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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My husband loves nothing more than to serve me, in any way I choose.

But, I find it hard to be 'dominating' without being aggressive/nasty which just isnt me and is so obviously fake and hard to act.

This isnt a new scene, I have dommed him for the past few years, (we have been married 10) and is always an aspect of this that I have struggled with.

How can I be more forceful in a more natural way if that makes sense?

Any advice would be welcomed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My husband loves nothing more than to serve me, in any way I choose.

But, I find it hard to be 'dominating' without being aggressive/nasty which just isnt me and is so obviously fake and hard to act.

This isnt a new scene, I have dommed him for the past few years, (we have been married 10) and is always an aspect of this that I have struggled with.

How can I be more forceful in a more natural way if that makes sense?

Any advice would be welcomed

"

Forced feminisation. Make him dress up like a girl, then you can have a nice non aggressive girls day out shopping and buying shoes you can dom him into taking his money with him

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for that, but its purely an at home thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi there - is it just Domming your husband that you have difficulty with or any guys? One thing you could try is taking some time to write down some scenarios / role plays that turn you on and that involve you dominating him. If you are short of ideas there are loads on the www to give you food for thought. Then when you want to play you can choose one and systematically work your way through the scenario. You wouldn't have to worry about making it up as you go as you'd have a plan to work to. It might also be quite erotic investigating ideas and playing them out in your mind. No idea if that helps but hope you have loads of fun. Xx rod

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for that, but its purely an at home thing.

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I was just having a wee bit of banter. Have you tried various chastity devices? Hot wax, paper bags, breath play and foot worship? Are you totally in control and will he do just about anything you say? You could experiment with finger sized ice poles and hot tea bags too. Just a few kinky ideas if he's completely at your submission .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I dont have an issue with domming perse, Its not high on my list but I do it as I know he likes it.

All the stuff ive watched has the fem humiliating their sub, and Im not into that at all.

Like the idea of writing some scenarios, kind of a plan in my head, might look into that more, thanks

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yeah he has been in chasity, for a few weeks at the most.

Hot wax is a good idea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If he likes to serve you maybe try out the goddess fem?

Basically he worships you, you don't have to be nasty but you let him treat you like a princess, he serves you without prompting. And you could add some rudeness into it if you wanted, like tell him to hurry up or his brew is shit, little things like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yeah he has been in chasity, for a few weeks at the most.

Hot wax is a good idea!

"

It's very sexy too. Stick a paper bag over his head too, draw a face on it. You might find it easier to fall into it more easily if he becomes almost anonymous and faceless. Then it's not about you and him, it's about you dominating a faceless, worthless, obedient sub. Also, from experience a nearby shoe horn makes an excellent spanking paddle. It's not too painful but it makes a VERY satisfying sound

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm sure you'll have great fun exploring different ideas. You could even involve him and get him to rank them in order of what he thinks will be most fun or most painful / humiliating. Then you can choose which end of the list you start from depending on whether he has been good or pleased you or how you are feeling. This is making me horny just thinking about it LoL

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hmm thats an aspect I could work... he has mentioned about me making him do chores etc whilst collared.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well that could be a great way of having a spotless house, have your feet up and relax as well as feeling horny at the same time. Happy to chat more if you want as I have been Both Dom and sub in the past. Hope you have loads of fun. Rod

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought this post was about the female condom!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmm thats an aspect I could work... he has mentioned about me making him do chores etc whilst collared. "

yeah get him to do chores. moan about the way he does it as well, think of some stuff as punishment for when he does a bad job. lick your finger and wipe it across stuff like those women off the house cleaning programme and mention it's still dirty, bet he'd love that.

basically you've got to look at him as someone else when subbing, especially if you love him, because they do enjoy being treated like shit and i find it hard as well to be nasty to someone i love.

you could tease him as well, when he's worshipping your feet don't let him look at your pussy, wear no knickers and tell him you aren't wearing any and he isn't allowed to look. even if he doesn't look ask him if he did, say you're sure he did and make him sit in the corner for being a bad boy.

ask him if you have a nice ass, turn round and shove it right in his face and when he says yes mistress tell him yeah it is, ask him if he wants to touch it, he'll say yes to that too, then tell him he can't because he's a worthless man and isn't worthy of touching your beautiful ass. big yourself up around him and make out you're better than him. then make him wank for you.

and that's my afternoon sorted for tomorrow haha.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dont have an issue with domming perse, Its not high on my list but I do it as I know he likes it.

