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By *irm hand Luke OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire

As a single guy who fews the odd message to people, who advice can you give for the content?

I'm always polite, pleseant, complimentary, slightly amusing perhaps but often these messages are deleted, sometimes without even looking at the profile. I don't send cock pics but I do send a face.

Putting the fact that some people just don't fancy the pic or profile, what do you think people want to see in a first message from a single guy?

Looking forward to hearing some thoughts here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How do you know they haven't looked at your profile ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm interested to know what biscuits you have?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We arent after single males, but if you sent us a message like you say you do, we would thank you for the message but say we arent keen.

The only people we just delete and block are the ones who send us one liners or clearly don't read out profile.

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By *irm hand Luke OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire


"How do you know they haven't looked at your profile ?"

I check the "looked at me page"..?!

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By *irm hand Luke OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire


"I'm interested to know what biscuits you have?"

Current biscuits are chocolate chip shortbread or Ecuadorian dark chocolate cookies. Get me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

(the female part speaking)

I like your profile.

but maybe you write to the wrong people?

I guess you should look at it that way:

if they don't like the way you write and the way your profile is written it might be better not to meet them, because they would not appreciate you and probably you wouldn't like them either.

that's what I try to think if one of my messages is just deleted.

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By *irm hand Luke OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire


"We arent after single males, but if you sent us a message like you say you do, we would thank you for the message but say we arent keen.

The only people we just delete and block are the ones who send us one liners or clearly don't read out profile."

Thanks for the reply. If it says no single males then I don't message.

Most people who don't want us block us anyway

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By *irm hand Luke OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire


"(the female part speaking)

I like your profile.

but maybe you write to the wrong people?

I guess you should look at it that way:

if they don't like the way you write and the way your profile is written it might be better not to meet them, because they would not appreciate you and probably you wouldn't like them either.

that's what I try to think if one of my messages is just deleted."

That's a good take on things. It can just be a little demoralising when you try to put some thought into a message for it to be discarded instantly, although I totally understand the volume of messages from single guys can be annoying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you know they haven't looked at your profile ?

I check the "looked at me page"..?!"

I'm in stealth mode, you wouldn't know if i looked at your page or not. Will fab one of your pics then you know i've been to your page but i won't be in your looked at me.

But yeah if people like your message and any pics you send they will check out your profile to see if that gets them interested.

Just wanna say i do appreciate any polite and sincere messages but can't reply to all, we all have different ways of choosing who we want to meet as well.

Say i'm after a quick, spontaneous fuck, i will choose the most attractive and nearest person to me.

If i was going to plan a meet (which is rare tbh) i would have spoken to the guy for some time before i make special arrangements for him.

Occasionally i will not be looking at all but get a message from someone that caches my interest and want to meet them asap so do that as well.

It's down to timing, and what the person is looking for really.

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By *irm hand Luke OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire

Ah I see well I've learnt something today, stealth mode sounds exciting!

I think if I turned my stealth mode on I would really become invisible!

Thanks for the feedback though I appreciate the effort you put into your response.

Food for thought too!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah I see well I've learnt something today, stealth mode sounds exciting!

I think if I turned my stealth mode on I would really become invisible!

Thanks for the feedback though I appreciate the effort you put into your response.

Food for thought too!"

You're welcome.

Stealth mode isn't that exciting haha, it just stops me from getting unwanted messages from guys asking if i'm interested because they noticed i looked at their page. If i didn't message them they should realise i wasn't so it saves a lot of hassle really, and saves me from deleting more from my inbox.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How do you know they haven't looked at your profile ?

I check the "looked at me page"..?!"

This won't show everyone who's visited your profile, as there is an option on fab for 'stealth browsing' - i.e. to not show up on 'looked at me' pages.

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By *irm hand Luke OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire


"How do you know they haven't looked at your profile ?

I check the "looked at me page"..?!

This won't show everyone who's visited your profile, as there is an option on fab for 'stealth browsing' - i.e. to not show up on 'looked at me' pages."

Yes I know that know as someone mentioned earlier! Didn't realise at the time though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Free up some more pics and inject humour and what your looking for in your messages.

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By *irm hand Luke OP   Man
over a year ago

Berkshire/West Oxfordshire


"Free up some more pics and inject humour and what your looking for in your messages. "

Surely a face pic and maybe a body too is enough?

I try to be humourous but probably clooser the cringeworthy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm in the same position as you, i send winks and messages and they just constantly get deleted or are left unread. I cant seem to get the attention of anyone no one looks at my profile either.

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

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