FabSwingers.com forum: sick of timewasters

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I always insist on a social meet before any intention of playing and in the last 5 days I organised 5 meets and been let down 3 times! I have now stripped down my profile entirely and become totally disillusioned with it all.........any tips/comments?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I take it as everyone want a shag first date lol mind you 2 out of 5 aint to bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Great photos but your profile is abit scarce but that could be because you just stripped it down

Hex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's rubbish hunnie, why would someone turn down a social ? Do you stick to verified people ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah, meet me. Ain't no way I'd turn you down

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

That's why we only meet in clubs nowadays. That way you can always find someone to chat or play with and no time is wasted. For you it would probably be free admission too.

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By *iss_Samantha_LovecockTV/TS
over a year ago

bmth /poole sometimes blandford

"That's rubbish hunnie, why would someone turn down a social ? Do you stick to verified people ?"

because lots on here are too scared and once they get the chance to do what theyve been talking about doing the run a mile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick to your guns hun I do if they can't do a social they are nowhere near getting their hands on me . I find it s out the weirdos I had one guy on a social openly trying to grope me in an asda cafe my skin was creeping always stay safe social first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's rubbish hunnie, why would someone turn down a social ? Do you stick to verified people ?

because lots on here are too scared and once they get the chance to do what theyve been talking about doing the run a mile "

I guess so but its only a drink. Maybe they have sod all social skills ?!!

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By *lowstick66Man
over a year ago

well we can say then that 2 meets have actually happened, what length of time have you been setting those up? imagine if you were a guy on here!

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

if you would like to meet and renew your faith. connie xox

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Choose better?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get why people don't meet. As a guy its hard to even get a reply let alone an offer of a meet, its mad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's why we only meet in clubs nowadays. That way you can always find someone to chat or play with and no time is wasted. For you it would probably be free admission too. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are they cancelling? Or just not turning up?

To be honest 3 'timewasters' out of 5 meets is a lot. Could be just unfortunate but you need to look at what you are doing and change it.

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By *inkyminky69Man
over a year ago

Glasgow-ish

Next time I come to chorley (quite often)

Why not come to dinner with me?

No pressure and a free feed! You can't go wrong lol

Also, are the no shows mugs? You look great!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are they cancelling? Or just not turning up?

To be honest 3 'timewasters' out of 5 meets is a lot. Could be just unfortunate but you need to look at what you are doing and change it. "

They cancel when I message on the day to see if the meet is still on.

And I sure aint gonna change!

I am 100% genuine and dont see any reason to change

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't let it bother you , easier said then done we know but it's there loss perhaps there married !!! You know what a lot are like on here or any other site dreamers wiggle them out and the fun will come ...... In more ways then one xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No you don't change for no one hun !!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No you don't change for no one hun !!!!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always insist on a social meet before any intention of playing and in the last 5 days I organised 5 meets and been let down 3 times! I have now stripped down my profile entirely and become totally disillusioned with it all.........any tips/comments? "
keep doing what ure doing it does work x if they seem to only wanna meet and fuk and u prefure a social first the ones that have arranged a meet then canceld arent in my eyes worth meeting we go through this on a weekly bassis wen looking for meets as we only do soft play swap so were not good enough for them so to speak well its our rules they should obey them and same for u hun stik to ure guns im very sure loads would jump.at the chance of a.social with u xxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do same social 1st as a single fem ya can't be to careful but the prob is most of guys on here think we should just meet and fuck don't matter if there's no banter or slight bit of attraction to many ppl treat swinging as a job not as consentual fun

