FabSwingers.com forum: Getting Single Females attention

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

MILF totally embarrasses her Bi side to the point she has openly admitted she is Girl Greedy lol, an who am i to complain, as she loves the idea of me watching getting involved and isn't interested in single males.

Our problem is finding that single female, we have seen plenty of profiles with lots of single girls showing on the friends list, but we have messaged lots of single girls, putting in lots of effort on the message only for that person to ether read/delete or leave the site (didn't think we were that bad they scared off the site lol)

So could you sexy people give us some clues on how to Entice/Chat/Play to single females on here?

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By *win PeaksCouple
over a year ago

Northamptonshire

The biggest mistake people seem to make is advertising to wanting to meet single ladies and expecting them to come to you. Look for and contact single ladies yourself or better still go to a club.

Dave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have met single fems and are lucky enough to have one we see as often as we can all get together - we just ensure our messages are very personal and that they most of all feel comfortable with us - its never a quick message, meet and shag - its a slow build up of confidence and friendship and sexy fun -

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, I can only speak for myself, but my biggest turn-off is a couple where the man wants to watch! I do this for my pleasure - not to be a circus act...

I'll play with both (if we all get on) - or her alone, but if he wants to just watch then I'm not interested!

Also, I only respond positively when I am contacted directly by the fem half of a couple - because I need to build up a connection with her first, and that's all-important.

But other women have different likes and wants - so read her profile and take the trouble to ask what she would like - and then pay attention to what she says!!!

Good luck with your search

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By *qua vitaeWoman
over a year ago

Shropshire/Midlands

"MILF totally embarrasses her Bi side to the point she has openly admitted she is Girl Greedy lol, an who am i to complain, as she loves the idea of me watching getting involved and isn't interested in single males.

So could you sexy people give us some clues on how to Entice/Chat/Play to single females on here?"

If you're specifically after a lady for her to play with, it maybe wise to make your profile female friendly. People tend to read the profile first before reading messages or considering replying. As the above poster has suggested, let the ladies organise it between themselves with chats on the phone, social meeting, etc. What does put ladies off is when it appears the male is organising it all, - as if it's for his enjoyment or pushing her into it. It's all to do with building trust, especially where couples are involved.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't look to meet single women on here...all of our single female friends that we meet tend to come from parties or socials...it's easier for them to be able to judge our dynamic, the fact that I am truly, madly bi and that any meeting we would have would be a meeting of equals purely for mutual pleasure and not about any one of us taking precedence over the other...we're not interested in making anyone feel like a performing seal...

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"Well, I can only speak for myself, but my biggest turn-off is a couple where the man wants to watch! I do this for my pleasure - not to be a circus act...

I'll play with both (if we all get on) - or her alone, but if he wants to just watch then I'm not interested!

Also, I only respond positively when I am contacted directly by the fem half of a couple - because I need to build up a connection with her first, and that's all-important.

But other women have different likes and wants - so read her profile and take the trouble to ask what she would like - and then pay attention to what she says!!!

Good luck with your search

Totally agree here. It's either a MFF or FF - not a spectator sport for me.

I don'tunderstand the furst line of your post which doesn't help.

The pics on your profile are the female equivalent of cock shots. Get so pics up where people can see what you look like.

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By *ina75Woman
over a year ago

Stone

"Well, I can only speak for myself, but my biggest turn-off is a couple where the man wants to watch! I do this for my pleasure - not to be a circus act...

I'll play with both (if we all get on) - or her alone, but if he wants to just watch then I'm not interested!

Also, I only respond positively when I am contacted directly by the fem half of a couple - because I need to build up a connection with her first, and that's all-important.

But other women have different likes and wants - so read her profile and take the trouble to ask what she would like - and then pay attention to what she says!!!

Good luck with your search

Absolutely agree with this.

I am not a performing seal, if you just want to watch then go get a DVD.

Also, I ALWAYS get put off if it's only him messaging, and guys I can tell even if you pretend to be her, and that breaks trust before we've even started. So no I'm not interested.

Finally the reason I need to connect with her, is that I have to be convinced that this is something that she genuinely wants.

It's the biggest turn off, touching a lady who isn't into women, I can tell. Even if she's doing it because she loves her man, it isn't right for me.

And so couples, we single ladies are difficult to please. But if you get it right, then we can be a lot of fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not a performing seal, if you just want to watch then go get a DVD.

Also, I ALWAYS get put off if it's only him messaging, and guys I can tell even if you pretend to be her, and that breaks trust before we've even started. So no I'm not interested.

Finally the reason I need to connect with her, is that I have to be convinced that this is something that she genuinely wants.

It's the biggest turn off, touching a lady who isn't into women, I can tell. Even if she's doing it because she loves her man, it isn't right for me.

