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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Just put this out here for some advice, I'm looking to further my swinging experience and regularly visit clubs, I've been to Xtasia once before but I found myself not knowing when to approach anyone or if I should what to say to them or wait for someone to show an interest in me? Any advice as to what I could to, maybe to be a little less awkward in the club enviournement? Many thanks.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Just talk to people as if you were anywhere else and be yourself.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Cheers, just found myself sitting there thinking if people would be judging me in a way? Like a 23 yo lad what's he doing here? Couldn't imagine many people wanting someone as tough as me? Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Put yourself out, smile and have a conversation and laugh.

We have seen single men just standing around, and while respecting it is not easy on them, it does not do them many favours

Her

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I smiled at a couple of people but nothing followed haha but guess I'll have to get back out and give it another go

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By *ohjaneCouple
over a year ago

south staffs


"Just talk to people as if you were anywhere else and be yourself. "

I agree, Tina, but there are a couple of obvious questions which you might want to avoid due to the nature of the venue and agenda.

1. Where are you from/where do you live?

2. What do you do for a living?

Jane x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe finding a woman or a couple to go there together?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

This would be perfect!

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Don't think like that as it will unsettle you...

We all go there to social and play... We all like different things...

Just chat and smile. They may think you aren't interested if you wait for them to come to you. Just say hi...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mostly go to xtasia on my own, i have been a member for 2 years now so know a few people there. Just go in with no expectations and talk to people as if were in a normal club or pub

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By *andb69Couple
over a year ago

leeds

Don't approach people as if you are expecting to play with them. Get a reputation for being polite, friendly and not pushy. People will then feel comfortable in your company and things will start to happen. Don't take it as an insult if people don't want to play - it's their choice.....and don't follow people around. We have a lot of fun with single guys at clubs and they all conform to the above!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can only echo what people have said above, just chat as if you were in any bar or club, be friendly and smile

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By *bony in IvoryCouple
over a year ago

Black&White Utopia


"Put yourself out, smile and have a conversation and laugh.

We have seen single men just standing around, and while respecting it is not easy on them, it does not do them many favours

Her"
totaly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't end up on the back of the single male train following the females all over the shop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Xtasia are opening a section called flirts at the front of the club, maybe try that again and take it from there. There is a thread on it in the club section

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


" Couldn't imagine many people wanting someone as tough as me? Haha"

Just how tough are you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't end up on the back of the single male train following the females all over the shop"

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


" Couldn't imagine many people wanting someone as tough as me? Haha

Just how tough are you?"

They eat Weetabix without the wheat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always go to a club with the intention that we won't play. But we take my underwear and outfits just incase.

We never leave disappointed :p

The reason for this is we go for us, and if we have fun then awesome. But we always try and talk to people not as potential victims but as friends. The more friends we make, the better. its boosted our chances a lot because we don't instantly appear desperate to rush off and play, we care about the people. That's more attractive to most than "yeah yeah let's fuck". C x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive never played in xtasia,, I think it's the club and find it very hard in there to be fair, always end up leaving and going to chams ,, just me though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ive never played in xtasia,, I think it's the club and find it very hard in there to be fair, always end up leaving and going to chams ,, just me though "

But for me in answer to your question flash your cock,, if it's big enough, that's it,, think I'm in the minority there

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"Ive never played in xtasia,, I think it's the club and find it very hard in there to be fair, always end up leaving and going to chams ,, just me though "

I've only been there on forum socials and its a nice club, but it is always red hot.

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