Oh and no veried ppl deserve a chance as once we had no veris

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I always insist on a social meet before any intention of playing and in the last 5 days I organised 5 meets and been let down 3 times! I have now stripped down my profile entirely and become totally disillusioned with it all.........any tips/comments? keep doing what ure doing it does work x if they seem to only wanna meet and fuk and u prefure a social first the ones that have arranged a meet then canceld arent in my eyes worth meeting we go through this on a weekly bassis wen looking for meets as we only do soft play swap so were not good enough for them so to speak well its our rules they should obey them and same for u hun stik to ure guns im very sure loads would jump.at the chance of a.social with u xxxxx"
thank you x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do same social 1st as a single fem ya can't be to careful but the prob is most of guys on here think we should just meet and fuck don't matter if there's no banter or slight bit of attraction to many ppl treat swinging as a job not as consentual fun

Oh and no veried ppl deserve a chance as once we had no veris"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been wanting to meet you for a while but your profile always said tall men.i always have a social first and never pull out. Just a thought as we are local to each other!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome.chorley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been wanting to meet you for a while but your profile always said tall men.i always have a social first and never pull out. Just a thought as we are local to each other!"

Wear heels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if people wont meet u for a social are they really worth your time

There are plenty of people on here who do understand swinging isnt all about sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been wanting to meet you for a while but your profile always said tall men.i always have a social first and never pull out. Just a thought as we are local to each other!

Wear heels

would u wear heels for me Joker

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've been wanting to meet you for a while but your profile always said tall men.i always have a social first and never pull out. Just a thought as we are local to each other!

Wear heels

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been wanting to meet you for a while but your profile always said tall men.i always have a social first and never pull out. Just a thought as we are local to each other!

Wear heels

What colour ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are they cancelling? Or just not turning up?

To be honest 3 'timewasters' out of 5 meets is a lot. Could be just unfortunate but you need to look at what you are doing and change it.

They cancel when I message on the day to see if the meet is still on.

And I sure aint gonna change!

I am 100% genuine and dont see any reason to change"

I didn;t say you need to change. I suggested changing how you go about meeting. Because a 60% cancellation rate would get me looking at what I could do differently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've been wanting to meet you for a while but your profile always said tall men.i always have a social first and never pull out. Just a thought as we are local to each other!

Wear heels

What colour ?"

Big sparkly silver platform ones like the bloke with the funny hair cut from Slade used to wear !

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Are they cancelling? Or just not turning up?

To be honest 3 'timewasters' out of 5 meets is a lot. Could be just unfortunate but you need to look at what you are doing and change it.

They cancel when I message on the day to see if the meet is still on.

And I sure aint gonna change!

I am 100% genuine and dont see any reason to change"

I don't know you and I don't know the people who have cancelled, but could it be that it takes too long to arrange a meet and the final message makes them think you will let them down?

Just a thought.

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"I've been wanting to meet you for a while but your profile always said tall men.i always have a social first and never pull out. Just a thought as we are local to each other!"

B loves men who never pull out!

Long long sessions yes. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are they cancelling? Or just not turning up?

To be honest 3 'timewasters' out of 5 meets is a lot. Could be just unfortunate but you need to look at what you are doing and change it.

They cancel when I message on the day to see if the meet is still on.

And I sure aint gonna change!

I am 100% genuine and dont see any reason to change

I don't know you and I don't know the people who have cancelled, but could it be that it takes too long to arrange a meet and the final message makes them think you will let them down?

Just a thought."

Why ? I thought she was messaging to confirm, its what I'd do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are they cancelling? Or just not turning up?

To be honest 3 'timewasters' out of 5 meets is a lot. Could be just unfortunate but you need to look at what you are doing and change it.

They cancel when I message on the day to see if the meet is still on.

And I sure aint gonna change!

I am 100% genuine and dont see any reason to change

I don't know you and I don't know the people who have cancelled, but could it be that it takes too long to arrange a meet and the final message makes them think you will let them down?

Just a thought."
what are you on about??

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By *ill1948Man
over a year ago

lincoln

Are you looking for a too man that's too young if you looked some one just a bit older ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you looking for a too man that's too young if you looked some one just a bit older ??"

Pardon ?!

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

"Are they cancelling? Or just not turning up?