All the stuff ive watched has the fem humiliating their sub, and Im not into that at all.

Like the idea of writing some scenarios, kind of a plan in my head, might look into that more, thanks "

It doesn't have to be about humiliation at all. Does he like to be teased? Do you feel Domme towards him? I don't think you can force it.

Feel empowered rather than mean, if that makes sense. You don't need to tie him up to make him submit. If you feel Domme he will sense it and do what you want.

Think about what you like about it and concentrate on that more. Rather than what you don't like about it.

Just some ideas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I notice you are into cuckolding as one of your interests - maybe there's a way to combine your femdom ideas with the humiliation of cuckolding him too?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmm thats an aspect I could work... he has mentioned about me making him do chores etc whilst collared.

yeah get him to do chores. moan about the way he does it as well, think of some stuff as punishment for when he does a bad job. lick your finger and wipe it across stuff like those women off the house cleaning programme and mention it's still dirty, bet he'd love that.

basically you've got to look at him as someone else when subbing, especially if you love him, because they do enjoy being treated like shit and i find it hard as well to be nasty to someone i love.

you could tease him as well, when he's worshipping your feet don't let him look at your pussy, wear no knickers and tell him you aren't wearing any and he isn't allowed to look. even if he doesn't look ask him if he did, say you're sure he did and make him sit in the corner for being a bad boy.

ask him if you have a nice ass, turn round and shove it right in his face and when he says yes mistress tell him yeah it is, ask him if he wants to touch it, he'll say yes to that too, then tell him he can't because he's a worthless man and isn't worthy of touching your beautiful ass. big yourself up around him and make out you're better than him. then make him wank for you.

and that's my afternoon sorted for tomorrow haha."

Thanks for that, I've spent the best part of the night getting rid of my hard on and you've just given me another

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hmm thats an aspect I could work... he has mentioned about me making him do chores etc whilst collared.

yeah get him to do chores. moan about the way he does it as well, think of some stuff as punishment for when he does a bad job. lick your finger and wipe it across stuff like those women off the house cleaning programme and mention it's still dirty, bet he'd love that.

basically you've got to look at him as someone else when subbing, especially if you love him, because they do enjoy being treated like shit and i find it hard as well to be nasty to someone i love.

you could tease him as well, when he's worshipping your feet don't let him look at your pussy, wear no knickers and tell him you aren't wearing any and he isn't allowed to look. even if he doesn't look ask him if he did, say you're sure he did and make him sit in the corner for being a bad boy.

ask him if you have a nice ass, turn round and shove it right in his face and when he says yes mistress tell him yeah it is, ask him if he wants to touch it, he'll say yes to that too, then tell him he can't because he's a worthless man and isn't worthy of touching your beautiful ass. big yourself up around him and make out you're better than him. then make him wank for you.

and that's my afternoon sorted for tomorrow haha.

Thanks for that, I've spent the best part of the night getting rid of my hard on and you've just given me another "

not bad, i didn't even mention pissing on him either...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi there - is it just Domming your husband that you have difficulty with or any guys? One thing you could try is taking some time to write down some scenarios / role plays that turn you on and that involve you dominating him. If you are short of ideas there are loads on the www to give you food for thought. Then when you want to play you can choose one and systematically work your way through the scenario. You wouldn't have to worry about making it up as you go as you'd have a plan to work to. It might also be quite erotic investigating ideas and playing them out in your mind. No idea if that helps but hope you have loads of fun. Xx rod"
this

and try lookin at it as acting if you wrote your own character what would you want to see her do? gd luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you considered a chastity device?

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By *mmabluTV/TS
over a year ago

upton wirral


"My husband loves nothing more than to serve me, in any way I choose.

But, I find it hard to be 'dominating' without being aggressive/nasty which just isnt me and is so obviously fake and hard to act.

This isnt a new scene, I have dommed him for the past few years, (we have been married 10) and is always an aspect of this that I have struggled with.

How can I be more forceful in a more natural way if that makes sense?

Any advice would be welcomed

"
You do not need to be forcefull,just withdraw his sexual activities if he does not do as told.Remind him that you can have sex with who you want

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all the pointers, definitely feeling more 'empowered' and have got a few ideas in my head to work on.

He's home from work in 4 hours and know he is hoping for a txt from me before he gets home explaining what I want him to do for me...... let the fun begin

I do appreciate all your words... not really something I can discuss at work ha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

50 shades of grey is out this weekend. Go watch that with a girlfriend and get some ideas!

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