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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm curious as have recently found out a fwb had had an hysterectomy,, I'm curious to know what impact that has on not only the physical aspect of sex but also the emotional aspect,, does it Change feelings again physically (internally) ams type emotional states associated with serial activity??

How would one rise above any issues caused by such a procedure??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hiya

I had the op 4 years ago due to Constant bad smear test results and full on bleeding..After I had iit ended up with 2 major infections and was extremely poorly.

After they cleared I ended up making a full recovery and I will say it's the best thing I ever did.

Yes I have 4 children and I do sit back sometimes and think I'd love another one even at 44 because I love kids ..but would never have changed the option of having it done..I feel fantastic ..no more painful monthly too xx

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24

I've heard women feeling sad because they feel that that part of their life is closed. Even if they didn't want children to have the choice made for you is hard to get over.

Sometimes the cervix is also removed in which case the lady will experience a different way of coming.

Add to that the fact that they may have been plunged into the menopause overnight it can all be very unpleasant.

Ladies going through this have had their world turned upside down. Be nice and try to understand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My daughter had a hysterectomy at 18, physically she is much better, had she not had the op she would'nt be here anymore, they had no choice but to remove everything, mentally she's not so good, she's only 20 now and feels that no man will ever want her due to this, I think if your older and have already had children it must affect you different, its hard to comment on was it worth it because to me it was, without the op I'd be one daughter less now so obviously I'm glad she had it but I'm not the one who has to live knowing I'm never going to have kids and nobody will want me

But over all physically she's made a fill recovery and is much better, mentally its going to take time, if ever to come to terms with it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will be having this op in 2 months time and my fear is losing my sex drive x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had it 12 years ago. Made full recovery snd on hrt till im 50. No pain. No pmt. My sex life is great and i recommend it if doctor advises it.

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By *obbytupperMan
over a year ago

Menston near Ilkley


"My daughter had a hysterectomy at 18, physically she is much better, had she not had the op she would'nt be here anymore, they had no choice but to remove everything, mentally she's not so good, she's only 20 now and feels that no man will ever want her due to this, I think if your older and have already had children it must affect you different, its hard to comment on was it worth it because to me it was, without the op I'd be one daughter less now so obviously I'm glad she had it but I'm not the one who has to live knowing I'm never going to have kids and nobody will want me

But over all physically she's made a fill recovery and is much better, mentally its going to take time, if ever to come to terms with it"

I really feel for your daughter NN, Having to endure such an operation so young. The important thing is she is alive and not having children is not the end of the world.

You will have your work cut out convincing her of this as she see's he peers starting families. I'm sure with a caring Mother such as yourself, she will rise above it and become a balanced individual despite her tragic past.

Plenty of hugs and understanding is what she needs.

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

possibly off cue here slightly but alot of women seem to think it is there fundamental right to have a child ...good luck to you and your daughter NN ...you are a strong woman and if she is half the woman you are she will be fine

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester


"I will be having this op in 2 months time and my fear is losing my sex drive x"

My OH had it done 11 years ago. Sex life not brill for a while but that's probably because we had wrongly settled into being middle- aged plus work pressures etc. Now her sex drive is what it was 30 years ago (very high).

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool


"I had it 12 years ago. Made full recovery snd on hrt till im 50. No pain. No pmt. My sex life is great and i recommend it if doctor advises it. "

This is good to hear...I go for my pre op tomorrow and possible partial Hysterectomy on 31st :-/

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Mostly in GU24


"possibly off cue here slightly but alot of women seem to think it is there fundamental right to have a child ...good luck to you and your daughter NN ...you are a strong woman and if she is half the woman you are she will be fine "

It's pure instinct to procreate for the whole of your fertile life. Beyond our control. Though I acknowledge there are people who don't want children but there are many more who desperately want them and they shouldn't be overlooked.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

Sometimes the cervix is also removed in which case the lady will experience a different way of coming.

. "

I'm not sure the cervix has anything to do with orgasm?? If the ovaries are left then the hormonal profile will be no different, mood changes etc will remain just there will be no bleeding unless there is endometriosis in the cervix (if this is left in situ). I would think that most women who have a hysterectomy for menstrual or endometrial problems will be glad the cause is gone. Gone are the days when once one had had children and was approaching the menopause it was advised to have it all take away to prevent later problems

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"possibly off cue here slightly but alot of women seem to think it is there fundamental right to have a child ...good luck to you and your daughter NN ...you are a strong woman and if she is half the woman you are she will be fine

It's pure instinct to procreate for the whole of your fertile life. Beyond our control. Though I acknowledge there are people who don't want children but there are many more who desperately want them and they shouldn't be overlooked. "

Its the circle of life, at the end of the day we are animals like every other animal, we are born to reproduce and die, its what we are here for to keep our species going and to some that urge is stronger than others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had the partial one first. Then womb and both overies.

