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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Don't seen to get many replys am I doing anything wrong or do a lot of single guys get the same?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everything you have done so far.. has been wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lmao

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

And why is that looking for advice not criticism

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What is your typical message that you send?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe your messages are good but most willlook at your profile and delete with no reply... Have a look at other threads on here and get some tips

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And why is that looking for advice not criticism "

IDK mate, how can we tell you what you're doing wrong? You haven't told us what you have been doing

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

It's a general hi comment on their profile and things in common looking to chat and get to know ppl first and see where it goes

Also have a face pic a can send too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need some more pics on your profile (not of your cock) write a little about you, your likes, dislikes, what you have to offer etc etc, your profile is your shop window, yours looks like you havnt lifted the shutters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a general hi comment on their profile and things in common looking to chat and get to know ppl first and see where it goes

Also have a face pic a can send too "

In that case, express the things in common you think will appeal to the type of people on your profile, proofread your profile text and definately, no text speak. Add some torso and bum pics. I find what more erotic is seeing an erection under briefs. Most people tend to look at the profile first before reading messages.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Many ladies will simply delete a message from a guy with a cock pic avatar, be a bit more original!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for tips guys

New to all this so helps alot

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

OP, I don't mean to be dissing your profile but it really is Dullsville, Alabama.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's your profile I'd guess

Cock pic avatar

No other pics (assume you send with message?)

Looking to meet ages 18 to 99

Little text on profile

No personality or indication of who you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And typos

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yea looks like I need to totally revamp it up!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yea looks like I need to totally revamp it up!!"

Its a bit paragraphy. ok I know, not a proper word. Maybe say why you cant accommodate too

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not had chance to sort pics out but have updated profile txt

Hopefully better !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not had chance to sort pics out but have updated profile txt

Hopefully better ! "

Much better

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Not had chance to sort pics out but have updated profile txt

Hopefully better ! "

Better. Now read it out loud, you'll spot any daft sounding bits.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"Not had chance to sort pics out but have updated profile txt

Hopefully better !

Much better "

Better! How bad was it before?

To the OP green arrow me and you'll see that I've given tips on this before.

But the best tip I can give you now is never say anything negative and never, never ever post another thread like this one. It makes you look desperate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Not really desperate mate just clocked on I was doing something wrong

Brand new to this so needed advice

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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago

Pleasuretown


"Many ladies will simply delete a message from a guy with a cock pic avatar, be a bit more original!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cock pic and name would put us off without reading any further.

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By *nleashedCrakenMan
over a year ago

Widnes


"Not really desperate mate just clocked on I was doing something wrong

Brand new to this so needed advice "

I wasn't saying you were just that it can come across looking like you are. You'll probably get away with it as you are new but you won't a second time.

Just my advice for what it's worth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyhoo, it aint easy mate, single males probably account for 70% of the site, and some send the same women loads of messages to get their attention.

Some women here are faced with about 300-400 messages a day, flattering at first, boring after a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think of yourself as a shop window.

Now think of yourself as a shopper looking in that window.

Would you go in that shop compared to the others around it?

(I might use this analogy more often)

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By *ilmisseCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire


"cock pic and name would put us off without reading any further."

id agree, the cock pic isnt the best, i know its hard to take photos yourself, but it will make a difference, it is really about selling yourself if your a single guy so you have to do whatever you can

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By *ilmisseCouple
over a year ago

leicestershire


"Think of yourself as a shop window.

Now think of yourself as a shopper looking in that window.

Would you go in that shop compared to the others around it?

(I might use this analogy more often) "

and we might steel it , very well put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think of yourself as a shop window.

Now think of yourself as a shopper looking in that window.

Would you go in that shop compared to the others around it?

(I might use this analogy more often)

and we might steel it , very well put"

Royalty payments will be taken in kind

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

All making sense now - thanks people!

Seeing the error of my ways! Ha

Best get some pics done - waist upwards !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Much better than before!

Portia

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Count yourself lucky if you get replies at all, mate.

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By *at69driveMan
over a year ago

Hertford


"Don't seen to get many replys am I doing anything wrong or do a lot of single guys get the same?"
. With no picture of your body and being unable to accommodate did you expect any replies ?. You will need to add pictures and make it clear that you will pay for a hotel room.

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

Profile text is a lot better....I would still delete because of the avatar pic tho....sorry

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Pic will be sorted soon and yes guna get body pics etc on

In terms of accommodating iv covered that in my profile and would presume the man would pay for the hotel anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you have only been on here three weeks you have to be patient and get yourself known and trusted tc

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By *eliciousladyWoman
over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Cock profile picture..no thanks it's a delete.

Profile write up too much 'me me me'

Couple more pics been suggested of chest, which as a rugby man I'm guessing it's impressive and ass pic purrrrlease.

x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cock profile picture..no thanks it's a delete.

Profile write up too much 'me me me'

Couple more pics been suggested of chest, which as a rugby man I'm guessing it's impressive and ass pic purrrrlease.

x"

Ooooh yeah get the athletic torso pics up op !!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

looks like the chest and arse pics are a must!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

And we seem to be going from no profile to generic profile at max speed here.....

There is listening to people and there is listening to everyone.... Danger being you end up making the same mistake as a lot of people

Why are you trying to appeal to everyone? Let's put it this way

If the next 5 women said love cock pics.... And the 5 after that said hate cock pics

Who are you listening to????

Part of swinging is appealing to specific people... A mail shot to everyone isn't going to get everyone saying wow!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

great point to be fair

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

At this point in time there are about 20,000 people on fab. Don't immediately act on the advice of 4 or 5. Read all the other threads and make your own decisions. You obviously thought a cock pic would attract a sexual partner. What made you change your mind? The views of 3 people? Read all the other threads on profile advice. Don't try to please everyone. Be yourself then you will stand out.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree with the above. However no profile was ever not improved by six pack and athletic torso shots.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ratio is about 100 men to 1 woman, its by luck mostly as she would be swamped with emails and mass deleted them lol.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"Agree with the above. However no profile was ever not improved by six pack and athletic torso shots. "

Except the poster above

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Agree with the above. However no profile was ever not improved by six pack and athletic torso shots.

Except the poster above "
Yes I got the 6pack lol

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