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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Why is it no one ever talks to me i been on here 2 years had couples off meets then when into relationship come back and everytime i mail some one they delete it what i am i doing wrong any one want to help me out tell me what i am doing wrong thanks

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)

Lots of people look at profile picture, then profile and then read message.

If any of these are weak... then loads will choose to pass by.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

look at other threads on here about single men profiles....yours could do with a lot of help to be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't know what you're doing so how can we tell you what you're doing wrong.

Although most people who receive messages will check the profile of the sender so maybe start there...............

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all ya help like i say i message people get no reply so just think i am sending messages wrong what can i say to get a convo going

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

I think it might be something to do with how poor your profile is! Did that cross your mind at all?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fancy a fuck or wanna meet now usually works well

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"Thanks for all ya help like i say i message people get no reply so just think i am sending messages wrong what can i say to get a convo going"

Its not all just about what is in a message... look at the advice above...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi. I remember you, had a couple of good conversations with you. Don't think you're doing anything wrong, honestly.

Dunno? Could be timing, could be people are just really busy. I know if i don't have time to chat i ignore the message until i have time and then the moment for chatting might be lost by then, or you just end up busy chatting to someone else who wants to meet.

Can be hard for us to keep on top of conversations on here as well, i used to chat to anyone, which isn't too bad if only a few people are online, got to the point where i chatted to so many people i was holding too many conversations at once, or ignoring loads of people i used to chat to. Just how this site can get i guess.

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

After a few PM's you offer all the advice you can and they still wont take it on board, so I am out.

If you don't understand why a 2 line profile is not working? Then you will continue to struggle as I have already told you.

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff


"Why is it no one ever talks to me i been on here 2 years had couples off meets then when into relationship come back and everytime i mail some one they delete it what i am i doing wrong any one want to help me out tell me what i am doing wrong thanks "

To be honest, if your messages are like the posts in this thread, they're probably not the easiest to read.

There may be perfectly good reasons why that's the case with you, but punctuation really helps make things easier to read for starters. The lack of full stops is off-putting.

Many people think it shouldn't matter, and that's a valid argument, but the reality is that women get masses of messages on here, so it's pretty inevitable that the harder ones to decipher are going to get binned. Also, many will equate poor spelling, punctuation and grammar with poor intelligence, rightly or wrongly.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"Why is it no one ever talks to me i been on here 2 years had couples off meets then when into relationship come back and everytime i mail some one they delete it what i am i doing wrong any one want to help me out tell me what i am doing wrong thanks "
. As your pictures are for friends only it is impossible for anyone to identify who they are talking to. Do you contact members with no pictures ? In addition your profile is a marketing tool and if it contains no information about yourself or your hobbies and interests , it is unlikely to generate interest. Currently members only know your age and that you are male.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it no one ever talks to me i been on here 2 years had couples off meets then when into relationship come back and everytime i mail some one they delete it what i am i doing wrong any one want to help me out tell me what i am doing wrong thanks

To be honest, if your messages are like the posts in this thread, they're probably not the easiest to read.

There may be perfectly good reasons why that's the case with you, but punctuation really helps make things easier to read for starters. The lack of full stops is off-putting.

Many people think it shouldn't matter, and that's a valid argument, but the reality is that women get masses of messages on here, so it's pretty inevitable that the harder ones to decipher are going to get binned. Also, many will equate poor spelling, punctuation and grammar with poor intelligence, rightly or wrongly.

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And some women are just up their own arses

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By *arewithmeMan
over a year ago

Craven Arms


"Why is it no one ever talks to me i been on here 2 years had couples off meets then when into relationship come back and everytime i mail some one they delete it what i am i doing wrong any one want to help me out tell me what i am doing wrong thanks

To be honest, if your messages are like the posts in this thread, they're probably not the easiest to read.

There may be perfectly good reasons why that's the case with you, but punctuation really helps make things easier to read for starters. The lack of full stops is off-putting.

Many people think it shouldn't matter, and that's a valid argument, but the reality is that women get masses of messages on here, so it's pretty inevitable that the harder ones to decipher are going to get binned. Also, many will equate poor spelling, punctuation and grammar with poor intelligence, rightly or wrongly.

And some women are just up their own arses "

Yet another bloke moaning about not getting replies, there are no rules on here saying people have to reply to all messages, if its not going they way you want it to go remove yourself from the site and you will have one less thing to worry about, simples

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Most people on here a rude to be fair

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By *adybee77Woman
over a year ago

MAMOBA, miles and miles of bugger all (Aberdeenshire)


"Most people on here a rude to be fair "

Most people? Looking back over this thread, I don't see "most people" being rude.