You will be fine but seriously,..... Rest up or you be back in!! Do everything they tell you and tell hubby to drive slowly and not do 60 mph over speed bumps x if you need to know anything just pm me xx good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had the partial one first. Then womb and both overies.

You will be fine but seriously,..... Rest up or you be back in!! Do everything they tell you and tell hubby to drive slowly and not do 60 mph over speed bumps x if you need to know anything just pm me xx good luck "

Exactly this^^^, although mine was a total abdominal one. Have someone around to do any lifting, including the kettle, the first week. I feel so much better now and hope you will too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm going tomorrow to hospital to discuss what's best for me. I'm bricking it so scared.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm going tomorrow to hospital to discuss what's best for me. I'm bricking it so scared. "

Good luck for tomorrow. For me this was the worst bit - the not knowing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm going tomorrow to hospital to discuss what's best for me. I'm bricking it so scared.

Good luck for tomorrow. For me this was the worst bit - the not knowing."

yes that's exactly it. I'll be fine once I know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck hunni. This is something I want but due to my age the won't do it x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm going tomorrow to hospital to discuss what's best for me. I'm bricking it so scared.

Good luck for tomorrow. For me this was the worst bit - the not knowing.

yes that's exactly it. I'll be fine once I know."

I'm not a medical expert just a woman who's been through it. So if you've questions on general or practical things by all means pm me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck to all in the process of having it done. Just want mine over with asap now

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By *ownhouseTwosomeCouple
over a year ago

Birkenhead/Liverpool


"I'm going tomorrow to hospital to discuss what's best for me. I'm bricking it so scared.

Good luck for tomorrow. For me this was the worst bit - the not knowing.

yes that's exactly it. I'll be fine once I know.

I'm not a medical expert just a woman who's been through it. So if you've questions on general or practical things by all means pm me."

I am medically trained but when it's happening to you, all that goes out of the window, so it's great to have some advice/support from people who have lived through it

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

Of course everyones reason for needing a hysterectomy may be different and some of you ladies may be having some nervous times for the reasononing of your op and in that I wish you well and hope it goes well . What I can tell you is that my better half had hers 18 months ago and she reckons its one of the best things she has had done , but fair enough we have our family and the bits and pieces removed have done their work .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What a nice "FWB" the OP is, and thanks for the experience shared on this thread.

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By *eedelightsWoman
over a year ago

London

I had the operation 2 years ago. I like most was petrified about the whole thing. But having suffered for several years I didn't have any other option. I think it's the fear of not knowing how u will feel afterwards. The surgeons and staff were all fantastic, talked me through every step. When I came to I couldnt beleive it was all done. 4 days in hosp , up and moving ( even if it was a snails pace) the day after the operation. Now sporting a small 6" scar on my stomach. I was suprised at how little pain I felt but then again after years of pain anything had to be better. Looking back I wished I had done it years ago. They warn you that for the first few months your emotions are all over the place , and yes I found myself crying like a baby watching a sporting event! I was lucky enough to be able to have a few months off to recover and take things slowly.

For me I suppose it's what brought me on here to see if my sex drive was back, and in some ways to see if I was still desirable to the opposite sex. Yes all is good I am glad to say.

To all you ladies who are thinking about it , I wish u all luck .i hope that my experience may have been of some use.

Xxx

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By *eedelightsWoman
over a year ago

London


"I'm going tomorrow to hospital to discuss what's best for me. I'm bricking it so scared. "

Don't be. Good luck with whatever u decide. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had mine 25 years ago when I was 23 the best thing I could have done

I went on to adopt two gorgeous sons

As for my sex life I can't remember anything different now and im still having so much fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My daughter had a hysterectomy at 18, physically she is much better, had she not had the op she would'nt be here anymore, they had no choice but to remove everything, mentally she's not so good, she's only 20 now and feels that no man will ever want her due to this, I think if your older and have already had children it must affect you different, its hard to comment on was it worth it because to me it was, without the op I'd be one daughter less now so obviously I'm glad she had it but I'm not the one who has to live knowing I'm never going to have kids and nobody will want me

But over all physically she's made a fill recovery and is much better, mentally its going to take time, if ever to come to terms with it"

I'm sure that with your help she will come to accept and probably turn out to be the best auntie that her siblings children will have. Good luck to her and you for the future.

