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By *ornyuk23 OP Man
over a year ago

Northwest

I just wanted some advice on a suggestions I'm thinking of making to my girlfriend.

Let me start by saying I do love my girlfriend but - our sex drives are at the opp end of the spectrum.

So my question is

If I ask my girlfriend if I can entertain a woman for sexual purposes only - and this arrangement can be at my girlfriends preferences ie always at our home when she's present or never here always at her house etc

What would the possible outcomes be?

I probably know the answer but we really need to find a happy medium because if we don't we will end up splitting up and neither of us really want that

And a second question how easy is it to find a woman who would be willing just to service me without my gf joining in?

So fabbers please let me have your thoughts good or bad and before anyone asks no she doesn't know about this profile and when and if I do ask her we will make a couples profile.

Simon x

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By *ouplekinkCouple
over a year ago

kink town

Just show her your profile on here and this post, especially your current status, job done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possible outcomes?

Do you feel a particular sense of attachment to your gonads?

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

If as you say, she has a low sex drive, what would be the point of her having a profile on here with you? Would she just bring refreshments out at half time

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

As we don't know your girlfriend none if us can anticipate her reaction.

I can only tell you what my reaction would be. I would be extremely hurt at your lack of respect in posting about me

and my sex drive to a bunch of strangers on the net, your assumption that other women are there to "service" you and your quite frankly ridiculous notion that I might be ok with being present while you are serviced. This is before I got on to asking you why you felt it was ok to speak to other people about our relationship before you came to me to see if there was any way we could sort it out between us.

You say you love her, maybe you think you do but your post shows little evidence of it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No idea how she would react. I wouldn't expect her to be happy about it unless she's ever expressed an interest in you fucking other people?

Most people are monogamous and they tend to be insulted and feel inadequate if a partner chooses to be with someone else, even if it's only for sex. I'm sure she's have worries about you leaving her as well, and you can't say you wouldn't coz you don't know.

Talk to her about your sex life and how it's making you unhappy, be honest with her and not us. Then see what she offers to do to sort it out, introduce the idea and be prepared for arguments, sulking or possibly she'd be happy with the idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just show her your profile on here and this post, especially your current status, job done. "
Your post on here and your profile do in fact come through as VERY different in content and context!

It's a kind thought to involve her in your ideas. You see a problem that needs a solution, I believe?

She might not see any problem at all, a 'solution' might not give her anything? Or, to put it a bit harsh, is her reward of this solution that she avoids loosing you?

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"As we don't know your girlfriend none if us can anticipate her reaction.

I can only tell you what my reaction would be. I would be extremely hurt at your lack of respect in posting about me

You say you love her, maybe you think you do but your post shows little evidence of it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

think it wold be too much to ask of her -

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs

1) If she is on the pill, get her off it as a trial - for at least a year - to see if her libido can switch back on again.

2) If you only look upon sex as your need to be "serviced" then maybe she is getting very little out of it and has lost interest.

It takes two to tango.

Jane x

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