they just ignore my post and go to the nxt

did you just ignore what I said

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By *randMrsHorny24 OP Couple
over a year ago

South wales

No I didn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We haven't really found them to be clicky there is plenty of differing opinions which we love to get involved in. Nothing wrong with a good old debate lol

Stick at it guys & we hope it gets better for you!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"No I didn't

if you click on "reply+quote" we can see who you're responding to

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By *randMrsHorny24 OP Couple
over a year ago

South wales

"We haven't really found them to be clicky there is plenty of differing opinions which we love to get involved in. Nothing wrong with a good old debate lol

Stick at it guys & we hope it gets better for you!"
thnx both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We haven't really found them to be clicky there is plenty of differing opinions which we love to get involved in. Nothing wrong with a good old debate lol

I think a lot comes down to the attitude of the poster. Some get stuck in, others seem to think they deserve a fanfare and crave attention and acceptance

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By *randMrsHorny24 OP Couple
over a year ago

South wales

"No I didn't

if you click on "reply+quote" we can see who you're responding to "
I've done that a few times

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

[Removed by poster at 12/02/15 12:10:56]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you mean cliquey? Or are you concerned with the amount of mouse clicks required on this site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I didn't

if you click on "reply+quote" we can see who you're responding to "

it was me,,your not part of the clique

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

some people reply to my posts.....

some people dont.....

such is like.......

but it does feel that sometimes people take offence for the sake of offence rather than something actually being there.....

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"No I didn't

if you click on "reply+quote" we can see who you're responding to

it was me,,your not part of the clique

I wouldn't want to be part of any clique that would have me in it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do join in but they just ignore my post and go to the nxt "

Say something more interesting next time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"some people reply to my posts.....

some people dont.....

such is like.......

but it does feel that sometimes people take offence for the sake of offence rather than something actually being there....."

you seem like a laid back chappie.

like ya say some folk just like to be offended.

txt speak can confuse though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you're post is ignored never mind it generally means you've made a very valid point or hit a raw nerve!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I didn't

if you click on "reply+quote" we can see who you're responding to

it was me,,your not part of the clique

I wouldn't want to be part of any clique that would have me in it

nooooooooooo not letting you in

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

If you are on about the kiss fuck pass type threads they move so quickly (lord knows why) that half the time people are responding to the wrong people and posts get lost.

I often comment and get no replies or further comment. Don't take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are people in the forums so clicky "

Just ignore it. There's always going to be good and bad x

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By *randMrsHorny24 OP Couple
over a year ago

South wales

"If you are on about the kiss fuck pass type threads they move so quickly (lord knows why) that half the time people are responding to the wrong people and posts get lost.

I often comment and get no replies or further comment. Don't take it personally. "

Yeh that's happened a few times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One persons clique is another persons group of people they have interacted with before that all.

Now get out of our forum!!!!!!

(only joking as we are not in any clique)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes you will find bad ones as some don't like certain topics or replies, just ignore them, the majority is fine

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I do join in but they just ignore my post and go to the nxt "

that's happening on this thread, I'm not in the least upset by it but you have ignored all but one of my posts, probably because you don't have a reply or see no need to respond or some other reason but that is what's happening to you elsewhere.....just join in and enjoy

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By *randMrsHorny24 OP Couple
over a year ago

South wales

"I do join in but they just ignore my post and go to the nxt

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I will thnx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get a grip jeeze.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley

"Why are people in the forums so clicky "

It's cliquey by the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a bit of fun. Nothing to over think about really. Try to enjoy it!

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Everyone can have a post that is ignored. I've had plenty. Some long posts that I put a fair bit of work into. It's not the end of the world.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

"Everyone can have a post that is ignored. I've had plenty. Some long posts that I put a fair bit of work into. It's not the end of the world.

Oh but it is - didn't you know? I met this guy in town today in a black suit (so he must be right) carrying a sign that said the end of the world is nigh.

Clearly we all need to start having end of the world orgies.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"Everyone can have a post that is ignored. I've had plenty. Some long posts that I put a fair bit of work into. It's not the end of the world.

Oh but it is - didn't you know? I met this guy in town today in a black suit (so he must be right) carrying a sign that said the end of the world is nigh.