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By *ittle missnaughtyWoman
over a year ago

Doncaster

Had mine 2 years ago. Best thing i ever did. My sex life has gone through the roof. Im always horny, hence why i am on here. Dont regret it one bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My daughter had a hysterectomy at 18, physically she is much better, had she not had the op she would'nt be here anymore, they had no choice but to remove everything, mentally she's not so good, she's only 20 now and feels that no man will ever want her due to this, I think if your older and have already had children it must affect you different, its hard to comment on was it worth it because to me it was, without the op I'd be one daughter less now so obviously I'm glad she had it but I'm not the one who has to live knowing I'm never going to have kids and nobody will want me

But over all physically she's made a fill recovery and is much better, mentally its going to take time, if ever to come to terms with it"

Im lucky enough to have had two children and I feel for your daughter going through this so young. My mum couldnt have children and this wont help right now, but she and my dad adopted me in the 60's. Lots of children need a loving mum and dad, when the time is right for her,maybe this is a option. I always felt a part of the whole family, was never made to feel different or unwanted by anybody. I hope you dont mind my saying this to you.

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

I had a total abdominal hysterectomy in 2013 and feel so much better.

Being plunged into the menopause isn't fun! the HRT I'm on needs adjusting every now and then and my sex drive fluctuates a bit, but no problems really.

I was worried that penetration would be painful as I had my cervix removed but as long as things aren't too rough or long then it's fine.

Mrs Dirty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My daughter had a hysterectomy at 18, physically she is much better, had she not had the op she would'nt be here anymore, they had no choice but to remove everything, mentally she's not so good, she's only 20 now and feels that no man will ever want her due to this, I think if your older and have already had children it must affect you different, its hard to comment on was it worth it because to me it was, without the op I'd be one daughter less now so obviously I'm glad she had it but I'm not the one who has to live knowing I'm never going to have kids and nobody will want me

But over all physically she's made a fill recovery and is much better, mentally its going to take time, if ever to come to terms with it

Im lucky enough to have had two children and I feel for your daughter going through this so young. My mum couldnt have children and this wont help right now, but she and my dad adopted me in the 60's. Lots of children need a loving mum and dad, when the time is right for her,maybe this is a option. I always felt a part of the whole family, was never made to feel different or unwanted by anybody. I hope you dont mind my saying this to you. "

People say it all the time the problem is though its an option its not an easy option there are so may more people after babies then babies that are avalible, people say to her all the time...oh you can adopt like its as easy as going to asda and picking up a child it's not, some wait all their lives for a child to adopt and never get one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i had the op when i was 27 went into early menapause but have hrt patches for that i had to have op for medical problems but all good now xx

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By *jandjbCouple
over a year ago

Nr Manchester


"

Sometimes the cervix is also removed in which case the lady will experience a different way of coming.

.

I'm not sure the cervix has anything to do with orgasm?? If the ovaries are left then the hormonal profile will be no different, mood changes etc will remain just there will be no bleeding unless there is endometriosis in the cervix (if this is left in situ). I would think that most women who have a hysterectomy for menstrual or endometrial problems will be glad the cause is gone. Gone are the days when once one had had children and was approaching the menopause it was advised to have it all take away to prevent later problems "

Before I had my hysterectomy I worried what it would do to my orgasms.

I needn't have worried at all! There was no change, no pain. No periods either. Fantastic! Best thing I've ever done.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I experience cervical orgasms. They are quite powerful and all consuming

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I experience cervical orgasms. They are quite powerful and all consuming "

How do you know its your cervix? Most women find any contact with their cervix quite painful. Although I do know a woman who got kicks from using cervical dilators or sounds on her own cervix,makes me shudder

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm going tomorrow to hospital to discuss what's best for me. I'm bricking it so scared.

