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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

This isn't aimed at regular posters as they all know how to compose their thoughts into eloquent sentences that make people want to read.

Its aimed at people who put little or no effort into their message and is offered as advice more than a dig.

Imagine your profile like a CV. Now imagine applying for an advertised job. The job states what it expects of the applicant and invites them to apply if they are suitable. If you didn't have the required skills / qualifications and wrote a cover letter stating "hi" then your CV simply said ie. "I'm looking for a job so hit me up if you like what you see" do you think you'd get an interview? I doubt they'd even send a no thank you letter as they'd think you were taking the piss.

Now, think of this in terms of your profile, opening message etc on fab. If you see a correlation and you aren't getting the response you want, maybe its time to rethink how you correct this.

As in a CV, put in any previous experience (not graphic details of meets)… tell the reader what you like and dislike, prederence etc...give them some information that will help them decide whether they should message you. And when contacting them make sure you read what they are looking for and only message if you think you meet their preferences, then compose a short message referring to how you think you fit the bill, including anything they have asked you to quote. And never forget that all important face pic

Hope this helps at least one person xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

'And never forget that all important face pic'

LOL! I have to laugh at this bit. The amount of people who insist on a face pic but don't, or won't, show one of themselves. Really?

Usually at this point I become suspicious and simply end things there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And that is you prerogative. I wouldn't speak to anybody without a face pic either. Nor would I ever send a first message without a face pic attached, its just rude. I wouldn't approach someone in a bar with my face covered and therefore wouldn't do it on here or expect to be approached without one.

ATM I don't give a shit though as I'm not meeting so you can chat away all you want without a face pic makes no difference to me lol.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

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I doubt many will see this as most of the site don't read the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'And never forget that all important face pic'

LOL! I have to laugh at this bit. The amount of people who insist on a face pic but don't, or won't, show one of themselves. Really?

Usually at this point I become suspicious and simply end things there.

Indeed.

Sorry, but I find the whole 'MUST have a face pic' thing offensive, like I'm sending it for your scrutiny so you can judge whether or not I'm attractive enough to even respond to?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

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I don't like messages that sound like they are applying for a job, makes it sound to formal, I like to see personality and fun in a message

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't like messages that sound like they are applying for a job, makes it sound to formal, I like to see personality and fun in a message

God no I certainly didn't mean to imply sound like you are applying for a job. Fun is paramount. But the point being. Don't think you can send a one word message, with no face pic and an empty profile and expect answers. It was a metaphor at no point did I say pretend you are applying for a job just if you see a correlation between the two and you know you aren't putting in the effort try a different TAC.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"'And never forget that all important face pic'

LOL! I have to laugh at this bit. The amount of people who insist on a face pic but don't, or won't, show one of themselves. Really?

Usually at this point I become suspicious and simply end things there.

Indeed.

Sorry, but I find the whole 'MUST have a face pic' thing offensive, like I'm sending it for your scrutiny so you can judge whether or not I'm attractive enough to even respond to?"

I think everyone wants someone they find attractive. There isn't the luxury of getting to know people in person and like them for other reasons as in real life. So unfortunately its a fact of life on here. I like to say nobody would look at an empty profile, no pics, information and receive a message saying "hi" and think I'm going to shag that sexy fucker. However, I know a large percentage just wanna fuck and need no connection or attraction. That's the ugly side if fab.

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By *dventuroususCouple
over a year ago

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"'And never forget that all important face pic'

LOL! I have to laugh at this bit. The amount of people who insist on a face pic but don't, or won't, show one of themselves. Really?

Usually at this point I become suspicious and simply end things there.

Indeed.

Sorry, but I find the whole 'MUST have a face pic' thing offensive, like I'm sending it for your scrutiny so you can judge whether or not I'm attractive enough to even respond to?"

people arent just going to meet you if there isnt an attraction, so its better to get it out the way early.

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By *trawberry-popWoman
over a year ago

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"And that is you prerogative. I wouldn't speak to anybody without a face pic either. Nor would I ever send a first message without a face pic attached, its just rude. I wouldn't approach someone in a bar with my face covered and therefore wouldn't do it on here or expect to be approached without one.

ATM I don't give a shit though as I'm not meeting so you can chat away all you want without a face pic makes no difference to me lol."

I never send introductory messages, but if I did I'd attach a face pic. I find it really fricking rude when people don't and I have to ask for one. Not at the moment of course but in the periods in which I have been seeking playmates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well, I can tell you that I have sent face pics when requested, but after a few messages and they still won't send a face pic back, that's when I get suspicious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well, I can tell you that I have sent face pics when requested, but after a few messages and they still won't send a face pic back, that's when I get suspicious. "

I wouldn't even request one if they had no info and just said hi, which is the point of the thread, pic was an after thought, which mightn't be as important if the message and profile was amazing.

I've not replied with a pic 100s of times, it means I don't fancy them, nothing suspicious about that. Unless they continue to speak and want to meet but won't provide one, that I would find suspicious.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

ATM I don't give a shit though as I'm not meeting so you can chat away all you want without a face pic makes no difference to me lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, I can tell you that I have sent face pics when requested, but after a few messages and they still won't send a face pic back, that's when I get suspicious.

I wouldn't even request one if they had no info and just said hi, which is the point of the thread, pic was an after thought, which mightn't be as important if the message and profile was amazing.

