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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hello,

I'm hoping some of you can share some pearls of wisdom? We're a new couple (recently got together) and have been discussing our sexual fantasies a lot.

My gf is an active regular swinger (and introduced me to this site) she has a lot of experience. I've never swung but my biggest fantasy is to be cuckolded. I've already enjoyed watching my gf cam with guys and enjoy watching her get chatted up at bars and clubs.

My gf is very excited at the idea of cuckolding me and is willing to make my fantasy reality. She's invited me to a party with around 20 couples where she'd enjoy me watching her having fun. The idea, of so many couples, immediately freaked me. Thoughts running through my head included 'What if I don't like it', 'Whats the ettiquette etc' 'will i look (or do) something stupid!'.. I also know that after the sex I'd like to 'reconnect' with her maybe just hold or hug each other for a while. I'm worried this would look odd or be un-comfortable in front of so many people!

So, we're both trying to decide whether I should just jump in at the deep end and attend the party or whether a better introduction, to the lifestyle, is by starting slowly with meeting one guy and seeing how that feels for us both...

Does anyone have any experiences or thoughts they'd can share?

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By *elsh.30Man
over a year ago

newport

Im also new to all this swinging, but if I was you I would try with one guy first. then if you like it youve got all the time in the world to go to parties and take things further

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I would certainly not do the jump in at the deep end.

I would stick with one extra person before you go to 40 extra people there.

If you can accept and feel confy with another person involved then fair enough, then slowly build up.

I think she needs to rememeber that this is new to you.

If you were the driving force of this 20 couples meet then I would hope your partner would be telling you to walk before you can run.

Just my opinion as I dont know either of you and you clearly both know each other.

Talk lots about your concerns and questions and hopes for this.

Good luck xx

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By *ollie_JCouple
over a year ago

London

I have checked your profile and maybe put two and two together

Why not contact one of her previous meets, maybe a couple, and try a foursome..

You may then find whether bring a cuckold or a swinger is for you, at least you have a choice within a controlled environment

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By *-and-KCouple
over a year ago

Back of Beyond

So basically you want to be embarrassed and humiliated in front of a room of strangers. Is that what you really want?

Look at it plain and simple... you will be in the room fully dressed, everyone else will be naked and enjoying sex, should you want to join in you will be told in no uncertain terms that you cannot. You will have to stand there and take all the humiliation thrown at you, not only from those involved but also your girlfriend as well. Forget the hugging to reconnect afterwards, it won't happen at the party, this would show you GF has no control over you.

I think you have not really thought this through completely. Go for it with a single guy first and see how you react. The long term affects of cuckolding will mean you will support this woman financially, yet get nothing in return, sexually or otherwise. Yet she will be living off you and enjoying sex with multiple partners while treating you like shite.

Harsh words I know. But it has to be said plainly. I have been on mnay sites over the years and seen this sort of relationship go badly wrong, and in one case in the US, a guy murdered his wife when what he started, he realised was not for him. Unfortunately his wife decided it was for her and refused to give up other men or giving him a dogs life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

cuckolding per se involves a controlling, typically "bull", alpha male using your g/f in front of you and dominating you completely, for his and/or her benefit. as a newbie to cuckolding, you should go for a MMF cuckold situation or several such situations to begin with. this will give you both exposure to cuckolding, and will enable you to assess whether its for you both. twenty couples from the "off" sounds more like an orgy ... with you getting nothing from it save abject humiliation. start slowly, then progress at your own speed. have fun !!

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