Good luck for tomorrow. For me this was the worst bit - the not knowing.

yes that's exactly it. I'll be fine once I know."

well I know my choices now and I'm probably more scared than before. Time to have a serious talk with myself

hate being a grown up at times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My daughter had a hysterectomy at 18, physically she is much better, had she not had the op she would'nt be here anymore, they had no choice but to remove everything, mentally she's not so good, she's only 20 now and feels that no man will ever want her due to this, I think if your older and have already had children it must affect you different, its hard to comment on was it worth it because to me it was, without the op I'd be one daughter less now so obviously I'm glad she had it but I'm not the one who has to live knowing I'm never going to have kids and nobody will want me

But over all physically she's made a fill recovery and is much better, mentally its going to take time, if ever to come to terms with it

Im lucky enough to have had two children and I feel for your daughter going through this so young. My mum couldnt have children and this wont help right now, but she and my dad adopted me in the 60's. Lots of children need a loving mum and dad, when the time is right for her,maybe this is a option. I always felt a part of the whole family, was never made to feel different or unwanted by anybody. I hope you dont mind my saying this to you.

People say it all the time the problem is though its an option its not an easy option there are so may more people after babies then babies that are avalible, people say to her all the time...oh you can adopt like its as easy as going to asda and picking up a child it's not, some wait all their lives for a child to adopt and never get one "
k

Reading my post, I apologise as I realise option was the wrong word. I am aware it takes time as my parents told me everything about my adoption. I did not mean to offend you

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By *anetandNickCouple
over a year ago

Ross-on-Wye

The NHS give you a little leaflet.

It says you could two ways:

A. It could put you off sex completely because there's no point any more.

B. It could make your sex life much more liberated, confident and adventurous.

After several milliseconds of thoughtful consideration, I decided to go for option B.

Janet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had to have a hysterectomy 3 years ago i was a bit worried that i would feel different about myself, that i would be incomplete not a full woman. But have found it liberating and have never looked back. Was told that my sex drive would go down, but i have found the opposite my sex drive is now higher than it was before . I am lot healthier and happier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My daughter had a hysterectomy at 18, physically she is much better, had she not had the op she would'nt be here anymore, they had no choice but to remove everything, mentally she's not so good, she's only 20 now and feels that no man will ever want her due to this, I think if your older and have already had children it must affect you different, its hard to comment on was it worth it because to me it was, without the op I'd be one daughter less now so obviously I'm glad she had it but I'm not the one who has to live knowing I'm never going to have kids and nobody will want me

But over all physically she's made a fill recovery and is much better, mentally its going to take time, if ever to come to terms with it

Im lucky enough to have had two children and I feel for your daughter going through this so young. My mum couldnt have children and this wont help right now, but she and my dad adopted me in the 60's. Lots of children need a loving mum and dad, when the time is right for her,maybe this is a option. I always felt a part of the whole family, was never made to feel different or unwanted by anybody. I hope you dont mind my saying this to you.

People say it all the time the problem is though its an option its not an easy option there are so may more people after babies then babies that are avalible, people say to her all the time...oh you can adopt like its as easy as going to asda and picking up a child it's not, some wait all their lives for a child to adopt and never get one k

Reading my post, I apologise as I realise option was the wrong word. I am aware it takes time as my parents told me everything about my adoption. I did not mean to offend you "

No sorry you didn't offend me at all, I was just generally talking it wasn't aimed at anyone in particular x

Its just one of those subject where emotions do run high, she's already asked me if I would have a child for her, the problem is I'd be pushing my luck having a child now never mind in a few years when she's ready to have one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will be having this op in 2 months time and my fear is losing my sex drive x"

My sex drive is immense

Ask to leave your ovories in .

.If they don't need coming out then leave them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I experience cervical orgasms. They are quite powerful and all consuming

How do you know its your cervix? Most women find any contact with their cervix quite painful. Although I do know a woman who got kicks from using cervical dilators or sounds on her own cervix,makes me shudder "

Because of the position of the penis inside me. I can feel it myself with my fingers. Nothing goes inside it. I think,although I'm not sure,that it gets pushed against nerves which is the stimulus. I could be wrong but I can't think of anything else that deep that could cause that sensation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best thing I ever did. No impact at all on my sex life xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I had to have a hysterectomy 3 years ago i was a bit worried that i would feel different about myself, that i would be incomplete not a full woman. But have found it liberating and have never looked back. Was told that my sex drive would go down, but i have found the opposite my sex drive is now higher than it was before . I am lot healthier and happier."

my sex drive went through the roof after mine. I still have my ovaries and cervix

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will be having this op in 2 months time and my fear is losing my sex drive x

My sex drive is immense

Ask to leave your ovories in .