Good luck on the site OP, but honestly, if it made me as unhappy as it seems to make you... I'd be gone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it no one ever talks to me i been on here 2 years had couples off meets then when into relationship come back and everytime i mail some one they delete it what i am i doing wrong any one want to help me out tell me what i am doing wrong thanks

To be honest, if your messages are like the posts in this thread, they're probably not the easiest to read.

There may be perfectly good reasons why that's the case with you, but punctuation really helps make things easier to read for starters. The lack of full stops is off-putting.

Many people think it shouldn't matter, and that's a valid argument, but the reality is that women get masses of messages on here, so it's pretty inevitable that the harder ones to decipher are going to get binned. Also, many will equate poor spelling, punctuation and grammar with poor intelligence, rightly or wrongly.

And some women are just up their own arses

Yet another bloke moaning about not getting replies, there are no rules on here saying people have to reply to all messages, if its not going they way you want it to go remove yourself from the site and you will have one less thing to worry about, simples"

You could turn that around and say ...yet another bloke moaning about how someone uses the site, if its not going the way you want it go remove yourself and you will have one less thing to worry about

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By *arewithmeMan
over a year ago

Craven Arms


"Most people on here a rude to be fair "

No they are not, i have met and chatted to some lovely people, your out of order making that statement !!!!!!!

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By *arewithmeMan
over a year ago

Craven Arms

[Removed by poster at 31/01/15 23:43:12]

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And another one shoots himself in the foot. Well............Figure it out for yourself from here on

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By *ost SockMan
over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff


"Most people on here a rude to be fair "

Couldn't disagree more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And now I know why you are struggling! If you can't handle a few suggestions after putting up a 'please help me thread' don't turn abusive! "

Alot of people look at a profile and pics before even opening a message. If they are like yours I just delete the messsge.

Giving abuse to forum users who give you advice is bang out of order so maybe it's your attitude that is poor as well as your profile.

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"Most people on here a rude to be fair

Couldn't disagree more."

+1, I've been here over 8 years and have yet to receive a rude message, some weird ones I will grant you, but not rude by any stretch of the imagination

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most people on here a rude to be fair "

if you think honest advice about your (poor) profile is being "rude" then you seem way too sensitive for this site?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Try sending a cock shot with your message...

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)


"Why is it no one ever talks to me i been on here 2 years had couples off meets then when into relationship come back and everytime i mail some one they delete it what i am i doing wrong any one want to help me out tell me what i am doing wrong thanks "

I'm not sure what you're doing wrong, I don't seem to have that problem.

It would seem you are doing something wrong though by sending an abusive message to someone who offered help to you. Not big or clever

Go to a club or social... Effort often gets a reward..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most people on here a rude to be fair

A bit rich after your messages to me! "

You just can't help some people, can you? I offered advice to a guy a few months ago, just like you have. I tidied up the grammar on his profile, punctuated it etc and got back nothing but abuse, accusing me of being like his P2 school teacher.

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"Why is it no one ever talks to me i been on here 2 years had couples off meets then when into relationship come back and everytime i mail some one they delete it what i am i doing wrong any one want to help me out tell me what i am doing wrong thanks "

No public pics

Short profile

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By *SweetVioletxWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

What everyone else has said - with the added knowledge that you've been rude to people who offered advice after you asked for it. And have still not updated your profile.

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By *ordonBennettMan
over a year ago

dover


"Why is it no one ever talks to me i been on here 2 years had couples off meets then when into relationship come back and everytime i mail some one they delete it what i am i doing wrong any one want to help me out tell me what i am doing wrong thanks "

Judging by what others have said on the thread, and the abuse you've shelled out to those trying to help you, I think you've answered your question....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it no one ever talks to me i been on here 2 years had couples off meets then when into relationship come back and everytime i mail some one they delete it what i am i doing wrong any one want to help me out tell me what i am doing wrong thanks

Judging by what others have said on the thread, and the abuse you've shelled out to those trying to help you, I think you've answered your question...."

Problem solved!

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By *arewithmeMan
over a year ago

Craven Arms


"Why is it no one ever talks to me i been on here 2 years had couples off meets then when into relationship come back and everytime i mail some one they delete it what i am i doing wrong any one want to help me out tell me what i am doing wrong thanks

Judging by what others have said on the thread, and the abuse you've shelled out to those trying to help you, I think you've answered your question....

Problem solved! "

Don't forget to close the door when you leave .....

(i Bet it gets slammed)

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

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