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By *uzzb OP   Man
over a year ago

nr Sherborne

I need to get over the problem of going a bit soft when I try to fuck someone - by the time the condom is on and lubed, and I've found the hole, its gone from ramrod to - well - not so ramrod !! I haven't cum at this stage either, but usually been pleasantly fucked. I want to return the favour, but have had only limited success. I don't want to use Viagra, and I want to play safe - any other suggestions for keeping me upright, please?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cock ring?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better looking guys?

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By *uzzb OP   Man
over a year ago

nr Sherborne

never tried a cock ring, so that's a good one, thanks. Better looking guys - what's the one about beggars and choosers? I'm sure that would help, though .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Get him to help you with it while nibbling your ear or doing whatever else it takes to turn you on xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have you tried you fucking first?

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

Have you always had this problem? If you have then maybe play in ways that do turn you on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would watching porn help?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need to get over the problem of going a bit soft when I try to fuck someone - by the time the condom is on and lubed, and I've found the hole, its gone from ramrod to - well - not so ramrod !! I haven't cum at this stage either, but usually been pleasantly fucked. I want to return the favour, but have had only limited success. I don't want to use Viagra, and I want to play safe - any other suggestions for keeping me upright, please?

"

try horny goats from most health shops

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By *et_n_WildCouple
over a year ago

Pontypridd

A cock ring will really help, they're great for trapping blood. Keep stimulating yourself while you prepare. An erection should last long enough for you to get into position.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you sure you're Bi/gay

Perhaps your cock is telling you something.

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By *uzzb OP   Man
over a year ago

nr Sherborne

all very helpful comments thanks. I'll definitely try a cock ring (didn't realise it kept the blood there) and other erotic things to keep me hard. Just off to buy some real skin condoms and see if that helps.

Perhaps my cock is telling me something? That's a profound thought - am I really gay ? Put it this way, I won't go with other women so it has to be men.

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By *uzzb OP   Man
over a year ago

nr Sherborne

.... and watching porn does help !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He might be more into women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for not thinking I was taking piss. It is quite a profound thing. I think sexuality can change as you get older/younger. Mine has never been set in stone. I am definitely Bi with a significant preference to women and can live without the Bi stuff.

I can't imagine being only attracted to men but can see the attraction.

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By *uzzb OP   Man
over a year ago

nr Sherborne

always been a little bit bi, but not played properly as a gay until last year. I now enjoy it hugely and have no hangups - I love anal, and a bloke is the best way of getting it. Perhaps I should just be a sub and have done with it !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am perfectly healthy in that department and have never had good old faithful let me down

However, when I want to have a session, as opposed to a intimate play with my wife at home. I always take Viagra because even if my mind isn't as into it (due to a touch of nerves maybe) old faithful can't help but stand to rock hard attention, once it is there my mind quickly forgets about any distractions lol

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By *uzzb OP   Man
over a year ago

nr Sherborne

thanks - not sure I want to try Viagra yet. Lots of ideas to try out first ! I think someone caressing my bum would keep me hard as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"thanks - not sure I want to try Viagra yet. Lots of ideas to try out first ! I think someone caressing my bum would keep me hard as well."
your deffo sub!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Relax and don't pressure yourself. I was offered a nice male ass to fuck but because I pressured myself into believing I needed to do it I failed to get hard. Hopefully I will eventually fuck some male ass

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you want to take meds? They can work as a "safety net": when you take them you know you can't fail and you relax and end up having a much better experience.

By the way, Viagra is not the only one around. I've had very good experiences with Cialis too. Talk to your GP she/he can tell you if you more about choices.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I need to get over the problem of going a bit soft when I try to fuck someone - by the time the condom is on and lubed, and I've found the hole, its gone from ramrod to - well - not so ramrod !! I haven't cum at this stage either, but usually been pleasantly fucked. I want to return the favour, but have had only limited success. I don't want to use Viagra, and I want to play safe - any other suggestions for keeping me upright, please?

"

I find that a lolly stick works.

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By *uzzb OP   Man
over a year ago

nr Sherborne

thanks all - some very good advice here - not sure about the latest entry of a lolly stick though !! Still, if it causes merriment I'll even try that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Splint?

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull

Cock ring and make sure you havnt had a drink of alcohol.. Try not having a wee for a while before hand?

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By *uzzb OP   Man
over a year ago

nr Sherborne

try not having a wee? That's the first thing I do before starting !

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By *uzzb OP   Man
over a year ago

nr Sherborne

incidentally, I think I've solved my problem by looking at your gorgeous pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Better looking guys?"

I always find this keeps my dick solid

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By *uzzb OP   Man
over a year ago

nr Sherborne

I'd have no problems with this guy ! But why Wales !!

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"Better looking guys?"

Or ugly guys!!! It can be true.i know from personal experience..some people can feel a lot of pressure to perform well with good looking guys and may try too hard

.gimme an ugly guy with a nice cock anyday...j

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By *iPeopleMan
over a year ago

London

Don't wank for 48-72 hrs!

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By *uzzb OP   Man
over a year ago

nr Sherborne


"Don't wank for 48-72 hrs!"

I haven't wanked for 4 days, and I'm rock hard, so, again, good advice. Actually, I haven't cum but I have been wanking - my balls ache a little though, as I can't stop playing with myself . I'll be trying out some things this morning, and some new purchases, and I'll let you know how I get on. Hopefully I'll give as good as I get.

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By *uzzb OP   Man
over a year ago

nr Sherborne

NEWS REPORT

Much much better than expected today. My first lover got me rock hard and it stayed that way - for hours ! I managed four separate fucks this morning, so guess the advice I received on this forum was really worthwhile.

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By *innamon!Woman
over a year ago

no matter

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