.If they don't need coming out then leave them x"

Why? All mine are gone and my sex drive is as insane as it was before and its a myth you dont get wet as ive heard this but i dont. I even wake up throbbing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My daughter had a hysterectomy at 18, physically she is much better, had she not had the op she would'nt be here anymore, they had no choice but to remove everything, mentally she's not so good, she's only 20 now and feels that no man will ever want her due to this, I think if your older and have already had children it must affect you different, its hard to comment on was it worth it because to me it was, without the op I'd be one daughter less now so obviously I'm glad she had it but I'm not the one who has to live knowing I'm never going to have kids and nobody will want me

But over all physically she's made a fill recovery and is much better, mentally its going to take time, if ever to come to terms with it

Im lucky enough to have had two children and I feel for your daughter going through this so young. My mum couldnt have children and this wont help right now, but she and my dad adopted me in the 60's. Lots of children need a loving mum and dad, when the time is right for her,maybe this is a option. I always felt a part of the whole family, was never made to feel different or unwanted by anybody. I hope you dont mind my saying this to you.

People say it all the time the problem is though its an option its not an easy option there are so may more people after babies then babies that are avalible, people say to her all the time...oh you can adopt like its as easy as going to asda and picking up a child it's not, some wait all their lives for a child to adopt and never get one k

Reading my post, I apologise as I realise option was the wrong word. I am aware it takes time as my parents told me everything about my adoption. I did not mean to offend you

No sorry you didn't offend me at all, I was just generally talking it wasn't aimed at anyone in particular x

Its just one of those subject where emotions do run high, she's already asked me if I would have a child for her, the problem is I'd be pushing my luck having a child now never mind in a few years when she's ready to have one "

I always said to my oh if I couldnt have children I would adopt. I always thought to myself if my daughter wanted children and couldnt, that I would have one for her, but she is only 24 and my age would be against me I think. Its very sad and I send my love to you both. xx

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By *oenjess2003Couple
over a year ago

St Helens/ Forres


"I had it 12 years ago. Made full recovery snd on hrt till im 50. No pain. No pmt. My sex life is great and i recommend it if doctor advises it. "

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By *angerpointCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

I had a total hysterectomy 5weeks ago and I feel great. All the pain and heavy bleeding I had before has gone and my sex drive is through the roof. Its the best decision I made. After along time of feeling unwell I can now enjoy being me. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the positive comments make me feel better. X

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I'm aware that ladies have hysterectomies for different reasons but if it's a bleeding/period issue then have you been offered endometrial microwave ablation? I was offered this many years ago as an alternative to hysterectomy...it's done as a day procedure, no scars, nothing removed, no menopause, no need for hrt etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm aware that ladies have hysterectomies for different reasons but if it's a bleeding/period issue then have you been offered endometrial microwave ablation? I was offered this many years ago as an alternative to hysterectomy...it's done as a day procedure, no scars, nothing removed, no menopause, no need for hrt etc "

and did it work?

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By *isa 59Woman
over a year ago

Newcastle

It certainly did...apparently it's successful in over 90% of cases with women never having another period. Of course it means you can't have any more children. If your periods do come back then my understanding is that it's years later, they are much lighter, and you can always have the procedure again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It certainly did...apparently it's successful in over 90% of cases with women never having another period. Of course it means you can't have any more children. If your periods do come back then my understanding is that it's years later, they are much lighter, and you can always have the procedure again."

thanks will have to see if this is an alternate procedure for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm aware that ladies have hysterectomies for different reasons but if it's a bleeding/period issue then have you been offered endometrial microwave ablation? I was offered this many years ago as an alternative to hysterectomy...it's done as a day procedure, no scars, nothing removed, no menopause, no need for hrt etc "

I also had this procedure two years ago and worked for me too a brilliant alternative to a hysterectomy for the problem i had for many years would highly recommend it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm aware that ladies have hysterectomies for different reasons but if it's a bleeding/period issue then have you been offered endometrial microwave ablation? I was offered this many years ago as an alternative to hysterectomy...it's done as a day procedure, no scars, nothing removed, no menopause, no need for hrt etc "

My sister had this done and it has ruined her life

She has terrible scarring and adhesions and at times is crippled by the pain

Be very very careful about having it done

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over a year ago

I had a hysterectomy when I was 27, I am now 46 and it's the best thing I ever had done. For me I was 1 stage away from cancer and so thankful I went for regular smears. I can now have sex 24/7 - not in pain anymore and it has never affected my sex drive. If anything I get more powerful orgasms now than I ever did & on occasions squirt like crazy with the right touch.

But everyone is different and recovery is different. Just because your ability to have children has been removed it does not make you less of a woman. With the right aftercare & mindset you will be fine. Make sure you talk to the doctors and if needed after your 6 week check up seek professional advice if you feel you need it.