And so couples, we single ladies are difficult to please. But if you get it right, then we can be a lot of fun. "

So, so true! I don't just play with women, I want to connect with them intimately - after all, most or a woman's sexuality is in her head (you wouldn't believe the dirty fantasies that are running through her mind when you think she's just enjoying your attention!)

I can tell instantly when a woman really isn't into it, and I've just got up and walked away from more than one because of it!

So - remember - connection is everything!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So could you sexy people give us some clues on how to Entice/Chat/Play to single females on here?

were not on here for just DILF to watch and a female be our play toy, we want to be social, become friends and at ease and all have fun, run out desires, wants and things we all have wanted to do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well, I can only speak for myself, but my biggest turn-off is a couple where the man wants to watch! I do this for my pleasure - not to be a circus act...

I'll play with both (if we all get on) - or her alone, but if he wants to just watch then I'm not interested!

Also, I only respond positively when I am contacted directly by the fem half of a couple - because I need to build up a connection with her first, and that's all-important.

But other women have different likes and wants - so read her profile and take the trouble to ask what she would like - and then pay attention to what she says!!!

Good luck with your search

Totally agree here. It's either a MFF or FF - not a spectator sport for me.

I don'tunderstand the furst line of your post which doesn't help.

The pics on your profile are the female equivalent of cock shots. Get so pics up where people can see what you look like. "
weve been to a club, so slowly finding our feet, Trouble with our pictures is MILF has been hounded by an ex and doesn't wish to have pictures that he can use.as he treatened to expose us to all he and she used to know.

ex's sad i know, and makes it even harder for us on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"we have met single fems and are lucky enough to have one we see as often as we can all get together - we just ensure our messages are very personal and that they most of all feel comfortable with us - its never a quick message, meet and shag - its a slow build up of confidence and friendship and sexy fun - "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

were not here to make women be our play thing its far from that, we want to have a special 3 way fun, were we all have pleasure, DILF is always involved with me, and would always be there.

we just wanted to know how that could be possible?

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"were not here to make women be our play thing its far from that, we want to have a special 3 way fun, were we all have pleasure, DILF is always involved with me, and would always be there.

we just wanted to know how that could be possible?"

Say that on your profile then.

Have a read of it now and think about if a woman wants to be used for someone else's pleasure. Also it's cool to be picky .... but....

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By *umpleteazerWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

"Well, I can only speak for myself, but my biggest turn-off is a couple where the man wants to watch! I do this for my pleasure - not to be a circus act...

I'll play with both (if we all get on) - or her alone, but if he wants to just watch then I'm not interested!

Also, I only respond positively when I am contacted directly by the fem half of a couple - because I need to build up a connection with her first, and that's all-important.

But other women have different likes and wants - so read her profile and take the trouble to ask what she would like - and then pay attention to what she says!!!

Good luck with your search

Totally agree here. It's either a MFF or FF - not a spectator sport for me.

I don'tunderstand the furst line of your post which doesn't help.

The pics on your profile are the female equivalent of cock shots. Get so pics up where people can see what you look like. weve been to a club, so slowly finding our feet, Trouble with our pictures is MILF has been hounded by an ex and doesn't wish to have pictures that he can use.as he treatened to expose us to all he and she used to know.

ex's sad i know, and makes it even harder for us on here. "

Even fully clothed body shots give a better impression of you than just foof pics. As a single female I would rather see anything but genitals

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Also it's cool to be picky .... but....

Not quiet sure what you mean by this comment?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Even fully clothed body shots give a better impression of you than just foof pics. As a single female I would rather see anything but genitals"
thank you, we will have to try and see what we can put instead x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get this again and again from couples. You're either on here to play as a couple or your partner to play as a single. 'Watch and maybe join in' - are you hedging your bets?

Your profile is all about you and what you want, fair enough, but it leaves me thinking I'd just be there for you to live out your sexual fantasises.

I'd ask the M side of this couple to decide what it is he'd like and be honest and upfront.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

" 'Watch and maybe join in' - are you hedging your bets?"

Now you have pointed that out that makes sense, we have changed the profile a little to see if that works, also added a few more pics, female ones to come, Fluff pics removed, for friends only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also it's cool to be picky .... but....

Not quiet sure what you mean by this comment? "

You had a comment about being picky but now it's gone. I think everyone is picky in their own way. It just seems a bit 'off' if it's mentioned on a profile. Even if I was a supermodel I think the word would put me off. Just my thoughts though.

I like your update, I think it reads really well. Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I like your update, I think it reads really well. Good luck.

Thank you. We've taken on board the comments you all have given. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Finding a single woman here is like finding water in the desert, you can search for long time for that one lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

who needs single females,

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Calling me a "female" or girl can put me off before things have even started. I'm a single woman.

I also like to be regarded as a person and not a sex toy.

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