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By *gian OP   Man
over a year ago

newcastle

I.ve been on fab for a few weeks I have tried messaging a few people I've tried the good old fashioned hi how are you to start a conversion with limited success I was wondering has anyone got any ideas for a good/funny introduction messages thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're knee deep in competition with other guys...your profile is ok but maybe spend more time on that...someone will read your message ...flick over your profile and maybe just move on ... Don't give up...you face verifications and that will help

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By *gian OP   Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Thanks for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try chatting in the chat rooms.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know and feel your struggle. I never know wether to go with polite, dirty or down right erotic.

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

we get so many mails that say "hi how are you", that they get bulk deleted,

make an effort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always find the forums a good way to break the ice either that or just send a picture of your cock next to sky remote controller - women love that ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know and feel your struggle. I never know wether to go with polite, dirty or down right erotic. "

Approach women on here like you would in a pub. Would you go up to someone and say 'fancy a fuck?' Really?? The genuine women on here are not desperate so don't treat them as such. Dirty messages from strangers. No thanks. It's all talk!!

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

Two meets in your first three weeks on Fab is a bit better than limited success!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hello, what time does your hubby go to work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I know and feel your struggle. I never know wether to go with polite, dirty or down right erotic.

Approach women on here like you would in a pub. Would you go up to someone and say 'fancy a fuck?' Really?? The genuine women on here are not desperate so don't treat them as such. Dirty messages from strangers. No thanks. It's all talk!!"

I know this and do consider myself a gentleman, my dear old mother wouldn't be happy if I wasn't. I have never sent a dirty first time message, that and the erotic part was hopeful humour, not always easy to get across when typing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, the most appealing first messages contain:

1.face pic (and body shot but not necessary, no cock shots)

2. Polite, curteious and well mannered

3. Comments relating to points on my profile that show it's been read. Helps conversation flow

4. Some info about the sender

5. General interesting conversation comments (eg asking about your day, maybe current status update etc)

6. Showing an obvious interest in getting to know me but not jumping in and mentioning meeting in the first message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me, the most appealing first messages contain:

1.face pic (and body shot but not necessary, no cock shots)

2. Polite, curteious and well mannered

3. Comments relating to points on my profile that show it's been read. Helps conversation flow

4. Some info about the sender

5. General interesting conversation comments (eg asking about your day, maybe current status update etc)

6. Showing an obvious interest in getting to know me but not jumping in and mentioning meeting in the first message

"

Bloody hell, you don't expect a lot , do you? :P

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Bloody hell, you don't expect a lot , do you? :P"

A polite message, with a face pic, that shows they've read my profile? Not much to ask is it :p

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By *ink magnolia s yorksWoman
over a year ago

south yorkshire

Don't go for the 'unique witty' messages, they're rarely either x rubbish like 'if you could be any animal/biscuit.... Random crap' they bore me silly. I can't see what's wrong with a simple hi, how are you? Message IF the sender has bothered to read what I'm looking for and if he fits it. Messages starting with 'I looked at your profile...' when they clearly haven't don't get much response from me x

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By *evaquitCouple
over a year ago

Catthorpe


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Bloody hell, you don't expect a lot , do you? :P

A polite message, with a face pic, that shows they've read my profile? Not much to ask is it :p"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two meets in your first three weeks on Fab is a bit better than limited success!"

TOUCHÉ....been on here a lot longer without even a sniff of a meet getting arranged. I think I drop I to the friend zone too easily! Got some learning to do!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't go for the 'unique witty' messages, they're rarely either x rubbish like 'if you could be any animal/biscuit.... Random crap' they bore me silly. I can't see what's wrong with a simple hi, how are you? Message IF the sender has bothered to read what I'm looking for and if he fits it. Messages starting with 'I looked at your profile...' when they clearly haven't don't get much response from me x"

Have to agree here! I get many copy and pasted messages that start 'ive read your profile...' Then upon reading the rest of the message, it's quite clear they haven't :-/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two meets in your first three weeks on Fab is a bit better than limited success!

TOUCHÉ....been on here a lot longer without even a sniff of a meet getting arranged. I think I drop I to the friend zone too easily! Got some learning to do! "

If only you were closer, Id have a go at trying meet you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two meets in your first three weeks on Fab is a bit better than limited success!

TOUCHÉ....been on here a lot longer without even a sniff of a meet getting arranged. I think I drop I to the friend zone too easily! Got some learning to do!

If only you were closer, Id have a go at trying meet you! "

Aww thanks, but it's ok. I wasn't fishjng for any sympathy. Theses meets are gonna come like buses....!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me, the most appealing first messages contain:

1.face pic (and body shot but not necessary, no cock shots)

2. Polite, curteious and well mannered

3. Comments relating to points on my profile that show it's been read. Helps conversation flow

4. Some info about the sender

5. General interesting conversation comments (eg asking about your day, maybe current status update etc)

6. Showing an obvious interest in getting to know me but not jumping in and mentioning meeting in the first message

"

I agree. Men need to read our profiles, we read theirs, it doesn't take long

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By *gian OP   Man
over a year ago

newcastle

Thanks for the advice do you think I need to re vamp my profile. better photos etc ?

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By *gian OP   Man
over a year ago

newcastle


"Two meets in your first three weeks on Fab is a bit better than limited success!"

I would say more blind luck than success

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Two meets in your first three weeks on Fab is a bit better than limited success!

TOUCHÉ....been on here a lot longer without even a sniff of a meet getting arranged. I think I drop I to the friend zone too easily! Got some learning to do!

If only you were closer, Id have a go at trying meet you!

Aww thanks, but it's ok. I wasn't fishjng for any sympathy. Theses meets are gonna come like buses....!! "

Wasn't sympathy lol I'm genuinely gutted your miles away lol

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By *laction manMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I know that this will be an unpopular opinion but....As a single male, I have spent time genuinely showing interest and asking interesting questions relevant to her profile only to see some of those women either read or delete those messages without so much as a 'Thanks but no thanks'.

So now, though I don't agree with it but I can see why so many guys resort to copy and paste messages.

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By *lanemikeMan
over a year ago

Bolton

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To me, the most appealing first messages contain:

1.face pic (and body shot but not necessary, no cock shots)

2. Polite, curteious and well mannered

3. Comments relating to points on my profile that show it's been read. Helps conversation flow

4. Some info about the sender

5. General interesting conversation comments (eg asking about your day, maybe current status update etc)

6. Showing an obvious interest in getting to know me but not jumping in and mentioning meeting in the first message

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