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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I imagine there is etiquette for this but I'm new to this thing and have a niggling thought…..

If your chatting to people in a club and getting to know your surroundings and what's going on etc and they invite you to "play" how do you say no if you don't want to? Without offending and without coming across as a prick?

Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

be honest.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

Just say no thanks.

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By *othingButCocoChanelWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Have done on many occasions

A simple no thanks is all it takes

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

'Aww that's really kind of you to ask, I'm not really feeling ready for the playrooms yet, but you guys go ahead and I'll maybe see you in the later'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You'll be respected more for being honest than forging ahead and not being into it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'Aww that's really kind of you to ask, I'm not really feeling ready for the playrooms yet, but you guys go ahead and I'll maybe see you in the later'"

that may give them false hope, I would rather be honest and say no thankyou

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Some really great help here.

I'm picking the bits of it and it's looking like "Polite Honesty" is the best policy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'Aww that's really kind of you to ask, I'm not really feeling ready for the playrooms yet, but you guys go ahead and I'll maybe see you in the later'

that may give them false hope, I would rather be honest and say no thankyou"

this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A polite no thank you usually works just fine.

Or you could try: yes please, I'll just pop to the car to get the cream for my galloping knob rot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'Aww that's really kind of you to ask, I'm not really feeling ready for the playrooms yet, but you guys go ahead and I'll maybe see you in the later'

that may give them false hope, I would rather be honest and say no thankyou"

I think anything other than a simple no thanks can leave people unsure which is not fair. I find 'no thanks' if you are 100% certain that person is not for you works. 'not playing yet' keeps your options open if you may want to play later after socialising.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Some really great help here.

I'm picking the bits of it and it's looking like "Polite Honesty" is the best policy."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The nicest knock-back I've had from a man is "sorry, but I haven't got one in me" (one = shag I think). It's a nice way of implying that he would have liked to, but that he's already played that night.

Of course, I never asked him again LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them that your new (true) and that you are not sure you are ready yet...kinda thanks but no thanks but no offence.

That, or don't get talking to people you wouldn't be happy to fuck with?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'Aww that's really kind of you to ask, I'm not really feeling ready for the playrooms yet, but you guys go ahead and I'll maybe see you in the later'"

you mean lie .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell them that your new (true) and that you are not sure you are ready yet...kinda thanks but no thanks but no offence.

That, or don't get talking to people you wouldn't be happy to fuck with?"

But you might no know that you don't want to fuck them until you've started talking to them.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Tell them that your new (true) and that you are not sure you are ready yet...kinda thanks but no thanks but no offence.

That, or don't get talking to people you wouldn't be happy to fuck with?

But you might no know that you don't want to fuck them until you've started talking to them..... "

or might be a natterbox and like the social side of clubs too

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I day things like "thank you, I don't think we have that vibe but its been lovely chatting to you".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Polite honesty in a positive way - be upfront but friendly.

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By *hoenixcouplexxCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire


"'Aww that's really kind of you to ask, I'm not really feeling ready for the playrooms yet, but you guys go ahead and I'll maybe see you in the later'

you mean lie . "

How is it a lie ffs?

It is kind of someone to ask, it's not exactly being horrible is it?

Clearly if he doesn't feel he wants to play at that time with them then he's not ready to play with them either.

Assuming they have their own minds they can go ahead and play on their own.

Maybe he will change his mind later when someone says flat out 'No' to him. So maybe he will choose to 'see them later'

So where's the lie?

We've used that as a 'not right now thanks' loads of times and it's never been taken offensively. We've played with couples we've said that to since and we've not played with some others.

Maybe it's different when you are dealing with single men. We've never had to though so can't really comment on that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't orgasm for two weeks prior to the club night. Then it really won't be a problem.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I just say no thank you and smile, it takes guts for some people to ask so I try to be pleasant

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By *inkxRabbitWoman
over a year ago

Wok-ish Horsell temporarily


"A polite no thank you usually works just fine.

Or you could try: yes please, I'll just pop to the car to get the cream for my galloping knob rot."

Hahahaha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"'Aww that's really kind of you to ask, I'm not really feeling ready for the playrooms yet, but you guys go ahead and I'll maybe see you in the later'"

Wow top answer!!!

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