To be honest 3 'timewasters' out of 5 meets is a lot. Could be just unfortunate but you need to look at what you are doing and change it.

They cancel when I message on the day to see if the meet is still on.

And I sure aint gonna change!

I am 100% genuine and dont see any reason to change

I don't know you and I don't know the people who have cancelled, but could it be that it takes too long to arrange a meet and the final message makes them think you will let them down?

Just a thought.what are you on about??"

Your post gave me the impression you took a long time to arrange a meet.

Some people don't like too many messages arranging a meet and get wound up.

The final message asking if the meet was still on could be the straw that broke the camel's back.

It seems you must be doing something wrong and possibly that could be the explanation.

I can't see anything in your profile or pictures to frighten people off so it must be something else, either you or them.

I only know what you have revealed and so can only make suggestions based on that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are they cancelling? Or just not turning up?

To be honest 3 'timewasters' out of 5 meets is a lot. Could be just unfortunate but you need to look at what you are doing and change it.

They cancel when I message on the day to see if the meet is still on.

And I sure aint gonna change!

I am 100% genuine and dont see any reason to change

I don't know you and I don't know the people who have cancelled, but could it be that it takes too long to arrange a meet and the final message makes them think you will let them down?

Just a thought.what are you on about??

Your post gave me the impression you took a long time to arrange a meet.

Some people don't like too many messages arranging a meet and get wound up.

The final message asking if the meet was still on could be the straw that broke the camel's back.

It seems you must be doing something wrong and possibly that could be the explanation.

I can't see anything in your profile or pictures to frighten people off so it must be something else, either you or them.

I only know what you have revealed and so can only make suggestions based on that.

How does a message to confirm on the day of the meet get interpreted as a possible no show on the op's part ? Sounds like they had no intention of showing and hoped she didn't either and her confirmation made it real so they bottled it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Are they cancelling? Or just not turning up?

To be honest 3 'timewasters' out of 5 meets is a lot. Could be just unfortunate but you need to look at what you are doing and change it.

They cancel when I message on the day to see if the meet is still on.

And I sure aint gonna change!

I am 100% genuine and dont see any reason to change

I don't know you and I don't know the people who have cancelled, but could it be that it takes too long to arrange a meet and the final message makes them think you will let them down?

Just a thought.what are you on about??

Your post gave me the impression you took a long time to arrange a meet.

Some people don't like too many messages arranging a meet and get wound up.

The final message asking if the meet was still on could be the straw that broke the camel's back.

It seems you must be doing something wrong and possibly that could be the explanation.

I can't see anything in your profile or pictures to frighten people off so it must be something else, either you or them.

I only know what you have revealed and so can only make suggestions based on that.

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If a guy messages me I always respond straight away and I always say I want a social meet first, no feet dragging involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's rubbish hunnie, why would someone turn down a social ? Do you stick to verified people ?

because lots on here are too scared and once they get the chance to do what theyve been talking about doing the run a mile "

This absolutely. They love the fantasy but try to put into reality and they are full of shit. Happened to me a few times so I now only meet in clubs. Always others to have fun with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"That's rubbish hunnie, why would someone turn down a social ? Do you stick to verified people ?

because lots on here are too scared and once they get the chance to do what theyve been talking about doing the run a mile

This absolutely. They love the fantasy but try to put into reality and they are full of shit. Happened to me a few times so I now only meet in clubs. Always others to have fun with."

amen sister!

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By *arry247Couple
over a year ago

Wakefield

If a guy messages me I always respond straight away and I always say I want a social meet first, no feet dragging involved"

Fine, you asked for suggestions I gave one, you don't like the sound of it fair enough. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

If a guy messages me I always respond straight away and I always say I want a social meet first, no feet dragging involved

Fine, you asked for suggestions I gave one, you don't like the sound of it fair enough. x"
no I just let you know I didnt drag it out as you insinuated

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By *onnie and JohnCouple
over a year ago

WILTSHIRE

"I don't get why people don't meet. As a guy its hard to even get a reply let alone an offer of a meet, its mad. "

we had five single who failed to meet, its because half the males are dreams with no balls, as i have said before when arranging a meet make sure there is something to do if no show, softens the disappointment connie xx.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't get why people don't meet. As a guy its hard to even get a reply let alone an offer of a meet, its mad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't get why people don't meet. As a guy its hard to even get a reply let alone an offer of a meet, its mad.