Hope your operation goes well for you x x

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over a year ago

So glad to find this post! After years of problems with pills,implant and coil last April I was sterilized and had the endometrial ablasion,this was fine for a couple of months then I started getting horrendous pain! After lots of doctors and hospital trips I eventually had a scan,turned out I had a collection round my womb! After seeing my consultant I agreed to a hysterectomy! November I stood up from my computer chair,felt like I had peed myself but turned out to be blood,my god scary!! Anyway,I have been waiting 18 weeks and yesterday got a call from the hospital,today I went for my pre op and have to be at the hospital sunday morning! I am actually quite scared now it's more realistic lol I'm having the keyhole and suction procedure,they have told me I should just be in over night,so fingers crossed things go ok! wish me luck guys lol and good luck to all you other ladies xxxx

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over a year ago

My best friend had a hysterical rectomy several years back.....best thing she ever did (she says )

She is an absolute aminal when she gets going and can squirt fir Englabd.

We have never looked back!

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over a year ago


"I'm aware that ladies have hysterectomies for different reasons but if it's a bleeding/period issue then have you been offered endometrial microwave ablation? I was offered this many years ago as an alternative to hysterectomy...it's done as a day procedure, no scars, nothing removed, no menopause, no need for hrt etc "

I had this done before the hysterectomy. A complete waste of time in my particular case. The success rate overall is good so i was one of the unlucky ones.

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over a year ago


"I'm aware that ladies have hysterectomies for different reasons but if it's a bleeding/period issue then have you been offered endometrial microwave ablation? I was offered this many years ago as an alternative to hysterectomy...it's done as a day procedure, no scars, nothing removed, no menopause, no need for hrt etc

I had this done before the hysterectomy. A complete waste of time in my particular case. The success rate overall is good so i was one of the unlucky ones."

It's also not a permanent solution and has to be repeated every three years at least.

Each time the risk of scarring increases dramatically, my sister was ok first time just a few niggles but second time around it was awful, re my post above.

For me any procedure that basically cooks your insides is not without major risks, I had a full hysterectomy and it's been fantastic

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"So glad to find this post! After years of problems with pills,implant and coil last April I was sterilized and had the endometrial ablasion,this was fine for a couple of months then I started getting horrendous pain! After lots of doctors and hospital trips I eventually had a scan,turned out I had a collection round my womb! After seeing my consultant I agreed to a hysterectomy! November I stood up from my computer chair,felt like I had peed myself but turned out to be blood,my god scary!! Anyway,I have been waiting 18 weeks and yesterday got a call from the hospital,today I went for my pre op and have to be at the hospital sunday morning! I am actually quite scared now it's more realistic lol I'm having the keyhole and suction procedure,they have told me I should just be in over night,so fingers crossed things go ok! wish me luck guys lol and good luck to all you other ladies xxxx"

Good luck. Just don't try to over do things and risk your recovery.

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over a year ago

I had a partial hysterectomy 9 years ago and after ovarian cysts had it completed in November. My sex drive is ridiculously high and has been since the pain from the procedure went away. I've never had difficulty in orgasming either. The op needn't end your sex life! My concern is that men will find my two massive scars unappealing, one on my bikini line from the first op and one straight down the middle from the second, but a basque works wonders for my confidence. I was soooooo scared going in for the ops but they were necessary and everything worked out Ok. I am sure you will be fine too. Best of luck x

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over a year ago

Well guys it's all over and done with they managed to do it all vaginally so no cuts to heal was home by lunchtime today just feeling a little sore and tired,now just for recovery xx

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"Well guys it's all over and done with they managed to do it all vaginally so no cuts to heal was home by lunchtime today just feeling a little sore and tired,now just for recovery xx"

Wishing you all the very best. Hopefully like me, and many others on here, you'll soon make a full recovery and feel better than you've felt in ages. Just don't try to do too much too soon x

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By *exymatcplMan
over a year ago

doncaster

my wife had it vaginally and totally fucked her life up,

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"Well guys it's all over and done with they managed to do it all vaginally so no cuts to heal was home by lunchtime today just feeling a little sore and tired,now just for recovery xx"

how do they determine if it's possible vaginally?

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Usually it's if you've had children naturally as the womb is more flexible and/or size determined from the ultrasound, apparently. There's a bit about this on the NHS website. I was told it was preferred as it doesn't leave an open wound and recovery time is less. I hadn't had kids and my body wouldn't play ball so I had an abdominal one.

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