Clearly we all need to start having end of the world orgies.

Can he postpone it till the end of May, as I'm performing then

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By *awty MaxWoman
over a year ago

Edinburgh

"Why are people in the forums so clicky

its human nature. Join in and don't concern yourself with it

I just say what I want to say on the subject. If my post is not commented on, it is not a big deal. I consider I have contributed to the thread my way.

Ok, may be am ignored sometimes cos my English didnt make sense lol... Just kidding, i make sense most times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Where is this clique and how do I join it?

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

"Where is this clique and how do I join it?"

Platinum members only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do join in but they just ignore my post and go to the nxt "

You might just be unlucky. Lots of people might give a thumbs up or 'Like' your posts but there's no facility for that really, so you won't know unless people quote your post in a reply. Don't take it personally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do join in but they just ignore my post and go to the nxt

did you just ignore what I said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why are people in the forums so clicky "

Try turning the sound down, most of the forum users are knocking on a bit and have joint problems but Personally I find the clicking adds to the ambience!

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"Why are people in the forums so clicky "

look back 6 months, a year, 18 months, 2 years...... posters come and go...

it is what you make it

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"I do join in but they just ignore my post and go to the nxt

it happens to me all the time. I post something and its ignored but further down the page someone else says exactly the same thing and it gets loads of responses.

You have to realise that is the nature of things in forums and if it bothers you you will be unhappy here.

I have been on the forums for a long time and still consider myself to be on the fringes but I'm ok with that

likewise!

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

"Why are people in the forums so clicky

Try turning the sound down, most of the forum users are knocking on a bit and have joint problems but Personally I find the clicking adds to the ambience!"

lol

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia

Just carry on... Do ya own thing regardless!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do join in but they just ignore my post and go to the nxt

it happens to me all the time. I post something and its ignored but further down the page someone else says exactly the same thing and it gets loads of responses.

You have to realise that is the nature of things in forums and if it bothers you you will be unhappy here.

I have been on the forums for a long time and still consider myself to be on the fringes but I'm ok with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I do join in but they just ignore my post and go to the nxt

Maybe your post was boring? "

my posts are always boring, but I still keep doing it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are on about the kiss fuck pass type threads they move so quickly (lord knows why) that half the time people are responding to the wrong people and posts get lost.

I often comment and get no replies or further comment. Don't take it personally. "

Christ, I don't even open those threads. I have been posting for a few months and often don't receive any direct responses to my posts, it depends if you say something worth replying too. I must admit I sometimes kill threads with a post, I like to think it was because it was so erudite and spot on there was no more to add

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We haven't really found them to be clicky there is plenty of differing opinions which we love to get involved in. Nothing wrong with a good old debate lol

Nothing better than a good Mass Debate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having been on and off fab for over 3 years now , we can totally understand the ops frustration .

Over the years we have tried to become a part of the clique , and but for a few exceptions had no joy at all .

What we consider to be valid points are Iignored or treated with disdain . This often leads to certain amount of frustration ( or at least it used to ) and we served a fair few bans for pointing out obvious discrepancies ( as we saw it ) .

More recently we don't come on as often as we used to , and to be honest don't really care so much as to whether we ''belong'' . We say our piece and often leave it at that .

By not expecting any response to our thoughts it removes the angst as to whether we made a good point or not .

If we think it was worth commenting on a post that's all that matters now

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By *erbyDalesCplCouple
over a year ago

Derbyshire

"Why are people in the forums so clicky

I do join in but they just ignore my post and go to the nxt "

It can look like that at first.

Without visual clues and facial expressions it is so easy to mis-read posts and upset people, so often people stick to others they know, and who get their particular sense of humour.

If you persevere, eventually people will get to know you better and accept you. (Imagine walking up, as a total stranger, to a group of good friends in the pub and trying to join in their conversation.)

They're not a clique, they just don't know you yet.

I have had my fair share of threads that sank without trace, but you can't beat the warm feeling you get when some of the regulars post replies.

Keep at it, don't worry about it, and have fun.

Mr ddc

Ps I have also learnt to use those smiley things to give a clue about my facial expression. Though I don't know which to use for my rare serious posts!

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