FabSwingers.com forum: How Do I Get A Response Or Even Noticed

By *eknown OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Hi Everyone... I don't want this to sound like a moan but how do you get a response from couples and single women or even noticed??!!?? I'm a single male who is genuine, prepared to put myself out, hopefully come across as friendly and fun, I don't write oneliners, try to be articulated, interesting and interested, I say a few things about myself and likes (which marry up with the MF or F I'm messaging) and don't wish to come across as pushy... I have tried to be well mannered and respectful and sometimes rude and suggestive but no response, I don't get anywhere. So where do I go wrong???

I have on several occasions clicked on verifications of people I'm trying to contact followed by the guys they're verifying and in many cases, these guys have had countless successful meets... how do they manage it and I fail constantly??!!??

I realise from my photos I don't "stand out". I don't photograph very well, I'm not photogenic and maybe I'm not tall enough for a lot of women but of course I can't do anything about this.

Apologies if this comes over as a rant but you'll understand I'm frustrated and sometimes despondent. Any tips or advise would be welcome. Thanks Steve.

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By *oveSlutForUseCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Firstly, way too many cock pics. Even though it is a nice cock.

Profile, ok I guess, a bit "meh", a bit "whatever" and paragraphs are your friend.

I guess then it comes down to what we don't know: face pic and type of first message sent.

Other than that, just realise the fact you are one of 1000s and the numbers game is NEVER in your favour so do all you can to improve every aspect of your FS presence and keep at it.

For what it's worth. If you sent us a decent email that showed you'd read our profile, we'd response conversationally. Anything else would depend on your face pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would avoid you because your pics are mostly of your cock. They aren't fun or imaginative. You maybe have two pics that are ok , the profile one and the one of you in the garden.

Try using paragraphs on your profile as it makes it less boring to read.

When messaging attach a face pic and then make sure you have read the persons profile and link something about it.

Or best way is message the host of a social or party near you . They are more likely to respond to you and may know people to put you in contact with.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

its a tough read...... if you took as much time on your profile splitting it up as you have taken over your post here... thats a start.....

i say to people... if you think your profile reflects you to the best of your ability.... don't change a single thing!!!

if it doesn't.... then get a pen, a pad, and sit down and actually think about what you want to get across about you.. and what you are after...

no cheat sheets, no magic formula's.... a lot of the stuff you have to work out for yourself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You would get a 'thanks, but no thanks' type message from me. I would read your profile.

However all the advice up-thread is good advice, paragraphs and too much of the pleasuring stuff! Anyone can say they like to ensure a lady gets her pleasure. (Personally, this always creeps me out a little!)

I would much rather read that you were interesting outside of getting your rocks off!

My profile is far from perfect but I have changed it and altered it to suit my interests/wants when it suits.

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By *eknown OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Thank you to everyone who have posted helpful and useful comments which I'll try to take on board... any other constructive criticism and advise will still be very welcome. I always read profiles fully but I guess this is a numbers game and have tried different tact's from time to time, like fewer cock pics. I always send a face pic with messages... but as I said previously I'm not very photogenic which I have to accept and of course, that's maybe why I fail.

Thank you all anyway... hopefully, another opportunity around the corner. Steve.

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

So many cock pics.

Try to be more defined in your pitch. Your profile isn't the easiest to read.

And again soooo many cock pics. No one can tell if your photogenic or not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i have a message that interests me. the 1st thing i look at is the profile before replying.

the profile does matter and the photos.

too many cock photos "i think is that all you have to offer me"

my mind is important i like nice photos of torsos bums and faces

intrigue me make me smile and i will reply x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP. Are you really articulated?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi Everyone... I don't want this to sound like a moan but how do you get a response from couples and single women or even noticed??!!?? I'm a single male who is genuine, prepared to put myself out, hopefully come across as friendly and fun, I don't write oneliners, try to be articulated, interesting and interested, I say a few things about myself and likes (which marry up with the MF or F I'm messaging) and don't wish to come across as pushy... I have tried to be well mannered and respectful and sometimes rude and suggestive but no response, I don't get anywhere. So where do I go wrong???

I realise from my photos I don't "stand out". I don't photograph very well, I'm not photogenic and maybe I'm not tall enough for a lot of women but of course I can't do anything about this.

Apologies if this comes over as a rant but you'll understand I'm frustrated and sometimes despondent. Any tips or advise would be welcome. Thanks Steve."

I'm going through the same motions right about now. I spent the first few months scoping the site out and thought it would be relatively simple (not quite). Since then I've asked and taken the advise from forums which have been a great help already.

Take part in discussions and chat rooms (I've no patience for the rooms personally as no convo can realistically take place), basically try to let people familiarise themselves with you.

An approach I'm taking anyway, good luck. I'm confident we can all have fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you're unnattractive, and that's all it would take for me to want to meet someone, but those first two pics look like they might have been taken ages ago?

Apologies if they aren't. and they're the only ones of your body that you have if they are old, but i would take that as misleading and be a definite no from me.

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By *eknown OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Thanks Quickmids for the tips about Forum's and Chatrooms... does make sense about people on the site getting to familiarise themselves with you...

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By *eknown OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"OP. Are you really articulated?"

How do you mean Hants-Smile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi Everyone... try to be articulated, interesting and interested"

That's what I mean, OP.

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By *eknown OP Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Hi Everyone... try to be articulated, interesting and interested

That's what I mean, OP.

Ahh... see what you mean. I guess I was trying to get across that I can string a few sentences together, hold a conversation and make it interesting and being interested in whoever I'm messaging. Thank you for the constructive comments, I'm obliged to the Hon lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi Everyone... try to be articulated, interesting and interested

That's what I mean, OP.

And do not assume that it is the lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am not bothered anymore, its second nature by now lol.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I dress as a sheep and have lots of veris.

Also, it's 'articulate' because 'articulated' is what big lorries are.

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over a year ago

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