I've not replied with a pic 100s of times, it means I don't fancy them, nothing suspicious about that.

'Unless they continue to speak and want to meet but won't provide one, that I would find suspicious'."

That's exactly what I'm getting at.

I had one send me a few pics of her body, but when I asked for a face pic, all I got was lets just meet up.

So, she asked me for a face pic but wouldn't send one in return. Those pics of her tit's could have been anyone. LOL!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, I can tell you that I have sent face pics when requested, but after a few messages and they still won't send a face pic back, that's when I get suspicious. "

Can't say i blame you. I would think they think they are either unattractive to you or not who they say they are.

I shove my pics on my page, in public, so people can decide if they like me or not. I do expect to see what they're like in return.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Well, I can tell you that I have sent face pics when requested, but after a few messages and they still won't send a face pic back, that's when I get suspicious.

I wouldn't even request one if they had no info and just said hi, which is the point of the thread, pic was an after thought, which mightn't be as important if the message and profile was amazing.

I've not replied with a pic 100s of times, it means I don't fancy them, nothing suspicious about that.

'Unless they continue to speak and want to meet but won't provide one, that I would find suspicious'.

That's exactly what I'm getting at.

I had one send me a few pics of her body, but when I asked for a face pic, all I got was lets just meet up.

So, she asked me for a face pic but wouldn't send one in return. Those pics of her tit's could have been anyone. LOL!

Well that's when you know they are either fake or ugly lol...either way stop messaging and move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's what I did.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

LOL! And for the record she kept messaging me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This isn't aimed at regular posters as they all know how to compose their thoughts into eloquent sentences that make people want to read.

Its aimed at people who put little or no effort into their message and is offered as advice more than a dig.

Now, think of this in terms of your profile, opening message etc on fab. If you see a correlation and you aren't getting the response you want, maybe its time to rethink how you correct this.

Hope this helps at least one person xxx"

Thanks for the hint, i hope it will be useful for someone. But can you please throw some light on the word count as you seem to see things from a professional's point of view.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'And never forget that all important face pic'

LOL! I have to laugh at this bit. The amount of people who insist on a face pic but don't, or won't, show one of themselves. Really?

Usually at this point I become suspicious and simply end things there.

Indeed.

Sorry, but I find the whole 'MUST have a face pic' thing offensive, like I'm sending it for your scrutiny so you can judge whether or not I'm attractive enough to even respond to?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I doubt many will see this as most of the site don't read the forums "

Which is better for us that do , a chance to have decent conversations ( whinging aside)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'And never forget that all important face pic'

LOL! I have to laugh at this bit. The amount of people who insist on a face pic but don't, or won't, show one of themselves. Really?

Usually at this point I become suspicious and simply end things there.

Indeed.

Sorry, but I find the whole 'MUST have a face pic' thing offensive, like I'm sending it for your scrutiny so you can judge whether or not I'm attractive enough to even respond to?

We find this very odd !

Unless you are just looking for friendship , in which case a face pic and thus an attraction isn't necessary , a face pic is a must .

What are we missing ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"'And never forget that all important face pic'

LOL! I have to laugh at this bit. The amount of people who insist on a face pic but don't, or won't, show one of themselves. Really?

Usually at this point I become suspicious and simply end things there.

Indeed.

Sorry, but I find the whole 'MUST have a face pic' thing offensive, like I'm sending it for your scrutiny so you can judge whether or not I'm attractive enough to even respond to?

We find this very odd !

Unless you are just looking for friendship , in which case a face pic and thus an attraction isn't necessary , a face pic is a must .

What are we missing ?

I think they mean if one person has no face pics but they demand a face pic then they an fuck off. Rightly so too, imo.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well yeah we get that , but someone saying they aren't gonna send one because they don't wanna be scrutinised etc.... Wtf ?

Sometimes we are just simply baffled

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well yeah we get that , but someone saying they aren't gonna send one because they don't wanna be scrutinised etc.... Wtf ?

Sometimes we are just simply baffled

Oh right. Yeah fair enough, didn't really get what that meant but now i think about it i will let them explain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well, I can tell you that I have sent face pics when requested, but after a few messages and they still won't send a face pic back, that's when I get suspicious. "

Suspicious of what? That they may terrorists looking to photoshop your face onto terrorist warning video? Or maybe is it they may use your mug shot to wank over? Or suspicious they might discover you are but ugly and never get back to you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bit confused by the people not wanting to send face pics. Why even bother messaging a profile you wouldnt want to send a face pic to? If I read and view a profile and don't feel they are genuine, or not a good match I just don't message them. Simple.

Plus I find almost everyone replies when I've attached a face pic. It's a much lower response rate when there's no pic attached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Well yeah we get that , but someone saying they aren't gonna send one because they don't wanna be scrutinised etc.... Wtf ?

Sometimes we are just simply baffled

I meant I won't send a pic with a first mail, only after at least a couple of mails. I wouldn't meet without swapping face pics.

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over a year ago

"Well, I can tell you that I have sent face pics when requested, but after a few messages and they still won't send a face pic back, that's when I get suspicious.

Suspicious of what? That they may terrorists looking to photoshop your face onto terrorist warning video? Or maybe is it they may use your mug shot to wank over? "

Pmsl... I can't.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, does your CV state 'Dear employer, p.s. I don't have a head!'

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