I suppose you're right but women do it too, some of them have no balls either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't get it either....i was about to drive 2 hour to meet a lady then logged on to find the profile is hidden....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't get it either....i was about to drive 2 hour to meet a lady then logged on to find the profile is hidden...."

So she hid her profile, doesn't mean she'll no show, you can still message her.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't get why people don't meet. As a guy its hard to even get a reply let alone an offer of a meet, its mad.

I suppose you're right but women do it too, some of them have no balls either

That's a shame I've become attached to my balls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never let anyone down social/meet or otherwise. I once had to cut a meet short, went to the shop, bought a bottle of wine and left it with her as compensation.

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By *r jblMan
over a year ago

from parts unknown

I thought that I had a really good week sorted at one time in the past. I Thought yes, a meet for every night of the week. Thought I'd be super man. Lol. Anyway some cancelled. some left the site. And some just did'nt reply again. All that hard work that went to waist. I was gutterd. but I got over it. I'm sure you will to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah...i am a wee bit frustrate by it but i have a couple of verifications....ah well saved some fuel on this windy night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yeah...i am a wee bit frustrate by it but i have a couple of verifications....ah well saved some fuel on this windy night"

And probably got yourself a ban for naming. Some people are just not worth the bother.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I thought that I had a really good week sorted at one time in the past. I Thought yes, a meet for every night of the week. Thought I'd be super man. Lol. Anyway some cancelled. some left the site. And some just did'nt reply again. All that hard work that went to waist. I was gutterd. but I got over it. I'm sure you will to.

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hell yes of course I will,I already have! But f*ck me! its annoying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Their loss OP, you look stunning and I'm at a loss as to why anyone would cancel on you

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Their loss OP, you look stunning and I'm at a loss as to why anyone would cancel on you"

thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Their loss OP, you look stunning and I'm at a loss as to why anyone would cancel on you

thanks

Oh you dirty girl, I've just seen your splosh pic and now I'm even more pissed that I'm so far away

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Their loss OP, you look stunning and I'm at a loss as to why anyone would cancel on you

thanks

Oh you dirty girl, I've just seen your splosh pic and now I'm even more pissed that I'm so far away

Ok what is a splosh pic? I am naive lol

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By *nowbunnieWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

I'm the same Hun I had come close to deleting my account on a few occasions

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By *nowbunnieWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

To ture

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Their loss OP, you look stunning and I'm at a loss as to why anyone would cancel on you

thanks

Oh you dirty girl, I've just seen your splosh pic and now I'm even more pissed that I'm so far away

Ok what is a splosh pic? I am naive lol "

That wet and messy one (also known as WAM). Please don't tell me you were mud wrestling

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm the same Hun I had come close to deleting my account on a few occasions "

I am a hairs breath away right now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Until we learn to read minds we will get no shows. Verified people don't show,having them pull out is something you have to endure on here. People are unpredictable. You have two to be getting on with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really frustrating for us single males striving to arrange meets to see some of our brethren standing you ladies up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't get it either....i was about to drive 2 hour to meet a lady then logged on to find the profile is hidden...."

Probably hid it so that other guys didn't message her for a meet when she already had one with you? I meet a lot so never hide my profile unless i can't deal with telling people i'm not meeting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think someone who cancels is wasting my time...it's not like Im stood there waiting for them....if they just dont turn up without any cancellation then yeah thats wasting my time....someone cancelling may be a pain in the bum but that's life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your username says it all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i'm fed up too xx

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